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Penile exercise is great!
You get a BIGGER and STRONGER penis! You LAST LONGER! You become more HEALTHY! You gain more CONFIDENCE!
But how about some advise on LOVING? How about satisfying your lover completely in the sack?
I have a lot of female friends and I've heard on so many occasions how they've had men who were way better in bed even though they had far smaller penises than other men they'd been with. I have personally often been complimented by my girlfriend (despite the fact we've both lost our virginities to one another) about my ability in bed, even before I started PE! This was with a 5.5" (EL) penis!
Now, I'm aware that there's WAY more to a relationship than just what goes on in the sack, but I also believe that being a great lover can be really good to a relationship. I also feel that this is also the aspect of a relationship that we focus on (as penile exercisers) more than another other part.
So, I'm going to split my article into three sections, a short section on general basic tips for improving proficiency in bed, the foreplay before intercourse (focusing on teasing, the clitoris, the G-spot and the art of cunnilingus) and then the actual intercourse itself (focusing on thrusting technique).
Basic Tips
Here are some basic tips for becoming a better lover. Whether you're indulging in either foreplay or intercourse it is important to bare these general tips in mind!
Foreplay
Foreplay is definitely a very important element to loving and is something that is mastered by anyone who considers themselves to be a good lover. This will not only make the impending intercourse more enjoyable but can sometimes be more pleasurable for the woman than the intercourse itself. It can also be a good idea to make your woman climax before engaging in intercourse - not only will more orgasms come (due to the lack of a refractory period, discussed above) but you can go ahead with sex feeling that you haven't failed to satisfy your lover. Take your time! A good foreplay session should last at least 15 minutes, let your love know that you're not just rushing into mindless sex and you're considering them and being a much more generous lover - this will have a very good impression and add to the whole experience.
Teasing:
Although this is only a brief sub-section it is still a very important factor to consider. Teasing your lover will lead to a much higher level of anticipation and as a result a higher level of pleasure when the stimulation finally occurs. There are a number of methods you can use to tease your lover, here are a few:
The Clitoris:
60-70% of women require clitoral stimulation in order to require orgasm. As it is only organ in the female body devoted solely to pleasure this is hardly surprising; it is packed with nerve endings and is very sensitive. Now, to tackle the location.
The clitoris is the small pearl just above the opening of the vagina, where to the two inner lips meet. The clitoris can often be covered by a hood and your lover may require a lot of arousal before it will protrude. So, now we've found it! How do we manually stimulate it?
The clitoris is a very sensitive area on a woman's body, with two-times the number of nerve endings as the penis. Therefore, stimulation of the clitoris must be carried out with care. Rubbing small circles around the clitoris, even when it's behind the hood, in order to build up a steady form of stimulation is the best way to stimulate the female's clitoris. You may also consider changing from small circles to either diagonal or side to side strokes. It is important to emphasize the sensitivity of this organ for the woman and it is therefore encouraged that a very light pressure is used on the clitoris, unless the women voices a desire for a harder pressure to be applied. A harder pressure can also be applied as arousal level increases, perhaps even direct contact with the un-hooded clitoris.
The G-spot:
That's right, the clitoris is not the only tool in your arsenal that you can play with to make your woman reach orgasm! In fact, finding the G-spot for many can prove to be the most powerful form of arousal that you can give, often culminating in your woman 'squirting' - a form of female ejaculation. The key issue to tackle in this sub-section is simple, how to locate this elusive and renowned spot.
The G-spot can be located 1.5-2" inside a woman's vagina, along its 'front wall' (the same side as the belly button). The skin should feel a little rougher to feel than the rest of the vaginal skin, about the size of a quarter and 'bean-shaped'. The G-spot will always be easier to locate when the woman is most aroused as it swells more - this should make it easier to work with as you continue foreplay. It is important to note that not all women will react the same way to stimulation of the G-spot; in fact some may feel nothing or feel uncomforted by it. Most, however, will get a lot of pleasure from any lover who's mastered this technique. Next on the agenda, how to be manually stimulate it?
The method to do this is relatively easy in theory. Insert either one or two fingers into the vagina and create a "come here" motion - this is done by crooking the two fingers upward and applying pressure to the rough, bean-shaped spot. By putting pressure onto this spot, or tapping it with an up and down motion, you can stimulate the G-spot. The G-spot is also not as sensitive as the clitoris so don't feel shy about applying a decent amount of pressure to it! You can also put pressure on the outside of the pelvis, around the pubic area (opposite the internal stimulation) it can make the G-spot easier to stimulate. Concerning intercourse: an upward curvature in the penis, doggy style or positions with the woman on top may also stimulate the G-spot.
