Over masturbation and ED for 15 years - Quite cold turkey 5 days ago

[Wzntme Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Wzntme]

Actually, I am a software developer/architect also and I often work long days and late nights.

HaHa...I knew there was something I liked about you! I know what you mean, but can you really call it work if you actually like spending your off time doing it?! I am always knee deep in some code--work or otherwise. Hard to stop when you have just about perfected that newly added feature and need about "30 more minutes" to complete it.

And I get you about what your friends say about you not looking like your stereotypical software developer. The really funny thing is, there is only one person that in my company that will fit the stereotype. This is mostly because he's about one of the smartest fellas boarding on brilliant I have ever met and it comes across in the way he talks. Think Sheldon in the Big Bang Theory (except not as annoying). We did have this smoking hot female developer that worked for us. She was a fitness competitor but she left a few months ago. We have two male competing bodybuilders, and everyone else you meet in my company you really wouldn't really think "Geek". Our refrigerator has more water than pop, and for snacks we have Pop Chips and fruit. So, yeah...all in all we are atypical bunch of Geeks. Just dont get us started on Star Wars or StarTrek.

I do mostly enterprise stuff. As a Microsoft shop I have done a little of everything they have to offer. Since we do a lot of web development, I have been forced out of the world of server code and into client side with JavaScript and JQuery (not too happy with that at the moment, but I guess it is a skill set that I needed to get under my belt eventually).

So, I can go on and on about crap like that...and as this is not StackOverFlow, I guess I better get back on topic. I have been following your posts. Things seem to be looking somewhat better for you. Let us know what the doc says.

[JohnQ Member Find all posts View Profile Close JohnQ]

HaHa...I knew there was something I liked about you! I know what you mean, but can you really call it work if you actually like spending your off time doing it?! I am always knee deep in some code--work or otherwise. Hard to stop when you have just about perfected that newly added feature and need about "30 more minutes" to complete it.

And I get you about what your friends say about you not looking like your stereotypical software developer. The really funny thing is, there is only one person that in my company that will fit the stereotype. This is mostly because he's about one of the smartest fellas boarding on brilliant I have ever met and it comes across in the way he talks. Think Sheldon in the Big Bang Theory (except not as annoying). We did have this smoking hot female developer that worked for us. She was a fitness competitor but she left a few months ago. We have two male competing bodybuilders, and everyone else you meet in my company you really wouldn't really think "Geek". Our refrigerator has more water than pop, and for snacks we have Pop Chips and fruit. So, yeah...all in all we are atypical bunch of Geeks. Just dont get us started on Star Wars or StarTrek.

I do mostly enterprise stuff. As a Microsoft shop I have done a little of everything they have to offer. Since we do a lot of web development, I have been forced out of the world of server code and into client side with JavaScript and JQuery (not too happy with that at the moment, but I guess it is a skill set that I needed to get under my belt eventually).

So, I can go on and on about crap like that...and as this is not StackOverFlow, I guess I better get back on topic. I have been following your posts. Things seem to be looking somewhat better for you. Let us know what the doc says.

Very interesting! I am a hardcore C# developer and build enterprise application frameworks and enterprise web/desktop applications as well. I am very well-versed in design patterns and have usually been fairly demanding of those who worked with and for me. My goal is to make them better at what they do and to think in ways they never have before. Many engineers/developers become so mesmerized by bright new technologies that they lose sight of the customer and the solutions needed. I could talk enterprise development until the cows come home, but I digress...

[JohnQ Member Find all posts View Profile Close JohnQ]

I went to the doctor yesterday and I talked to her about my DE. She wants to do some blood work and wants me to see a urologist. She going to do the full battery of tests...testosterone, diabetes, thyroid and stuff like that.

I ask her about abstinence from masturbation. My dick has been DEAD since I stopped. Poor performance (low EQ) the last two times to have sex. She said there are several different trains of thought on this. She said the best advice she has from the studies she has read is to work on an individual basis. Not everyone is the same. What might work for one guy might not for the next 10.

So my thinking is to cut back as much as possible...but keep the blood flowing down there. I had better erections the day after masturbating that after 5 days of nothing.

Let me know how it goes. I suspect that I have other hormonal/chemical issues going on. Most doctors are not comfortable with anything much beyond total testosterone and free testosterone...and maybe estrogen/estradiol. There are other hormones involved as well.

[JohnQ Member Find all posts View Profile Close JohnQ]

Day 35
Penis - not as flatlined today - a bit of life but not 'normal'
Mood - yesterday being February 1st, for some reason I am must more level-headed and focused
Morning erection - laid in bed and thought about sex and achieved a partial erection. Interesting.

