Arousal Techniques

[Steve23 Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Steve23]

What are good breathing techniques? pretty much anything? like 4 second deep inhale then 4 second deep exhale? it's not as much about some special breathing technique but more about keeping the breathing constant?

[Drummer19 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Drummer19]

Correct. There are many techniques can could research. The point is to release the tension in your body when aroused and stimulated.

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I just updated the information in the Topic post. I added information relating anxiety to Pre-E and also added a new exercise.

[pe_mystic Member Find all posts View Profile Close pe_mystic]

Very good points guys... all of you. And Drummer... I think you nailed it. Arousal level can surely put you into danger zone very quickly even for guys that have good training. I know for a fact that the mind can make us reach the PONR right away because of a few things I noticed and remembered tonight. As I was edging today, as soon as I started thinking about my ex girglfriends hot rear and imagined her on top of me and me giving it to her real good and lasting long.... I got too excited and got closer to the PONR. Also... Have you guys ever talked dirty to your girl and told her that her vagina is so wet and hot and asked her to finish for you and all over your penis as she rides you or whatever (also when they ask you to smack their butts...that drives them crazy too)...that drives them wild and makes them get to the PONR very quickly. Same as when a girl tells you...come on baby...finish for me.... I want you to finish all over my breasts....that usually get us to the PONR right away..doesnt it? Just the thought of ejaculating MAKES you ejaculate. Any hot image, position, word or thought can manifest into our greatest enemy. There has to be a way of thinking during sex that can fight this. WHAT THE HECK IS IT? I know that there are many different distracting, nasty and aweful things we can think about that has helped many people including myself, but I know thats not a healthy or normal thing that we should be doing. I remember one of the times I lasted very long in many positions and where my ex had to give me a bj in order for me to finish, was the time we went at it right away in the morning and I closed my eyes once in a while and pretended that I was having sex with a real old, wrinkled lady. I'm just saying drummer and all you guys.... You are absolutely right. Hot and sexy situations and thoughts can VERY EASILY put us over the edge. No wonder most people cant last as long when they watch porn. What do we do about the hot and sexy way we are thinking? I have stopped watching porn for like a week now...hope that helps. Sorry for venting and for too many words. Im just freaking out here cuz the mind can be a very powerful enemy. BTW... HERE IS SOME SPAM: PLEASE CHECK OUT MY LATEST MOST AWESOMEST BALLOONING TECHNIQUE POST, when you have time. haha. Good luck guys. GREAT POST DRUMMER!!!

Why think at all during sex?

[pe_mystic Member Find all posts View Profile Close pe_mystic]

What are good breathing techniques? pretty much anything? like 4 second deep inhale then 4 second deep exhale? it's not as much about some special breathing technique but more about keeping the breathing constant?

Take a deep breath into the stomach, and exhale twice as long as you inhale, so 2:1 diaphragmatic breathing sir.

[Drummer19 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Drummer19]

While I breath deep inwards I purposely expand my stomach. I found out when my stomach expands outwards I involuntarily weaken my involuntary kegal. This helps me with stamina,

[pe_mystic Member Find all posts View Profile Close pe_mystic]

when practicing everything, should one fantasize or just raw sensations? with just raw sensations i can never get off and its non realistic-ish, but the opposite i come too fast

[Drummer19 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Drummer19]

I think a mixture of the two. Using just sensations to bring your arousal down, and using fantasy to bring it back up.

What I do is just think about how much control I have over this and how this is no big deal, and other positive affirmations when practicing. This helped me when I was edging.

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[spanky Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close spanky]

Nice bump. good to read this again.

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Everyone needs to reread this Thread. I have updated the arousal techniques into a program now. It is the actual research I have been doing over the months, now in word form.

[nibbles Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close nibbles]

This is brilliant

Just one question:

With edging do you edge to a 9 then completely stop stimulation until you have gone down to say a level 7 or do you not allow yourself to reach a level 9 and keep your body at a level 7 throughout?

[Drummer19 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Drummer19]

Personally I find staying at a 7 if you can works better, because you are training your body to stay at a 7. I have had success with both ways though.

[Farhad Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Farhad]

Hey drummer, is peaking the best way of getting in touch with how our body reacts?

[Drummer19 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Drummer19]

what do you mean by peaking?