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[Party Senior Member Member of the Month August 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Party]

Is zzm Gordon Ramsey, because I got hungry reading that.

Ok. If he's Gordon he better make a damn good Risotto or he's out a Hells Kitchen. 'Take off that jacket, F*ck off". He's so subtle.

[TheZZMan Moderator Member of the Month Sept 2018PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZMan]

Clearly ZZM is a sharp dressed cat.

It takes some finesse to keep a woman as gorgeous as ZZW happy all the time. If cooking is my forte then I better be damned good at it.

Would you like fries with that honey? Coming right up!

[Tamora Retired Super Moderator Member of the Month Aug 2015 PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Tamora]

What makes a woman really smile?

[Party Senior Member Member of the Month August 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Party]

I was wondering ladies, when you're excited do you have involuntary kegal? I was thinking about the last time the Mrs and I had had a romp. Remembering the great writhing time she had each of the three times I went down on her. And got maybe a 70% erection and was having involuntary contractions, similar to orgasmic contractions only smaller. I guess small kegal would better describe them, and they do feel good btw. I assume other guys have these too, just wondered if the ladies do. Off to work.

[TheZZWoman Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZWoman]

What makes a woman really smile?

I can only speak for myself: Seeing him in a nice suit or tuxedo especially and going to a social event with him by my side. He really cleans up nicely and I feel like the women everyone is looking at saying; "How did she get so Lucky", knowing full well that later that evening I will be getting "Lucky".

[TheZZWoman Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZWoman]

I was wondering ladies, when you're excited do you have involuntary kegal? I was thinking about the last time the Mrs and I had had a romp. Remembering the great writhing time she had each of the three times I went down on her. And got maybe a 70% erection and was having involuntary contractions, similar to orgasmic contractions only smaller. I guess small kegal would better describe them, and they do feel good btw. I assume other guys have these too, just wondered if the ladies do. Off to work.

Yes, I get them. We can be out and about and he can say a little something in my ear or give a slight touch here or there and I will kegal. Gets me more excited about what will come later. He's such a tease!

[Ravenously Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Ravenously]

Why do women make so many disparaging remarks about men's obsession with their own penis?

It seems that women could be more understanding and even relate, when you take into account all the parts of their own bodies that they obsess over.

IE their:

Butts
Boobs
Waist
Hips
Lips
Weight
Eyelashes
Eyebrows
Noses
Toeses
Vagina
Labia
Clitoris
Skin tone
Hair
Teeth
Nails
And basically every other part of their bodies and aspect of their person you could think of.

[TheZZWoman Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZWoman]

Why do women make so many disparaging remarks about men's obsession with their own penis?

It seems that women could be more understanding and even relate, when you take into account all the parts of their own bodies that they obsess over.

IE their:

Butts
Boobs
Waist
Hips
Lips
Weight
Eyelashes
Eyebrows
Noses
Toeses
Vagina
Labia
Clitoris
Skin tone
Hair
Teeth
Nails
And basically every other part of their bodies and aspect of their person you could think of.

Some how I think you guys believe that your penis defines your manhood. Whether you are bragging or complaining about your dick, your dick is a direct correlation as to who you are in your opinion. As a woman there are parts of me I do not like, but they by no means define who I am as a woman. When I look at a man there could be things I like and things I don't like but in my eyes they are not who you are -I can only discover the real you through human interaction. So I really don't understand your obsession because to me your dick is only one aspect of who you really are.

[Qandisa Senior Member Member of the Month March 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Qandisa]

What makes a woman really smile?

For me it's things like:
- Seeing my guy, especially if he's happy or if it's been a while.*
- Little random acts of thoughtfulness that say "I was thinking about you", like fixing something small that I've been meaning to fix but haven't gotten around to it, or giving me a single flower for no reason
- Kittens!
- Seeing other people happy, especially if I've been able to play a part in doing something special for them
- That look you get from your partner, where you KNOW they love you just from the way they're looking at you

*Story time -- PL and I met through Craigslist. We'd been chatting for about 2 weeks by email and text, and decided to meet at a local coffee shop. We both have very vivid memories of that day. I remember seeing him and thinking how he was perfect. If you ask him the he's tall, thin, awkward, he has a slight scoliosis and he hates his nose. I looked at him and thought he was stunning, and I still do. I was attracted to him from his pictures and his correspondence, but seeing him through the window walking towards the coffee shop and then through the door was just something else. It was just an instant connection.
He says he remembers seeing me at the coffee shop the first day, and how when I saw him I just lit up with with biggest, most genuine smile, like I'd won some kind of big prize.

