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Originally posted by NoName
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Just try to stay positive. We are humans. We are sure to be sad when penid suddenly doesnt function. We can be sad but dont let it go into epression. Be positive. Read those successful stories and 5G. It helps to stay motivated. I didnt manage to cure my depression. Still having depression -
It's not how hard you can hit, it's how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward!
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I'm late to this discussion (just back from vacation) but I've read through this thread twice to be sure I had all the facts straight. It sounds like you're in a real pickle, but you've done all the right things in getting checked out by the doctors. I'm not a doctor or a psychologist, don't get me wrong -- but what they have told you fits really well with everything I've heard hear and elsewhere.
I think the best thing for you to do at this point is to assume that your ED is psychological. Cusp's long post early on strikes me as a brilliant analysis of your situation. One thing to remember about many psychological issues (not just ones related to sex) is that they are often a big surprise to the victim -- they are not rational, not anticipated, and may appear out of nowhere. I have no idea what set your problem off. I know you have spent hours and days and weeks trying to figure it out, but the truth now is that it doesn't matter -- what matters now is getting better.
My reading of your posts suggest that right now you are deeply depressed. If you are going to recover your happiness (and rid yourself of ED) your first move should be to get treated for depression. Don't worry about the fact that some drugs used for depression can have negative effects on ED -- just talk to your doctor about it, and if meds are recommended, see that you get treated with one of the drugs that does not have bad side effects in that department (there are several). But GET TREATED -- don't try to battle your depression on your own. That's what doctors are for.
As I see it, you will never beat your ED until you come out from under the depression. Treat the depression first -- then take on the ED issues. Yes, I know that you feel that the ED is at the root of everything..... but your body reacts physiologically to stress and depression, and one thing that often gets turned off (as your body and psyche battle for survival) is the sex drive. So start by dealing with the depression you are feeling now. That's a big positive step you could take right now in your battle to fix your ED.
As for dating, you should not avoid it -- indeed, once you are feeling a bit better, I think you should embrace it. Yes, it will be hard and there will be embarrassing moments -- but you can do it. Be strong, have a sense of humor, and don't rush..... but don't give up either.
From the female perspective, I think your urologist's comment is right on the mark -- any woman worth her salt will respond positively to a guy she likes that says "I have a problem, can you help me with it?" If you are straightforward about it and open to help, and don't stress yourself out, you can have a ton of fun (and be VERY pleasing to a woman) as you work your way back. We love to help our men, and if there is a spark between you and a lady, she may surprise you with how much pleasure she would get out of experimenting with you. As Cusp said, penetrative sex is fairly far down the list of what ladies crave from their men. As long as a lady knows that your problem is NOT that you don't find her sexy, then there should not be any problem with anyone who is really attracted to you!Comment
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Batwoman.
I have chosen to follow not2big's advice:
https://www.pegym.com/forums/erectil...tml#post163713
Meaning no reading and writing about ED in a week or two but I just want to say thank you for your words from a woman's perspective.
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It may be psycological, this usually follows a physical cause of ED.
For I will restore health unto thee and I will heal thee of thine wounds, saith the Lord Jeremiah 30:17
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I'll see my urologist next week. I'll keep you updated.....Last edited by NoName; 08-29-2012, 10:20 AM.Comment
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Ya think? Great for you!The world's still a toy if you just stay a boy!Comment
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Excellent! Clearly getting on with other things is helping you, so stick to it.
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Great to hear abour your recovery noname! Your recovery seemed almost instantenous once you stopped thinking about your problem. I wish you the best of luck.Originally posted by NoName View PostComment
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Good job NoName. Once you get one or two good erections under your belt (or outside of your belt), your psychy is set up for good results in the future.Valued Member of 12+ years at the PEGym12/'09 (start) NBP EL - 4.5, EG - 4.4
12/11 NBPEL - 5.1, MSEG - 5
01/13 NBPEL - 5.35, MSEG - 5.1
01/14 NBPEL - 5.35, MSEG - 5.25
01/16 NBPEL - 5.4, MSEG - 5.5
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That's great news that you are in good health. Hopefully things will continue to improve for you
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No you have more right to post on this thread than most of us! You went through it, you seemed to have beaten it, and your experience WILL help others. I hope you'll be available to help them! ( I kind of know you will)The world's still a toy if you just stay a boy!Comment
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