Cunnilingus:
Now that both the clitoris and the G-spot have been consulted, as well as the manual methods with which to stimulate them, the subject of oral sex can now be considered. Oral sex, or cunnilingus, can often be a more pleasurable experience for many women than the actual act of intercourse itself, when done correctly. Provided your woman is prepared to receive oral sex, this is a perfect method of foreplay to get your woman fired up and ready for some action.
A few general tips on cunnilingus:
Now your lover is excited it's time to get your mouth involved. To start off with our first stage of oral stimulation you should place your tongue at the bottom of her inner lips and slowly move it upward to the area just below her clitoris. In order to complete the motion simply brush the clitoris upward with your tongue, don't apply a lot of pressure. After repeating this a few times you should simply can simply place your tongue across her entire vagina and then, break contact from her. You can now repeat this entire process a number of times, making sure that you maintain a steady sense of rhythm.
Now we have yet to give the clitoris itself any real stimulation. This stage involves giving deep, hard licks from the bottom to mid-vagina level and following them up with a few light licks. After a while of this oral stimulation the clitoris should begin to poke out from under its hood. When it does, simply place the tip of your tongue on it and bathe it for a number of seconds. You can then repeat the process to enhance sensation.
Now that you've got that clitoris out it's up to you to maintain her all the way through to that powerful orgasm. It is often a good idea at this stage to park her inner lips in order to expose more of her clitoris. There are certain tongue motions which can prove to be the most stimulating for your lover:
Intercourse
Intercourse. Anyone who wants to become a better lover must master intercourse, and this section can give you a good insight to get you on the right road. This is the most vital part of any sexual relationship, the part for which that you'll be remembered more than any other, and the part within which you can be the closest and most personal to your lover. It is important to remember the basic tips section once again, this section covers thrusting technique but there are other, extremely important factors such as communication and relaxation. Remember to take care of your lover, listen to them and don't just go at it like a bat-out-of-hell, completely oblivious to their needs and desires.
Basic thrusting:
Onto the subject of thrusting, it's important to understand that properly loving and satisfying your partner is going to come down to more than just mindless pounding! In order for any technique to work properly it is vital to understand the importance of hip movement. Think about the term 'screwing' in relation to sex, this actually refers to circular motions. You can perform these in little circles, big circles, from left and to the right, whether shallow or deep, in order to maximise pleasure for both yourself and for your lover. So screw her good! It is also important to note that your lover is fully aroused before you 'enter' them, allowing for much easier and pleasurable penetration.
There are also 9 types of basic thrust that I have found, each of which will provide a different form of pleasure. Each have also been coupled with analogy by the ancient Tau people in order to help you better understand how they should be performed:
As you become more experienced with these and other methods of thrusting, varying your thrusting technique will allow you explore the entire vagina and determine which parts are particularly stimulating to your lover; it will also make you much more fun in bed as you don't stick to one mundane method. Speed, direction, depth, intensity and position are all very important considerations to make when making love.
Keep it deep technique:
Sorry, some of you MONSTERS may have to sit this one out!
This technique is credited for its ability to not only bring your lover to orgasm faster, but also allows you to hold out much longer. To add to its appeal, it's pretty damn simple to do! Simply keep your penis deep inside your lover and make no attempts at any shallow thrusts. Instead, thrust up and down. The hilt of your penis, and you pelvic area, will also provide stimulation to your lovers clitoris, further enhancing the pleasure caused by this position. This also provides your lover with a much more personal experience, especially when she finally hits that orgasm!
Nine shallow, one deep:
This is a Taoist technique that lays out a method with which you can put your thrusts into action, increasing their effectiveness. It involves a repeatable thrusting sequence consisting of 'shallow' and 'deep' thrusts. A 'shallow' thrust should consist of around half of your penis entering the vagina, providing stimulation to the vaginal walls (and perhaps even the G-spot) and keeping you from blowing your load too soon as only the sides of your shaft are being stimulated, to the head of the penis which contains the most nerve endings. It is advised that even with shallow thrusts not to pull out completely. A 'deep' thrust involves your entire penis entering the vagina sending your lover crazy with pleasure. The sequence increases in increments, starting with 9 shallow thrusts and 1 deep thrust and culminating with 1 shallow thrust and 9 deep. The sequence can then be repeated. Try to make the sequence of thrusts rhythmic so they flow and don’t seem robotic. This will become more natural with time. Below is an example of one set of the 'nine shallow, one deep' technique:
Sources:
Clitoris:
Askmen
G-spot:
Askmen
Cunnilingus:
Wikipedia
Thrusting techniques:
VP-RX
The PE Gym
General knowledge/experience
You get a BIGGER and STRONGER penis! You LAST LONGER! You become more HEALTHY! You gain more CONFIDENCE!
