Delayed Ejaculation - DE

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

It is not about weakening it is about control .
Most guys get kegels happening on auto during sex and it drives to orgasm. You can replace these with concious kegels.

[maladjusted Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close maladjusted]

It is not about weakening it is about control .
Most guys get kegels happening on auto during sex and it drives to orgasm. You can replace these with concious kegels.

So, how do you go about this. You see, for me, it feels like the muscles are contracted (clenched), and I'm unable to release them. I can be at the point of orgasm, but the spasms for ejaculation won't trigger, as the muscles are being tensed. Hence, momentarily stopping, waiting for a tiny bit of relaxation, then starting again with, a number of times, causes the spasms. It's like stopping the stimulation, allows for a relaxation. Thank you for the reply. I'm finding this a major comfort. I really feel hopeful of a remedy.

[burtybasset Retired Moderator Member of the Month May 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close burtybasset]

Welcome to the gym maladjusted!

What are SSRI's? Am I right in thinking they are blood pressure meds??

I'm glad you like the thread! The RK's are like a relaxed stretched type exercise I believe and I don't think the only time you should practice them is during sex.

I think to make your tense pelvic floor flexible, ideally doing RK's a couple of times a day over the course of a few weeks should help. Or if your having trouble with reverse kegels deep squats with pauses at the bottom are supposed to be a good alternative or addition.

I think breathing exercises help with relaxing the pelvic floor also!

Thanks for adding your experiences to the thread!

[maladjusted Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close maladjusted]

SSRIs are a type of antidepressant. They are notorious for DE. If I'd known about this side effect, I'd never have taken them. I literally could not ejaculation, at all. Not thru sex, or masturbation. I can't help but feel, I've not been the same since. Of course, this could be partly psychological, too.

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Anxiety is a major issue in DE and must be adressed . It is what causes the pelvic floor disturbance. How this is done will vary. For me I had de partnered but not solo , so I started finishing sex sessions with masturbation . This was helpfull in that I would orgasm with the partner present. This lowered anxiety and over time allowed me to cum during sex, this further reduced anxiety so that I got in a positive flow. I also found I need to make sex vigorous and play a porn tape inside my head.

[NeverEnough9 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close NeverEnough9]

So would everyone suggest that you should perform more RKs if you have DE? I notice when I masturbate I tend to hold a FK involuntarily. Seems like it keeps me harder and increases sensation. I feel Im very FK dominant and even during the day Ive been noticing that I hold a light one without intending too. I do a lot of deep squats but still feel like I have a tense PF. Is there a specific kegel routine for those that have DE that would be a good place to start?

[burtybasset Retired Moderator Member of the Month May 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close burtybasset]

There is no specific routine that I'm aware of! As far as kegels are concerned imac's thread on balance is an interesting read!

https://www.pegym.com/forums/prematu...r-balance.html

But there are other suggestions at the start of this thread other than kegels to deal with it.

[king123 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close king123]

There is no specific routine that I'm aware of! As far as kegels are concerned imac's thread on balance is an interesting read!

https://www.pegym.com/forums/prematu...r-balance.html

But there are other suggestions at the start of this thread other than kegels to deal with it.

So for you guys with DE, what were your masturbation habits like all your life? For me, someone with PreE, I always used a light grip with lube and tried to get done with it asap. How did your habits compare?

Did you use a tighter grip? Did you still try to get done quickly (maybe by holding a strong kegel)? How long did your sessions take? Could you/did you get done quick?

[burtybasset Retired Moderator Member of the Month May 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close burtybasset]

I did use a slightly firm grip and when I was younger yes I did jerk it fast and would probably of fit into the PreE category then, because i could finish inside of a few minutes, but I didn't have sex till my mid twenties and I started edging before this.

I do have phimosis also so this might be partly to blame for less sensitivity, but also I did used to edge for hours at a time and not always ejaculate at the end.

I think Pegasus believes it to be a malfunctioning pelvic floor, as does imac I think (based on what of read in his pelvic floor balance thread!). So the tight grip and long edging sessions might not be responsible for everyone's DE, but may have contributed in my case!

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Firm grip is implicated it comes up repeatedly .
I am certain anxiety is also implicated and it is expressed with malfunction in the pelvic floor . So in a sense the reverse side of the coin to pre e .

M; tight grip, long sessions .

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https://www.pegym.com/forums/prematu...ht-effect.html

[kiva Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close kiva]

Hello, I would like to provide my opinion on DE and Senesitivty linked to DGM & Porn use.

I also have DE, where I can last for long periods of time and not orgasm. However through my researching these are the few things I found. As a recovering porn addict and death grip masturbater it seemed my problem was due to loss of sensitivity. So I'm currently clean off porn for 50 days and haven't masturbated for about 30.

From what I read there are ways to regain sensitivity which will greatly increase orgasm. (This post is about DE caused by de-sensitization).

1. Abstain from masturbation, porn, orgasm for one month.
2. In the next week when you become horny masterbate using LIGHT GRIP with LUBE. I suggest using LUBE with a CONDOM and using LIGHT GRIP. The reason for this is that you want to re stimulate the nerve cells which have been de sensitized through excessive dry death grip masterbation. This use of lube/condom provides similarities to the vagina, allowing you to regain the ability to orgasm. If you have a SO to have sex with you can do it with them instead, this method is for singles.
3. The next week repeat again. Only once.
4. The next week repeat again. 1-2 times.

From the recounts I have read on here and yourbrainrebalanced, people are using this method above and getting great results they speak of within a month of abstaining and masturbating with lube and condom to significantly increase orgasm time and sensitivity.

Personally just from abstaining from masturbation I have developed better erections and increased sensitivity but I am far from recovered. It will take time for DE to be healed but it will improve. I'm also using supplements L-Cartine which has been told to increase sensitivity.

Enhanced penile sensitivity: L-carnitine protects against the nerve damage that can occur as a result of frequent sexual activity over time; left untreated, damage to the penile nerves can lead to decreased sensitivity, which in turn has a negative effect on sexual function.

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Hopefully this will increase sensitivity and DE will recover. Also I am looking into buying creams for healthy penis, which also apparently helps. Also horny goat weed which increase desire, etc which may help. However for everyone looking to increase sensitivity and fix DE please try the above suggestions I think it can help tremendously. This will only help if your DE is caused by loss of sensitiveness like me. If you have psychological or physical problems I doubt this will help and you will have to look at other methods posted by users. Feel free to contact me I am glad to help on any other issues .

LINKS:

curedeathgrip.com/

[nomorepre Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close nomorepre]

Hi guys,

Since this seems to be the official thread for DE I wanted to ask you guys to collaborate voting in this poll about DE: https://www.pegym.com/forums/prematu...e-help-pe.html

Maybe we can find some things in common and as a result understand more where DE and PE might be coming from.

Thanks to all who are willing to participate