Men who masterbate: Ladies Viewpoint

[DDCRLO Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close DDCRLO]

Thank you for the three masturbation links, I will share them with my wife and lover tonight.
But for now, I have something new to share. This morning my wife asked if I would mind if she watched my whole routine (I had told her about it when I started and she seemed only slightly interested and unconvinced at the time). I was surprised at her request, but naturally obliged. After about 5 minutes into my workout, she took off her panties and got so turned on that she masturbated manually for the entire balance of my routine, which was about 20 minutes. Then she asked me to shower with her and to masturbate her with the shower spray handle. I thought I was dreaming, but it was real today. After we dried each other off, she said she wanted watch me again this evening when I do my second set. This PEGym stuff is paying unbelievable results. I will keep you posted with the next session together. Maybe more of us should let our wives and girlfriends know how we are working on our penis health.

[Brandon85 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Brandon85]

My wife hates it when I masturbate literally getting furious about it. She gives me access to her pussy 99% of the time when I want it. And I mean anywhere. Home, friends place, car, public place. The only time she sort of hesitates is early in the morning when she first awakes.

She hates it because she will want me without warning at any time. If I masturbated. My refractory period my interfere with her immediate desire to have sex.

Plus, she feels it is an absolute waste of an ejaculation if she is not involved in it. She used to want my cum always in her vagina. But lately, she has been getting turned on by giving me handjobs and watching my cum shoot out of my cock. Her latest favorite place to jerk me off is in the shower where she lets my cum spray on her and then rubs it on her body as the the shower rinses her off.

So, in my experience, every relationship will have a different take on the guy masturbating. Most of my past relationships didn't mind me masturbating. Especially when they weren't in the mood or were on their period. (My wife loves to fuck when she is on her period).

[B Little Member Find all posts View Profile Close B Little]

I've only seen my fiancee masturbate a couple of times in the past. I really enjoy seeing her play with herself, and it turns me on to the point where I want to join in and give her really good oral. I wish she would do it more often, but she doesn't have a very high sex drive.

Most of the time when I bring up sex (we're in a long distance relationship due to school), she changes the subject. It kind of makes me feel like she hates talking about it or doesn't care for it as much as me. At least, she never tells me when she is in the mood and "rubs one out". Unless we are on the phone together, and we both masturbate to each other. But that has only happened once.

I wish there was a way to get her sex drive on the same level as mine. It's hard having this high sex drive and always wanting to satisfy her when she is never in the mood most of the time.

[Park Lib Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Park Lib]

I just revisited doupdoupdoup's post that seemed to kill this thread. I've decided that part of what bothers me about it is the whole "masturbating men" thing. Don't ALL men masturbate? I don't necessarily mean all the time, but at least sometimes? It just seems weird to me to imagine that there are "non-masturbating" men out there. I expect that there are men who get so much sex that they don't usually feel the need to masturbate, and men who are so stressed and busy that they masturbate very little. But mostly I think perhaps the real distinction is between men who admit that they masturbate, and men who try to pretend that they don't.

There was a phrase I heard on TV on the topic of masturbation and they said, "it is said (jokingly) that 9 out of 10 men admit to masturbating and the other 10% are just lying"

I think that shows how widespread it is and there's nothing wrong with that. But yes it definitely has negative connotations with some people, both men and women. Like in Britain, a common insult is to refer to someone as a 'wanker' i.e. a man who masturbates.

When I was younger I did feel a slight pang of guilt when I would hide away and play with myself but you realise as you mature that there's nothing wrong with learning about your body and what you find pleasurable.

[paulus Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close paulus]

My wife doesn't like me masturbating I respected her so I didn't.. I can remember that didnt ejaculated for around 7 to 8 months is that healthy? My wife also not very interested in sex also....this has made me very frustrated... I can use my ten fingers to count the frequency of me ejaculating, I love her n respect her is there anything I can help her? She used to be very sexually active

[DDCRLO Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close DDCRLO]

My wife doesn't like me masturbating I respected her so I didn't.. I can remember that didnt ejaculated for around 7 to 8 months is that healthy? My wife also not very interested in sex also....this has made me very frustrated... I can use my ten fingers to count the frequency of me ejaculating, I love her n respect her is there anything I can help her? She used to be very sexually active

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You need to schedule some sex therapy sessions very soon.

[Ivor Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Ivor]

My wife doesn't like me masturbating I respected her so I didn't.. I can remember that didnt ejaculated for around 7 to 8 months is that healthy? My wife also not very interested in sex also....this has made me very frustrated... I can use my ten fingers to count the frequency of me ejaculating, I love her n respect her is there anything I can help her? She used to be very sexually active

I can only echo the recommendation that you get the pair of you into relationship/sex therapy as soon as possible. It's unfortunate, although I think sadly not uncommon, for one person in a relationship to have a much lower or higher sex drive than the other, but for the partner with the lower sex drive to deny the other even the release of masturbation is pretty messed up. Now I know nothing about your or your wife, but from where I'm sitting it sounds like she could be using it as a way to control you. Not healthy.

Also, going for long periods without ejaculating isn't healthy either, whether mentally (I start to feel like I'm going nuts after a few days, but hey) or physically - it increases your chances of prostate cancer.

[DDCRLO Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close DDCRLO]

Here is a good sex therapy site that both of you can explore together... Relationship Advice, Sex Techniques and Adult Toy Sales from Lou paget

[TPW Senior Member Member of the Month Oct 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close TPW]

My wife doesn't like me masturbating I respected her so I didn't.. I can remember that didnt ejaculated for around 7 to 8 months is that healthy? My wife also not very interested in sex also....this has made me very frustrated... I can use my ten fingers to count the frequency of me ejaculating, I love her n respect her is there anything I can help her? She used to be very sexually active

Hey Paulus,

I appreciate the love and respect you have for your wife but being forced into celibacy to prove it to her is not only unfair and selfish, it is actually unhealthy. Sex - whether solo or partnered - is perfectly natural and there is great risk to your biological, psychological and emotional well-being without it; particularly when the decision is not of your own choosing.

Since there are many possible causes for your wife's loss of sexual desire, it is difficult to determine the best course of action is and what you can do to help. You may also want to seriously consider going to couple's counselling as others have suggested. At the very least, speak to your wife about how detrimental abstaining from sex - solo or partnered - can be for you.

https://www.pegym.com/forums/gym/654...e-wife-15.html (Post #142)

[IronlionZion Member Find all posts View Profile Close IronlionZion]

My wife doesn't like me masturbating I respected her so I didn't.. I can remember that didnt ejaculated for around 7 to 8 months is that healthy? My wife also not very interested in sex also....this has made me very frustrated... I can use my ten fingers to count the frequency of me ejaculating, I love her n respect her is there anything I can help her? She used to be very sexually active

1 Corinthians 7:4 :-)