Why are you here?

[Traceur77 Member Find all posts View Profile Close Traceur77]

I understand that I'm new here, and it despite honestly being in a less-than-great mindset at present, I have this nagging question - why are women on this forum? I'm not wishing to be disrespectful, but I suffering a major cognitive disconnect on the issue. This is quite literally the one place that a woman (outside of a urologist or a sex worker) would be unable to offer something beyond general insight and sideline support.

Firstly, I'm not saying we shouldn't have women here. I've spent a sizeable portion of my life (basically up until the last six months) advocating the issue of gender imbalance. It's a thing, a real issue, and as someone who has colleagues making sexist comments on a daily basis, I've gotten myself something of a reputation as someone to curb your 'women-bashing' around. I earnestly believe that woman can do anything a guy can do (even pee standing up if she wants to), but penis improvement? This is one race most women don't have a horse in. Sure, there are size queens (who I'm guessing go somewhere else for their fix), and I'm hoping that the female members here want nothing but the best for the members of this site that the work actually benefits, so what am I missing? What is it that has brought you to here? I don't want any woman to see my penis unless she's actually going to do something with it, and as a straight male, I'm more comfortable with a gay guy seeing my junk (whether he likes it or nor) than I am with any woman seeing it. I have no intention of sending any of you my progress pictures (paltry as they may be), but I'm not entirely sure how I feel about anything I post being viewed by a woman.

This is an abrupt line of questioning, and I'm fully expecting a lot of negative feedback from members (of all genders and persuasions), but this is something my mind can't understand. I'm not asking for woman not give their input, or to ignore me necessarily (I get that in the real world - online at least I have passable sentence structure working for), but what is it that I'm not seeing?

Thank you in advance, and again, not wishing to start a flame war. If you REALLY need to berate me, you have my permission to do so by private message or start a 'Why We Hate Traceur' thread.

[TeoDeles Senior Member Member of the Month July 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close TeoDeles]

Women are EVERYWARE! LoL

[Traceur77 Member Find all posts View Profile Close Traceur77]

Hehehe... You know what, I'm glad they are - as a straight male I'd much prefer a woman's perspective in just about everything. This is probably the one thing I just can't understand why.

[closed251 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close closed251]

I joined to try a resolve a sex issue me and husband was having after the birth of our first son.

He is a super private person and would never of forgiven me if I had told friends or family.

Then I just started liking the members and I'm still here a couple of years later.

[BigRooster Senior Member Member of the Month Apr 2018PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close BigRooster]

Off the top of my head I can only think of three women, who have been active as of late. Tara, KMWylie, Mrs.L4M and ZZwoman. We used to have a lot more on here giving their input. In my honest opinion. I think they left because they grew tired of some of us hardlegs not really paying attention. To what turns them on and what makes a man attractive.

It's not just about a big pecker. Some of us just can't seem to grasp that

[Traceur77 Member Find all posts View Profile Close Traceur77]

Okay, so there aren't as many women here as I was fearing (at least those who make themselves public). Yes, fear, because in my extensive experience penis size is an area I've found women lie. I've been naked with 5 women (a paltry number, granted):

- one just didn't want me, despite saying she did (she was having sex with other people, but just didn't want me in her)

- two have said post-break-up that they were with guys that were bigger, the implication being that they liked bigger guys

- two have said that there is nothing wrong with my size, which is nice in the sense they didn't lie to me about being 'great' or 'awesome' or whatever

Based off those numbers alone, there is clearly something wrong with me - and before someone says there's something wrong with the women I get involved with, these ARE the women I get involved with; the rest of the gender doesn't consider me a sexual being, which is it's own sort of pain. None of the women I've been with are exactly what I would choose to pursue, but given the amount of rejection I experienced, I stopped pursuing. Why bother? Women will just say 'no', and I know exactly what that sounds like.

Off the top of my head I can only think of three women, who have been active as of late. Tara, KMWylie, Mrs.L4M and ZZwoman. We used to have a lot more on here giving their input. In my honest opinion. I think they left because they grew tired of some of us hardlegs not really paying attention. To what turns them on and what makes a man attractive.

