(Guys) Ever felt like this?

[frostysnoman Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close frostysnoman]

Hey man i don't know if you are still reading these but you have to give yourself some credit. if you are sitting there scared that you arent good enough for her then that already tells you that deep down you are one of the best guys out there. It shows that you are willing to do anything to be with her, even if that means altering your own life for hers. that alone is proof in itself that you are a great guy. and if you aren't happy with something about yourself, then by all means, change it! If you want something you have to go out and get it man, it won't come to you out of the blue, with anything that you do, you have to put in the effort to get results. and the more effort your exert, the better your results will be. try setting a big goal and every day write a log of what you will do to start achieving your goal, make mini goals as well so you don't get discerned. You will be achieving goals left and right, and feeling absolutely great, it is an excellent life skill to pick up on, and will help you in all aspects of your life. I hope the best for you, and add me if you feel like you want to talk more about it.

yours truly,

Frosty

[TTBB Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close TTBB]

I never realized this but I have a close friend who's probably very similar to you. Her past is a huge cluster fuck of abuse. Its a shame because she's a very smart girl with looks to boot. But its inspiring to know that despite your past you made it through. In the same way I can see my friend start to come out of her shell. She's opening up about guys she finds attractive, she's trying to date, and she's shedding her emotionless front she had for so many years. She still has a ways to go (she's never kissed a guy or had a boyfriend) but I can tell she'll get there. Hell, I'd date her if she had feelings for me, but even if she did it wouldn't work out and I'd end up being the failed first relationship. In a way, I'm happier we ended up becoming such good friends.

If your friend is lucky she will find her footing at a young age and she will go on to be a strong woman.. if she has good friends around her that will make a huge difference... she is coming into herself now, i am guessing she is in her early 20's and that age is a stage in life where people start to figure out who they are and what they want.. what works for them and what doesn't.
i have made it through ..but it is still an on going battle to fix.

[Hanma Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Hanma]

I'll do that, frosty. Thanks

[frostysnoman Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close frostysnoman]

I'll do that, frosty. Thanks

I'm glad i could put my two cents in :]. i wish you luck, and shoot me a message if u need to talk. I'l be here