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[TheZZWoman Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZWoman]

How do you maintained a good relationship with your husband for 30 years?

What efforts do you do to make your husband feel special?

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Zzm perspective is welcome and really appreciated.

Had to leave for work this morning so I made my comment short and sweet but I will go into further detail now that I have some time.

I never say I Love You, for the sake of saying I Love You - it is not a habit it is a true feeling. I appreciate everything he does for me and am sure to let him know by telling or showing him how much.

This is extremely important to hear (especially for other women)- If I am upset with him I never go to my friends and complain about him. I learned early on that women feed off that shit and in order for them to feel like they are lifting you up they will tear him down, they will tell you all about the flaws they see in him and how you can do better. If I am upset, I respect him enough to let him know so we can talk it out and work it out.

I love him for his flaws and despite his flaws. The night before our Wedding he asked me jokingly - Will you still love me when I'm bald. I jokingly replied only if you'll love me when I'm fat. Guess what - he is now bald (by my design) and although I am not considered fat, I do have a few more pounds on me then when we were married (by his design because his cooking is soooo damn good).

The one great bit of advice my father told me once is - "You know you are with the one who will make you happy for the rest of your life when you can look at the person your dating and say to yourself -' it can't possibly get any better than this but if the rest is down hill from here there's no one I'd rather take that ride with.'" I still have days when I say this - It can't get any better than this. You have to love the highs and appreciate the lows. (Think about it with out the lows there wouldn't be make-up sex.)

It is also important that there are no set expectations as for who does what in the relationship - we both have the normal things we do to keep up with the household and the kids but if one doesn't get to it the other will gladly pick up the slack. We are a team, always working together to make the other better. I start every day thinking I don't deserve him and then I work at earning him!

[TheZZMan Moderator Member of the Month Sept 2018PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZMan]

I'll ask a question----->

Why is it that women seem to be a moving target? What worked today, doesn't work tomorrow. Touch my boobs, don't touch my boobs. Insert a finger along with oral, next time my finger is pulled away. AND one that I never understood is, Its OK, I don't want any attention today. Help a guy understand these conflicting signals.

[Eazygeezer Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Eazygeezer]

Lol at zzman

every month for varying periods of time, between 2 and 3 weeks my wife almost can't stand to be touched, no hugs, no kisses, no sex, nothing. After that she then says you haven't hugged me, and then turns into a bit of a nympho. It's as regular as clockwork, I'll be fucked if I understand it?!?!

[Tamora Retired Super Moderator Member of the Month Aug 2015 PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Tamora]

It is also important that there are no set expectations as for who does what in the relationship - we both have the normal things we do to keep up with the household and the kids but if one doesn't get to it the other will gladly pick up the slack.

I hear ZZman is the only one that scoops up the dog shite in the garden!

Oh! And what I wanna know is does he cook naked at home like he does in the mod room? What with him cooking naked, Jock O'Johnson walking around with half the yearly production of Tata steel hanging off his todger and Cusp in his red bleedin' high heels I think I'm slowly turning insane!

[Hardthing Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Hardthing]

Feel free to ask me anything and everything (within reason - keep it clean), and lets put some of these myths to rest.

What say you?

Do you think a guy that wants to wait for marriage to lose his V is loser?

[Party Senior Member Member of the Month August 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Party]

Do you think a guy that wants to wait for marriage to lose his V is loser?

NO! That's what my virgin 24 year old Christian daughter is doing. Her best friend also waited.

[TheZZMan Moderator Member of the Month Sept 2018PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZMan]

Do you think a guy that wants to wait for marriage to lose his V is loser?

Honorable gestures like this should be commended. It is societal pressures that make you think otherwise. I sir, think that you should do what feels right in your heart and not bow to what other are doing or think you should be doing. Feel proud in your resolve, and I know you asked this of a woman, you have my support as a guy that no one will think any different of you for following an honorable path.

[Tamora Retired Super Moderator Member of the Month Aug 2015 PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Tamora]

Wot he said...^^^...and in the meantime buy a Ferrari!

[Pirate Retired AdministratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Pirate]

Being male, I've always wondered why the vast majority of women seem to prefer "planned sex"; I mean where you BOTH know it's going to happen, and it's "PLANNED"!... with candles & a jacuzzi full of bubble-bath, champagne glasses and the ice bucket within arm's reach kinda thing. As a guy, I've always LOVED "SPONTANEOUS SEX", outdoors, unplanned, "combustable" spur-of-the-moment kind of sex that's "hardly" anticipated (by us), but totally "uplanned"! Maybe it's just me, but some of my BEST MOST MEMORABLE SEX was TOTALLY SPONTANEOUS & UNPLANNED!

