Size or performance?

[ScarletSkull Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close ScarletSkull]

Ummm ok and what are you going to do for him?

The same, what do you think? Sex is a 2-way street. Or at least, I think my ideal sex life would be where we both did THAT.

[averagejoe2007 Banned Find all posts View Profile Close averagejoe2007]

Ummm ok and what are you going to do for him?

A guy should be willing to give without expectations.

[averagejoe2007 Banned Find all posts View Profile Close averagejoe2007]

The same, what do you think? Sex is a 2-way street. Or at least, I think my ideal sex life would be where we both did THAT.

It would be rude for a guy to say that IRL.

[ScarletSkull Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close ScarletSkull]

It would be rude for a guy to say that IRL.

You mean what Pegasus said or my quote above?

[averagejoe2007 Banned Find all posts View Profile Close averagejoe2007]

You mean what Pegasus said or my quote above?

What Pegasus said. What you said was beautiful.

[ScarletSkull Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close ScarletSkull]

What Pegasus said. What you said was beautiful.

Thank you. And thank you for pointing that out... the truth is, yes, it does go both ways, but the fact is that someone should be able to answer the "what do you WANT" question without immediately getting back "Well what are YOU going to provide in return?" I might need to ponder that a bit.

[Jackxxx Banned Find all posts View Profile Close Jackxxx]

Fortunately according to Scarlet for most women it doesn't. Maybe just the shallower ones it does. It is nice to know that we smaller guys can do as well and often times better than the bigger ones.

Yes you can do as well or even better, but size matters in my own personal experience.

[averagejoe2007 Banned Find all posts View Profile Close averagejoe2007]

Thank you. And thank you for pointing that out... the truth is, yes, it does go both ways, but the fact is that someone should be able to answer the "what do you WANT" question without immediately getting back "Well what are YOU going to provide in return?" I might need to ponder that a bit.

if two people care about each other they should want to please each other without demanding. I have learned what my gf likes and she knows what I like and it all just kind of happens without discussion.

[averagejoe2007 Banned Find all posts View Profile Close averagejoe2007]

Yes you can do as well or even better, but size matters in my own personal experience.

That's fine. But those aren't the girls we average or smaller than average guys are looking for.

[ScarletSkull Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close ScarletSkull]

I would also like to point out that a lot of the time, when a girl compliments her man, she's going to look to stroke his ego in ways that will reinforce how he already feels about himself. Like, if a man puts a lot of effort into his hair, a perceptive woman will compliment his hair so he knows his efforts didn't go unnoticed. Or if he likes to build stuff and is really great at that, she'll ooooh and aaaah over the new stuff he builds.

So, if you're bigger than average, she's probably going to say things like "You're soooo big it feels so good!" but in truth she'd probably just be having as much fun if you weren't... jmho. My ex always liked to be complimented on his size but I would have traded his larger-than-average cock without a moment's hesitation for a smaller-than-average if it had meant he'd actually have cared about me as a sexual person and not so much "the woman I have sex with." I guarantee I would have had a lot more fun sexually, that's for sure.

[corageon Banned Find all posts View Profile Close corageon]

Both. Size matters.

They both matter to an extent..performance is absolutely necessary and you can have it all below the belt but without STAMINA and TECHNIQUE - you are nothing...so - if you had to pick which one first , go for performance..and do some P.E exercises meanwhile to work up the Size portion.

[akaTrex Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close akaTrex]

I'll have to second performance and add imagination/creativity.

During my single day's I had the pleasure to pleasure a couple of gals that had Well Endowed husbands.

I never had an issue getting them to the promised land of "O".

In fact I gave the married gal her very first G Spot orgasm ever! According to her, the husband had let himself go, did not take care of himself and was a visual and sexual disappointment. Her words, not mine.

The other gal''s Ex Husband according to her swung his penis around like a BillyClub and had Zero skills. He just just pounded away at her like ScarletSkull said . . . like "the woman I have sex with".

She was absolutely amazing and she was very appreciative of my attention to detail in regards to her needs and desires.

[WIItard Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close WIItard]

First off if your dick doesn't work it's useless.

After that it's just different degrees of happiness or personal preference.

[ScarletSkull Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close ScarletSkull]

They both matter to an extent..performance is absolutely necessary and you can have it all below the belt but without STAMINA and TECHNIQUE - you are nothing...so - if you had to pick which one first , go for performance..and do some P.E exercises meanwhile to work up the Size portion.

Good point! I totally agree. If it is indeed size vs, performance, performance wins every single time. Size is really more of a minor detail.

[Sequoia Tree Senior Member Member of the Month July 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Sequoia Tree]

I have a gf and in my mind I want her to be happy in bed more than me. Now I'd be lying if I said I didn't want to get off myself but I just feel that she should come first.

A guy should be willing to give without expectations.

if two people care about each other they should want to please each other without demanding. I have learned what my gf likes and she knows what I like and it all just kind of happens without discussion.

You are off to a great start with your mindset. I feel similarly. As men, we should be willing to put our partners' needs before our own. My partner's opinions and feelings are of utmost importance to me. If I didn't care about them and just wanted to get myself off, I'd just edge/masturbate. Lord knows I'm becoming something of an autoerotic artist .

Nothing turns me on more than experiencing my partner being turned on, and I enjoy being genuinely thought of as a good lover, so I'm more than willing to be patient with a woman, let her teach me etc. I try not to let my big head give me a big head in that regard. There are always things to learn and skills to polish. I like variety. It helps that I really enjoy things like foreplay and cuddling, which as a male, apparently makes me kind of a weirdo.

Size is not the end-all-be-all. Size doesn't mean squat if I can't perform. Having a bigger penis can actually make some things more difficult (I sometimes wish I could temporarily shrink mine to average size for rough sex, BJs, anal, and certain positions), and you have to compensate by making an effort to be a better lover. With big dick comes big responsibility, and unfortunately some well-endowed guys aren't willing to use their tools with care. Having great chemistry with your partner is what really matters. Making an effort to please your partner and showing her that you value her will go a lot farther than just having a long schlong. Like I said, you have a good attitude. A lot better than most guys your age, so just keep it up. Best of luck!