[Qandisa Senior Member Member of the Month March 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Qandisa]

Some how I think you guys believe that your penis defines your manhood. Whether you are bragging or complaining about your dick, your dick is a direct correlation as to who you are in your opinion. As a woman there are parts of me I do not like, but they by no means define who I am as a woman. When I look at a man there could be things I like and things I don't like but in my eyes they are not who you are -I can only discover the real you through human interaction. So I really don't understand your obsession because to me your dick is only one aspect of who you really are.

Yes, this is exactly it.

Also women get frustrated, upset, unhappy with various body parts all the time - this is true. But when it becomes that kind of obsession then we generally don't just let it slide. Obsession over weight can lead to anorexia or bulimia, and then their friends and family try to get them to seek treatment. When women become so obsessed with their bodies to the point of depression then as friends and family we try to get them to get into therapy or counselling. We generally don't see any kind of OBSESSION with our bodies as being a healthy thing. So when we see our men obsessing about their dicks it bothers us, because we don't see it as a healthy behaviour. Some women are better than others at trying to deflect attention away from it, some are more insensitive about it. It's like the difference between talking to someone with anorexia and saying "You're a beautiful person, and we love you. You don't need to change yourself, you just need to change how you see yourself, so that you can understand what the rest of us see" vs "you're too thin, go eat a cheeseburger."

The point is that when any person lets ONE aspect of their being become the entire focal point of their identity, or the main focal point, then it's a distortion, and it's dangerous. When I'm having sex with a man I'm not just experiencing his penis as a stand-alone entity - I'm experiencing ALL of him so I don't want to focus on just one of the many aspects that goes into that.

[SnapperLapper Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close SnapperLapper]

^^^Makes perfect sense to me.

[SnapperLapper Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close SnapperLapper]

Do you women ever just get horny for no reason whatsoever? With no visual or physical stimuli, etc.?

[TheZZWoman Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZWoman]

Do you women ever just get horny for no reason whatsoever? With no visual or physical stimuli, etc.?

Absolutely - although I am not sure you can say no reason. My mind often thinks about it and I am a very visual person, meaning I visualize my next experience and then try to make it happen. I get excited just thinking about it

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Yes, this is exactly it.

Also women get frustrated, upset, unhappy with various body parts all the time - this is true. But when it becomes that kind of obsession then we generally don't just let it slide. Obsession over weight can lead to anorexia or bulimia, and then their friends and family try to get them to seek treatment. When women become so obsessed with their bodies to the point of depression then as friends and family we try to get them to get into therapy or counselling. We generally don't see any kind of OBSESSION with our bodies as being a healthy thing. So when we see our men obsessing about their dicks it bothers us, because we don't see it as a healthy behaviour. Some women are better than others at trying to deflect attention away from it, some are more insensitive about it. It's like the difference between talking to someone with anorexia and saying "You're a beautiful person, and we love you. You don't need to change yourself, you just need to change how you see yourself, so that you can understand what the rest of us see" vs "you're too thin, go eat a cheeseburger."

The point is that when any person lets ONE aspect of their being become the entire focal point of their identity, or the main focal point, then it's a distortion, and it's dangerous. When I'm having sex with a man I'm not just experiencing his penis as a stand-alone entity - I'm experiencing ALL of him so I don't want to focus on just one of the many aspects that goes into that.

Seem to me women focusing on their body to the extent men commonly do with their penis is very very common. What is the anorxia style life threatening illness do men get from penis obsession ? Whatever it is I dare say it is far less common/

[Qandisa Senior Member Member of the Month March 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Qandisa]

Seem to me women focusing on their body to the extent men commonly do with their penis is very very common. What is the anorxia style life threatening illness do men get from penis obsession ? Whatever it is I dare say it is far less common/

While there isn't something that's as physically life threatening as anorexia you can't deny that there can be a big problem with depression, anxiety, social dysfunction etc associated with the kind of body dysmorphia that accompanies that kind of obsession. How many members have there been on here that are depressed or have anxiety to the point of not even wanting to talk to women? How many are having their daily lives affected because of obsessively focusing on ONE ASPECT of their being? I don't know that I'd say that it's that much less common that anorexia.