Guy who has zero experience

[amiok Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close amiok]

Ladies, what do you think truthfully about a man in his 20's who has zero experience with women? I mean zero, never been on a date nor had a random kiss from a drunk girl, nothing. What advice would you give this guy? Guys, ya'll can give me advice too if ya want. Thanks.

[BallaBalla Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close BallaBalla]

What are you waiting for? What do you have to lose? Rejection? Lol you only live once my friend, the world is yours. Take it by the horns

[amiok Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close amiok]

Well, rejection is definitely part of it, but not all. It's not just that I'm afraid to look stupid, it's how I've been messed with by girls so I "know" that they don't like me. And now being a 23 year old guy with 0 experience, well that doesn't help matters either.

[Batwoman Moderator ReservePEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Batwoman]

Have you never been on a date because you have never asked anyone out? It does take a bit of bravery, I know, but you have to try in order to succeed.

[amiok Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close amiok]

Have you never been on a date because you have never asked anyone out? It does take a bit of bravery, I know, but you have to try in order to succeed.

The one time I tried to ask a girl out she rejected me before i could get the words out of my mouth. Like she knew where I was going and made up some bs story. I guess she didn't want to hurt my feelings by actually rejecting me, since we were "friends", so she cut me off at the pass.

But yea that is a major part of my problem never asking a girl out.

[Batwoman Moderator ReservePEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Batwoman]

Well then, that is what you need to work on. Don't obsess over your lack of experience, and don't go into dating expecting sex or a life-changing relationship. Take things one at a time -- make your first goal just to go on a date. Find a girl that seems nice, and ask her out. If it would make you feel more relaxed, start small -- ask someone out for coffee. If you want to go bigger, ask her out to a movie. Don't expect more than an outing and some conversation, and don't put pressure on either yourself or her for more. Concentrate on just having fun.

You have to start somewhere, and you are going to be turned down by some girls, no doubt about it. EVERYONE gets turned down sometimes. Don't take it personally, just try again. You can do this!

[wind chill Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close wind chill]

i had a similar problem years back.But then i just stopped carring i.e. i didnt give a flying fu*k.I was single what do i have to lose?It worked.
However if you get rejected by 10-15 girls then you are doing something wrong.Do you train?

[amiok Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close amiok]

You have to start somewhere

Yea, I've been told that a lot recently. And I know it's true but when I think of trying to talk to a girl, or even ask them out, I just remember what girls said and did to me over the past 8 years. To clarify, I do know that not all women are like that, just what is implanted in my mind.

But also, what would you personally think about a guy who had no experience trying to go out with you?

[amiok Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close amiok]

i had a similar problem years back.But then i just stopped carring i.e. i didnt give a flying fu*k.I was single what do i have to lose?It worked.
However if you get rejected by 10-15 girls then you are doing something wrong.Do you train?

Train meaning workout? If so, yes. I've dropped about 70 pounds in the last 4 years.

[TTBB Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close TTBB]

i wouldn't have a problem with you having zero girl experience ... the only thing that might cause a problem is if you have zero confidence in yourself...i don't mind shy and awkward but the guy has to have inner confidence ..that confidence doesn't have to be with the opposite sex it has to be with himself, in other areas of life.

[Flanker6 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Flanker6]

You also have the option of walking around parties telling women you're a virgin. If you can follow that up with a conversation I promise you're golden.

[amiok Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close amiok]

You also have the option of walking around parties telling women you're a virgin. If you can follow that up with a conversation I promise you're golden.

LOL, that would work?

[amiok Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close amiok]

i wouldn't have a problem with you having zero girl experience ... the only thing that might cause a problem is if you have zero confidence in yourself...i don't mind shy and awkward but the guy has to have inner confidence ..that confidence doesn't have to be with the opposite sex it has to be with himself, in other areas of life.

Zero confidence. I'm used to being the fat kid. The kid who girls like to screw with or use. Had girls tell me point blank I'm ugly, for no reason what so ever.

Being used to it is terrible because I'm not fat anymore really, and no one dares say anything to me. Not trying to sound like I'm a hardass there its just the truth. I've even had girls seem interested recently, but I don't have the guts to make a move because what if they are just trying to play me like back in high school?

But it's good to know that my lack of experience wouldn't be that big of a deal.

[Flanker6 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Flanker6]

LOL, that would work?

Hell it couldn't hurt, could it? I know some girls are into that, just make sure you don't catch anything from them

[amiok Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close amiok]

Hell it couldn't hurt, could it? I know some girls are into that, just make sure you don't catch anything from them

I really have to try that I guess haha.