Is this the reason for her low sex drive?

[Boosie Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Boosie]

Alright so basically my girlfriend does not have the best sex drive in the world. She engages to have sex maybe once a 3 weeks if not less... to be honest i have to do all the enganging. We don't live together so we have sex maybe 1-2 a week but it's still only because i engage in it. I masturbate everyday but only edge and i only ejaculate before the weekends (when i see her)

One thing though that she told me the other day. I Know she gets herself off aswell thats nothing unusual but she told me she does it everyday and when she does it she cums 10 times and it makes her all worn out. Is this the reason she has a lox sex drive when shes with me? And is it the reason she has a hard time cumming when we are having sex, because she just worn herself out before we see each other. As for a guy as example if you jerk off 3 times the 4th time its gonna be tough to cum.

She also can't cum vaginally (As she claims..) I haven't made her cum vaginally yet and i've tried almost everything. I can make her cum through just orally etc.

We went to an event once that lasted 4 days, she had no time to get herself off and during those 4 days she was ALLLL over me. It was almost annoying haha but its better then now.

[namsokiek Banned Find all posts View Profile Close namsokiek]

Tough one to answer.

It makes sense that her 10, self-motivated O's a day could leave her physically satisfied and a bit exhausted. It could also be raising the bar really high for you.

But you have an advantage. Masterbating only fulfills the physiological needs but not the other needs she requires from a considerate partner. This is your advantage. By fulfilling her needs of intimacy with another person, providing her someone to trust and to become intimate, and enjoying the experience of your shared passion, she will desire intimacy and sex with you. You may not be able to compete with 10 O's right now, but by fulfilling these other needs may give her the other orgasm types she has yet to experience.

[MrsDonjelqer76 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close MrsDonjelqer76]

My personal opinion, and of course being a woman, is that your girlfriend may have an addiction to masturbating. Cumming 10 times a day, every single day is a lot, for anyone. I think it's a lot even for porn stars. I think someone needs to practice refraining from masturbating every single day and save that energy for you. I mean, I think that masturbating is for when you can't be together and you're lonely. However, if you are both capable of being together, you should be doing that instead of self-pleasing. If she's having difficulty reaching orgasm from penetration alone, an option is to ask her if she wants to self-please while you are having sex with her. She could rub herself while you are penetrating her. From my experience, it's rewarding for both parties because it turns the guy on watching while she is self-pleasing.

You both need that intimacy together. I agree with above comment too; that the bar is being set way too high for you if she is achieving 10 orgasms a day, every single day. That literally leaves nothing left for you to achieve...and that doesn't seem very fair.

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If she's having difficulty reaching orgasm from penetration alone, an option is to ask her if she wants to self-please while you are having sex with her. She could rub herself while you are penetrating her. From my experience, it's rewarding for both parties because it turns the guy on watching while she is self-pleasing.

+1
This is something I love watching my wife do while we have sex. It's definitely much easier to get her off this way, and I get to enjoy the show

[Cya at 8 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Cya at 8]

Whoa, finally have your wife join huh Don?

Interesting.

[Boosie Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Boosie]

She could rub herself while you are penetrating her. From my experience, it's rewarding for both parties because it turns the guy on watching while she is self-pleasing.

You both need that intimacy together. I agree with above comment too; that the bar is being set way too high for you if she is achieving 10 orgasms a day, every single day. That literally leaves nothing left for you to achieve...and that doesn't seem very fair.

For the first part, she said she doesen't like doing it since its distracting ????.

For the second part, we are really intimite, Our relationship is really fucking good except that part that i mentioned. The bar is set so fucking high for me i don't even bother. I make her cum once through oraly before we have sex and thats it since she doesen't want to please herself while we are having sex.

[Qarzan Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Qarzan]

For the first part, she said she doesen't like doing it since its distracting ????.

For the second part, we are really intimite, Our relationship is really fucking good except that part that i mentioned. The bar is set so fucking high for me i don't even bother. I make her cum once through oraly before we have sex and thats it since she doesen't want to please herself while we are having sex.

Why only once? Usually when I'm down there, I stay down there until she is literally begging me to stop and pushing my head away. Even then I'll persist, because even then I can get a few more out of her before she really just wriggles away.

[Boosie Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Boosie]

Why only once? Usually when I'm down there, I stay down there until she is literally begging me to stop and pushing my head away. Even then I'll persist, because even then I can get a few more out of her before she really just wriggles away.

cuz it takes her 15 minutes of licking at the EXACT same place for her to get off, my tounge hurts after awhile.

[greymouser Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close greymouser]

try to know more,
try to convince her to be present when she does one of her 10 O's session,
maybe she is using something battery operated, and i don't know how you would feel about that,
but the majority of women tend to see it as a sort of cheating and they keep it secret from their BF,
because that sound like a 3 hours session, it could be interesting to both of you if you could participate..

or maybe she is into something else try to ask her what she is fantasizing about or watching while she does her session,
maybe she is into something that she is having a difficulty divulging it to you, maybe she is too game for you,
and normal sex is not spicy enough for her...

if her sexdrive is really too low and that those 10 O's sessions are just imaginary....then she is really not enjoying sex as an activity and asking for an explanation is legit....

but it all depends on both your levels of satisfaction in the relationship, if you are cool with it then don't try anything that could jeopardize it ...

