Virgin/Anxiety. Celibate until 9 inches.

[GoodLookingNerd Member Find all posts View Profile Close GoodLookingNerd]

Hey there brothas. As you can see from the title from this thread, I am a virgin and will refrain from having sex until I hit my length goal. Is this ridiculous or what?

I am 22, tall, good looking, very intelligent with my studies, get a lot of attention from women but have the biggest anxiety about my penis. I have serious body dsymorphia and think I have a small peter. I did PE in the past and never measured my starting stats, but maybe have gained around or maybe less than half an inch? I really don't know.

Right now I am

BPEL 7.75 in.
MEG 5.0 in.

I know. What do I have to complain about? I am 6'3 and have a big frame and it does not look big to me.

I have seriously fucked up a potential relationship I could've had last year. I was dating this girl and everything was going well. We really cared about each other, and my whole anxiety about not being big was pretty unapparent. I fucked that up by doing some PE because I just thought, "Eh, I know I am more than enough, the ruler shows that, but why not an inch huh?" Got me a lengthmaster from Matters of Size and destroyed my sensitivity and erection angle.

My anxiety was never that much higher. I was about to be in a really good relationship and have beautiful sensual sex with a girl I really cared about but because my dick didn't work, I took action. I made up an extremely absurd story that I even cannot share here, but basically called it off and removed her from all social media and her number. With our last conversation, she said she would always be there for me and wouldn't mind putting our relationship on hold.

6 months later, right now, pokin around on facebook, I see her profile pic with some dude, and even though I was good 3 months later after all this drama, I feel some anxiety resurfacing.

I feel the need to hit my goal of 9 inch BPEL before I start giving attention to females. I am going to see a sex therapist, female because I remember having a conversation like this with one male therapist and I was being judged hard.

I have the LG hanger and am almost a month in. I feel as if I am not going to be enjoying my life once I hit that goal of mine. I am the top in my chemistry program in college, and girls constantly flirt with me, and due to my high insecurities, I pretend to be this cool suave guy who gets the ladies but inside I cringe at myself.

I am really messed up but hope I can get some advice, or hell, even a slap in the face, but I really believe at this point, in order for me to love myself, I need to attain my goal and then life can become enjoyable.

EDIT: Forgot to mention, I am fully recovered from using that device the LengthMaster. Erections and sensitivity restored and getting better thanks to the LG. Best PE device.

[Tamora Retired Super Moderator Member of the Month Aug 2015 PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Tamora]

I think you've answered your own questions. If you believe you are suffering from body dysmorphia you need to seek professional help.

Don't waste what should be the best years of your life!

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Yoep.^^^^^^^^

[not2big Senior Super ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close not2big]

I wasted eight years of my most productive sex life due to misplaced insecurity about my dick size.

Concentrate on on your dismorphia, not your dick size.

[djmotion Senior Member Member of the Month March 2019 Find all posts View Profile Close djmotion]

I may not be as severe as you but I believe I have some kind of body dysmorphia as well, I'm 7.17" in length and 5.06" in girth and only stand at 5' 4.6" so it should look big on me but it doesn't, to be honest it looks about 5 inches to me and I ain't overweight so my fat pad ain't massive and I also get the same dysmorphia in the gym with muscles even though people say I'm growing I just can't see it. You should never let this get in the way of sex or living your life though, if it is getting in the way then seeing a therapist is definitely the best solution. What works for me when it comes to dick size is just focusing on the numbers and honestly I try not to look at it too much unless I'm doing PE because then you become obsessed and it starts to appear smaller to you.

[jockinthebox Retired Moderator Member of the Month May 2015PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close jockinthebox]

HAVE SEX!...FORCE YOURSELF if you have to! Maybe it will help you realize you're MORE than adequate size-wise. Your sex "skills" level can be enhanced with some reading and finding a partner willing to help you work on your anxiety while teaching you how to please a female. I recommend a FWB type relationship, where there's no "LOVE connection" but a friendship that's intimate and flexible enough to maintain your privacy without sacrificing your heart. They're out there in college, so GO FIND ONE! It'll do you more good than the "sex therapists" and be a LOT MORE FUN , to say nothing of the $$$ savings. GROW A SET (courage), then USE THEM is my advice!

[proactive Senior MemberMember of the Month ? 2017 Find all posts View Profile Close proactive]

Like the others said, I'd work on the mental aspect of the issue and forget the penis size for now. As far as waiting till you hit your goal to have sex. I think you're crazy to do that. What if you don't/cant reach that goal for some reason? You are putting your future in the realm of the unknown by doing that.

Sure we all have our goals, and some will and others will not meet those goals. But goals don't mean life or death. Life will go on whether or not I meet my goals.

Live your life to the fullest. No i am not saying to bone every hot chemistry chick that looks at you. You can send them over to me, I need the practice. lol

[closed291 Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Member of the Month June 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close closed291]

Thanks for being vulnerable...I agree with the others about working on your emotional and mental issues. Regarding not waiting for sex...I swim against this advice. We have some members here who have stayed celibate and focus on being the best version of themselves. This is a viable option as well.

[GoodLookingNerd Member Find all posts View Profile Close GoodLookingNerd]

@ jockinthebox I really like your advice here and this is not the first time I have thought about this. There has many times where this could've happened but when I am about to get the number and/or ask to hang out, the red flag pops up and says, "Oh, your penis is not big enough."

I think your advice is best, but due to state I am in mentally as of now, I think I need to see a therapist for this issue first in order to have some sort of catharsis. Having the catharsis I think will be my first plan of attack to deal with this dysmorphia/anxiety.

