I need help guys (ED getting worse)

[UKGuy Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close UKGuy]

Again have u tested ur testosterone levels?

Hi I had my blood and Testosterone levels checked last year apparently it is within the normal range. I tried questioning my doctor on my Testosterone levels asking is that low normal? He didn't give me a straight answer and said "normal is normal". I have a feeling though it is in the low range because I have morning erections very infrequently and apparently a lack of morning wood is a sign of low Testosterone.

There could be something to having low Testosterone because I've noticed that only after a 2 or 3 drinks (like drinking Cider) when I try and get an erection it is super weak even more than usual what I mean is I could get an erection but it feels really soft as though there's barely any blood circulating in my dick. Basically an erection that feels empty if that makes sense. Apparently drinking Alcohol reduces Testosterone so perhaps my Testosterone is already low so drinking Alcohol further weakens my erections more quickly.

I don't get it though I tried Kegels again today I did them lightly (I think I have a tendacy to squeese my PC muscle with too much pressure) anyway I got a better erection I still have trouble staying completely erect due to the glans deflating so fast, the glans also won't engorge fully. However my erection was better but later tonight it's like I'm back at square one again where I struggle to get any sort of erection at all. Maybe I should stop drinking Alcohol it could be weakening my erections and Testosterone levels even more.

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I need advice about seeing a Urologist

For those who are in the UK and have seen a Urologist before how do I go about seeing one? I want to see one privately as generally you have to see your local GP to see a Urologist. I've given up completely with my doctor he insists I have no ED because my blood tests and Testerone levels are fine. I need to see a Urologist though and soon because I don't no how much longer I can take this I don't even talk to women I'm attracted to due to my lack of manhood (impotence) it is affecting me at times a lot and I have thought of suicide recently. I'm so fucking frustrated that I can't even hold an erection (even a weak one) for a minute it just goes down instantly the moment I get arioused. I have no issues getting erection I get them a lot but I can't keep an erection to save my life I have no confidence in losing my virginity at all until I can somehow improve the situation. Kegels have helped somewhat my flacid penis is more spongy now but my erections are still poor.

Anyway so what is the best way to see a Urologist? I will pay the money to see one aslong as the Urologist will take my situation seriously do phsyical test and doesn't just tell me it's all "in my head" and offers me Viagra. For example do I go to my local hospital ask for an appointment to see a Urologist (and wait for weeks/months I assume) and then I can pay to see one that way? I admit I'm a bit clueless with this kind of thing I have looked into Urologists you can see privately say in London but I haven't been able to find much information.

Women and dating are out of the question until I can at least maintain a good enough erection I'm useless right now sexually.

Thanks

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Call up Urologist offices and schedule an appointment.

[LukeC Member Find all posts View Profile Close LukeC]

Goodness me! UKGuy!

It's me again, I haven't been so active on this forum as there is another that deals more specifically with VL that i've been using. Suffice to say, I'm glad I saw this post of yours! First of all, DON'T DO ANYTHING SILLY!!! I TOTALLY get where you're coming from, but there are solutions!!

Okay, so you want to find info about how to get in touch with good urologists.

I was treated for a brain tumour at Kings College London so I am well known to them and they referred me to their Urology department. I later went and had a consultation and they decided to test me using an Ultrasound. This confirmed I had a venous leak. So I had a follow up and they prescribed me Cialis. But I wasn't so convinced by the young lady who saw me (who was part of a wider team led by a professor of Urology) This man is called Mr Gordon Muir. He has private clinics in London and runs a clinic in Kings. I paid to see him. He scheduled another ultrasound for me and again confirmed my leak. So I'm going back on August 1st to see him to discuss options including surgery. (which im not hot on because standard ligation is ineffective.) What I am going to bring up is the Venous stripping technique used by a renowned doctor in Taiwan.

All you have to do is google Mr Gordon Muir Urology and you will see his clinic. He is very accomplished and widely regarded as a top Uro. You could start here. If you're willing to pay you will be seen very quickly.