It's not just about a big pecker. Some of us just can't seem to grasp that

Do I understand that a big penis is not the magic cure-all with women? Absolutely. Do I think that modern society has gotten overly-excited (pun intended) about guys with big members? Yes. However, if it's not about having a big penis, then what is it? Is every woman who has ever said "You're a great guy, Traceur." or lines to that effect, but never done anything about it full of shit too? "I don't care about a guy's looks or money" yet going for the wealthy prettyboy either says she's deluding or self or I'm such a poor excuse manhood as to not even appear on her radar. Yes, women, are all different, but there is pretty strong evidence to suggest that I'm the guy they only consider when they hit rock-bottom.

So while it's not all about the big cock, or even mostly about the big cock, I'm not the sort of guy that can stand to have that as deficiency in my life. I think I'd be happier with a woman rejecting me because I was too big rather than not being big enough.

[hm42 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close hm42]

I joined to try a resolve a sex issue me and husband was having after the birth of our first son.

He is a super private person and would never of forgiven me if I had told friends or family.

Then I just started liking the members and I'm still here a couple of years later.

And we thank you and we like you as well

[TheZZMan Moderator Member of the Month Sept 2018PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZMan]

So...What is your question for the forums, female or not?

My wife was active because she saw a disconnect between reality and perception. So she chimed in where appropriate to try to tell some truths. Many rejected her direction based on young girls actions. But truth be said, the general consensus among female members is that size doesn't matter. The person and the connection matters for long term relationships.

[Traceur77 Member Find all posts View Profile Close Traceur77]

So...What is your question for the forums, female or not?

My questions regarding other issues around my PE are addressed in other places. The question for this specific section of the forum is pretty much in the title - I am suffering a pretty major disconnect on why a woman would come to site about guys improving their junk. They say that size doesn't matter? To them, sure, but the likelihood of them having anything to do with my business is inconsequentially small as to not worth considering. They want us to learn about 'other things'? Like the clitoris and the G-spot (I won't even dream of having a woman who wants me in her behind)? Yeah, found them all, multiple times, and it still counts for shit. They want to encourage me to 'be the best me'? After decades of rejection and being ignored, it had better be some pretty awesome koans they start dropping to counteract reality.

Do I hold the women who are present here responsible for the pain that hundreds of other women have made me feel? No, just in the same way I don't hold the men here responsible for the beatings and bullying and humiliation that other men have inflicted upon me. I am just going to be very cautious in this regard - frankly I expect male mockery here, but female notice is a bridge my Aspie brain just can't build.

My wife was active because she saw a disconnect between reality and perception. So she chimed in where appropriate to try to tell some truths. Many rejected her direction based on young girls actions. But truth be said, the general consensus among female members is that size doesn't matter. The person and the connection matters for long term relationships.

It's nice that she was offering input, but as you point out, the actions of young women (and fuck it, older women too) have soured things for a lot of guys. Their consensus is great, but the simple fact of the matter is, none of them will be seeing my junk outside of progress photos (if they go that route). The 'truths' she introduced could easily be countered with the 'truths' of my reality, so I'll avoid the whole semantic argument before it begins.

As for 'person and connection' - they all leave me for someone else, so, penis size or not, I'm clearly a shitty guys to be with, commitment, hard work and focusing on them be damned.

I'm here so that, if I ever end up with a woman who wants me, at least she'll not say I wasn't big enough. I was honestly hoping for, excuse the phrasing, a 'safe space' where I wouldn't have a woman's eye cast over me (as opposed to the rest of my life where I'm invisible) - shit from guys here is to be expected.

[closed251 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close closed251]

Confidence/self-esteem is key I would say. You have probably felt rejection before the person has even seen your penis.

The guy who sees himself as good looking or wealthy or big between the legs will feel more confident and women pick up on this. The way someone carries themself, projects there image to the outside world.

