Arousal Techniques

[Drummer19 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Drummer19]

Hey moderators I would like to suggest making this thread a sticky. Taking a multi-prong approach guide to overcoming premature ejaclation like this program and making it easier to access would be even more useful for our members.

[bigbookofpenis Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close bigbookofpenis]

+1 sticky...

[bigbookofpenis Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close bigbookofpenis]

congratulations on being promoted to a sticky PEGYM should be proud of its sons who share their succes stories with detailed step-by-step tested and time-proven guides to achieve the permanent fix with real women... we need people like Drummer19 who not only fixed themselfes with real women but also took the enormous time and effort to pay back to the community by preparing a step-by-step programm for followers...

colectively there is enough information gathered on PEGYM (1700 threads on PE) to fix everybody twice what we need now is to pick and promote real-life examples of people who put together step-by-step routines and fixed themself with real women using these routines...

[zunamary Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close zunamary]

+1 on sticky as well.. this might be very helpfull for everyone.

I decided to get my shit together and work myself up again because I got no other choice.. I already started this and only with a few days in I'm starting to know more about my body with the arousal and erection scale thing.. I always put them together and thought it was the same but now I see they are 2 really different things. I'm very optimistic about this and I know I'll succeed!

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Power to you guys .

[lop123123 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close lop123123]

Hey moderators I would like to suggest making this thread a sticky. Taking a multi-prong approach guide to overcoming premature ejaclation like this program and making it easier to access would be even more useful for our members.

Drummer, as someone who let porn and the easy access of it ruin their mentality and cause the overarousal you mention, is there a way you would recommend fighting the over-arousal specifically the viewing of porn part without viewing porn? It's something I would like to turn away from and only in these past few weeks have I realized the damage it has caused me after 7+ years of inappropriate use.

[Drummer19 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Drummer19]

I am not sure what you are asking lop123123.
It sounds like you are asking, "How can I stay away from porn?"
Please Clarify

[zunamary Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close zunamary]

I am not sure what you are asking lop123123.
It sounds like you are asking, "How can I stay away from porn?"
Please Clarify

I believe hes saying if theres another way to do step 8 and reprogram his body to the damage that porn has made on him, without watchin porn. Im also in the same position since im addicted to porn and if i start watching it again, addiction will come back. So im like 90% sure this is wha he meant. Ill be glad too if u can help us

[Drummer19 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Drummer19]

I have been doing a lot of thinking lately and I may actually remove steps 7 and 8. You guys make extremely great points! More to come on why I will be removing steps 7 and 8. For now just skip them! If you have any more questions please ask

[zunamary Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close zunamary]

I have been doing a lot of thinking lately and I may actually remove steps 7 and 8. You guys make extremely great points! More to come on why I will be removing steps 7 and 8. For now just skip them! If you have any more questions please ask

Now that I was reading step 7, I don't think it should be removed (just my opinion). I think it could work and not have an implied issue in porn addiction, since you're not watching porn. Just stick with the stories, and not with pics nor videos.

I thought also on watching some sort of booty shaking videos or something really sensual, but not sexual per se; videos that you can get from youtube for example. I don't know if that could work.

Just my 2 cents!

[Drummer19 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Drummer19]

Doing step 7 alone also gave me ED so beware. It definitely isn't as intense as porn, but it was slightly addictive for me. Again not nearly as bad as porn. I say for now use personal preference until we can disprove that step 7 doesn't work.

When I was on step 8 and 7 I hadn't stopped watching porn yet because I didn't know of the benefits of quitting porn at that time.Now your group of members are quitting porn before steps 7 and 8... So technically I am reinforcing what I am saying not to do in the beginning (not to watch porn). If I had stopped watching porn when you did I definately wouldn't want to do step 8. For now skip step 8. It will more than likely be removed in the near future.

As for the booty shaking videos... I am not sure. Can you get an erection from this without having to touch yourself? Your 2 cents is very appreciated by the way!

The reason I am questioning keeping steps 7 and 8 is mainly because of my recent thoughts concerning the significant effectiveness of step 9, and how it differs from steps 7 and 8. However, I did do steps 7 and 8 and got here eventually. I am just researching the effectivness of those steps and can maybe one day see if they are actually needed. The Average Overall Arousal (AOA) theory I am working on explains my thoughts more deeply, and needs to be used as a guide for step 9.

Sorry if things are repeated in this post, I am very scatter brained this morning!

[abrorcasanova Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close abrorcasanova]

I have a question,

I am back to square one with all my training, so doing 100% RK at the moment and learning the whole arousal control.
I I get boners pretty easily, I mean holding hands with my gf and seeing her is pretty much enough to get me aroused, so I am learning control that and I think I understand the whole concept of trying to snap out of it, but a question came to my mind yesterday:

My girlfriend is a virgin, so atm sex is off the table, but me and her were involved in a pretty heavy foreplay yesterday (few hours) like really heavy and obviously I would be fully erected and reallyy aroused and well the result without me even taking my pants off is fairly sticky pair of boxers. So to question is how to learn to control the arousal scale when with girlfriend, is there anything that can be adviced?

Thank you.

[abrorcasanova Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close abrorcasanova]

Any advice?

[Drummer19 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Drummer19]

The answer isn't so simple. Honestly, girls in general seem to love pre-cum. (Maybe not the taste) but the idea that she is making you leak a little bit. Before I balanced my pelvic floor, I had an insane amount of pre-cum also. It got everywhere and was embarrassing for me. After balancing my pelvic floor, the amount of Pre-cum I produced drastically reduced to what I consider "normal" now. I was always extremely aroused my my girlfriend at the time in reference to the arousal scale. The arousal I experienced around her only started to go down after starting the step 9 "Quitting porn" phase.

My advise is to balance your pelvic floor. After you are balanced, you may experience less pre-cum. During and after this process, continue to do the Arousal Techniques. I am assuming you are around step 1 or 2? The more you learn about your arousal the better prepared you will be to start lowering it. It is a slow process, so it is good that you have already started.

[abrorcasanova Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close abrorcasanova]

Hmm I think I got it, then will continue with the reverse kegels and need to find some way to snap myself out of the arousal state.

But highly appreciate the respond.

Ohh on a side note, dont know if anybody tried or its just me, but I kinda spotted that the when I close my eyes the more aroused I get, my arousal level was much much lower under same circumstances when I had my eyes open, sounds weird I guess, but not sure if anybody spotted that, maybe will use the eyes to snap out of it haha.