Don't start saying silly things, I know it's terrible but there are solutions like I said! Do you have an actual diagnosis yet? I'm sure I've asked you this before. If you are willing to pay then you can get all the tests you ask for! He won't fob you off Mr Muir. He gets it. I think!! If it is VL then certain drugs work, there is specialist surgery in other parts of the world and yeh god forbid, there are the even more drastic options. There are women out there who will understand you and your plight. There are women who care more about the person than their problem! And love making is possible in many ways.

Get back to me so I know you're alright!!

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For those who are in the UK and have seen a Urologist before how do I go about seeing one? I want to see one privately as generally you have to see your local GP to see a Urologist. I've given up completely with my doctor he insists I have no ED because my blood tests and Testerone levels are fine. I need to see a Urologist though and soon because I don't no how much longer I can take this I don't even talk to women I'm attracted to due to my lack of manhood (impotence) it is affecting me at times a lot and I have thought of suicide recently. I'm so fucking frustrated that I can't even hold an erection (even a weak one) for a minute it just goes down instantly the moment I get arioused. I have no issues getting erection I get them a lot but I can't keep an erection to save my life I have no confidence in losing my virginity at all until I can somehow improve the situation. Kegels have helped somewhat my flacid penis is more spongy now but my erections are still poor.

Anyway so what is the best way to see a Urologist? I will pay the money to see one aslong as the Urologist will take my situation seriously do phsyical test and doesn't just tell me it's all "in my head" and offers me Viagra. For example do I go to my local hospital ask for an appointment to see a Urologist (and wait for weeks/months I assume) and then I can pay to see one that way? I admit I'm a bit clueless with this kind of thing I have looked into Urologists you can see privately say in London but I haven't been able to find much information.

Women and dating are out of the question until I can at least maintain a good enough erection I'm useless right now sexually.

Thanks

I also want to say to you that erections only occur when the body is RELAXED and CHILLED and AROUSED. Not UPSET, STRESSED, ANXIOUS, WORRIED, CONCERNED, FEARFUL.

A HUGE part of your problem is bound to be mental as with everyone. But this is NOT to say you don't have a physical problem, so follow my advice and book up with a uro!

You can add me up on Facebook if you like so you can chat to someone in the same boat who's also from the UK. I can't seem to message you so if you do want to just message me your facebook name and I'll try to add you.

[UKGuy Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close UKGuy]

Goodness me! UKGuy!

It's me again, I haven't been so active on this forum as there is another that deals more specifically with VL that i've been using. Suffice to say, I'm glad I saw this post of yours! First of all, DON'T DO ANYTHING SILLY!!! I TOTALLY get where you're coming from, but there are solutions!!

Okay, so you want to find info about how to get in touch with good urologists.

I was treated for a brain tumour at Kings College London so I am well known to them and they referred me to their Urology department. I later went and had a consultation and they decided to test me using an Ultrasound. This confirmed I had a venous leak. So I had a follow up and they prescribed me Cialis. But I wasn't so convinced by the young lady who saw me (who was part of a wider team led by a professor of Urology) This man is called Mr Gordon Muir. He has private clinics in London and runs a clinic in Kings. I paid to see him. He scheduled another ultrasound for me and again confirmed my leak. So I'm going back on August 1st to see him to discuss options including surgery. (which im not hot on because standard ligation is ineffective.) What I am going to bring up is the Venous stripping technique used by a renowned doctor in Taiwan.

All you have to do is google Mr Gordon Muir Urology and you will see his clinic. He is very accomplished and widely regarded as a top Uro. You could start here. If you're willing to pay you will be seen very quickly.

Don't start saying silly things, I know it's terrible but there are solutions like I said! Do you have an actual diagnosis yet? I'm sure I've asked you this before. If you are willing to pay then you can get all the tests you ask for! He won't fob you off Mr Muir. He gets it. I think!! If it is VL then certain drugs work, there is specialist surgery in other parts of the world and yeh god forbid, there are the even more drastic options. There are women out there who will understand you and your plight. There are women who care more about the person than their problem! And love making is possible in many ways.

Get back to me so I know you're alright!!