@proactive I heavily agree with you as well. What if I am not able to achieve my goal? Am I not able to live a happy life and enjoy what is supposed to be a beautiful experience?

I believe porn has ingrained this idea that I need a big penis. But what I really think the damage was the conversations I have took part in with females. Several conversations that I have had, somewhere a girl had to mention penis size and then all the girls get all giggly about that shit. Extreme anxiety and pressure but I would play it off as cool and have said that I have a good size and have no issue.

Last night when I posted this thread, this anxiety surfaced due to seeing the girl post a pic of her with some dude. I feel a little better this morning.

I have to do a set of Hanging now lol, but I am gonna be active on this thread and may take jock's advice into action. If I am strong enough to push this anxiety out of the way.

[djmotion Senior Member Member of the Month March 2019 Find all posts View Profile Close djmotion]

@ jockinthebox I really like your advice here and this is not the first time I have thought about this. There has many times where this could've happened but when I am about to get the number and/or ask to hang out, the red flag pops up and says, "Oh, your penis is not big enough."

I think your advice is best, but due to state I am in mentally as of now, I think I need to see a therapist for this issue first in order to have some sort of catharsis. Having the catharsis I think will be my first plan of attack to deal with this dysmorphia/anxiety.

@proactive I heavily agree with you as well. What if I am not able to achieve my goal? Am I not able to live a happy life and enjoy what is supposed to be a beautiful experience?

I believe porn has ingrained this idea that I need a big penis. But what I really think the damage was the conversations I have took part in with females. Several conversations that I have had, somewhere a girl had to mention penis size and then all the girls get all giggly about that shit. Extreme anxiety and pressure but I would play it off as cool and have said that I have a good size and have no issue.

Last night when I posted this thread, this anxiety surfaced due to seeing the girl post a pic of her with some dude. I feel a little better this morning.

I have to do a set of Hanging now lol, but I am gonna be active on this thread and may take jock's advice into action. If I am strong enough to push this anxiety out of the way.

I would start by getting porn out of your life, that shit seriously messes with your brain, I'm also addicted and doing a 180 day NoFap challenge to get over it (easier said than done) but porn uses guys that have bigger than normal dick sizes, they're also good at getting the right camera angles to make them look bigger and it gives you the wrong impression of what women want, 99% of women would be happy with a guy who had a 7"dick as long as he respected her and knew how to use it instead of thrusting shit out of her like a pornstar (also what women don't want)

[jockinthebox Retired Moderator Member of the Month May 2015PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close jockinthebox]

@ jockinthebox I really like your advice here and this is not the first time I have thought about this. There has many times where this could've happened but when I am about to get the number and/or ask to hang out, the red flag pops up and says, "Oh, your penis is not big enough."

I think your advice is best, but due to state I am in mentally as of now, I think I need to see a therapist for this issue first in order to have some sort of catharsis. Having the catharsis I think will be my first plan of attack to deal with this dysmorphia/anxiety.

@proactive I heavily agree with you as well. What if I am not able to achieve my goal? Am I not able to live a happy life and enjoy what is supposed to be a beautiful experience?

I believe porn has ingrained this idea that I need a big penis. But what I really think the damage was the conversations I have took part in with females. Several conversations that I have had, somewhere a girl had to mention penis size and then all the girls get all giggly about that shit. Extreme anxiety and pressure but I would play it off as cool and have said that I have a good size and have no issue.

Last night when I posted this thread, this anxiety surfaced due to seeing the girl post a pic of her with some dude. I feel a little better this morning.

I have to do a set of Hanging now lol, but I am gonna be active on this thread and may take jock's advice into action. If I am strong enough to push this anxiety out of the way.

OK,... so find a therapist you can FUK...PROBLEM SOLVED!

[GoodLookingNerd Member Find all posts View Profile Close GoodLookingNerd]

@Ujjayi Dude, I really want to develop a mindset like this.

I am not really trying to sway off the great advice I am getting here but this "issue" has ingrained itself so far into my mind that I think the only way to really deal with it is to reach my goal or at least come close to it. I mean, that's what this website is about right? Becoming better, and unfortunately better in this regard is increasing the size of our penis'.

I can follow the advice given, but I know I will still be consciously and unconsciously thinking about this.

I am a mess, I know so for the time being, all I have the courage for in doing is my studies, PE, celibacy, and therapy.

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

Time; you young guys really know how to waste it. Somehow you never think that time is limited. But you, smart man that you are, know that a woman is only interested in your dick size. They really don't care if you're fun to be with, make them laugh, have good time together; nope it's dick size. What a shame!

[Big Al AdministratorPEGym EditorMale Enhancement Coach Rep.PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Big Al]

With all due respect your penis isn't the issue here- it's your mindset. At least you're aware something isn't right in your mind. Knowing this, use your energy towards those ends before you consider any type of male enhancement program.

[djmotion Senior Member Member of the Month March 2019 Find all posts View Profile Close djmotion]

With all due respect your penis isn't the issue here- it's your mindset. At least you're aware something isn't right in your mind. Knowing this, use your energy towards those ends before you consider any type of male enhancement program.

I agree with this! I have the same problem with dysmorphia as OP but I know logically that I'm not small (it just appears that way to me) and therefore it doesn't affect me or my sex life but if it's getting in the way being happy or having sex when you want it then I think the underlying issues need to be addressed rather than doing PE in the hopes that you will get 9" and be cured because you will probably still feel small.