just venting I guess (I already know its dumb)

[ColtAR-15 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close ColtAR-15]

I feel really bad for the kids!

[hooksvsbird Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close hooksvsbird]

To each their own. I wouldn't want a MMF either but if 'Vette is into it, then you shouldn't judge that. Just like I could never do a homosexual act but I don't judge those who do.

Those who got divorced weren't communicating like they should have been. That is clear.

I am not judging him. Based on his reaction to what has already happened between them I think his reaction to seeing his wife with somebody else will not be good.

As far as the swingers you know, they might as well have just stayed in the casual dating stage of the relationship. What's the point of getting married if you are banging others?

[Cya at 8 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Cya at 8]

I am not judging him. Based on his reaction to what has already happened between them I think his reaction to seeing his wife with somebody else will not be good.

As far as the swingers you know, they might as well have just stayed in the casual dating stage of the relationship. What's the point of getting married if you are banging others?

Based on his insecurities, it might not be a good idea.. Hence a MFF, maybe a few times, would make him comfortable enough maybe to do what he says is his fantasy.

I disagree.. Love and sex are two different things. Sleeping with one person for the rest of your life tends to lead to boredom and complacency. Long term, many people start taking the relationship for granted. When another person is introduced, the couple tends to feel somewhat threatened and yet again begins to do the little things that show you love your life partner. That's what my wife is.. My life partner. We can still lust and do it together thus keeping us both doing the little things that make you feel your mate loves you.

[MrBigDick Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close MrBigDick]

You are still having issues with her having sex with a guy because he may have been bigger, in reality your issue should be with her betraying you. Now you want to have a threesome. Pure and utter chaos will ensue. No doubt about it. You need to completely resolve these issues that you are having from the last experience before you purposely guzzzle another glass of relationship poison.

THANK YOU BigO!!!! My thoughts exactly.

Mr. Vette, this is my personal opinion but I honestly think you and your wife should just stick to the two of you right now and get through this little issue you've got at the moment before even THINKING about bringing a 3rd person in the equation. Take the advice that's been given to you.....it's a recipe for disaster.

[NCGUY1972 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close NCGUY1972]

I have had 1 threesome with my wife when we were dating and it started fine but the other guy had issues PE so it fell apart. My only issue with her cheating now is that I wasnt there. If I had been there I may not have approved of the guy but who knows. Her cheating the more I think about it had absoluetly nothing to do with me. I wasnt neglecting her, it wasnt my dick it wasnt me at all. She had an encounter with someone she had a crush on since high school and old feeling came back to the surface. The entire thing was all about them and those feelings were there before I met her. She didnt go out looking for someone and never intended to cheat on me.

[someone_like_u Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close someone_like_u]

The thought of 2 men is very exciting. I wish we had realized we both shared this fantasy a long time ago. We are having fun with the fantasizing and dirty talk during sex and I am happy if it never goes beyond that. Maybe if we figured this out when life was less complicated before the kids it would have been fun to explore. I wish we had opened up to each other sooner about all of our fantasies mine and his. I am thankful we are opening up and shring everything with each other now.

I have had 1 threesome with my wife when we were dating and it started fine but the other guy had issues PE so it fell apart. My only issue with her cheating now is that I wasnt there. If I had been there I may not have approved of the guy but who knows. Her cheating the more I think about it had absoluetly nothing to do with me. I wasnt neglecting her, it wasnt my dick it wasnt me at all. She had an encounter with someone she had a crush on since high school and old feeling came back to the surface. The entire thing was all about them and those feelings were there before I met her. She didnt go out looking for someone and never intended to cheat on me.

Maybe I'm the only one, but your story isn't adding up. Not trying to start anything Vettez, but honestly, I would think I'd state the fact that you tried a threesome while dating, you'd not mentioned it before and you've been going on and on about a threesome for a while now. For me, it's like you just keep adding more to the story to make it sound better or something. Maybe I'm reading too much into it, but hmmm....

[pterodactyl Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close pterodactyl]

I think you two should make some videos and post them on a site like xhamster or something. That way you can have fun and connect with people but they dont have to be there. I would love to do that but there is NO WAY IN HELL that my girl would be ok with that =)

[NCGUY1972 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close NCGUY1972]

I think you two should make some videos and post them on a site like xhamster or something. That way you can have fun and connect with people but they dont have to be there. I would love to do that but there is NO WAY IN HELL that my girl would be ok with that =)

Neither one of us is video worthy

[NCGUY1972 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close NCGUY1972]

For me, it's like you just keep adding more to the story to make it sound better or something. ....

Im still looking at thing from differebt perspectives and I think I am figuring things out. As far as the threesome it wasnt planned it just happened and it was a buddy of mine who I had had 2 other threesomes with in the past. No big deal he didnt have issues before that and we were all freinds afterwords. I didnt mention it because it was kind of a failure and we werent married yet. It was not my intent to bring up threesomes in this thread but since it was brought up I have been responding. I dont think I have brought up threesomes myself since the thread a long time ago by someone else that I replied to. I am perfectly fine if a mod would just lock this thread and let it die!

[NCGUY1972 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close NCGUY1972]

I am cool with the fantasy 3rd or even 4rth partner. I even drug the guy she slept with into the fantasy yesturday and she freaked out a little at first but then went on with it. She brought a girl in last night as well and that was ok. We even set rules for the imaginary people.

[someone_like_u Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close someone_like_u]

Maybe you two should try for a threesome with the guy she cheated with. That way you'll see firsthand how big his dick is and you'll be there to enjoy as well.

[hooksvsbird Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close hooksvsbird]

Maybe you two should try for a threesome with the guy she cheated with. That way you'll see firsthand how big his dick is and you'll be there to enjoy as well.

That's hardcore SLU.

[NCGUY1972 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close NCGUY1972]

I would but hes too far away and not into it. He is a christian and feels bad about what happened already. I told him I was up for it.

[NCGUY1972 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close NCGUY1972]

That way you'll see firsthand how big his dick .

I am content now knowing we are close enough to the exact same size. Mine is what it is and the wife likes it, she said he didn't excite anything new for her that I cant and I do believe her. We have had several long talks over the last 3 days about all kinds of stuff. Thats how I came to the conclusion that none of this had anything to do with me at all ever and there was nothing wrong between us. It was all her fault for giving in but she had true feelings for the guy from a long time ago. Actually the more I think about it he may not be the right person to try because those feelings could develope into something more. I think the third person should be someone without feelings.

[Cya at 8 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Cya at 8]

Yeah it's best not to do it with someone who might have feelings. The jealousy would run wild..... Unless that is what you are into. There are men out there that find jealousy erotic.