In my (embarrassingly vast) experience sexually, unplanned sex was ALWAYS better than even the most exotic PLANNED sex (for me), even when I was "GUARANTEED" having sex, it just seems "spontaneous combustion sex" was always more powerful, erotic & sinfully delicious, EVERY TIME! Am I just weird, or is there just such a major difference between men's & women's psyche when it comes to sex? Women who were willing to embrace that reckless, spontaneous, spur of the moment kind of sex were always the BEST (for me), btw! I just wish a greater % of females would "turn themselves loose" emotionally to allow their raw physical sexuality & desire to flow naturally, without reservation. Guys are ALWAYS horny and READY for sex, so it would just be better if more females shared our natural "animalistic" nature for sex! Those few who are free-spirits are just SO MUCH MORE FUN! Unfortunately, they are a small minority, but I've been lucky enough to "discover" a few in my life's journey!...I just wish there were MORE! ...YOUR THOUGHTS?

Personally, I think that spontaneous sex is a myth.
When sex happens, at least one person was planning for it.

[TheZZWoman Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZWoman]

I'll ask a question----->

Why is it that women seem to be a moving target? What worked today, doesn't work tomorrow. Touch my boobs, don't touch my boobs. Insert a finger along with oral, next time my finger is pulled away. AND one that I never understood is, Its OK, I don't want any attention today. Help a guy understand these conflicting signals.

Why does what I want or don't want have to be a signal? Why do you think it has some deeper meaning that what it actually is? The fact is it means nothing more than today that doesn't feel right and this does. I don't think I can explain why one thing can feel good one day and not the other except perhaps hormones at different times of the month. Notice, dear, that I have not done this so much lately as I am through the "change". Also hormone are regulated now which I also think helps. So, love me the way I am and accept my moves and counter moves as nothing more that yeah - that feels good or not there, why not try here

[TheZZWoman Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZWoman]

Do you think a guy that wants to wait for marriage to lose his V is loser?

No, not at all I think it's great - my daughter has a chastity ring that she asked for because this is her belief as well. It will be easier for her to achieve that goal if the guy she dates was of like mind. My goal was to wait for the man I was going to marry - I was fooled by empty promises. I hope she is more successful.

[Party Senior Member Member of the Month August 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Party]

Ok you two. Take it to the bedroom and figure it out. BTW you are both lucky to have found each other. And thank you both for being here. Great advise and insight from both.

[Tamora Retired Super Moderator Member of the Month Aug 2015 PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Tamora]

Why does what I want or don't want have to be a signal? Why do you think it has some deeper meaning that what it actually is? The fact is it means nothing more than today that doesn't feel right and this does. I don't think I can explain why one thing can feel good one day and not the other except perhaps hormones at different times of the month. Notice, dear, that I have not done this so much lately as I am through the "change". Also hormone are regulated now which I also think helps. So, love me the way I am and accept my moves and counter moves as nothing more that yeah - that feels good or not there, why not try here

Okay! No domestics here please, otherwise I'll have to do a "Ban Man" and put this thread into moderation! lmao

P.S. You tell him!!!

[Cavalier Retired Super Moderator Member of the Month Feb 2015PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Cavalier]

That brings up a good question for me. You said you are through "the change". I would like to know more about what a woman goes through and what I might expect. My wife is 55 and isn't close yet according to her gynecologist. Someday it will come and I'm interested about the many things a woman will be going through and how things may or may not of have changed afterwards. For instance it's said that a woman will shrink up some and may find intercourse painful afterwards.

[jockinthebox Retired Moderator Member of the Month May 2015PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close jockinthebox]

Personally, I think that spontaneous sex is a myth.
When sex happens, at least one person was planning for it.

I disagree, at least from my own experiences. I've had sex with girls I just met by happenstance. I'll even offer a couple of examples: While playing volleyball in the sun on a beach all day, with various guys & girls jumping into the game, strangers, who ended up spending a day together being playful, then having sex on the sand as the afternoon sun sets over the water; or a snowball fight on the college campus among a bunch of co-eds who hadn't previously met, but ended paired-up back at the dorm later, between the sheets. It is sort of a spark or simultaneous "download" that hits both of you when you live "in the moment" and have sex; but it's passion, not "love", just for the sheer excitement & fun of it. Both males & females can be "free spirits", and when they find each other under the right circumstances, it "happens." Pure coincidence?...it was for me! Absolutely no "pre-planning" involved!