Guy who has zero experience

[amiok Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close amiok]

I'm 24 as well. Came out of that shell not long after my first real relationship ended.
Just ask them about whatever your thinking. I have gone up to a bar to get a drink and stood next to some girl... just said the service here sucks and we started talking. It ended with me laughing at her for being a Washington Capitals fan... but still.
Just talk about anything... you'll get the hang of it after a few tries. The failures tend to give you confidence in yourself... at least from the standpoint that you're not a bag of douche anymore and are actually talking to women. No longer scared, just sucky at it. Eventually that gets better too... just gotta put yourself out there.

Haha. Yea.

[Batwoman Moderator ReservePEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Batwoman]

The truth is that many girls are just as nervous as you are. Just because a girl smiles on the outside or laughs (or walks away) doesn't mean they aren't worried or feeling equally insecure as you on the inside (sometimes we females walk away to relieve the pressure of not being sure what to say or do). So just talk to girls like they are people, don't read "like" or "dislike" into every action. Keep talking and trying and eventually things will click with someone.

I think some of you guys -- like amiok -- assume that everything in interactions with girls is about shortcoming in themselves. It isn't. A lot of what happens in interactions with single girls is about the insecurities that the girl has. You have to get past that. Talking a lot is the best way, if not with one girl, then with another.

[Drl Member Find all posts View Profile Close Drl]

K lots of pages did not read them all will take to long. If there is one thing you need and only one, it is a sense of humour, fuck the rest. You can look like brad pitt has a penis like a mule it wont help, those things will change you as a person, and it will make you different in a bad way. Me , myself I am not good looking nor am I hung like a horse, nor do I have a great body or teeth . Just Joe Public . 6 feet 5 inches . 275 pounds , not all muscle. Black hair dark brown almost black eyes. I am nothing to look at trust me..! But put me in a room with a group of women and I can talk to each and everyone of of them and they will remember my name afterwards. I dont have confidence, but I dont have a sense of humour and a good one.

I found making jokes of myself worked for me , how? It would take the bad things that they could say away from them. I would say it and then nothing they could say was not something that I had already pointed out. I have thousands of one-liners for any occasion and event. You make a joke at your expense what does it show? It shows that you aknowledge your imperfections and admit them and embrase them and you bask in their glory of making you unique. If you can make them laugh they wont forget you. Once they laugh they will overlook things. They will forget the one dimensional good looking guy who spends most of his time in front of the mirror, they will forget donkey boy who thought he was gods gift to woamn with his 10 - 12 inches , and who hurt them with his dick.

If nothing else they will have a good laugh and enjoy themselves. Learn to loosen up. If a certain girl is not laughing then fine. She has issues of her own. Also and I mean this with the upmost respect to all the ladies here . Girls who have fuller figures , most of the time have fewer issues. They have accepted themselves and are just as eager to have fun , not sex but fun as much as you are. You will connect with them far easier than the skinny self obsessed Paris Hilton type.

Try it , you will be surprised.

[amiok Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close amiok]

BW: Yes ma'am

Drl: Good for you lol


Overall: So a kind of eventful Tuesday night. My boy took me and his other friend to our first strip club. Real degenerates on a Tuesday lol. Going to say I did not like it one bit. First off there were like 8 dudes there total. And then after they dance these women come around trying to get their tip. Dude, I don't want to talk to you and don't pull out your tits and squeeze em in my face lol. I was so nervous, made my friend tip them for me. Not comfortable putting my hand in their tits, maybe I am gay hahaha.

Then we went to this other bar to chill and a couple set of girls were checking us out. I noticed one girl checked us out and then when her male "just friend" left she all of a sudden brought her hair down. Literally. Was kind of funny. All the experts would read into that saying she was showing she was open. My boy was like "You want to talk to her?" Me, "Nah."

Haha

[KungFuJoe Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close KungFuJoe]

Hold up a sec. Were you sitting at the stage? Sitting at the stage and NOT tipping is grounds for IMMEDIATE removal from the premises!!!

[amiok Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close amiok]

Hold up a sec. Were you sitting at the stage? Sitting at the stage and NOT tipping is grounds for IMMEDIATE removal from the premises!!!

Hahahahaha!!!! No, I tipped. Just through my friend

[amiok Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close amiok]

Last night something made me happy. My boy is visiting, who took me to the strip club, and I finally heard news that was great. In high school and right after her used to always brag about what he did with girls and shit. Finally, i hear how many times he failed and how long it took him to sleep with certain girls etc. Good to hear

[Zubbie Member Find all posts View Profile Close Zubbie]

So amiok are you taking any consistent action right now to change your problem?

[amiok Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close amiok]

So amiok are you taking any consistent action right now to change your problem?

Uh, not really lol

[Jackxxx Banned Find all posts View Profile Close Jackxxx]

Hey Amiok do you live in the mid west? I ask because your problem only seems to be extreme lack of experience. However, having a social life, you should have naturally beaten that barrier by now. By reading some pages here, from your experiences, is how you "feel" and what you experience when you are 14-16, but definitely not in your 20's...unless your mind works like a 15 year old which I doubt.

You over think too much. Relax. Be yourself. You like women? get 'em. I used to be like that when I was in my teens. Always thinking what will be her reaction. Will she reject me? will I look stupid? what do I say? don't worry about it. Don't give a shit. Just go and say what you want. Did you see a gorgeous girl pass next to you? turn around, wlak towards her, and respectfully tell her how beautiful she is. If a girl flirt with you, flirt double back and so on. Just be you. Don't care about the result. Is like looking for work. What do you do when you're unemployed? start applying. Send resumes everywhere. Why? because from all you apply, at least one has to call back. With girls is the same. Try them all. A lot will reject you but there will be a few that won't. Is natural. Even Tom Cruise has been rejected.

Now if you want a boost for you, get into fitness/bodybuilding. When I started working out I was a dipstick. However after about 6 months of lifting weights, I started getting those "hey my friend wants to go out with you" or "my friend saw you and she said that you look so hot with muscles" etc....

[Zubbie Member Find all posts View Profile Close Zubbie]

Uh, not really lol

So why are you still complaining if you're not even trying to become good with girls and get this part of your life handled? I think all the sweet talk on the thread here is nice, but in the end you have to take responsibility of your life, grow up and fix it before it's too late.

[ryansambas Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close ryansambas]

So why are you still complaining if you're not even trying to become good with girls and get this part of your life handled? I think all the sweet talk on the thread here is nice, but in the end you have to take responsibility of your life, grow up and fix it before it's too late.

Agreed, it seems at times amiok wants to fail just to complain about it. I know that isn't the case but it just seems that way.

[amiok Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close amiok]

Jackxxx: Yea. True. I do care. That's the problem. I do work out etc.

Zubbie: At this point I just post how pathetic I am. It is funny. And it is too late

ryan: No I don't fail to complain about it, I avoid failing lol.

[hvacguy Banned Find all posts View Profile Close hvacguy]

Hey man im close to your age.I'm 26 years old. Although I have never had the same problem as you, I do knot how ruthless some woman around our age can be. Get out there man they wont come to you. There is a certain degree of effort that is required. Also I have to say tinkerbell hit the nail on the head. Its not always about your looks money car our anything material. If you are confident, and proud of you it shows and the chicks will pick up on it and be attacked to it. Send me a personal msg if you ever need to talk to a peer about anything

[hvacguy Banned Find all posts View Profile Close hvacguy]

It helps to talk to someone about it