Virgin/Anxiety. Celibate until 9 inches.

[TheZZMan Moderator Member of the Month Sept 2018PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZMan]

Spend a decent amount of time reading here in the forums and you will find that not only is your dick adequate, but large by most measures. Once you get comfortable with your size you can move on the other items on your anxiety list. But know that your anxiety stems not from size but from inexperience. Confidence comes from within, and you need to learn to release that confidence and move forward. It has nothing to do with dick size, and everything to do with you.

[Big Al AdministratorPEGym EditorMale Enhancement Coach Rep.PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Big Al]

I agree with this! I have the same problem with dysmorphia as OP but I know logically that I'm not small (it just appears that way to me) and therefore it doesn't affect me or my sex life but if it's getting in the way being happy or having sex when you want it then I think the underlying issues need to be addressed rather than doing PE in the hopes that you will get 9" and be cured because you will probably still feel small.

The problem with issues like this is even if you attain your size goals, the underlying problem will remain and will likely transfer over to any number of potential endless perceived shortcomings.

[GoodLookingNerd Member Find all posts View Profile Close GoodLookingNerd]

@Big Al Hey man. Knowing that you are a PE guru and coach I appreciate your advice. But you can't tell me that once you hit your PE goals that your sense of self worth did not rise at all.

Unfortunately, due to media and the internet, which has skyrocketed this idea exponentially, many guys like myself really see our anxiety due to penis size.

Legit though, my flaccid is hanging lower. I read your disclaimer on not doing PE until I have a healthy state of mind but I kind of hit a Point of no return because I am starting to get heavy with my LG and do not want to toughen things up and hinder any possible gains.

Like I said earlier, I am going to see a FEMALE sex therapist and talk about these issues hopefully allowing me to reach some sort of catharsis. From that, I will have a neutral party tell me her thoughts and me continuing on my PE journey. I really want to gain an inch within 8 months. Or at the very least come really damn close to it.

And if I don't hit length goals, who says I can't focus on my girth goals? I realize yes I don't have a lot of time but at this point I am asking myself "What's another 8 to 12 months gonna do if it'll help me reach my goals?"

[Mavric Member Find all posts View Profile Close Mavric]

I always though my dick was small at 6x4.8. Now at 7x5.2 I feel average maybe but I can tell at times I have to go a little slower or sometimes I feel my wife pull away from me as I thrust. We both like it hard and fast. If I had a 9x6 I'm very certain the sex would not be very enjoyable for either of us. Do you want a giant horse cock that your girl friend can just look at or do you want one you can use? Once you actually use your dick you might find you don't really want it much bigger.

[Big Al AdministratorPEGym EditorMale Enhancement Coach Rep.PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Big Al]

@Big Al Hey man. Knowing that you are a PE guru and coach I appreciate your advice. But you can't tell me that once you hit your PE goals that your sense of self worth did not rise at all.

It felt good to make gains but I didn't feel a bigger penis made me a better person. If you equate your self worth with penis size, finances, or any externals, once that goal is conquered, these are dead ends? Do you automatically expect to feel better about yourself with a larger penis? At your current size you're already at the far end of the size spectrum. You might even encounter resistance at a greater size.

Better than the actual goal is the process of achievement- which proves you can chance certain fundamental aspects of yourself. If you can change one thing you can change almost anything for the better.

Unfortunately, due to media and the internet, which has skyrocketed this idea exponentially, many guys like myself really see our anxiety due to penis size.

The main goal of male enhancement should be to transcend confidence issues and to stop assessing your self worth based on what you see on TV or the internet- or what you think others may expect of you. As such, improvements in size, EQ gains, etc. are incidental to this. Ironically, it's usually the case that the more anxious one is the harder it'll be for them to make progress. The following goes into this in more detail: Please Read First

[GoodLookingNerd Member Find all posts View Profile Close GoodLookingNerd]

Yeah my mindset is becoming more about being better than everybody rather than for me to forge the strongest version of myself.

I am very competitive and want to be the best at everything I do. Academics, athletics, and a bunch of other stuff. And this does include my penis, big time. This is no doubt indicators of being a narcissist. Being told often that I am very good looking and getting good grades and everything may have shaped my mindset like this.

The thought of being "good enough" doesn't register in my mind. In my mind I BELIEVE that I need to hit my PE goal before I begin any sort of relationship and/or have casual sex. It even sounds ridiculous from me seeing the text.

This may sound evil, but I don't want girls to use the reason if they ever decide to leave me, to think I wasn't good enough. In a way, having sex with me once/if I get to 9 in., they will be sort of entrapped due to the reason that I am such an outlier and have the thought of never leaving me due to that reason. This is fucked up. I really should see a therapist about this because it seems as if I am doing PE for evil reasons.

Regardless, gonna keep hanging everyday.

I really am venting as to why I am doing what I am doing and it feels somewhat soothing deapite this being a digital conversation with strangers. We really all have similar intentions here though which is why you guys can understand me on some level.

Damn, all of this fuckin bullshit due to societal pressures and worrying about the thoughts of others. It seems as if I am very weak minded. I hope to change this as I continue my PE journey. This will also include me to change my mindset and not just the size of my dong, albeit that is the main reason.

[closed116 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close closed116]

I'll just add that one of the cool things about growing is seeing the difference in how the girl reacts to your starting size, versus how they react later to the bigger size. You'll miss out on that if you wait.

[Party Senior Member Member of the Month August 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Party]

I'll just add that one of the cool things about growing is seeing the difference in how the girl reacts to your starting size, versus how they react later to the bigger size. You'll miss out on that if you wait.

UGH. Good luck GLNerd.

