Sexually molested and raped as a child

[donkeehote Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close donkeehote]

Hi there Zyxciz

Im sorry to hear about what happened to you in your childhood. You have gotten some great advice about keeping away from porn but also maybe looking for some support resources to help with the trauma. I know its been a long time but it might still provide some benefits to you and how you relate to the world.

I commend you on the courage to post here on the forum. I hope you will continue to do so as youhabe seen there is a great community here.

All the best!

[GreenDevil Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close GreenDevil]

It happen to me at age 8,the criminal is a cop,he gets to be a police man,my dream was to be a cop/fireman
i passed 4 tests but affirmative action took care of that.when I was older 2 men dragged me into field and tried
to molest me,this time I fought back.The main guy in 2nd time died a horrible painful death in a car accident.
I am glad he is dead and I am happy he suffered,the weird thing is I saw him not too long before he died and he recognized
me,he feared that I would do something.In my mid 20’s I searched for love had 2 women tell me they loved me but ran away from them.It had to be me in love with them.Met a full blown sociopath npd narcissist.Fell in love and it was terrible.
Dont try and latch on to any girl until it is mutual feelings.I got lucky found my soulmate, you will know trust me.
The only dark thing I carry with me is if I ever have kids and someone did what happened to me I know exactly what I would do to them.Get a therapist a female one if you can that’s what helped me.Stop the porn any kind it will twist your mind.

[Zyxciz Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Zyxciz]

I just wanted to let everyone know that I've decided to seek therapy. I want to get past this trauma that has been buried inside me all these years so I can finally begin the process of healing

[GreenDevil Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close GreenDevil]

That’s what I did,big help
and quit porn.

[GreenDevil Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close GreenDevil]

try and find a female therapist 30’s 40’s a mother maybe.I just found it very easy to let everything out that way.
you sound like me in my mid 20’s looking for the ONE.Then being heartbroken all the time.Wasting my 20’s chasing
women that weren’t ready for anything serious.

[Zyxciz Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Zyxciz]

try and find a female therapist 30’s 40’s a mother maybe.I just found it very easy to let everything out that way.
you sound like me in my mid 20’s looking for the ONE.Then being heartbroken all the time.Wasting my 20’s chasing
women that weren’t ready for anything serious.

Is the gender of the therapist important? I have a booked phone session with a male therapist tomorrow who's going to evaluate me.

[Zyxciz Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Zyxciz]

One good thing that has come from this experience is my newly developed interest in pursuing a degree in psychology. I want to help children that are dealing with a troublesome upbringing so they don't feel neglected.

[GhostRider Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close GhostRider]

Is the gender of the therapist important? I have a booked phone session with a male therapist tomorrow who's going to evaluate me.

Depends how you feel about it. Since you were hurt by a male, it may be harder for you to trust a male therapist. I think it may be easier for you to open up to a woman. But it's all just my view. If you 're cool with male therapist then it's all good. You'll know probably after first session. Good luck!

[jockinthebox Retired Moderator Member of the Month May 2015PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close jockinthebox]

Is the gender of the therapist important? I have a booked phone session with a male therapist tomorrow who's going to evaluate me.

There's two schools of thought on this. While it may be easier for you to open up with a female therapist, a male therapist who's well trained would perhaps be more able to relate to your feelings & the trauma you experienced by male rape. He might naturally offer a more empathetic approach (as a fellow male) than a female.

[Norwaydude Senior Member Member of the Month Oct. 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close Norwaydude]

I cant help but getting so god damn angry when reading these posts. The world is so full of assholes. I would like to get the men who does stuff like this and tie then to the back of my car in a long rope and go for a really long drive. I’m sure this is not helpful but i just felt like expressing my feelings. Motherfuckers!!! If something like this happends to my kids i’m gonna go absolutely insane!

[closed251 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close closed251]

I cant help but getting so god damn angry when reading these posts. The world is so full of assholes. I would like to get the men who does stuff like this and tie then to the back of my car in a long rope and go for a really long drive. I’m sure this is not helpful but i just felt like expressing my feelings. Motherfuckers!!! If something like this happends to my kids i’m gonna go absolutely insane!

I second this xoxo

[GreenDevil Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close GreenDevil]

Having a narcissist mother,and before meeting my wife I was always searching for the one.
instead of just having fun dating.So for me never really having a female person I could trust
or go to I just knew I needed a female therapist mine is close to my age with small kids.
you will know right away.

[GreenDevil Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close GreenDevil]

I have always thought male or female victims either become a predator or hate them a sexual deviant a recluse,
a self damaging type or ocd or someone determined to be normal.
my therapist says I dodged a ton of bullets.My main ocd is the color green,since I was5/6 years old I have been obsessed
with the color green it calms me,my house,barn cars,carpet,clothes,walls,lights everything is green.
Funny thing is a lot of teams I cheer for have red as their team color lol.

[GreenDevil Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close GreenDevil]

How did your session go?

[Chungungo Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Chungungo]

I wasnīt raped, just over the clothes abusse but it affects some way, lost virginity way after my 20īs and honestly have a "porn mind". I believe it affects in some subtle ways but we donīt see that til is kind of late.