LukeC good to see you again on the forums. I know I sound pretty negative and do think about suicde sometime although I doubt I would go through with it though .Now guys may think "what the fuck get a grip there is more to life than your dick" maybe but until they lose their sexual ablity and sex drive they won't understand what it's like. I'm a guy who has NEVER even had sex at all and I feel pathetic with such a weak erection I honestly wonder If I can ever get hard enough again to actually lose my virginity with confidence without a fucking penile implant which I wouldn't get anyway The glans are messed up the most they don't inflate fully and blood won't stay in the head properly (soft glans = hard to penetrate) and what's worse is I have virtually no sex drive at all I go litterally all day all night for weeks without having sexual thoughts. Although I was surprised after 2 weeks of no ejeculating and little masturbation I got a bit hard when talking to a woman which rarely happens. It seems though If I don't watch porn I don't get aroused or think of sex really. I hate the lack of sex drive it makes me feel less of man and it's probably why a lot of women see me as a "friend" a "Nice Guy" due to my lack of sexual desire/energy I think you understand what I'm getting at.

Here's the thing though I recently cut back from masturbating, drank a lot more water and stopped viewing porn within the 2nd week I got a decent erection still far from great and not "rock hard" and I didn't lose it so quickly.when I wanked and cum the load was thicker where usually I shoot watery ejaculate and I actually don't ejaculate very often so this was strange. It seemed like I was improving, Also I try Kegels on and off and get mixed results I'll do them and get what seems like an erection "boost" the glans fill bigger and the erection is pretty firm but days after my erection is shit again I mean why? I have a feeling I have lowTesterone because I've noticed that my regular erections while pretty weak only after I drink say 2 or 3 Ciders my erection is extremely weak like If I get an erection it's super soft and unsable. My facial hair seems to grow slower and I swear my balls have shrunk although I don't think they were ever that big to begin with.. My main fear is Penile Atrophy basically if my dick will eventually become dead and the only option will be a penile implant.

Thanks for the referal to that Uroligist I will try and find more information on him how much did you pay to see him?. Part of me still can't believe that my dick is permanently messed up as all I ever did was jelq nearly erect and stretched my flacid penis out obviously a bit too hard but I never felt pain or anything that's it I never tried to enlarge my penis again however this all happened nearly 10 years ago now.

By the way I think I know the forum you're talking about is the ED-Forum by any chance? That Venous Leak surgery I'm skeptical about it I've heard many guys getting it done only for things to return to normal years even weeks after. May this guy know's what he's doing though surgery for me is the absolute last option and to be honest what I've read about Penile Implants I doubt I would get one okay MAYBE if I was like 50 or 60 years old with a long term girlfriend but at 27 years old no. Again I'm not trying to be Mr Negative here but I heard some guys saying how Penile Implants feel nothing like the real thing and they regret having the surgery done especially after discovering there was a way to cure it naturally.

[UKGuy Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close UKGuy]

Why is my libido so low?

I don't get it when I was younger say up until my early 20's I was horny a lot and thought about sex daily when I injuried my dick nearly 10 years ago it seems as though my libido took a dive over that time and now it's feels very low these days. I don't understand why though just because a guy has ED it shouldn't affect his libido right? Seriously I hardly think of sex or sexual thoughts these days (I go for days even weeks at a times with no sexual thoughts), random erections are very rare and unless I watch porn (which usually gets me pretty aroused) I hardly ever get erections.

I had my Testosterone tested a year or so okay and it's apparently normal but I have a feeliing it's on the lower side of normal. I don't have all the signs of low Testosterone except like I said low libido, ED and I do feel tired a lot during the day for some reason unless I'm phsyically working also while I'm not depressed by any means I often feel emotionally flat these days (indifferent, apathetic etc) so I don't know if this is related.

In many ways a low sex drive is worst than having ED what's the point of trying to get dates or a girlfriend if my libido is hardly there? Even when I'm around hot women I'm physically attracted to I can't seem to feel aroused or horny.

I have been trying to exercise more and I'll be rejoining the gym agin soon to do the weights, I've also been eating more foods that increase Testosterone but there has been no change in libido so far.

Any thoughts on this?

