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[not2big Senior Super ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close not2big]

Definately agree that a lot of guys think they are bigger than they truely are. At my store Magnum condoms are the number one seller in condoms. I get a few ladies come in and buy condoms, they never buy magnums.

From what I have read on this forum, most guys think they are below average and that's why they are here.

I only had sex once prior to my marriage and my wife was mostly on the pill. For the few months she was off the pill (except when we were trying to conceive) I found regular condoms too big and had to order smaller sized condemns on line.

Now that condoms are no longer needed, I believe regular condoms could be tight thanks to PE and pumping.

[Party Senior Member Member of the Month August 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Party]

Do you honestly think your daughter wants you to think that way?

She doesn't know about her sister and brothers. I only fessed up to the Mrs about my feelings last week. We were sitting at the bar. Cried for two hours together. It helped a bit. But the pain, guilt always return.

[Tamora Retired Super Moderator Member of the Month Aug 2015 PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Tamora]

She doesn't know about her sister and brothers. I only fessed up to the Mrs about my feelings last week. We were sitting at the bar. Cried for two hours together. It helped a bit. But the pain, guilt always return.

Now I'm confused?

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Definately agree that a lot of guys think they are bigger than they truely are. At my store Magnum condoms are the number one seller in condoms. I get a few ladies come in and buy condoms, they never buy magnums.

Uh huh 10 to 15 % of the ladies should be buying large fit and aren't.

Magnum due to their small base are not really a large fit condom.

[Party Senior Member Member of the Month August 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Party]

Uh huh 10 to 15 % of the ladies should be buying large fit and aren't.

Magnum due to their small base are not really a large fit condom.

I hadn't noticed that. I mean we know I don't need a Magnum but I use them to water proof her favorite vibrater for pool and hot tub fun.

[Ravenously Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Ravenously]

Is it true woman are liars because of their insecurities?

Is it true men are too.

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

I hadn't noticed that. I mean we know I don't need a Magnum but I use them to water proof her favorite vibrater for pool and hot tub fun.

About all they are good for.

Well I can tell you if a woman has a large fit condom there and tries to put a standard size on me it does not make me feel insecure . It does piss me right off . While I still don't know the purpose of this little game I do consider it a direct insult.

[Ravenously Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Ravenously]

Just like some/many men seem to think that just because a vagina CAN expand to accommodate childbirth doesn't mean that it's a comfortable experience. Just because you might be able to get something the size of an eggplant in there doesn't mean it's pleasurable or a good idea.

Damn!

There go my plans for the weekend.


Now, what am I gonna do with this eggplant?

[drISlittle Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close drISlittle]

How much does a mans status in terms of job, place he lives, car he drives, how much money he makes actually matter, to both you and women in general, in your opinion. I've not had a job for a few years now, no car, no money, live at home with my parents. I'm handsome, but I've noticed the exact moment, including online relationships, that a woman learns of my situation her entire mannerism towards me changes. One girl thought I was handsome liked talking to me then just gave me the cold shoulder once she learned I was basically a nobody.

I feel like that is the ONLY thing that matters is money. Money and status I guess. Money is more important though because money can equal security, whereas someone with high status might not nessesarily have a lot of money. Are all women like this? Yes. Not in the sense that, they all measure a mans worth by how big his paycheck is, but in the sense that they are attracted to security.

I have ADHD and I'm always gonna have issues being consistent, and providing security. So I feel that once a woman learns of these things that by choosing to be with me she's just going to screw herself over because, yeah my dick is I guess considered large size and I'm handsome but, a girl can do way better in terms of what seems to matter most which is security and status. More than anything, I haven't been laid in 3 years so I'm nervous what a girl will think of me in bed, but these other things and thoughts bother me far more than that. I feel inadequate as a long term mate because I feel I'll be unable to be a consistent provider, so I feel eventually any women will end up cheating on me or leaving me eventually, just a matter of time.

My ADHD and issues that come with it will never go away. I can learn to cope, but its always gonna be there. And I'm almost 28, and I have not coped well so far. Do you think I am a poor choice for a mate? Is all this stuff true, in general? Some of it might be too negative I'm sure, but I feel like the general idea is correct.

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Ummm drS this is one of those things women will deny till the cows come home they will claim it is very very rare .
If you watch what they do though ........

[Qandisa Senior Member Member of the Month March 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Qandisa]

How much does a mans status in terms of job, place he lives, car he drives, how much money he makes actually matter, to both you and women in general, in your opinion. I've not had a job for a few years now, no car, no money, live at home with my parents. I'm handsome, but I've noticed the exact moment, including online relationships, that a woman learns of my situation her entire mannerism towards me changes. One girl thought I was handsome liked talking to me then just gave me the cold shoulder once she learned I was basically a nobody.

Yes money and status matter to SOME women. For me those things would send up red flags not because oh this guy doesn't have any money but because it would make me worry about personal stability and drive. Taking your own personal situation out of the picture of the moment, look at it this way: If you have the choice between dating two women, both are about the same in terms of looks and personality, but one has a job and lives on her own and the other has no interest in working and just wants to stay home and live with her parents, which are you going to choose? Most people are going to go with the one with the job. Not because oh yeah money is nice but because you want someone with a certain level of maturity, who's going to be able to contribute SOMETHING to the relationship. It doesn't necessarily need to be a monetary contribution, but you don't want someone who basically intends to spend all of their time on the couch watching tv or playing video games and not doing anything.

