My ED story and some questions

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

Yes I'd say your depressed but for all the wrong reasons! Read your post! You basically have yourself dead and buried! Do you think anything you wrote will help you and help get your mind back in order? After reading your post I wanted to cut my own wrists! I think you hit a small speedbump but you're making into the pothole from hell! Relax, chill out and think!!!!

[NoName Member Find all posts View Profile Close NoName]

Yes I'd say your depressed but for all the wrong reasons! Read your post! You basically have yourself dead and buried! Do you think anything you wrote will help you and help get your mind back in order? After reading your post I wanted to cut my own wrists! I think you hit a small speedbump but you're making into the pothole from hell! Relax, chill out and think!!!!

I feel dead and buried.

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

You will handle it if you believe you can! I don't even know you but I beleive you can. I will pm you later when I have more time and you can then read it at your leisure. Maybe we can help this problem by working together!

[markwilson419 Banned Find all posts View Profile Close markwilson419]

ED is the major problem in the men.Viagra is the best pill for the treatment of ED.

[kenlee6 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close kenlee6]

When u cant perform well, you become depressed and this depression actually makes it worse. And then when it gets worse, u will feel more depressed. It's a vicious cycle. U have to break the cycle. I think your ED now is greatly due to you being depressed. I have been in depression and it kills the ED.

[NoName Member Find all posts View Profile Close NoName]

When u cant perform well, you become depressed and this depression actually makes it worse. And then when it gets worse, u will feel more depressed. It's a vicious cycle. U have to break the cycle. I think your ED now is greatly due to you being depressed. I have been in depression and it kills the ED.

I felt great when I suddenly got ED.

[Panther Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Panther]

NoName sorry to hear of your ED. Like the others on this thread have said you will work through this and be a better man. It may seem a little hoaky but while you're working to fix your ED please remember being a man is much much more than your dick.

Check the following links for some thoughts on what being a man is: How to Be a Man and How to Be a Man » The Definitive Self Improvement Blog - BrianKim.net

Also, some practical things to consider trying:

1. Your urologist thinks it is in your head, time to see a therapist.
2. Try accupuncture
3. Try hypnosis
4. Keep a journal of your thoughts and emotions on this and other issues
5. Try herbal remedies
6. Recognize there are millions of men with ED who live happy healthy normal lives

I know this is makes you feel like crap. Forget that for a moment and remember what it's like to be manly - most of those times have nothing to do with sex. Its being confident, having courage, chivalry, strength, never giving up. These are all things that you are which are not related to sex.

[NoName Member Find all posts View Profile Close NoName]

Panther and everyone else:

Thank you very much for your suggestions and support.

There are no easy solutions and maybe there is no solution at all. But I'll try therapy and hypnosis and maybe acupuncture. I'll talk to my urologist about it next time I see him (2 weeks from now)

I guess my journal is what you read here. I hope it's okay I'm writing in this forum even though it's very depressing. But hopefully I will start feeling better. At least I have passed the lowest point where I was thinking of making a permanent end. And at least I think my EQ has reached it's lowest point as well.

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

What permanent end? You ain't talking about what only a frickin moron would be talking about are you!

[NoName Member Find all posts View Profile Close NoName]

What permanent end? You ain't talking about what only a frickin moron would be talking about are you!

A permanent end means suicide. Yes, I was there a couple of weeks ago. I could see no future and no hope. I'm not suicidal now. I guess I have moved away from the frickin moron level.

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

oh my friend I hope you have.God gave us all life and I don't think he takes it kindly when we throw that gift back in his face.60 or 70 years of bullshit on this planet ain't nothing compared to all eternity. That scares the shit out of me! Remember that , for some strange reason, I'm here to help you and you've got a whole community of guys here to help as well.Maybe this is how it's meant to be; no matter what curve life throws you you have people who care!

[Waylander Retired ModeratorPEGym EditorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Waylander]

Cusp is right brother, there is no greater gift than life! Keep your chin up and things WILL get better, you have to believe that. I'm glad you've moved away from such thoughts, now stay on the positive path and make progress

[Pirate Retired AdministratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Pirate]

A permanent end means suicide. Yes, I was there a couple of weeks ago. I could see no future and no hope. I'm not suicidal now. I guess I have moved away from the frickin moron level.

NoName, I am very glad to hear that you are coming back to us.
There are lots of alternatives before you end up with suicide as the only option.
Life can certainly be very very challenging but, please, do not give into despair. Life itself is an amazing gift.
Find beauty (a hobby, a painting, a museum, the outdoors, a book, a friend, a nice meal, and so on) and enjoy it.
Personally, I find that a thoroughly shameless plundering picks me up remarkably.
(Stay with us, Noname. Be not alone.)
-Pirate

[NoName Member Find all posts View Profile Close NoName]

Thank you for your concern. And thanks to all that have send pm's to me. I think I found the right place. You spend time to help me even though you don't know me. You are great! It was a coincidence that I came here. I googled erectile dysfunction and somehow ended here. What a great coincidence!

I guess I have had an easy life. I was never really in trouble with anything. Maybe that's the reason I have taken this as the end of the world. It's the first time I'm really feeling knocked out. After the referee has counted me out I'm slowly beginning to get up again.

[not2big Senior Super ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close not2big]

Easy to say, but hard to accomplish. I've been in tour shoes (though I am older) so its not BS. Take a step back and stop obsessing over your ED. Stop masturbating. Stop Googling ED. Stop reading about it. Do whatever you can to stop thinking about ED. Take a week, two weeks whatever it takes to get your mind off of it. While waiting, take the 5 G's (supplements) take erection tea , and occasionally take a little Viagra (25 mg). Try not to think about erections until you get one when you least expect it. Acupuncture and hypnosis could help, but they cost money.

I wish you the best and can only add what your urologist has already told you - there have been many in your position before and most have recovered to laugh about it.