Thanks

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OK so your now in your early thirties, so try some DHEA its a hormon, but please read up about it first,it can have some funny side effects with the odd person, but you could aways try and if it afects you just come off it, it will incress your testosterone, boost your libdo and give an energy boost, you could back it up with some Tribulus, this goes along the same path as DHEA, but its a herb and takes 8 weeks to get to full power.
Then you could try some Garlic and Cayenne as these will boost your nitric acid as this known to give strong ererections, I take my garlic raw chopped fine in olive oil, and my Cayenne in tomato paste thined down with olive oil, when doing the cayenne its best to find the srenth best for you , but in time you can boost that, both you take 3 small spoonfuls 3 times a day and wash down with water, you do this for only 5 days a week on alternate days then the next week change over.
The DHEA you only take after 4 weeks for 5 days, and the Tribulus after the 8 weeks again only for 5 days, OK and see how you go.
Good Luck

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It's because you're frightened!

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Hi NOHARD I have trying to lift weights more often and eating foods that boosts Testosterone but I haven't noticed any difference really expect maybe my libido goes up a bit but I still have the shit erections.

It's because you're frightened!

Please explain what you mean exactly. Do you mean that I have killed my own libido subconciously? From the worry of poor erections. I have read recently that a low libido is often mental like someone switches it off. When I allow myself to feel aroused my libido seems to come back strange I still have poor erections though even If I get horny more often.

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Three questions:
- What's your general health like?
- What was the nature of your penile injury? Have you seen a doctor about it?
- You're a virgin at 27 and would prefer not to be. That's quite a psychological burden: I'm not surprised that it's affecting your libido. Could this be a purely psychological issue? You'd be amazed at how important powerful psychological aspects are in sex...

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How about you just go out and talk to some women? Or are you married?

Sometimes I also don't get aroused from a hot woman, untill I just force myself to talk with her. That connection gets me aroused.

This gives confidence, it gives a mental boost, testosterone levels go up, etc. I like it!

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Being very underweight or malnourished can cause a low libido due to disruptions in normal hormonal levels. Low libido level low is often caused by low testosterone levels. Suffering form a low libido can also create relationship problems on its own, making abad situation worse. But there are many ways to overcome to this problem, some are like making changes in life style or you may use some product to increase your libido level.

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Three questions:
- What's your general health like?

It could be better I guess although I have been making an effort to eat more healthy foods with weight lifting and that. I don't believe even a bad diet will cause ED in men especially young guys I had a pretty poor diet when I was young and had no trouble getting a rock hard erection.

What was the nature of your penile injury? Have you seen a doctor about it?

Basically like years ago I tried PE and it went wrong several times and like I always say I only have myself to blame here obviously I am not knocking PE as such but yeah I wish I never heard about it. the first injury was from jelqing a bit too erect I lost my erection and then I noticed the glans no longer inflated properly and blood would drain from the head quickly. Stupidly I tried PE again but this time just stretches well I got another hit I guess I pulled my cock a bit too far out (I never felt pain though) my dick immediately shrunk up like super small I got scared and I think it didn't go back to normal until an hour or so later. From then I said I would never try and enlarge my dick again but I think it was too late because after the 2nd injury it's been tough to keep a solid erection it seems to of got worse over the years as well. I've honestly lost hope in ever having a functioning penis and sometimes I think I should accept the fact that I won't likely be able to have a proper sex life fuck it I'm a virgin anyway but I won't lie though being impotent and a virgin is can be dififcult to accept most days.

I have seen a several doctors they just tell me it's all mental, my blood test results apparently normal as well as my Testosterone levels I have a feeling my Testosterone levels are on the lower side of normal, not dangeriously low but probably lacking compared to other men. It seems I won't get proper testing done unless I am actually sexually active (or at least trying to be) and the last doctor I saw said becuase my test results were fine he saw no need to refer me to the uroligist again.

You're a virgin at 27 and would prefer not to be. That's quite a psychological burden: I'm not surprised that it's affecting your libido. Could this be a purely psychological issue? You'd be amazed at how important powerful psychological aspects are in sex...

I don't quite understand why being a a virgin in my later years would affect me libido can you explain why this could be the case?

How about you just go out and talk to some women? Or are you married?

Sometimes I also don't get aroused from a hot woman, untill I just force myself to talk with her. That connection gets me aroused.

