Did I make a mistake telling this to her?????

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I know I am lucky in a lot of way but when shi8 like this happens with women my tolerance level is really low. Can’t take this cruel fate with the opposite fate. Just annoys the hell out of me.

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COULD SOMEONE EXPLAIN TO ME WHY A MARRIED WOMAN WOULD ALLOW YOU TO GO TO SECOND BASE (play with her tits) IF SHE WASENT INTERESTED IN YOU???

SHE EVEN SAID TO ME DURING OUR REGULAR CONVERSATION IN THE BAR, “ DON’T SAY THAT, I DON’T WANT TO FALL FOR YOU (I CAN’T REMEMBER EXACTLY WHAT I SAID. I WAS TIPSY AND DRUNK).

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I spent the whole of last week visualising how our meeting would go. What a waste of time and mental effort 🤬🤬🤬

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I feel let down in a lot of ways.

SORRY IF I AM RAMBLING TOO MUCH.

[closed251 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close closed251]

Your attractive to married women probably because of commitment fears.

All the fun without the commitment.

As to what she was thinking, only she can answer that but honestly, look how she treats her husband, she's not worth a second thought.

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Your attractive to married women probably because of commitment fears.

All the fun without the commitment.

As to what she was thinking, only she can answer that but honestly, look how she treats her husband, she's not worth a second thought.

I agree with you.

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Your attractive to married women probably because of commitment fears.

All the fun without the commitment.

As to what she was thinking, only she can answer that but honestly, look how she treats her husband, she's not worth a second thought.

But sometimes LOGIC and EMOTIONS are not complimentary

[closed251 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close closed251]

I know but honestly its probably for the best.

What if you really fell for her but she wouldnt leave her hubby for her child/lifestyle etc?

What if she really fell for you, and thought she could escape her loveless marriage.... and all you wanted was sex?

What if yous were found out and that shitstorm came to your door?

There's no great what if in this situation.

[Cavalier Retired Super Moderator Member of the Month Feb 2015PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Cavalier]

We've been down this road of your obsessing over a married woman before.

https://www.pegym.com/forums/relatio...d-signals.html

That thread didn't end so well.

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I know but honestly its probably for the best.

What if you really fell for her but she wouldnt leave her hubby for her child/lifestyle etc?

What if she really fell for you, and thought she could escape her loveless marriage.... and all you wanted was sex?

What if yous were found out and that shitstorm came to your door?

There's no great what if in this situation.

I agree with everything you said. Thank you for your input.

[closed291 Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Member of the Month June 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close closed291]

Ok I did not mention one important detail so as not to sidetrack the responses.

She’s married and has a 3 year old daughter.

I am in the bar right now and they haven’t shown up yet. It’s 10:30 pm. Bar stays open till 4:30 pm.

She's married...your conscience needed to stop you right there. What if you were her husband and she was cheating on you like this? How would you feel?

Do the right thing and leave...her...alone.

[bigplayre Senior Member Member of the Month June 2019 Find all posts View Profile Close bigplayre]

Find another girl bro. Stop getting fixated on one girl and going all tunnel vision. The world's population has more women than men! Maybe it's a fetish for you to have sex with married women, but she clearly sounds like she's not comfortable with the next step if she's hesitating like that. If for some crazy reason you meet her again and the same shit happens and you end up having sex with her it can be considered rape specifically if she already stated no to you. Don't be a creep, go out and talk to other girls...

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There might be a few rescue - take aways points from this situation and experience:

1) I never revealed verbally or in any shape or form to anyone what transpired between us last week.

2) None of our inner circle friends were told about this. Not sure if she did.

3) I made no attempts to contact her since that incident through phone or Facebook. I went completely cold.

4) What I told her was said in a pissed drunk make-out state so there is not validity in my statement.

5) I did not inform her that I was expecting her to meet me in the bar. She must have just assumed I would be there as I regularly do every Saturday.

