Had a fight with my gf last night

[the_iron Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close the_iron]

She never compliments me on anything, she only criticizes me, from the way i drive* to the way i cook, then she goes on and on about how good she is to me and how she deserves better.

* we fight every damn time we get in a car together because she can't keep her mouth shut, I'm always doing something wrong, either driving too slow or too fast, signaling when i don't have to, not following her instructions, etc... And often it becomes a huge fight, which is why i want to bring my mom to Hawaii with us, so she won't fight me. Now that i think about it it's like she enjoys putting me down.

It is interesting to read these forums again and meet different characters again. Lol!

Now this will be harsh - you need it bro.

Now others have said that you are immature. They are right. Others have noticed and lamented at how you got mad at your girlfriend for wondering that you brought sweet mummy along on vacation for you two. They are spot on. Wish and others have noticed with pity how you said No to your super horny girlfriend at her most vulnerable time because you were emoty.

Mr, you have constituted yourself in such a way that you "fight every damn time we get in a car together." Sadder than that is that you are looking outside for a solution while the problem is with you in the first place.

You are having night mares and seeing big penises of other imaginary men all over the place - to the extent of insanity, "I am the way i am because of the "big dicks" comment she made. There's not a single day that goes by that I don't think anout it. Everytime we have sex i remember that I'm not good enough. Everytime she complains that i came too soon i remember that I'm not good enough. Everytime i look at porn and i see a man with a big dick i think about her getting fucked by it. Months later I still can't shake that off" And in this insanity of yours, you are cock convinced that she is the problem.

And so she nags.

Of course we cannot give you advice meant for her so that you can go deliver it to her. If she has her problems, that is hers. Yours are obvious and summed in Big Al's advice. Grow UP!

[okayok Banned Find all posts View Profile Close okayok]

Wish and others have noticed with pity how you said No to your super horny girlfriend at her most vulnerable time because you were emoty.

What makes you think she was horny and wanted to have sex? She wanted to come to fight. And so what if i say no to her? Sometimes i don't want sex.

[closed163 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close closed163]

She asked to come over and you said no? Oh do you have much to learn!

I dont think so cus.She asked for it.And at least his girl is direct and open about her insecurities.Is normal that she is scared,but also normal that he was scared thinking about her troughs about bigger dick from differents past's boyfriends.

He had the point.The only difference is that She went straight on him.And he hide it.Probably he didn't want to show her,he didn't trust her.

And i say,in my opinion,is way different.

He cheated on 1 ex girfriend and appearently,She asked him from his past.

She was with more than 1 guy,exs,and told him about she was with bigger dicks.I mean,what was the purpose of that?hurt his feelings?prove him?Because is always the same.girls tests their men with stupid lines.Despite they are true,is annoying.

If some girls preffer a bigger dick instead of a good bf,is fine,they can go ahead.

This guy never came up with the discussion.I mean come on,he trusted her.50-50.

He believed in her but still scared.And never talked about it.

But she went straight with the discussion.2 different things fellas.Looks like that gf dont trust the guy,the same way.

For me,the fact that your gf talk about bigger dick,out of the blue,is pointless. And above all,is disrespectfull.

By the way,when i said "instead of good bf" i was refering to good bf.You cheated on your ex,and the reason is unknown.But you did well,in my opinion,to said no to her to come in.

She better gain your trust again.There is no point in what she did.

She think she can come in and throw you a heavy insecuritie,but making it without you doing the same.You were right saying that.
now she know you are insecure about her ex's dicks,and she will think also you are a jerk just because you didn't talked it before.Is funny:

1-If you talk with her ,after tell you "i was with bigger dicks",you are insecure.
2-If you talk with her ,long time later,after a discussion she bringed up,you are still insecure.

Also is very reasonable you probably said NO,due to the moment and the anger,but it was a good choice.You need your space to think things and reflex.

Otherwise,if you invite her to come in,She can think you want to talk about it.

Hope you could get me,man.

And hope everybody could understand,before anyone say things like "I WAS HIT BY A TEXT WALL".

[closed224 Senior Member Member of the Month Dec 2014, Feb 2017 Find all posts View Profile Close closed224]

Are you fucking kidding me? 1-2 makes a world of difference -- even if not for her, at least for me. I wouldn't have to hear "pound me harder so it goes deeper", wouldn't have to feel her grabbing my butt to pull me closer ans make me go in deeper, wouldn't have to worry about my dick slipping out on certain positions.

This was never an issue with other women before. I never worried about penis size before. I used to do PE not for size gains but for EQ. I feel like I'm traumatized now.

Your advice was bad because a guy came in asking about PE but you just told him don't worry about it, size doesn't matter, blah blah blah. Clearly it does otherwise YOU wouldn't be here.

Weirdly these behaviours and statements are made by women that are super turned on. I feel like superman when this happens to me. Love a woman losing all abandon and turning animal all over me.

[the_iron Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close the_iron]

What makes you think she was horny and wanted to have sex? She wanted to come to fight. And so what if i say no to her? Sometimes i don't want sex.

There is something in your attitude, a switch, that has turned on and insists that she is the demon. "She wanted to come to fight." We are telling you that the big chunk of your relationship troubles is with you yourself. It is hard, but take a moment and look within. We all can see it. You too can see it if you take time to. Don't insist on blaming her, fix yourself first.

And all these is said with love.

[okayok Banned Find all posts View Profile Close okayok]

She just broke up with me

[okayok Banned Find all posts View Profile Close okayok]

Wait now she wants to come over and talk things out

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Good find yourself a girl you like.

[Tamora Retired Super Moderator Member of the Month Aug 2015 PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Tamora]

Wait now she wants to come over and talk things out

Tell her about the Barista girl...I'm sure she'll come to her senses.

