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[TheZZWoman Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZWoman]

Snapper is right about birth control causing depression and antidepressants causing low libido. You need to educate your wife that how she is feeling and what she is doing is not normal behavior. It is not healthy for her or you, the family or the relationship. I think you are making it okay for her to act this way by giving her what she wants - to be left alone and have no responsibility. She only wants this however, because of the depression. It's not selfish to want to be intimate with you significant other. I think you need to have an uncomfortable conversation with her, knowing that she is not going to like it. Spell out what the expectations of a relationship are - Sharing in the daily house hold duties, taking care of oneself, being a role model for the kids and yes being intimate with the one you love. Ask her if she agrees that she is not herself. It would be good if you tell her you have noticed she has started to take better care of herself. Tell her it is time that she have that conversation with her doctor to get her back to feeling like her old self again. If she doesn't like the medications she's on, she needs to tell the doctor that so they can adjust. There are many other types of antidepressants that she may tolerate better and the same with birth control. You can do the ultimatum stuff, but be careful, that may blow up in your face and could make things worse. You can be firm but caring without putting forth the ultimatum. Give her a chance to respond and if she starts putting the blame on you, STOP her and tell her this is not about blame, it is about fixing what isn't working. Turn it back around and ask her if she really believes the relationship is working. Tell her you want to fix it together, you can't do it alone. Get her to agree to getting the help she needs and let her know you will be there to help her through. Once the blame game starts nothing gets accomplished, always go back to fixing it together.

[Phoenix7672 Senior Member Member of the Month Oct 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Phoenix7672]

Actually 1 more size-related question just to get your honest opinion to compare/contrast with others that have mentioned things here before. For those of us here shooting for the stars (say 8"x6" or larger), what's your take on things? Is there a size you'd say is too big (and us guys are dumb for trying to reach that), and since you know about PE, you'd try to stop your partner once they hit it?

[TheZZWoman Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZWoman]

Actually 1 more size-related question just to get your honest opinion to compare/contrast with others that have mentioned things here before. For those of us here shooting for the stars (say 8"x6" or larger), what's your take on things? Is there a size you'd say is too big (and us guys are dumb for trying to reach that), and since you know about PE, you'd try to stop your partner once they hit it?

Well, I would not stop my partner from PE as he should be doing it for himself not for me. The problem with getting too big is that he would not be able to use his whole dick, I would stop him short when it became uncomfortable. I would think that would decrease some of his experience. There is something about taking it all that is exciting for both. Do I know what size that would be? No. Our anatomy is very pliable and adjusts quite nicely if we are stimulated enough to start. This is why size is really not a factor for women, as we adjust to what is offered.

Every women would have a different stopping point as we are not all built the same. Some women would be very happy with an 8 x 6, while others would not. You may be decreasing your pool of options for women by getting bigger. A smaller penis would give you more options as far as the number of women accepting what you have to offer - Just remember, it is not the size...It is what you do with it that counts.

[hardwoody Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close hardwoody]

The problem with getting too big is that he would not be able to use his whole dick, I would stop him short when it became uncomfortable. I would think that would decrease some of his experience.

I'm pretty sure that a dick that is too long decreases some of the woman's experience too - his body isn't brushing up against the woman's clit. I would assume that makes it just about impossible to have a clitoral orgasm in that scenario without manual stimulation. Maybe other types of orgasms like g-spot or cervical would be the order the day?

[discreet Senior Member Member of the Month May 2017 Find all posts View Profile Close discreet]

Hi,

Yes, great point hardwoody. That's why I'm thinking to post a goal of 7"x5 3/4". Very doable as I'm close and not a burden to the woman.

Plus more convenient when flaccid while doing physical activities. I wear board shorts a lot and would rather forgo a large member showing and getting in he way.

[hardwoody Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close hardwoody]

Alright, sorry in advance Pegasus, but the ladies over at Cosmo keep fanning the huge ex flames with posts like this - The 11 most amazing sexual experiences every woman needs to have. #1 on the list of *amazing* sexual experiences that every woman needs to have - yep, you guessed it - a huge ex. And it's not just big, it's "really big" and "massive" to emphasize the point. There you have it - Cosmo says the huge dick is on the list, and apparently it's amazing.

I've read what you ladies are saying about the huge ex - it's just not that important in the grand scheme of things. AND, it can be very painful - but it's on this list of amazing sexual experiences for a reason! I've read other posts by the ladies here and it appears that women will seek out the guy with a really big dick just for the thrill and to experience it at least once in their lives to see what it's like. But the ladies over at Cosmo do clarify "Oh sure, size doesn't matter when you're with the right guy. Absolutely." Wink, wink, nudge, nudge.

