My ED story and some questions

[NoName Member Find all posts View Profile Close NoName]

I think I'll have to take viagra from now on. Any long time users of viagra in here? Does it continue to work?

[blink2000 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close blink2000]

I think it's good that you're here now. If you're ready to take the steps required, a lot of guys have been in your position & come back.

It sounds like you have the motivation....

[GTO Retired ModeratorPEGym EditorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close GTO]

What happened three months ago? Did you experience any trauma?

Welcome, by the way! I'm sure you will get tons of help here!

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

Oh you and I have to talk! I'll be back on in a hour and maybe my post to you will help!

[NoName Member Find all posts View Profile Close NoName]

Hi there.

I guess I am motivated. I spend all my time reading about ED. Sadly I have not found many good stories. What is a good story? It's a guy that gets rid of ED.

[Pete28 Member Find all posts View Profile Close Pete28]

Hello Noname

I am exactly in the same position as you are. Need 100 mg Viagra to get a descent erection.
I currently have no relationship, but i also think about how she would react if i told her ...
You have to tell it because 100% spontaneous sex is no longer possible.

I can tell you one thing: that girl wasn't worth you, so it is not much of a loss anyway.
If she really loved you, she wouldn't abandonned you even if you were in a wheelchair.

I also wonder why 'i' am in this position. But worrying about it brings u nowhere.

If you would meet someone who really loves you, the viagra won't be a big deal at all.

Good luck mate

[NoName Member Find all posts View Profile Close NoName]

Hi Pete.


I like your responses in here.

[GTO Retired ModeratorPEGym EditorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close GTO]

Hi there.

I guess I am motivated. I spend all my time reading about ED. Sadly I have not found many good stories. What is a good story? It's a guy that gets rid of ED.

3 months ago it was a shock for me when my penis didn't get as hard as usual. 2 weeks after the first shock I had two nights where my penis was okay. I actually believed I was cured. But no. It got worse after that. I gave up having sex without taking a pill. The doctors have not found a reason for my ED. Blood and urine tests have been okay. No diabetes.

You keep referring to that point in time ... that's why I was asking if there had been any trauma or anything like that. From what I know, have been told by doctors and from what I've read, it (ED) is usually triggered by something. It's been there 'in hiding' but something happened that triggered it.

Are you on any other medications? Did you start any meds? I had a small bout with it but nothing you have described. I will continue my research and see what I can bring back to share. We're all here to help you as best we can man.

[NoName Member Find all posts View Profile Close NoName]

You keep referring to that point in time ... that's why I was asking if there had been any trauma or anything like that. From what I know, have been told by doctors and from what I've read, it (ED) is usually triggered by something. It's been there 'in hiding' but something happened that triggered it.

Are you on any other medications? Did you start any meds? I had a small bout with it but nothing you have described. I will continue my research and see what I can bring back to share. We're all here to help you as best we can man.

I don't take any medicine

[frb3 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close frb3]

Get thee to a doctor, preferably a cardiologist. ED is the first sign of blocked arteries. Get a clean bill of health, that you aren't harboring the beginning of cardiovascular disease. You are probably going to need angioplasty or a pet scan to eliminate these as the possible cause.

Good indication is your family history. I.E. early deaths from coronary artery disease amongst your ancestors.