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try to know more,
try to convince her to be present when she does one of her 10 O's session,
maybe she is using smtg battery operated, and i don't know how you would feel about that,
but the majority of women tend to see it as a sort of cheating and they keep it secret from their BF,
because that sound like a 3 hours session, it could be interesting to both of you if you could participate..

or maybe she is into something else try to ask her what she is fantasizing about or watching while she does her session,
maybe she is into something that she is having a difficulty divulging it to you, maybe she is too game for you,
and normal sex is not spicy enough for her...

if her sexdrive is really too low and that those 10 O's sessions are just imaginary....then she is really not enjoying sex as an activity and asking for an explanation is legit....

but it all depends on both your levels of satisfaction in the relationship, if you are cool with it then don't try anything that could jeopardize it ...

Something, damn it. Spell it out. Text talk is not user friendly to those that have a first language other than English, plus it just looks lazy.

[BigO AdministratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close BigO]

I would be suspect of the claim of getting herself off 10 times a day, not in a way that is deceitful, not suggesting cheating in any way. I mean that maybe she says she does this so she thinks you will understand that as her reason and then she feels as if she passified the situation. Maybe she has a low sex drive and does not understand why.

Is she as frisky as the time you described every single time you are alone for the better part of a day. I would think a gal that must get herself off 10 times a day would go nutz for your dong.

[Boosie Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Boosie]

try to know more,
try to convince her to be present when she does one of her 10 O's session,
maybe she is using something battery operated, and i don't know how you would feel about that,
but the majority of women tend to see it as a sort of cheating and they keep it secret from their BF,
because that sound like a 3 hours session, it could be interesting to both of you if you could participate..

or maybe she is into something else try to ask her what she is fantasizing about or watching while she does her session,
maybe she is into something that she is having a difficulty divulging it to you, maybe she is too game for you,
and normal sex is not spicy enough for her...

if her sexdrive is really too low and that those 10 O's sessions are just imaginary....then she is really not enjoying sex as an activity and asking for an explanation is legit....

but it all depends on both your levels of satisfaction in the relationship, if you are cool with it then don't try anything that could jeopardize it ...

First off, I doubt she has a vibrator. But who knows maybe she has one i've asked her about it and she said no. I even asked if she wanted me to buy one for her and she said no. It's not a 3 hour session, she just gets herself of 10 times pretty fast. She can't orgasm vaginally what i know off so it wouldn't suprise me if she didn't enjoy sex since im the only one getting off. I've asked her about fantisies but she said she didn't have any so ????

I would be suspect of the claim of getting herself off 10 times a day, not in a way that is deceitful, not suggesting cheating in any way. I mean that maybe she says she does this so she thinks you will understand that as her reason and then she feels as if she passified the situation. Maybe she has a low sex drive and does not understand why.

Is she as frisky as the time you described every single time you are alone for the better part of a day. I would think a gal that must get herself off 10 times a day would go nutz for your dong.

I don't think shes cheating on me. She knows she has a low sex drive i've told her and even mantioned that its pretty dissapointing. She said that she a REALLY high sex drive 1-3 years ago with her ex. We are in our 20s.

It's getting really depressing knowing that she might not enjoy sex that much as i thought she was.

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

I suspect vibe use has lowered her sensitivity.

[Boosie Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Boosie]

I suspect vibe use has lowered her sensitivity.

This might be it.

What about just herself? For example iron grip for us men.

[TPW Senior Member Member of the Month Oct 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close TPW]

Alright so basically my girlfriend does not have the best sex drive in the world. She engages to have sex maybe once a 3 weeks if not less... to be honest i have to do all the enganging. We don't live together so we have sex maybe 1-2 a week but it's still only because i engage in it. I masturbate everyday but only edge and i only ejaculate before the weekends (when i see her)

One thing though that she told me the other day. I Know she gets herself off aswell thats nothing unusual but she told me she does it everyday and when she does it she cums 10 times and it makes her all worn out. Is this the reason she has a lox sex drive when shes with me? And is it the reason she has a hard time cumming when we are having sex, because she just worn herself out before we see each other. As for a guy as example if you jerk off 3 times the 4th time its gonna be tough to cum.

She also can't cum vaginally (As she claims..) I haven't made her cum vaginally yet and i've tried almost everything. I can make her cum through just orally etc.

We went to an event once that lasted 4 days, she had no time to get herself off and during those 4 days she was ALLLL over me. It was almost annoying haha but its better then now.

DAMN!! She has time to masturbate 10 times a day? Everyday? Holy Heck...what kind of career/lifestyle does she have that enables her to have that kind of time??? Please share...I may have to switch careers!!