[TheZZMan Moderator Member of the Month Sept 2018PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZMan]

Your growth prognosis is slow and steady and methodical. It will not be that you wake up one day and you have a big dick. So stop with the dream that this is going to change your mindset. The progression is so slow that the only way you know you grew is with a ruler. Other than that, you will hardly notice the change. Your mindset of this being the determining factor in a relationship is ridiculous. Change your approach to relationships and leave your dick out of the question is the best course of action. Might be beneficial to also learn more of what a woman wants in a relationship. We would have more women on the forums if it wasn't for this mindset that bigger is better. They have told me personally that they tire of telling you guys the same thing over and over.

[closed116 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close closed116]

It would seem a large part of the problem is that on the outside PE Gym provides resources for penis enlargement:

Taken directly from PE Gym FAQ:

"What is The PEGym? A free Penis Enlargement Community. Here you will find information on making your most prized organ--your penis--bigger, harder, and healthier..

"What's with the term "PEGym"? PE stands for Penile Exercising (or Penis Enlargement)."

So that's the type of person that finds this site and joins. Then they're left confused and disappointed by users not only proclaiming that size doesn't matter, but stating their disgust for users that make honest observations about how different sizes do actually yield different responses in women. I'm off to delete my account, and I expect many users abandon this site also for the same reason, they're let down and disappointed by a community that doesn't support the promoted goals of the site.

[Party Senior Member Member of the Month August 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Party]

The guys gotta descent cock and never used it, with head issues about it. Cmon, get out there OP. Your fine. Jeez.

[discreet Senior Member Member of the Month May 2017 Find all posts View Profile Close discreet]

Hi,

I'm pretty sure you know what needs to be done.

However let me part on to you what my parents did me;

Youth is wasted on youth

The real question is; do you wish to be just another cliche?

[proactive Senior MemberMember of the Month ? 2017 Find all posts View Profile Close proactive]

It would seem a large part of the problem is that on the outside PE Gym provides resources for penis enlargement:

Taken directly from PE Gym FAQ:

"What is The PEGym? A free Penis Enlargement Community. Here you will find information on making your most prized organ--your penis--bigger, harder, and healthier..

"What's with the term "PEGym"? PE stands for Penile Exercising (or Penis Enlargement)."

So that's the type of person that finds this site and joins. Then they're left confused and disappointed by users not only proclaiming that size doesn't matter, but stating their disgust for users that make honest observations about how different sizes do actually yield different responses in women. I'm off to delete my account, and I expect many users abandon this site also for the same reason, they're let down and disappointed by a community that doesn't support the promoted goals of the site.

Hey goinglarge. PEGym is so much more than just penis enlargement. Being around for so long you must recognize that. I hope you are able to see through this and reconsider leaving the gym.

Proactive

[MarsSpyder Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close MarsSpyder]

Dude, you're significantly longer than average and above average in girth. An actual 9" is utterly massive, we're talking about the size those monster penises in porn actually are. You'll be fine with women, as cliche as it may sound your self-doubt is a far bigger obstacle than your above average penis size. It may look small to you in a mirror but it will look big to them in their hands. Now obviously this is a PE site and I'd be a hypocrite if I didn't encourage you to try and grow your dick, but man you've got a pretty big one and the self-doubt is what's gonna mess with you.

I know how it is to feel small. I'm 5'9" with a big frame(think Henry Rollins like build when I'm fit) and was really self-conscious about it despite being average height because I would read some truly vile stuff online about how short guys were trash. I had sex before that and a lot of women though I looked good, but I just couldn't get it out of my head that i was a failure and it pushed me towards drinking and doing other unsavory stuff that almost wrecked my job and part-time degree plan. I realized it wasn't true after a while and am a lot better off for it, if angry at myself for having let that drag me down.

[TheGreatDivider Senior Member Member of the Month Dec 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close TheGreatDivider]

If you're avoiding intimacy and relationships until your penis is 9" then you're wasting your life. I am sorry to tell you this, but I am also one of the bigger guys here and have been celibate for years. I am 8.5" erect, divorced, and have been celibate for almost five years now. I can tell you that there is no magic that happens when you have a big penis.

I don't get women throwing themselves at me or whispering excitedly in my presence when I need to readjust myself. I don't even get women coming up to me and flirting unless they want something. I still have the same insecurities I have always had, and the same depression that I deal with everyday. And my confidence has nothing to do with my penis, because it never enters my mind... It's more from see myself and not caring about how others see me.

Have you ever heard the therapist joke about everyone throwing their problems on the table, trading them other people, and their new problems not being so bad. That's what I see here... Let me tell you, I would KILL to be in your position. I am in college too, community college, but I am barely getting by right now. I have a disability that makes college nearly impossible. My GPA is just barely enough to get me into a university if I am even accepted.

And I don't have college girls come up and flirt with me either. I would love to be in your position but that's never going to happen with me. I have lots of female friends I talk to at school but that's it, no women want to date me. Matter of fact, I'm a jerk! And not in the way that nice guys pretend to be to attract women, more like an insult comedian playing with a heckler. I am always in trouble for pissing off one of the LAY DEES or saying something too over the top. I don't care, I am actually very nice but I just don't take BS off of anybody.

I am telling you man, you have no idea how good your life is right now. You're going to be out of college before you know it and making like over 80K a year doing what you love. Women will come into your life when you least expect it and you'll find one that is willing to work with you on your sexual hang-ups. Like seeks like, water reaches it's own level, and birds of a feather flock together. You're going to meet a woman on your own level who is as ambitious and successful as you are one of these days. Just you wait and see, it's going to happen for you.