Drinking Alone

[Closed039 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Closed039]

So who cares if shes your friend? That means you can bully me for having an opinion? What's the point of making a thread asking our opinions if you only allow for positive comments?

Here is an opinion. You seem to have a complex going on and are trying to balance it out with a macho man persona on an anonymous internet forum.

[NCGUY1972 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close NCGUY1972]

well I do 1 glass of water and one beer and keep working. Im almost done for the day now 6 beers later! lol It is relaxing. There are many reasons people drink and for me its is to relax whan I am alone. when im with others or out doing something I never drink.

[somebodyelse Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close somebodyelse]

Here is an opinion. You seem to have a complex going on and are trying to balance it out with a macho man persona on an anonymous internet forum.

true... I missed the posts, but looks like it was handled, lol!

Islander, my post was not contentious in anyway. Good luck in your trial-and-errors.

[Revolved Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Revolved]

Last night I drank three beers and then smoked a bowl. I don't do this regularly anymore, the first time in about 4 weeks or longer. I use to smoke everyday but that was my first in just under a year. It was Friday night and I wanted to wind down after a long week. I see no problem with that. With my recent history of drug abuse, it sometimes is difficult to control how much you use, addiction or a problem is defined exactly as that, no being able to control how much of a substance you use.

[islander Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close islander]

I have that person on block I don't see it's posts.
Thanks for all the relplies
I agree with beers and yard work. Beer while doing something. I meant sitting in a chair drinking alone at night in my original post.
The guy I referenced sucked down 6 on a first date. The guy I see now doesn't drink unless I drink. Light weight which is good lol
I'm happy I didn't grow up with drinking parents or siblings. As an adult I drink. Not often. I can suck down several mixed drinks and I party like a rock star (have it spend it lol) party doesn't have to mean getting drunk or too high to function.
But I guess I'm very picky or nervous when it comes to NEW people because you don't know how they handle themselves. That's what I'm coming away with y alls help.
Thanks as usual for your points of view. Big hug!

[not2big Senior Super ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close not2big]

When I was younger, I was very shy and had trouble starting conversations with new dates. I found that a drink or two loosened me up so I could engage in interesting conversation. 50 years later, I still find a drink or two (whiskey, gin or beer) before dinner generates a nice content feeling and makes dinner that much more enjoyable.

Sorry islander, but I doubt we would enjoy each others company. I would have to ditch you after the first date.

[islander Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close islander]

Sorry islander, but I doubt we would enjoy each others company. I would have to ditch you after the first date.

Rep! That would be the hope. This thread was MY question MY concerns etc... the hope is the person on the other end can make their own decisions. Thank you for posting XO

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

I think a lot of guys would agree with not2big.

[spanky Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close spanky]

Rather than trt to comment on everyone's views here, I'll just dump mine, and you guys can then feel free to kiss or kick me as you see fit x

I drink regularly. Most days. By choice, because I like it. Sometimes alone, sometimes in company. Sometimes I have a little too much, sometimes it doesn't even touch the sides. I can happily not drink too, I don't go crazy or have withdrawal like an alcoholic might. I mean I smoke too, and if I go more than a couple of hours without a cigarette, it affects me badly. Alcohol does not have that effect on me. My GF a couple of GFs ago was worried about me drinking too much, she said I bet you can't go a month without drinking. So I did. From that day. It was easy. Honestly, the first day past that month, I couldn't wait to go out and have some beers, and boy, they tasted good, but that's because I like having a few drinks, and I'm sorry, occasionally I like getting absolutely hammered. It's fun.

I think it all depends on your reasons. I'm generally a pretty confident guy, but a pint or a whiskey or something to loosen up in any situation where you're not 100% comfortble is always helpful. I don't think that's an alcoholism problem, I think that's absolutely normal for anyone.

I almost aways have a whiskey or a half pint before job interviews (followed by a mint of course!) - It takes that little self-conscious edge off me, and I am more confortable, confident, assertive, bold, all of those things that are really useful in that environment. I'm not drunk. That would be stupid.

You know what, yes, it would be wonderful if I could be the perfect balance of humility and confidence, in any given situation, if I cuold be the perfect man..

.. but I'm not.

Im flawed.

And so are you.

It's called being human. I make no excuses for my weaknesses (of which as some of you know already, alcohol is not my greatest) because I'm human. I try my best generally. I try to get better at things that are important to me, and I don't care about the things that aren't.

I'm not going to Christian heaven. Or hell, because I'm not Christian. I've got this far in life without dying, and I'm doing AOK thank you. I choose to drink regularly at the same time because I like it.

If that's not something you could tolerate if we met in person islander, that's fine, best of luck with the rest of your life and all. I get that. If you were to hold it against me, judge me or make life harder for me on the basis of what I choose to do to myself, then I'd think you were a bitch. But you know, at the end of the day, life's too short to hold judgement or grudges.