I was just thinking about a comparison from a guy's perspective of the 11 most amazing sexual experiences. Things we'd put on our bucket list. For me personally, I think the equivalent of the huge dick is a huge set of bolt ons. I'm thinking at least Ds or maybe DDs. It would certainly be a thrill to experience that once in my life. But, would I wanna keep that girl around as a girlfriend or wife? Nah, probably not. Just think of the maintenance. You'd have guys ogling her all the time to start. Then, most likely, guys hitting on her and pressuring her to leave that other miserable, no good guy and run away with them. And, let's face it, women are human too. A Ryan Reynolds look-alike might just show some interest and in a moment of weakness she's sucking on his huge cock. (Yes, OF COURSE Ryan Reynolds has a huge cock. Just look at him.) And that would be very bad for poor old me.

Plus, can you imagine me, umm, me, taking a hot chick with a huge set of bolt ons to see my mother? Egad, that's gonna be awkward. So, I don't care what you women say, that huge cock is still a thrill, it's still effin' AMAZING, and you just can't deny it. Just like my fantasy tits. But I'm definitely not telling my girlfriend that! Talk about awkward!!!

[hardwoody Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close hardwoody]

...That's why I'm thinking to post a goal of 7"x5 3/4". Very doable as I'm close and not a burden to the woman.

Yeah, I think I've changed my goals too. 8 x 6 is probably too big, but it was my original goal. I was thinking 7 1/2 x 5 1/2 or maybe 6".

Plus more convenient when flaccid while doing physical activities. I wear board shorts a lot and would rather forgo a large member showing and getting in he way.

Ha, yeah, but a large member would definitely get some attention...

[TheZZWoman Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZWoman]

I agree, would decrease my satisfaction too if his body wasn't touching everything.

[TheZZWoman Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZWoman]

Ha, yeah, but a large member would definitely get some attention...

Would you rather have 5 minutes of fame or a life time of pleasure?

[discreet Senior Member Member of the Month May 2017 Find all posts View Profile Close discreet]

Would you rather have 5 minutes of fame or a life time of pleasure?

The Oracle has spokath.

[TheZZWoman Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZWoman]

#1 on the list of *amazing* sexual experiences that every woman needs to have - yep, you guessed it - a huge ex. And it's not just big, it's "really big" and "massive" to emphasize the point.

Going to Bermuda for 2 weeks was an amazing experience! Notice it says "ex". I would go to Bermuda again but it doesn't sound like they will be visiting their "EX" again.

[hardwoody Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close hardwoody]

Haha zzwoman, did you just imply that a huge ex is amazing???

[TheZZWoman Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZWoman]

Haha zzwoman, did you just imply that a huge ex is amazing???

I don't think so, I referred to an article that implied huge ex is amazing. No ex of mine was amazing - part of the reason they are Exes. Notice they did not define "Huge". Maybe these women assume huge because it was amazing. It's the old immature mentality that "bigger is better" when in reality most prefer "good things come in small packages". Why are you reading Cosmo any way, the Demographic for the magazine is college women and the sole purpose is to sell magazines.

[hardwoody Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close hardwoody]

Fair enough. Sorry, I'm not trying to paint you into a corner. I don't know how you've done it but you've dismissed this article as complete crap. : ) What you're telling me is that article is just total fantasy and nothing more. I hear you...

As to why I'm reading Cosmo, lol, I wasn't. I just saw it in a Google search and thought, hmm, interesting. Just like this article -<URL removed>, what amazing sex feels like to a woman. I'm on a path to develop myself into a better lover. According to you, I should stop PE immediately!

[TheZZWoman Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZWoman]

Fair enough. Sorry, I'm not trying to paint you into a corner. I don't know how you've done it but you've dismissed this article as complete crap. : ) What you're telling me is that article is just total fantasy and nothing more. I hear you...

As to why I'm reading Cosmo, lol, I wasn't. I just saw it in a Google search and thought, hmm, interesting. Just like this article -<URL removed>, what amazing sex feels like to a woman. I'm on a path to develop myself into a better lover. According to you, I should stop PE immediately!

See, there you go again reading into something that isn't there. There is nothing wrong with trying to improve yourself and if you want a big dick, go for it. I also never said it was a turn off. There is just more to it than a dick and to think you can't satisfy a woman unless it's big is crap. I color my hair and paint my nail and buy sexy underwear. All this improves me, but does not make me a better lover. Does he like it sure, but in the end I don't do it for him. I do this for me. It makes me feel good about what I am presenting to him.

I looked at your link and they are selling coaching and books and courses. They will tell you what they need to to get you to buy their products.

Proper PE is healthy for you, increases blood flow giving better EQ. It is all around better penile health, just like exercise does not just improve your muscles it also improves your lungs, blood flow and bone health as well as your mental health. So i would never tell anyone to stop PE, just do it for the right reasons.