Bisexuality

[longerlastingnoob Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close longerlastingnoob]

Jackxx, I don't agree with that, people are born with it, sexual orientation is based on attraction, not circumstance. I'm not denying that issues like you proposed wouldn't, don't influence a person or have some kind of affect, but for the most part who a person is attracted to isn't based on their personality.

Whoever peaks your arousal, gets you hard ( or wet) is who you are sexually attracted to, man woman or both.

[master-gauge Senior Member Member of the Month May 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close master-gauge]

Guys, I read one on women not all that long ago that stated 48% of straight women in the right situation would be sexually attracted to another female and would likely "go the distance" if it was possible.. There may be something to it as I know a fair number of females that would likely do this under the right circumstances.. .. Can't never get 2 of them in bed thou for the 3 way, haha..

It claimed females are more easily attracted to other females, I think they sighted deep physiological "mumbo jumbo" like they felt "safer" around the other females compared to males, the female form was more arousing to them, things like that..

I know some women have and will shy away from me personally (especially the ones I would want a date with, they tend to be more my height 5'5" and petite'r in build).. Usually it's the taller BBW women that will show the most interest in me.. Figure that one out), and I was even told to my face in by a girl I wanted to date in HS that I was "too damn intimidating to date".. I never said anything back but that kind of hurt me a bit.. The only thing she had to worry about was another guy coming in for the steal.. I'd whoop 'em, definitely not her, lol.. It was a small school..

[commando kid Member Find all posts View Profile Close commando kid]

Being molested is not a same sex encounter. It's assault! I've never been molested, but like I said I've fooled around with guys. I've had plenty opportunity to do more (like oral and anal) it was just never for me, and I never tried. There is no doubt that I'm somewhat bisexual, but to what degree? I don't know. I have no desire to do any of it now. But I still find guys attractive. I think maybe it's because I see something in them that I feel is lacking in myself. Maybe that is why I did what I did in the past.

[Tamora Retired Super Moderator Member of the Month Aug 2015 PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Tamora]

Being molested is not a same sex encounter. It's assault! I've never been molested, but like I said I've fooled around with guys. I've had plenty opportunity to do more (like oral and anal) it was just never for me, and I never tried. There is no doubt that I'm somewhat bisexual, but to what degree? I don't know. I have no desire to do any of it now. But I still find guys attractive. I think maybe it's because I see something in them that I feel is lacking in myself. Maybe that is why I did what I did in the past.

Personally, I think you're struggling with your sexuality because you're married.

[commando kid Member Find all posts View Profile Close commando kid]

Personally, I think you're struggling with your sexuality because you're married.

I guess I don't understand what you mean. I don't feel I'm struggling. I have no interest in doing anything with another guy. I've had plenty opportunity since I been married and I have never even considered it. I'm very happily married.

[Tamora Retired Super Moderator Member of the Month Aug 2015 PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Tamora]

I guess I don't understand what you mean. I don't feel I'm struggling. I have no interest in doing anything with another guy. I've had plenty opportunity since I been married and I have never even considered it. I'm very happily married.

Maybe I'm confused by your posts then. (it doesn't take much )

All I know is that at the age of 54 the opportunities I've had with the same sex have been zero.

[jockinthebox Retired Moderator Member of the Month May 2015PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close jockinthebox]

Being molested is not a same sex encounter. It's assault! I've never been molested, but like I said I've fooled around with guys. I've had plenty opportunity to do more (like oral and anal) it was just never for me, and I never tried. There is no doubt that I'm somewhat bisexual, but to what degree? I don't know. I have no desire to do any of it now. But I still find guys attractive. I think maybe it's because I see something in them that I feel is lacking in myself. Maybe that is why I did what I did in the past.

Sounds like you're a bit uncomfortable with your own sexuality, kid. You should be honest with yourself and sort that out, either on your own or perhaps with some counseling. As a married guy with a child you owe it to yourself and your family to be secure in your ability to hold that bond and family intact as best you can for the foreseeable future. There's peace in knowing and accepting yourself genuinely for who you are. Denial of your genuine self and core sexuality would be painful if not maddening, I would think. Make the time to sort it out. You and those who love you will accept the real you, wherever that discovery leads you. You'll gain peace in knowing and accepting your true self as well.

[TheGreatDivider Senior Member Member of the Month Dec 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close TheGreatDivider]

Perhaps it's not your sexuality you're confused about. Perhaps it's something else you need to come to terms with.

Maybe there is a part of you that identifies as feminine but not necessarily homosexual.