6) My vulnerability is in regards to my "CONVOLUTED FANTASY REALM" and no person in the world knows about it. THANK GOD I DID NOT SHARE MY EMOTIONS TO ANYONE. IT WOULD HAVE BACKFIRED AND MADE IT REALY EMBARASSING. JUST HANDLE YOUR OWN SH*T AND DON'T INVOLVE THIRD PARTIES. IT MAKES YOU LOOK WEAK, DESPERATE AND VULNERABLE. WHAT YOU TELL THEM COULD BE USED AGAINST YOU.

7) I made it out of this experience alive and in one piece.

8) I built this fantasy to such heights that it came crashing down

9) If you allow it, women can and will mess with your head

10) Always be in CONTROL of your thoughts and EMOTIONS and don't be reactive to circumstances.

WHO CARES

I would like to thank the Members who contributed to this thread and helped clear some of the issues I was facing and for giving me good advice.

[bigplayre Senior Member Member of the Month June 2019 Find all posts View Profile Close bigplayre]

There might be a few rescue - take aways points from this situation and experience:

1) I never revealed verbally or in any shape or form to anyone what transpired between us last week.

2) None of our inner circle friends were told about this. Not sure if she did.

3) I made no attempts to contact her since that incident through phone or Facebook. I went completely cold.

4) What I told her was said in a pissed drunk make-out state so there is not validity in my statement.

5) I did not inform her that I was expecting her to meet me in the bar. She must have just assumed I would be there as I regularly do every Saturday.

6) My vulnerability is in regards to my "CONVOLUTED FANTASY REALM" and no person in the world knows about it. THANK GOD I DID NOT SHARE MY EMOTIONS TO ANYONE. IT WOULD HAVE BACKFIRED AND MADE IT REALY EMBARASSING. JUST HANDLE YOUR OWN SH*T AND DON'T INVOLVE THIRD PARTIES. IT MAKES YOU LOOK WEAK, DESPERATE AND VULNERABLE. WHAT YOU TELL THEM COULD BE USED AGAINST YOU.

7) I made it out of this experience alive and in one piece.

8) I built this fantasy to such heights that it came crashing down

9) If you allow it, women can and will mess with your head

10) Always be in CONTROL of your thoughts and EMOTIONS and don't be reactive to circumstances.

WHO CARES

I would like to thank the Members who contributed to this thread and helped clear some of the issues I was facing and for giving me good advice.

You sound like you had an epiphany moment. Just try and keep this experience with you any other time in the future and refer back to the mistakes made with this one and how you will avoid making them again.

[D6ggy9tyle Senior Member Member of the Month April 2019 Find all posts View Profile Close D6ggy9tyle]

So you're stuck in a cycle of what's known as rumination.

You need to learn the art of indifference.

Either you're chasing women, or women are chasing you. When you're chasing women, you come off needy, desperate, maybe creepy. Most of all, you become clearly available. This leaves out all the most important aspects of attraction. Curiousity, mystery, desire. Are you more likely to buy a car from some salesman who's trying to push you and force it down your throat, or from the guy who sits back and lets you develop your own interest and desire? Someone who tries to talk you into buying? Or someone who dangles the keys and lets you talk YOURSELF into buying?

Most importantly though, is not to use this as a "method". Because if underneath your still needy, desperate, wanting, then no matter what trick you try to pull it will most likely fail. You need to do the inner work, to develop indifference and the mentality of abundance. You need to simply hold yourself on the pedastal instead of them, and let them talk themselves into their own curiosity and attraction to you. But, this needs to be done in a state of confidence, not arrogance.

You should not act rude, or standoffish, or avoid complimenting. You must be authentic. Authentically learn to feel indifferent on whether or not you get a chick, then you can learn to lock eyes, tell her how fucking sexy she is, then walk away and go about your life.

As in, instead of hitting on a girl going "your beautiful, I want you" its simply "you're beautiful" just because you think she is, and thats that. There should be no end game. Can you fantasize about the dirty things you'd do to her? Yes absolutely. But you should not have any attachment to whether or not that even happens.