Son's graduation!

[Park Lib Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Park Lib]

You have to go to his graduation! Even if your ex and daughter are there, he will feel happy to see your face and that you showed. If you get a chance to speak to him alone, tell him how proud you are (I'm sure you won't be able to help yourself). No matter what your kids say, you are their father and you love them so fuck whatever anyone else thinks. My parents and brother watched me graduate and I didn't need anyone else there personally to feel happy.

[GettinBig1 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close GettinBig1]

Yes, what everyone else said! It is important that you be there for son, no matter what anyone else thinks!

[akaTrex Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close akaTrex]

I did not hesitate one minute to go to my son's graduation even with my looser ex wife being there.

Oh I payed my attorney more than people pay for the purchase of their home in the 16 year battle with my ex. And did I say I live in California! Of the 6 Order to Show Cause(s) not a one was filed by me. EX 6 / Trex 0 !

One of the best moments of my son's graduation was we all went out to lunch afterwards. 21 of us in all. 3 Parent Couples and the rest students & graduates.

When the bill arrived I suggested that the parents split the bill 3 ways and Buy the Youths lunch. Guess who Balked . . . My EX!

If Looks could KILL! Made My Day!!!

[Cavalier Retired Super Moderator Member of the Month Feb 2015PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Cavalier]

Yup I agree, go for your sons sake. It's something he will always remember and appreciate that you were there for him. I'm pretty sure that your ex will act civil, she wouldn't start anything with you to ruin a very important moment and achievement for your son.

[Mr.T Member Find all posts View Profile Close Mr.T]

Wow...I'm overwhelmed with the outpouring of support from all you guys and girls! My heartfelt thanks to each and every one of you!

Even though I haven't seen my daughter for more than a couple of years I do see my son pretty much once every week and he is due to come and see the "old man" tomorrow. He's going on a camping trip for a week starting next weekend and his graduation day is a couple of days after that...so tomorrow may well be the last time I see him before his "big day".

I've already just emailed him telling him to make sure that tomorrow he brings all the details of where I need to be and at what time and whatnot for his graduation day. Just so as you all know...he's graduated with a Bachelor of Science degree with Honours (with a bit of help from his "old man" as he calls me)...which means he now has a BSc(Hons) after his name. So proud!!!

Once again...many thanks for all your support and I hope you all feel the reciprocated love from me! I just had that little seed of doubt in my mind telling me not to "rock the boat" but now, thanks to all my friends, I am convinced in the courage of my convictions.

Good on you mate, times like this only come along once in a while, do it for your son.

[Tamora Retired Super Moderator Member of the Month Aug 2015 PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Tamora]

Okay...seeing as everybody seems bored at the moment I was just wondering what any of your views might be about an email I received from my sister yesterday.

I've spoken to her about the graduation and her reply was "Just get out of there as fast as you can when it's over".

My immediate thought was WTF! What kind of advice is that!

I've never run from anything in my life and I'm certainly not going to start now! I did feel pretty insulted to be honest.

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

Everyone has an opinion. You know the right thing to do so just do it.

[longerlastingnoob Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close longerlastingnoob]

She wasn't trying to insult you, just looking out for you, keep you away from the ex.
She wouldn't have said it if she thought you were the type to do that, wouldn't have needed to.

[closed224 Senior Member Member of the Month Dec 2014, Feb 2017 Find all posts View Profile Close closed224]

Sister love.

[Cavalier Retired Super Moderator Member of the Month Feb 2015PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Cavalier]

I don't know what she was thinking, but it's not some very good advice. You need to do more than just show up, you need to talk to him, congratulate him and tell him how proud you are. As bad as your divorce might have been, I don't think your ex will try and prevent you from doing that.

[Tamora Retired Super Moderator Member of the Month Aug 2015 PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Tamora]

I don't know what she was thinking, but it's not some very good advice. You need to do more than just show up, you need to talk to him, congratulate him and tell him how proud you are. As bad as your divorce might have been, I don't think your ex will try and prevent you from doing that.

Exactly my thoughts! She should encourage me to do all those things rather than cowering away in some corner somewhere trying to hide! My ex is a control freak...why should I give her all the power and control over my actions!

Makes me feel like running on the stage naked!

[Cavalier Retired Super Moderator Member of the Month Feb 2015PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Cavalier]

Makes me feel like running on the stage naked!

On second thought, maybe you shouldn't go for your son's sake.

[jockinthebox Retired Moderator Member of the Month May 2015PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close jockinthebox]

Hey Tamora, you gettin' him a graduation gift?
....Buy him a 24k GOLD COCK RING and tell him about PE GYM! Put some "BLING" on his THING!
He'll think of his "old man" every time he wears it!.....Oh, wait, maybe that's not such a good idea...if you ever want to be a grandfather!

[islander Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close islander]

I would say go. But I do have to say my truth. My divorce was horrible for my ex. Our son graduated a few years later. The ceremony was perfect. Everyone behaved. The mistake was dining together as a family after. It turned out to be a horror with chairs flying and my son will forever remember it that way. So whatever you do, if you two parents are really not cool don't try to go out after as a family. You are not a family anymore. It's your sons day. Take him out another time if he reaches out. If he doesn't now he will one day. And he will remember you are bad ass and went alone to see him. Even if he doesn't know you are there. One day he will. It's an ultimate thing for him when he finds out. All kids come around at some point.
Please go. Good luck.

[Pheea Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Pheea]

Hi, congratulations on your sons graduation and his achievements. Throwing in my two cents...You should go. Even if he says it doesnt matter, it will always matter know matter how old he gets. You show up and you take someone with you. But do not take a woman, take a man...a mate/buddy. Someone you can trust not to start anything who keeps a clear head. Someone to give you that steady hand on your shoulder to keep you calm. Someone whom you have talked to about your son and how proud you are of him. A man (not a woman because this will only po the ex and daughter) who can echo your sentiments to your son about how you always talk about him and how proud you are of him. This will mean alot to your son, who is a man like you.

When the event is over you and your male friend extend an invitation for some male time in honor of his graduation (no strip clubs)...trust me this man (your son will) will never forget it.

Again, great job (because all though you may not have been there within the household all the time you contributed) for the contribution on making sure your son could achieve his goals. You will regret this if you do not go. Do not give him nor anyone else the opportunity to say you did not show up. Show up. Look good, smell good, feel good about your son, take pictures and enjoy the day.