I cant satisfy her

[Straw Bat Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Straw Bat]

Perhaps you're a bit too neat, a bit too messy.
A little too round, a little too square.

What I'm saying is her lack of arousal is probably related to your routine - when was the last time you forwent the oral and fingering, and just spat on her cunt, and fucked her for purely your own satisfaction, and rubbed her face in the pillow, as you would a dog who peed on the rug?

Pretended she's a fair maiden who's village and vagina you are plundering?
Fucked her like you hated her - and really tried your best to concentrate on those emotions and have them come across in your treatment of her?

Many women like to be sluts, and have sex taken from them. They can enjoy being pleasure holes. Every second guy has read the same articles - go down on her first, use your hands, use the 'cum hither' motion - that is all about her, and pleasing her, and making sure she has a great time.

That's all well and good from time to time, if you want a stagnant sex life. Fuck her properly.. take her by the hair and drag her into the closet floor, shove some dirty clothes in her mouth.

Sorry I got carried away typing. Very horny at work start by trying to make yourself believe the person infront of you is somebody you have distain for, but find incredibly sexy.

Imagine if the Lannisters killed your family, and your army storms Kings Landing. You find Cercei, alone in her bed chamber, defeated and sobbing.

What would you do?

[daddy man Member Find all posts View Profile Close daddy man]

Straw Bat, thanks for the totally unique and honest perspective on this young mans problem. I found it amusing and somewhat revolting at the same time! You have a great imagination.

[Straw Bat Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Straw Bat]

Well at 7.2 x 5.25, it certainly aint his dick size, regardless of what she says!

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

She's a closet lesbian.

[delts Member Find all posts View Profile Close delts]

only read the first page, then the last few posts - so apologies if i've missed people saying similar or other details.

But while i think straw bat may have got a little carried away into some of his own fantasies lol, i think underneath he actually has a point.

From the OP it sounds like this is all totally mental/head based, and there is a total imbalance of power and confidence in the relationship. It sounds like you put so much effort into foreplay and are desperate to please her because maybe deep down you don't feel good enough for her, and are trying to live up to being someone else in order that she doesn't feel dissatisfied. Ironically this is leaving her feeling dissatisfied!

This isn't to say guys shouldn't make the effort with foreplay. But there's a big difference between an unconfident guy really trying to pander to and please a girl, and a much more confident guy still doing the same things - but doing them because he knows she'll love it, because he loves it, and because he knows she's going to want more and more of him.

She can sense that lack of confidence and nothing is less sexy to a woman, hence she's not as turned on, hence it's not as good to her. The dick size thing is the only logical thing in her mind maybe, but no way is that the reason.

Furthermore as straw bat said - it's not all about her! And yes, sometimes just fuck her senseless because you want to and are gonna get yours! The confidence and almost selfishness in that can be very appealing to some women, and then you'll find she'll suddenly start trying harder so that the control isn't all in your court.

I think the way you're being is symptomatic of a massive, more general swing from the sexist old days of the 50s towards "equality". Only problem being in some cases it's gone beyond equality and into a place where men must do everything they can to please a woman - with way more emphasis on that than vice versa. So many articles and proponents of women being strong and independent seem to have got to a point where they believe women are total goddesses to be pandered to and fawned over all the time by wimpy guys who are scared to upset them!! It's got ridiculous!

Now, i LOVE a confident, strong, independent feisty women who knows what she wants and gets it. And women are goddesses who need to be worshipped and fucked silly just as they please, when they want that. BUT - only to an equal amount as those women can do the same for their guy!

In the OP's case it's like it's all in her court. She's lying there waiting for you to live up to being a sex god purely to please her. Well hang the fuck on a minute - maybe your ex was an absolute animal slut in bed and got you going way more too! It's a 2 way thing!

So in summary i think it's purely confidence based. Yes it's good to put a lot of effort into pleasing her - but not from an unconfident, desperate demeanour. If you're gonna do it it's because you know what you're doing, you want to, and you're in charge! I don't think there's many women who after all the power struggles and fun sex games don't want to be taken charge of to some degree and fucked like YOU want to. Not like you're worried about what she thinks too much and need approval and a scoresheet at every angle, whimper and orgasm she might have.

Come on man!! Fuck her like you want because you can and you want to!! Combine that attitude with the extra effort you make over what her ex did and you'll make him look like a clueless, lazy little pussy. Now go and find her, bend her over, pull her hair and fuck her properly.

[gangsta Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close gangsta]

well, its girl problem LOL .. just saying

[GoingForGold Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close GoingForGold]

You think you didn't change anything but you clearly stated that you started having sex for your own enjoyment and not hers. That is a huge change. Way to overcome your insecurities and poor sex habits.