But how about some advise on LOVING? How about satisfying your lover completely in the sack?
I have a lot of female friends and I've heard on so many occasions how they've had men who were way better in bed even though they had far smaller penises than other men they'd been with. I have personally often been complimented by my girlfriend (despite the fact we've both lost our virginities to one another) about my ability in bed, even before I started PE! This was with a 5.5" (EL) penis!
Now, I'm aware that there's WAY more to a relationship than just what goes on in the sack, but I also believe that being a great lover can be really good to a relationship. I also feel that this is also the aspect of a relationship that we focus on (as penile exercisers) more than another other part.
So, I'm going to split my article into three sections, a short section on general basic tips for improving proficiency in bed, the foreplay before intercourse (focusing on teasing, the clitoris, the G-spot and the art of cunnilingus) and then the actual intercourse itself (focusing on thrusting technique).
Basic Tips
Here are some basic tips for becoming a better lover. Whether you're indulging in either foreplay or intercourse it is important to bare these general tips in mind!
- Try to urinate and completely empty your bladder before indulging in intercourse.
- Get in control of your breathing, make sure your breaths are deep and calm, and relax yourself. You'll often find that before you ejaculate your breathing will speed up, intentionally try to slow it down. An interesting quote from the Taoists (who I'll touch upon again soon): “breath controls the blood flow, blood flow controls the nerves, and nerves control the ejaculation”.
- Relax! Specifically your PC muscle, testicles and stomach. Clenching the PC muscles in particular (although useful in the multiple orgasm technique) can actually lead to faster stimulation.
- After your lover has reached their first orgasm the second will be easier to achieve. As your lover lacks the refractory period that men have between orgasms they can maintain multiple numbers of them.
- Communication is very important; if you're causing discomfort of any kind then it's most likely that your lover's sexual stimulation will decline.
- Over time you will become more comfortable with your lover, practise is everything. You'll become more in control of your emotions, thoughts and stimulation.
Foreplay
Foreplay is definitely a very important element to loving and is something that is mastered by anyone who considers themselves to be a good lover. This will not only make the impending intercourse more enjoyable but can sometimes be more pleasurable for the woman than the intercourse itself. It can also be a good idea to make your woman climax before engaging in intercourse - not only will more orgasms come (due to the lack of a refractory period, discussed above) but you can go ahead with sex feeling that you haven't failed to satisfy your lover. Take your time! A good foreplay session should last at least 15 minutes, let your love know that you're not just rushing into mindless sex and you're considering them and being a much more generous lover - this will have a very good impression and add to the whole experience.
Teasing:
Although this is only a brief sub-section it is still a very important factor to consider. Teasing your lover will lead to a much higher level of anticipation and as a result a higher level of pleasure when the stimulation finally occurs. There are a number of methods you can use to tease your lover, here are a few:
- Kiss them all over their body! From head to toe! Key areas are the neck, nipples and inner thigh; I find that the latter in particular can work wonders.
- Rub and kiss your lover through their underwear, take it easy and slowly apply a little more pressure and soon they'll be wet a ready to engage in more foreplay.
- Breathe into their vulva and onto their clitoris, but do not make any contact, this should drive them crazy!
- Before engaging in any form of either manual or oral foreplay, rub/lick around the vagina in order to maximise the impending arousal.
The Clitoris:
60-70% of women require clitoral stimulation in order to require orgasm. As it is only organ in the female body devoted solely to pleasure this is hardly surprising; it is packed with nerve endings and is very sensitive. Now, to tackle the location.
The clitoris is the small pearl just above the opening of the vagina, where to the two inner lips meet. The clitoris can often be covered by a hood and your lover may require a lot of arousal before it will protrude. So, now we've found it! How do we manually stimulate it?