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

Okay let's go over a few things and maybe I can help( or maybe not)
First off a woman that leaves you because your dick doesn't work is not a woman; that's what the word 'cunt' is for.A relationship is just not sex;it's everyday life and how each of you handle it and how you handle things together.If the girl left you because you have to take a pill it is much better for you to be out of a relationship like that. That is not any kind of a realtionship;it's just sex and that's what dogs do. We are human and should expect much more.
Do you have any kind of medical problem? There are quite a few medical conditions that will effect your erection quality and I would urge you to go get checked out by your doctor for little things like high blood pressure, diabetes, or other little things along that nature that can affect your EQ. If you doctor just gave you some pills that does not qualify as a physical and quite frankly he shouldn't have given you anything unless he gave you a full physical.
Now if you have a medical condition that affects your eq than you must get that treated. Let's assume though that you had a full physical and all the parts are working fine.So if all the parts are physically working fine then where do you think the problem lies? You're right, with you head! No not that one the one the sits on top of you neck where your ears are attached!
Could it be possibly in your relationship that was always based on sex that maybe a bit of stress crept in? I don't care what age we are there are nights for all of us where we're just not like rock hard. So, you could chalk it off to hey it was just an off night or you can do what most guys with ed seem to do is to wonder, what's wrong, my dick is not working 100%, she's not gonna like it, she'll know something's wrong, she'll think it's her, oh I'm not a man anymore, she'll leave me for a guy whose dick works and he's probably bigger than me and she'll enjoy him more, etc etc etc! How would anybodies dick get hard with all that on your mind. No way buddy. The stress, your mind, killed it but it can rise again!
How can you handle emotional, psvchological ed? First, if you know that you're physically fine than you know the parts work phyiscally so now you have to get control of the mental and yes it is hard.Someone in a post before mentioned how tough it is to lie in bed with a woman and not be able to do "what a man is supposed to do!" Where in the hell do you guys get the idea that a man is supposed to screw a woman! That's down to about 22 on the list! A man is supposed to provide for the woman, take her out to eat, buy flowers, make her laugh, show her nice times, maybe buy her something nice (jewelry works well), go on trips to nice places, be romantic (not sex) and thing like that.All the things that I just mentioned are on her list way before screwing. Like I said screwing is way way down on the list but we male idiots put it as number 1. Wrong!
I've been with a few women and been married for a long time and one thing I know for certain is that most women have no objection at all to a guy who doesn't even have a dick but has a very talented tongue.They do enjoy a good orgasm and most of that is done from clit stimulation not vaginal penetration. It's us guys that THINK that they like the screwing part and that what gets them off. Nope! So let's say you meet a nice girl, not the one you just had, and you start getting feeling and the next thing you wind up naked in bed and your dick isn't dicking. Well you can sit there and ruin a wonderful night by thinking oh my dick isn't working, what will she think, etc and just put more pressure on yourself so that your dick really won't work.Why not, if and when she notices, say you know hon sometimes my dick just gets a bit cranky but I bet I can please you in other ways and then go out it.I bet, maybe the first time or even the second or third, that when you're rocking her world with your fingers and tongue that if you really get into it and STOP thinking about it that before too long you'll notice something hard between your legs, if you get your brain out of it!
Now how do you date with ed? Well who said you had ed? Did the doctor after his COMPLETE examination give you a diagnosis of ed and then recommend treatment? No I think you made the diagnosis so in my book, unless you are the doctor, you don't have ed.You say you have it and you think you have it but you're not the doctor. If I was dating in the same condition you are I would not go around thinking I had ed and maybe this girl won't like that. I would go and date and if the situation arose as I describe above then I would do just what I said I would do above.Sooner of later it'll come back as long as I don't pressure myself.
Now with Viagra comes yet another emtional issue; I can't do it without a pil! You seemed to do it before without a pill. It was only lately where something occured (medical condition, depression, stress in the relationship) that you needed a pill. So get rid of the pill and get rid of the emotional attachment to it.
Without a medical condition, young guys don't get ed. They get , in plain English, fucked up in the head. They do it to themselves. I have read alot of posts on here with young guys and they ALL seemed so stressed out and depressed over an issue that there own mind makes. I can at times almost feel the stress coming out off the page. They search for the magic pills, the magic supplement, the magic whatever to get them back to what they were.There is no drug or supplement out there that is stronger than your mind!
If you believe you have a condition than you'll have it.If you want to say you have ed than say it. Convince yourself of it if you wish but remember you're doing that.Try to control your mind. If not go seek some therapy and get the issues out and your brain fixed.Read the other posts from guys in the same situation and see how similair they are.You'll see the stress. See it in yourself and conquer it. Stop thinking that a man has to penetrate a woman. My wife would be fine if all I could do is use a well place tongue somewhere to give her what 'SHE NEEDS'! Well, she really needs new wallpaper in the bathroom among other things. Stop thinking that woman think like men. They don't! Why you young guys put so much pressure on yourselves to 'PERFORM" when you don't have to. You just have to be yourself, do the best you can, and all usually will work out. Maybe there is something in that bottled water all you guys drink. Start a good pe program, like JP'S 90 day program getting your dick in top shape, and watch what will happen as long as you don't pressure yourself.I hope I helped.

[NoName Member Find all posts View Profile Close NoName]

Get thee to a doctor, preferably a cardiologist. ED is the first sign of blocked arteries. Get a clean bill of health, that you aren't harboring the beginning of cardiovascular disease. You are probably going to need angioplasty or a pet scan to eliminate these as the possible cause.

Good indication is your family history. I.E. early deaths from coronary artery disease amongst your ancestors.

Hi frb3.

They say there's a physical reason behind 80% of all EDs. I'm in excellent shape. I run marathons and go to fitness nearly every day. I don't think there is anything psysically wrong with me except I can't get it up

I'm going to an urologist next week, though. Don't know if he can do more than my doctor already has done. My doctor has taken blood and urine samples of me. He checked my penis. Looked at it and felt it. Nothing wrong. He put a finger in my anus to check the prostate. Nothing wrong there either.

I'm looking for a reason but so far there is no reason. It just happened.

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

That's why they have urologist. They seem to know (or should) quite a bit more than the gp.And where did you get that stat that 80% of ed cases are physical? Medical journal, tabloid, or university of the internet. I am not try to be sarcastic. I would just like to know.

[NoName Member Find all posts View Profile Close NoName]

That's why they have urologist. They seem to know (or should) quite a bit more than the gp.And where did you get that stat that 80% of ed cases are physical? Medical journal, tabloid, or university of the internet. I am not try to be sarcastic. I would just like to know.

It's what I've read on the internet. That's where I get all my ED-info from.

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

Well be suspect when it comes to stats and who compiles them. Let's say a drug company did a rather "small" survey that had these results. That would go hand in hand with selling more of some type of medication.Remember as well that ed used to be a problem that affected older men, not younger , who have medical conditions that cause ed so if there small sample was of older guys and not the general population then again it's flawed.If you want some ed info try going to the American Journal of Clinical Urology or the American Urological Association. If they have an open web site you'll find good clinical info there!