[minagzaki Member Find all posts View Profile Close minagzaki]

Tell her its over and move on. she will more than likely call you again in a week and regret it, but only if you showed her that it doesnt matter and you will move on seriously.
dont call or text her.. better if you block her.

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Go get a bacon cheeseburger; it will help you think. Hey it works for me.

[ronnierokk Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close ronnierokk]

It seems to me that you two are not right for each other.

My wife and I are on the same page on pretty much everything.

When you meet the right person, there will be no arguments over stupid things and you will be both very secure with each other where your thoughts will never wonder what is or what is not!

The fact is, you may never find that person in which we call a SOUL MATE, but that doesn't mean you should give up trying.

Love is a HUGE obstacle when you meet and fall for someone and makes it even harder to leave that person even if they are not right for you.

You may keep telling yourself that they ARE when in fact LOVE makes you blind to see the TRUTH because emotion evokes the soul.

If you want my advice, start with astrology and look up your sign. You can do this by searching google for something like this...

Since I'm a Virgo I would search for this: "What is a good love match for Virgo"

After you find a match, let's say it was a Virgo.

Next, you would search for that sign with something like this: "Everything you wanted to know about a Virgo girl"

If your sign is a Leo, you would also want to learn more about yourself and your own ways in which you could search for "Everything about a Leo Boy"

Find out what other signs you are most compatible with. Study and learn more about your habits and ways through your sign and also study and learn the habits and ways of the signs that are most compatible with you as well so you know what to expect when you meet them.

This is just a starting point.

In relationships, there is also a lot to learn about how that person was brought up and if that will make a good match for you. If you were raised in the same type of environments and situations you might just fit well if you have a matching sign.

Just keep in mind that you will never want to get too close to that person until you know all the details about them so that you don't fall in love with someone that will not be a good match and you will have tons of problems and fights.

One thing you need to ask her, is if she has a good relationship with her father. (Do this as soon as possible) This works for both girls and guys. It works both ways.

The thing is girls are looking for a father figure and guys are looking for a mother figure in their mates.

So, if she says yes, then that means she will be a good girl (Not in all cases, but mostly in all cases).

If she says no, then chances is she is looking for a bad boy! Which means she likes guys that are troublemakers, risk takers and chances are her father was always in trouble or in jail, on drugs or something of the sort.

This may sound like crazy stuff but it's all true. I've studied dating relationships from some of the top coaches in the world and learn tons of stuff.

Either way, I wish you good luck and I hope this helped to steer you in the right direction for the next girl you are with.

[Cavalier Retired Super Moderator Member of the Month Feb 2015PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Cavalier]

You should go back and reread everything you have said about her in this thread. Do you really think this is someone that you want to be with for the long term if all of this is true? It's your choice but it just makes sense to find someone that makes you happy.

[closed299 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close closed299]

It seems to me that you two are not right for each other.

My wife and I are on the same page on pretty much everything.

When you meet the right person, there will be no arguments over stupid things and you will be both very secure with each other where your thoughts will never wonder what is or what is not!

The fact is, you may never find that person in which we call a SOUL MATE, but that doesn't mean you should give up trying.

Love is a HUGE obstacle when you meet and fall for someone and makes it even harder to leave that person even if they are not right for you.

You may keep telling yourself that they ARE when in fact LOVE makes you blind to see the TRUTH because emotion evokes the soul.

If you want my advice, start with astrology and look up your sign. You can do this by searching google for something like this...

Since I'm a Virgo I would search for this: "What is a good love match for Virgo"

After you find a match, let's say it was a Virgo.

Next, you would search for that sign with something like this: "Everything you wanted to know about a Virgo girl"

If your sign is a Leo, you would also want to learn more about yourself and your own ways in which you could search for "Everything about a Leo Boy"

Find out what other signs you are most compatible with. Study and learn more about your habits and ways through your sign and also study and learn the habits and ways of the signs that are most compatible with you as well so you know what to expect when you meet them.

This is just a starting point.

In relationships, there is also a lot to learn about how that person was brought up and if that will make a good match for you. If you were raised in the same type of environments and situations you might just fit well if you have a matching sign.

Just keep in mind that you will never want to get too close to that person until you know all the details about them so that you don't fall in love with someone that will not be a good match and you will have tons of problems and fights.

One thing you need to ask her, is if she has a good relationship with her father. (Do this as soon as possible) This works for both girls and guys. It works both ways.

The thing is girls are looking for a father figure and guys are looking for a mother figure in their mates.

So, if she says yes, then that means she will be a good girl (Not in all cases, but mostly in all cases).

If she says no, then chances is she is looking for a bad boy! Which means she likes guys that are troublemakers, risk takers and chances are her father was always in trouble or in jail, on drugs or something of the sort.

This may sound like crazy stuff but it's all true. I've studied dating relationships from some of the top coaches in the world and learn tons of stuff.

Either way, I wish you good luck and I hope this helped to steer you in the right direction for the next girl you are with.

Mate you know your stuff! Especially this-

“The fact is, you may never find that person in which we call a SOUL MATE, but that doesn't mean you should give up trying.

Love is a HUGE obstacle when you meet and fall for someone and makes it even harder to leave that person even if they are not right for you.

You may keep telling yourself that they ARE when in fact LOVE makes you blind to see the TRUTH because emotion evokes the soul.”

Love makes you blind to the facts. Even if you know the facts Love will make you come up with every excuse in the book to be with someone. Logic over emotions everyday of the week ! Never let emotions control your judgement!

[okayok Banned Find all posts View Profile Close okayok]

I told her not to come. I think this time it's for real. I feel sick just thinking of talking to her.