The clitoris is a very sensitive area on a woman's body, with two-times the number of nerve endings as the penis. Therefore, stimulation of the clitoris must be carried out with care. Rubbing small circles around the clitoris, even when it's behind the hood, in order to build up a steady form of stimulation is the best way to stimulate the female's clitoris. You may also consider changing from small circles to either diagonal or side to side strokes. It is important to emphasize the sensitivity of this organ for the woman and it is therefore encouraged that a very light pressure is used on the clitoris, unless the women voices a desire for a harder pressure to be applied. A harder pressure can also be applied as arousal level increases, perhaps even direct contact with the un-hooded clitoris.
The G-spot:
That's right, the clitoris is not the only tool in your arsenal that you can play with to make your woman reach orgasm! In fact, finding the G-spot for many can prove to be the most powerful form of arousal that you can give, often culminating in your woman 'squirting' - a form of female ejaculation. The key issue to tackle in this sub-section is simple, how to locate this elusive and renowned spot.
The G-spot can be located 1.5-2" inside a woman's vagina, along its 'front wall' (the same side as the belly button). The skin should feel a little rougher to feel than the rest of the vaginal skin, about the size of a quarter and 'bean-shaped'. The G-spot will always be easier to locate when the woman is most aroused as it swells more - this should make it easier to work with as you continue foreplay. It is important to note that not all women will react the same way to stimulation of the G-spot; in fact some may feel nothing or feel uncomforted by it. Most, however, will get a lot of pleasure from any lover who's mastered this technique. Next on the agenda, how to be manually stimulate it?
The method to do this is relatively easy in theory. Insert either one or two fingers into the vagina and create a "come here" motion - this is done by crooking the two fingers upward and applying pressure to the rough, bean-shaped spot. By putting pressure onto this spot, or tapping it with an up and down motion, you can stimulate the G-spot. The G-spot is also not as sensitive as the clitoris so don't feel shy about applying a decent amount of pressure to it! You can also put pressure on the outside of the pelvis, around the pubic area (opposite the internal stimulation) it can make the G-spot easier to stimulate. Concerning intercourse: an upward curvature in the penis, doggy style or positions with the woman on top may also stimulate the G-spot.
Cunnilingus:
Now that both the clitoris and the G-spot have been consulted, as well as the manual methods with which to stimulate them, the subject of oral sex can now be considered. Oral sex, or cunnilingus, can often be a more pleasurable experience for many women than the actual act of intercourse itself, when done correctly. Provided your woman is prepared to receive oral sex, this is a perfect method of foreplay to get your woman fired up and ready for some action.
A few general tips on cunnilingus:
- Maintaining a steady and consistent rhythm when stimulating the clitoris is very important in helping your lover reach her ultimate orgasm.
- Try and keep a firm grip on your lover at all times and keep calm throughout orgasm, make sure you're in control.
- The more you tease and use lighter licks, the more her orgasm is going to be built up - be patient with it.
- It is also important to note that although the G-spot can only be stimulated manually, coupling the stimulation of it with oral pleasure will bring your lover to sexual ecstasy.
Now your lover is excited it's time to get your mouth involved. To start off with our first stage of oral stimulation you should place your tongue at the bottom of her inner lips and slowly move it upward to the area just below her clitoris. In order to complete the motion simply brush the clitoris upward with your tongue, don't apply a lot of pressure. After repeating this a few times you should simply can simply place your tongue across her entire vagina and then, break contact from her. You can now repeat this entire process a number of times, making sure that you maintain a steady sense of rhythm.
Now we have yet to give the clitoris itself any real stimulation. This stage involves giving deep, hard licks from the bottom to mid-vagina level and following them up with a few light licks. After a while of this oral stimulation the clitoris should begin to poke out from under its hood. When it does, simply place the tip of your tongue on it and bathe it for a number of seconds. You can then repeat the process to enhance sensation.
Now that you've got that clitoris out it's up to you to maintain her all the way through to that powerful orgasm. It is often a good idea at this stage to park her inner lips in order to expose more of her clitoris. There are certain tongue motions which can prove to be the most stimulating for your lover:
- Wet, sloppy vertical licks over the vagina and clitoris. Simple.
- Diagonal strokes across her clitoris, stimulating her clit with the rough sides of your tongue.
- Quick licks in the vulva and of the clitoris, comparable to 'cat licks'.
- Cover the whole vagina with your tongue and let her do the work.
- Sucking the clitoris - this is a very stimulating method but be careful not to suck too hard, more gentle sucking motions.