I think if drinking makes a person unpleasant to be around, then move on, no hard feelings. If not, I have to say I disagree with judging them on the basis of how they live their life in the meantime if nobody else is hurt in the process.

There you go. rant over. Im just a live and let live kind of person. And no hard feelings either way x

[somebodyelse Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close somebodyelse]

lol Spanky!

I would say that I am not a drinker. I have one drink if I go out with friends (a strong Vodka-Sprite mix) and that usually loosens me up enough to be okay and once I'm comfortable in that first few minutes, I'm comfortable being myself the rest of the night and even when the "drink" wears off, I've made myself comfortable to the point I can be quite happy in any surrounding and anybody new that shows up I treat like I've known them for years, just meeting them.

I am a lightweight myself, but I just can't drink beer. It's gross to me, not saying anyone else is damned for drinking it, it's just low alc content for the taste you have to endure...

a glass of wine is alright during dinner as I collect them. However, I only drink them on special occasions. LOL!

I've got my own tolerance thresholds too, though... It's much the same with smoking for me. If you're just trying to get laid, OR if you've grown to like the person, you make provisions. If a girl pulled out a cigarette on our first date, she'd get the axe instantly. but in my case, my friend hammered at me for a while, and after I'd grown to like her as a person without physical contact (over the internet), I made a bit of an exception for her... still grossed me out she smoked, but that's what allowing a person to be themselves does. I have a strict no-tolerance for smoking, but I allowed it from her because I was gonna get laid by someone I liked as a person... can't lose right? LOL!

My no-smoking policy is still in effect and I've been actively rejecting all candidates that smoke anything. Cigarettes, Cigarillos, Tobacco, Hookah, marijuana, anything.

that's why I told her, "you know what and who you want in your life." She knows what she can and can't handle...

I don't want a smoker in my life, now and I will no longer make that provision for any woman.

[Thick_Unit Banned Find all posts View Profile Close Thick_Unit]

Howdy!
I was not raised around drinkers. I am very critical of people who drink over what I consider reasonable. Especially people who drink alone.

I don't understand why someone would drink 6 beers while hanging out at home alone.

When I find out I immediately ditch.

I had a thread once about a guy I dated who drank 6 beers in four hours. I ditched. Many of you felt that was normal for him.

I am finding I can't shake my judgement on it as I meet new people. The man I'm seeing now does not drink. If he does it's two beers in seven hours. That is great although I don't consider it a plus or "pro" column because to me that's expected (not to be an excess drinker)

If you think I'm being too judgmental let me know. I'm not referring to guys getting drunk. That is unacceptable on a regular or occasional basis. I'm referring to drinking to their supposed buzz limit.

Yes I drink once a weekend at friends houses maybe two beers in six hours or more. Sometimes three is we are shooting pool.

Grrr

Most I drink was 7-8 beers in about 4-5 hours, did not even get drunk. or buzzed. That was just a one time binge drink. Have not done it since.
I rarely drink though, way less then the average drinker.

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

Islander you made me drink the whole bottle of merlot last night; thank you! ( but boy does my head hurt)

[DemOne Banned Find all posts View Profile Close DemOne]

Islander you made me drink the whole bottle of merlot last night; thank you! ( but boy does my head hurt)

You tried smashing the wine bottle over your head, didn't you?

[islander Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close islander]

Peg: yea most guys who closet drink would pass on me which would be a mutual favor! All about preference.
Spanky: great post. We would never meet because I don't hunt at bars! If I do it's to hear someone I know playing (band) and we are in a big group and I'm not there to meet anyone.

But all of your points of reference are great. There is no right or wrong. It's preference.

Look get back on topic. This isnt in the relationship forum thread!

We have morphed it to drinking because men are too nervous before a date, doing yard work, watching the sunset, can't relax without the taste etc

Perfection is not a word that can or should be used on this forum lol

SBE of course your right. My bff drinks a six pack every night 100% functional man i have no fear or disgust
He is the guy i do most of my drinking with lol
But I want to give new people more time. Like everyone is saying they drink they know their limits etc.

I smoke alone. I need it. I don't smoke in public. It alters my state of being. Different than alcohol

Final thoughts: I'm chicken and need to trust a little more and give a person more time.

Cusp
La Crema pinot noir. If you get a chance drink that entire bottle while watching the sunset. Don't ask me what time I start.lol. Sunset can last a minute or three hours haha. I'll show you mine if you show me yours????

Pady: Ty

Thanks everyone for taking your time to post.

[islander Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close islander]

By the way isn't it interesting how defensive we get. If you meet someone at a bar hello you are at a bar! Odds are they drink!