[commando kid Member Find all posts View Profile Close commando kid]

Sounds like you're a bit uncomfortable with your own sexuality, kid. You should be honest with yourself and sort that out, either on your own or perhaps with some counseling. As a married guy with a child you owe it to yourself and your family to be secure in your ability to hold that bond and family intact as best you can for the foreseeable future. There's peace in knowing and accepting yourself genuinely for who you are. Denial of your genuine self and core sexuality would be painful if not maddening, I would think. Make the time to sort it out. You and those who love you will accept the real you, wherever that discovery leads you. You'll gain peace in knowing and accepting your true self as well.

I realize it's hard to know and understand a person with just a few short post on and Internet forum. But trust me, I feel totally in control of my sexuality. The only thing I would change about my sex life is for me and my wife to have sex more often. Lol! My wife is one if these that don't want much sex.

The reason I started this thread is to find out what others feel and their experiences. I truly believe same sex encounters are on the rise.

[commando kid Member Find all posts View Profile Close commando kid]

Perhaps it's not your sexuality you're confused about. Perhaps it's something else you need to come to terms with.

Maybe there is a part of you that identifies as feminine but not necessarily homosexual.

I can guarantee you that I am anything but feminine. I'm not an alpha male, but just a good ole country boy that loves to hunt and fish and spend time in the outdoors.

[TheGreatDivider Senior Member Member of the Month Dec 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close TheGreatDivider]

I can guarantee you that I am anything but feminine. I'm not an alpha male, but just a good ole country boy that loves to hunt and fish and spend time in the outdoors.

See right there... denial.

Part of you is masculine and part of you is feminine. It doesn't matter how much of each you want to be there are two sides. When you accept the duality of both worlds you will feel at peace with your identity.

[somebodyelse Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close somebodyelse]

I'm sorry I haven't finished reading the thread, but I did find it funny someone said "I'm an alpha male so there's no way I'd be bisexual"

I tend to find the "Alpha" identifying dudes are the ones most likely to be hiding tendencies. A classic case of overcompensation.

I know for a fact that there are guys who are absolutely Gay. They're not interested in women in the least bit. Been with women and couldn't get turned on. Mechanically, incapable of being attracted to women. They are also some of the most masculine men I've met.

The flipside to that is dudes who swear up and down they're straight, then have these hidden proclivities for male on male.

I'm not judgemental, but I find it laughable that someone would rest their sexuality on their personality. It's not something you can choose for the majority of gay men, nor the majority of straight men.

For bisexuality, there's a weird thing in that. It's that you do somewhat have a choice which side you want to be on, but it could end up being a lonely existence if you decide to not pick a team.

Picking a team, as a bisexual person, is paramount to solidifying your identity, in my eyes. Most people who identify as strictly bisexual are just coming to grips with being "Gay"... The rest are more than likely Bi-curious. So I would say that 30% thing is more "bi-curious" than an actual bisexual identification.

[somebodyelse Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close somebodyelse]

@wannaride.. I agree fully, I'm not Bi, Gay etc. and would never "try" to be, ever.. But there are those "Damn that guy is great shape" or "That is a very attractive guy dressed to the 9".. It's an "Admiration" feeling and nothing more, I could see it being somewhat confusing to some..

BUT.. It's also that same way when one sees a very attractive Female of the same.. The fact I would want to hump the Female doesn't equate for this argument, lol

I'm 100% with you on this one.

I had a conversation with a gay male on this site in PM. We were talking and the discussion got around to how he came out.

I had confusion about my sexuality when I was younger. I was sure that I was "bisexual" then I tried it...

I truly didn't like it. I don't like the smell of dudes, I don't like the way they feel. I think we men are pretty gross, actually. It threw me off though. Like why am I attracted to guys if sexually and emotionally they do nothing for me.

I figured it out that it was low self-esteem.

When I had this conversation with the gay dude here. Very cool guy. He expressed concern. Everything I was saying was exactly the reason he eventually identified as gay. He never gave women a chance, though so my talking about it made him curious. it was like, "Well, I don't even want to try now." though because... in essence the cat was already out of the bag, so to speak...

[TheGreatDivider Senior Member Member of the Month Dec 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close TheGreatDivider]

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[somebodyelse Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close somebodyelse]

"90:10" Straight/Bi Ratio for me because at the end of the day, I still think some guys are attractive. Not that I'm trying to suck a peen, but I may see a good looking guy and go "damn I wish I could look like him."

As far as the Rest:

MALE
MASCULINE
MALE
HETERO: 90:10 at least. lol.