Intercourse
Intercourse. Anyone who wants to become a better lover must master intercourse, and this section can give you a good insight to get you on the right road. This is the most vital part of any sexual relationship, the part for which that you'll be remembered more than any other, and the part within which you can be the closest and most personal to your lover. It is important to remember the basic tips section once again, this section covers thrusting technique but there are other, extremely important factors such as communication and relaxation. Remember to take care of your lover, listen to them and don't just go at it like a bat-out-of-hell, completely oblivious to their needs and desires.
Basic thrusting:
Onto the subject of thrusting, it's important to understand that properly loving and satisfying your partner is going to come down to more than just mindless pounding! In order for any technique to work properly it is vital to understand the importance of hip movement. Think about the term 'screwing' in relation to sex, this actually refers to circular motions. You can perform these in little circles, big circles, from left and to the right, whether shallow or deep, in order to maximise pleasure for both yourself and for your lover. So screw her good! It is also important to note that your lover is fully aroused before you 'enter' them, allowing for much easier and pleasurable penetration.
There are also 9 types of basic thrust that I have found, each of which will provide a different form of pleasure. Each have also been coupled with analogy by the ancient Tau people in order to help you better understand how they should be performed:
- Thrust to the left and then to the right, stimulating the walls. Analogy: Thrust left and right like a soldier breaking through enemy ranks.
- Thrust upwards and downwards instead, move your whole body to perform this thrust and do so in the missionary position. Analogy: Rise, then suddenly plunge like a wild horse bucking through a stream.
- Pull your penis out of the vagina and then push it back in. Analogy: Push in and pull out like a flock of seagulls playing on the waves.
- Change between deep and shallow thrusts. Analogy: Use deep thrusts and shallow teasing strokes, like a sparrow plucking pieces of rice.
- Make deep and shallow thrusts, one after the other. Analogy: Make shallow thrusts, followed by deep thrusts in steady succession from left to right, like a large stone sinking into the ocean.
- Push inwards slowly and calmly. Analogy: Push in slowly like a snake entering a hole.
- Thrust, entering the vagina quickly. Analogy: Charge quickly like a frightened mouse entering a hole.
- Pause very close but without entering the vagina, then thrust swiftly and stay inside for a while. Analogy: Hover, then strike like an eagle catching an elusive rabbit.
- Rise upward and then thrust low. Analogy: Rise up, then plunge down low like a sailboat in the wild wind.
As you become more experienced with these and other methods of thrusting, varying your thrusting technique will allow you explore the entire vagina and determine which parts are particularly stimulating to your lover; it will also make you much more fun in bed as you don't stick to one mundane method. Speed, direction, depth, intensity and position are all very important considerations to make when making love.
Keep it deep technique:
Sorry, some of you MONSTERS may have to sit this one out!
This technique is credited for its ability to not only bring your lover to orgasm faster, but also allows you to hold out much longer. To add to its appeal, it's pretty damn simple to do! Simply keep your penis deep inside your lover and make no attempts at any shallow thrusts. Instead, thrust up and down. The hilt of your penis, and you pelvic area, will also provide stimulation to your lovers clitoris, further enhancing the pleasure caused by this position. This also provides your lover with a much more personal experience, especially when she finally hits that orgasm!
Nine shallow, one deep:
This is a Taoist technique that lays out a method with which you can put your thrusts into action, increasing their effectiveness. It involves a repeatable thrusting sequence consisting of 'shallow' and 'deep' thrusts. A 'shallow' thrust should consist of around half of your penis entering the vagina, providing stimulation to the vaginal walls (and perhaps even the G-spot) and keeping you from blowing your load too soon as only the sides of your shaft are being stimulated, to the head of the penis which contains the most nerve endings. It is advised that even with shallow thrusts not to pull out completely. A 'deep' thrust involves your entire penis entering the vagina sending your lover crazy with pleasure. The sequence increases in increments, starting with 9 shallow thrusts and 1 deep thrust and culminating with 1 shallow thrust and 9 deep. The sequence can then be repeated. Try to make the sequence of thrusts rhythmic so they flow and don’t seem robotic. This will become more natural with time. Below is an example of one set of the 'nine shallow, one deep' technique:
Shallow Deep
9 1
8 2
7 3
6 4
5 5
4 6
3 7
2 8
1 9
Clitoris:
Askmen
G-spot:
Askmen
Cunnilingus:
Wikipedia
Thrusting techniques:
VP-RX
The PE Gym
General knowledge/experience
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