I started taking ViaGrowth III from the Lin Institute yesterday. Had this bottle sitting around unopened for a few months and read lots of good reviews from people with my problem. Dr Lin has an interesting site and many, many testimonials from people with over masturbation problems that have achieved recovery. The supplement is like a multi-vitamin with other things such as epimedium, tongkat ali, DHEA, deer antler velvet, carnitine and many others. I think I will take this as directed for at least a month and see what happens.

[JohnQ Member Find all posts View Profile Close JohnQ]

Day 36
Penis - a little better - hanging longer and heavier but no real stimulation today
Mood - fairly good today
Morning erection - I think I had a 70% erection this morning but don't remember

The Viagrowth III from the Lin Institute seems to be helping a bit. Been taking it for 2-3 days. Will keep everyone informed.

[Mark 1 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Mark 1]

Penis - lifeless and dead
Mood - very irritable and short-tempered
Morning erection - very slight

Penis - lifeless and dead
Mood - slightly less irritable, but still unstable
Morning erection - none

Penis - lifeless and dead - but a hint of life for a few minutes late morning
Mood - depression is beginning to lift
Morning erection - none

Penis - lifeless and dead
Mood - depression is still better
Morning erection - none

Penis - lifeless and dead
Mood - depression is practically gone
Morning erection - none

Penis - lifeless and dead
Mood - depression is gone
Morning erection - none
Penis - lifeless and dead
Mood - depression is back and worse than ever
Morning erection - none
Day 14
Penis - lifeless and dead
Mood - depression is still here
Morning erection - none


John, these are your posts for the first two weeks of your program.

Day 36
Penis - a little better - hanging longer and heavier but no real stimulation today
Mood - fairly good today
Morning erection - I think I had a 70% erection this morning but don't remember
Day 35
Penis - not as flatlined today - a bit of life but not 'normal'
Mood - yesterday being February 1st, for some reason I am must more level-headed and focused
Morning erection - laid in bed and thought about sex and achieved a partial erection. Interesting.

These are your most recent two. Congratulations on everything you have achieved. Truly admirable!

Although increasing size may not be your main goal here, I have read up on the Bathmate product which I intend to purchase and it apparently helps ED/EQ problems. Take a look if you want.

[Wzntme Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Wzntme]

Penis - lifeless and dead
Mood - very irritable and short-tempered
Morning erection - very slight

Penis - lifeless and dead
Mood - slightly less irritable, but still unstable
Morning erection - none

Penis - lifeless and dead - but a hint of life for a few minutes late morning
Mood - depression is beginning to lift
Morning erection - none

Penis - lifeless and dead
Mood - depression is still better
Morning erection - none

Penis - lifeless and dead
Mood - depression is practically gone
Morning erection - none

Penis - lifeless and dead
Mood - depression is gone
Morning erection - none
Penis - lifeless and dead
Mood - depression is back and worse than ever
Morning erection - none
Day 14
Penis - lifeless and dead
Mood - depression is still here
Morning erection - none


John, these are your posts for the first two weeks of your program.

Day 36
Penis - a little better - hanging longer and heavier but no real stimulation today
Mood - fairly good today
Morning erection - I think I had a 70% erection this morning but don't remember
Day 35
Penis - not as flatlined today - a bit of life but not 'normal'
Mood - yesterday being February 1st, for some reason I am must more level-headed and focused
Morning erection - laid in bed and thought about sex and achieved a partial erection. Interesting.

These are your most recent two. Congratulations on everything you have achieved. Truly admirable!

Although increasing size may not be your main goal here, I have read up on the Bathmate product which I intend to purchase and it apparently helps ED/EQ problems. Take a look if you want.

I concur, GOOD job bro!

[Wzntme Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Wzntme]

Very interesting! I am a hardcore C# developer and build enterprise application frameworks and enterprise web/desktop applications as well. I am very well-versed in design patterns and have usually been fairly demanding of those who worked with and for me. My goal is to make them better at what they do and to think in ways they never have before. Many engineers/developers become so mesmerized by bright new technologies that they lose sight of the customer and the solutions needed. I could talk enterprise development until the cows come home, but I digress...

Hey JQ...is there some way we can talk without distracting from the purpose of this board? I don't have a lot of "geek" peeps I can talk to outside of work and I like to bounce programming ideas outside of my environment. Have you tired your hand at any windows 8 apps yet?

[Mark 1 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Mark 1]

Hope to see some updates soon!

[mike83 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close mike83]

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