As a woman, I'm not looking for someone with a fantastic job who can take care of me, but I also don't want someone that I'm going to have to spend all my time, energy and resources taking care of either. I want a partnership. Does that make any sense?

[discreet Senior Member Member of the Month May 2017 Find all posts View Profile Close discreet]

Hi drISlittle,

I feel what woman appreciate and respect is a hard working man. It can be in any capacity and any income bracket.

This has been my experience w/o question. And this stuff yields confidence which is even more attractive.

In terms of your ADHD, I've read and watched very promising treatments of using Ecstasy to treat ADHD, depression, trauma etc...

It must be under strict supervision but seemingly no more then 5 treatments which also involve targeted counseling seems VERY promising.

[drISlittle Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close drISlittle]

Does that make any sense?

It makes sense and I know that and agree, I'm just worried that, I'm doomed to be alone.. Its hard when you have ADHD and with my myriad of other issues due to being untreated for so long, it makes it worse than normal. I feel as though I'm walking on egg shells. Like I can't truly be in the moment and enjoy anything. If something good finally happens, and I get some beautiful lady that I finally feel understands and gets me, I wonder how long before she gets worn out and tired of me. How long before she realizes that I'm just a poor choice.

It doesn't matter my personality anything else, because having issues in other area's like work and money will erode all the other places that are good. What happened with my ex, and consistently every woman I've spoken to since my ex has stopped being interested in me romantically once they learn my situation.

[TheZZWoman Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZWoman]

How much does a mans status in terms of job, place he lives, car he drives, how much money he makes actually matter, to both you and women in general, in your opinion. I've not had a job for a few years now, no car, no money, live at home with my parents. I'm handsome, but I've noticed the exact moment, including online relationships, that a woman learns of my situation her entire mannerism towards me changes. One girl thought I was handsome liked talking to me then just gave me the cold shoulder once she learned I was basically a nobody.

I feel like that is the ONLY thing that matters is money. Money and status I guess. Money is more important though because money can equal security, whereas someone with high status might not nessesarily have a lot of money. Are all women like this? Yes. Not in the sense that, they all measure a mans worth by how big his paycheck is, but in the sense that they are attracted to security.

I have ADHD and I'm always gonna have issues being consistent, and providing security. So I feel that once a woman learns of these things that by choosing to be with me she's just going to screw herself over because, yeah my dick is I guess considered large size and I'm handsome but, a girl can do way better in terms of what seems to matter most which is security and status. More than anything, I haven't been laid in 3 years so I'm nervous what a girl will think of me in bed, but these other things and thoughts bother me far more than that. I feel inadequate as a long term mate because I feel I'll be unable to be a consistent provider, so I feel eventually any women will end up cheating on me or leaving me eventually, just a matter of time.

My ADHD and issues that come with it will never go away. I can learn to cope, but its always gonna be there. And I'm almost 28, and I have not coped well so far. Do you think I am a poor choice for a mate? Is all this stuff true, in general? Some of it might be too negative I'm sure, but I feel like the general idea is correct.

First of all my brother has ADHD and is gainfully employed as a nuclear engineer and I have been diagnosed with dyslexia and am gainfully employed as a Math Teacher. We both learned to live with our disabilities and adjust how we approach the world knowing that it is skewed for us. You can do the same.

As far as the dating scene, there are many women out there that are looking for someone with means. You should be glad that they walk away, because the minute anything in the relationship goes wrong, they are gone.

I will be honest, I knew my ZZM came from a family with mean but that is not what attracted me to him. I was of the mind that before I settle down with anyone, I need to know how to take care of myself and live on my own. Too many relationships end badly and I did not want to be a statistic of 2.3 children and my husband dies/leaves. I have taught my daughter to think the same way, you do not get in a relationship thinking "he" will provide and take care of me. There are too many unknowns in life for that.

In our household, I am the main bread winner. He was the main bread winner for the first 20 years of our relationship and his company downsized and his job no longer existed, so we talked and I said I will work and you do what you love to do. We are very happy, I love my job and he loves his and that is what it is all about.

You can't just sit back however and say that because you have this disability, you can't work and contribute to society. Most women are attracted to a man with potential and will be devoted to a man that actively seeks to improve himself and their relationship. So, even though there are women out there looking for someone with money, they are not the women you want to actively seek anyway. They are gone as soon as the money is gone. Find someone that appreciates you for you and don't let your issue be a determining factor in your life. Decide it is a minor inconvenience and rise above... That is how my brother and I deal with ours.

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Hi drISlittle,

I feel what woman appreciate and respect is a hard working man. It can be in any capacity and any income bracket.

This has been my experience w/o question. And this stuff yields confidence which is even more attractive.

In terms of your ADHD, I've read and watched very promising treatments of using Ecstasy to treat ADHD, depression, trauma etc...

It must be under strict supervision but seemingly no more then 5 treatments which also involve targeted counseling seems VERY promising.

I have liked all the answers to this so far and they contain some truth . But lets just have a look at this one .
Firstly every time I hear the confidence cliché I want to scream .

But the real issue here is this the implicit thought here is so long as you are not a no hoper you are on fairly even footing with everyone else in the dating game . Most women will swear this is how it is and that it is only very rare women who a swayed even slightly by money/ status . Look I heard this so often as a kid that I believed it . Then I experienced the real world . Now many want to ignore the lessons the real world teach us . Even more common a person is in a good situation or just got lucky and wants to ignore the real situation for others . All this helps no one reality should be faced .