Now personally I would say the attention a man provides to me in the bedroom is the most important aspect. Other women have said hardness is key. I would say very few would ever say size. However if getting a bigger dick is going to make you feel more self assured then you should work at doing it.

[closed251 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close closed251]

I replied before reading the above.

I can promise you I have never looked a guy's pictures unless they have pm me and asked me to.

I like being here as men are honest with me as they have nothing to lose. Most the women that do post are usually only ever seen in the gym, relationship and women's boards. I know I don't look elsewhere unless asked to do so.

[Traceur77 Member Find all posts View Profile Close Traceur77]

Confidence/self-esteem is key I would say. You have probably felt rejection before the person has even seen your penis.

Self-esteem? Wasn't that a P&O ship that went to India and back prior to World War One? Yes, no confidence is a part of the issue, and yes, constant rejection stopped me from making an effort in trying to approach women - anything that has happened occurred through dumb luck and women initiating with me. Would I have approached them? No, but then I wouldn't have approached any woman.

The guy who sees himself as good looking or wealthy or big between the legs will feel more confident and women pick up on this. The way someone carries themself, projects there image to the outside world.

Yes, and where exactly do I buy this confidence thing? Gym-work? Yeah, not happening? Success with women or in life? Nope. Honestly, I'm at a point where hypnosis is what I'm considering most at this point, and given the financial outlay (less than $500) could be good value for money.

Now personally I would say the attention a man provides to me in the bedroom is the most important aspect. Other women have said hardness is key. I would say very few would ever say size. However if getting a bigger dick is going to make you feel more self assured then you should work at doing it.

Thing is, I always do pay attention, so much so that my enjoying myself is immaterial - mostly because I usually don't. Most women wouldn't say size is an issue, but in my case, they do.

I can promise you I have never looked a guy's pictures unless they have pm me and asked me to.

Well, that's a relief. I think we can establish now you'll probably not get that request from me.

I like being here as men are honest with me as they have nothing to lose. Most the women that do post are usually only ever seen in the gym, relationship and women's boards. I know I don't look elsewhere unless asked to do so.

I certainly had no intention of not being honest with anyone here. I have to lie and hold my tongue for much of my life, so the internet is one place where I'm not going to. I'll be certain to note the first two areas (although I'm much more concerned with actually attracting the woman than seeing where things go long-term).

Thank you for not getting butthurt by my getting butthurt.

[closed259 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close closed259]

Confidence/self-esteem is key I would say.

However if getting a bigger dick is going to make you feel more self assured then you should work at doing it.

Hello Tara, and thank you very much for your helpful posts. I'm sorry for abbreviating your post, but I thought these two statements resonated with me. Like many men here, I am on a quest for increased confidence, although I have to admit to the not-so-subconscious desire to impress a future sexual partner with a sizeable cock (aren't we all?, lol!). In truth, the gains in size might convince me that I now possess everything I need to sexually satisfy a woman. But of course, size isn't everything.

Back to PE: yes women on the board have repeatedly said time and again that size doesn't matter. So the takeaway here is to not PE for the sake of size alone. I decide to PE to become more confident, and learn to establish a rapport with women that is conducive to intimacy. The side benefits of a healthier and bigger cock happen to be wonderful (and very welcome) bonuses, imo!! ☺️

[miaclockman Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close miaclockman]

I would venture to say that any women who are members are probably interested in either helping to get answers for their partners OR they are trying to understand possible problems that their partners are having. I know that you said that women don't have much to offer for advice with a strictly male physiology issue, but think of it this way - there are going to be men out there who are uncomfortable sharing their feelings or details of what's happening with their partners. Forums like this one are helpful to offer a safe place for men to share information, suggestions, problems, etc. AND, in reading the posts, a woman may have a much better idea of what her partner is dealing with. Let's face it - each gender has its own set of emotional and psychological hang-ups. These forums offer a way to understand ourselves and others. I hope this somewhat answers your question.

[not a digbick Member Find all posts View Profile Close not a digbick]

cos i want a dig bick