This gives confidence, it gives a mental boost, testosterone levels go up, etc. I like it!

I hardly talk to women I'm really attracted to I admit I usually have some sort of excuse it used to be mainly a lack of self condidence and It still is but my main reason for not hitting on women or chatting them up is of course my ED troubles. Now I know some guys will say "well there is more to life than sex and your dick!" that maybe true but I bet they haven't experienced true ED whether it naturally occured or it's self induced and I bet they've had sex as well it wouldn't be so bad if I had at least already lost my virginity.

It's interesting you mention getting erections when talking to women I never used to experience this when my dick worked perfectly maybe that was due to being too self concious and having poor eye contact with women. I've noticed more recently when having strong eye contact with women I'm talking to I get some arousal down there, I'll get a slight erection but it's still quality though.

Being very underweight or malnourished can cause a low libido due to disruptions in normal hormonal levels. Low libido level low is often caused by low testosterone levels. Suffering form a low libido can also create relationship problems on its own, making abad situation worse. But there are many ways to overcome to this problem, some are like making changes in life style or you may use some product to increase your libido level.

I think I you are on to something here. I have a theory that my erections maybe even weaker due to lower Testosterone levels. I believe that I probably had lower Testosterone before my penis was injured but my erections are probably even worse due to the low levels of Testosterone if that makes sense. For proof I have noticed that my erections normally say when watching porn are pretty weak but say I drink only 2 or 3 pints of Cider or something I try and get an erection then and my erections super weak like they have no power or strengh and the full erection (or what I can get) the shaft just feels very soft. As you know drinking Alcohol is said to lower Testosterone levels even if just in the short term but to me the extrememly weak erections I get when just drink a few pints shows how low my Testosterone probably are.

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Hi NOHARD I have trying to lift weights more often and eating foods that boosts Testosterone but I haven't noticed any difference really expect maybe my libido goes up a bit but I still have the shit erections.



Please explain what you mean exactly. Do you mean that I have killed my own libido subconciously? From the worry of poor erections. I have read recently that a low libido is often mental like someone switches it off. When I allow myself to feel aroused my libido seems to come back strange I still have poor erections though even If I get horny more often.

Yes you are afraid. Search for all the help here you can find but the problem resides soley in you. You have been told this before; Tinkerbell astutely stated it in one of your earlier threads and you didn't listen and she is a woman who knows what women feel and think. You simply don't want to face the fact that you are doing this to yourself.

You have described yourself in other threads as pathetic, not confident, ashamed and insecure. To me that doesn't sound like a formula for success nor would any man be able to get an erection if that's what he thought of himself. You referred to your ed problem as "being insecure got you into this mess". Your insecurities are your issue but it is so much easier to blame in on some unknown pe issue which never really happened unless you hit your dick with a hammer.

Your own problems make you fear meeting women. You already know that they won't like you. You're a 27 year old virgin and as long as you shy away from girls you'll be one for the rest of your life. See if you did meet a girl and got into bed with her you already know that you'll be terrible at it, you won't get hard, you won't know what to do, you'll be clumsy, she'll laugh at you,make fun of you and tell the whole world. Right? Nah wrong.

When you go out with a woman bed is the farthest thing from their minds. They want to go out, get to know you, get a relationship going well before they start thinking of going to bed with you. When was the last time, if ever , you took a girl out to dinner and a movie and walked her home and said goodnight? When?

Now as for being a virgin you don't know how lucky you are. Most likely the girl you eventually go to bed with will not be a virgin but you are so what do you do? You tell her! That takes all the pressure off you. Not only is she now not expecting superman but if you're not as hard as you want to be she'll just chalk it up to being nervous for your first time. You can completely fail and still be considered great. Plus a woman with experience would love to teach you exactly what to do. They love it and they'll teach you how to be fantastic.

Your doctor, your urologist, and you father have all told you there is nothing else they can do; you must try and go out with a girl. You have ignored their advice, the same advice I am giving you so I feel I''m in good company. The choice is yours. You can either try and go out and enjoy life and get a girl or you can run and hide and blame whatever you want to for your life. Your 27 and running out of time. Stop wasting time!