Why are you here?

[closed251 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close closed251]

And the Muslim community.

@Party: I believe circumcision is still widely practiced in the US is it not?

I didn't know the Muslim community did it too, how have I missed that!?

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What about the loss of sensitivity with having the gland exposed? And would it not get drier? There's a reason mother nature gave a foreskin.

The foreskin contains nerves, and if you roll it back and forth, it stimulates the frenulum which is kinda fun, well I like doing it and its good to use your tongue on and gently nibble during oral sex.

I think talk to women if there funny about foreskins, there natural and if they are still off with you then say something shocking back to show them how stupid they are being like "have you not had FGM, come on, it just looks better...?"

Of course your married, so I take it your wife is okay with it?

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I didn't know the Muslim community did it too, how have I missed that!?

I was living among Muslims in my teens when I was most strongly considering it, not because of any pressure anyone there was placing on me (they were all very much about it being my choice), but because of what I'd already grown up hearing in Australia (and no, it wasn't porn - I mean, there was porn, but that wasn't influencing my decision either way)

What about the loss of sensitivity with having the gland exposed? And would it not get drier? There's a reason mother nature gave a foreskin.

Sensitivity is a very hit-and-miss thing for me - most of the time, sex isn't enjoyable (in the sense that I don't ejaculate/orgasm/whatever), and the times when the head has become exposed I have to wonder why. Something that sensitive exposed to air/cotton/whatever, (because after the head comes out, and I'm done, I'm of no use to anybody until I somehow finagle it back in the wrapper.

The foreskin contains nerves, and if you roll it back and forth, it stimulates the frenulum which is kinda fun, well I like doing it and its good to use your tongue on and gently nibble during oral sex.

I'll take you word for it. I've never been with women who like to do that - at least with me - with any great regularity. Yes, even the wife.

I think talk to women if there funny about foreskins, there natural and if they are still off with you then say something shocking back to show them how stupid they are being like "have you not had FGM, come on, it just looks better...?"

As I said over on the foreskin section, I think FGM is abhorrent and those who inflict it on other need serious jail time with corporal punishment. But, at the risk of having a point on gender equality I don't agree with, I'm quite okay with guys getting the snip, and, as I've said repeatedly, feel like it was the wrong choice for my parents to make. One of the hurdles I need to leap, I guess...

That, or start sleeping with European women.

Of course your married, so I take it your wife is okay with it?

I think she'd just want me to be happy. We're currently sorting out whether we'll still remain married, and there hasn't been any intimacy between us for years. I mentioned this discussion in passing, and, like most of you, she was making a somewhat in-favour argument. I revealed how it was high school crushes (and their preferences), along with the quote I gave elsewhere about Australian women, that stick with me. I'm not in Europe, so I don't get to 'enjoy' their enlightened attitudes. I'm an antipodean who aside from one American has only been with Australians.

What other parents choose to do is fine with me either way. If a man wants to go through the laborious task of getting it re-attached, more power to him. I'm not saying I will get mine removed, but I am saying that having a foreskin is probably one of (many) factors that has affected my sexual confidence.

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Divider, you've written some great responses, to which I will respond - maybe here if the community can handle it, or in private if they can't.

However, I want to get up early and go to the gym tomorrow.

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I repeat the circ rate in qld is 20% this issue is in your head like your other issues .. I suggest a therapist.

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I repeat the circ rate in qld is 20% this issue is in your head like your other issues .. I suggest a therapist.

The current rate.

(I was going to make some pithy remark here but thought better of it)

As for it being in my head (or my 'head'), of that I have no doubt. I've made an appointment to deal with this (and other things)

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So we ask, despite the fact that you already asked, why are YOU here? You seem to want to stir the pudding and disregard advise given. But what do you want to get from the forums in general. Is there something that would change you from who you are to someone else just by a post in your thread? It is always important to open up about yourself and let everyone know where you are before criticizing others comments regarding relationships. Many of us have more years in relationships than you have thinking about relationships. We may be able to give some insight.

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Gee, four and a half lines that sunk my proverbial battleship. No, that's a good thing, really.

So we ask, despite the fact that you already asked, why are YOU here?

As the new guy, that's a fair question to have asked, especially given the amount of proverbial I've been stirring in the few days I've been here. I've had the page bookmarked for months but had neglected to actually explore the forums until I joined. At the heart of it, my primary motivation for joining is the most obvious one, the one in my signature - bigger penis, please. I'd heard arguments from women that penis size doesn't matter. Then again, I've also heard a lot of arguments that bigger is better. I started sex late for a guy of my time and country (19), especially given I wasn't 'saving myself' for anyone beyond a girlfriend...

...and it occurs to me (just now as I write this in fact) that my first time was essentially a hook-up of sorts (a pity-fuck, actually). Ugh! That band-aid's left a mark.

... Okay, back to my reason. After my first 'girlfriend' left, and her mentioning that her new guy was bigger, my mind took the hit of 'having a small penis'. Women have said that there's nothing wrong with it, but then again, many women also say there's nothing wrong with me, yet they don't seem in the least bit inclined to date (or sleep) with me. My thinking was that, if I were big, really big, if a girl knocked me back, she'd end up telling her friends and there would be enough who were curious to find out. I'm not handsome, or tall, or physically ripped, but it occurred to me just today that none of those things are issues for other men (or if they are, they deal with them), but there's clearly something I'm missing. I'll admit to having issues with erections at present (after years of porn use, and maybe age, who knows), which is something I'm, slowly, dealing with here, but I'm not so blind as to not see what I need to work with is clearly confidence-based, like a number of guys here.

So, why am I here? To be the best me, confident enough that my penis isn't just something I don't have issues with, but something I'm proud of.

I think that'll be a bigger area of growth than any physical gains I may make. Is that a reason for me to be here, or should I try somewhere else?

You seem to want to stir the pudding and disregard advise given. But what do you want to get from the forums in general.

See above; to be the best, most confident me. Maybe less of a douche on forums, especially when I get angry - I admit to being particularly angry and dejected at present, as I've gone 100 days without masturbating (or ejaculating at all), and some of the claimed 'benefits' (increased confidence and attraction of females) are completely absent. Not jerking off hasn't helped. Maybe improving my relationship with my dong will.

Is there something that would change you from who you are to someone else just by a post in your thread?

I live in hope - which is a strange thing because, I am cautious about hope. I've noted peoples times for gains, and I'm not giving myself those numbers to aim for. As I've said on my introduction, I'm giving myself until October next year to make gains. What sort of gains? I don't know - just bigger. I do not believe I'll ever be porn-worthy, but maybe someone drops a pearl that makes a dent in decades of messages I've received that my penis is okay, and that women are okay with it.

It is always important to open up about yourself and let everyone know where you are before criticizing others comments regarding relationships.

I've tried to be honest, and I'll continue to be honest with members. That also means being honest with myself. If you ask a question, I'll answer it as best I can. If I discover something along the way (as I've done above, with my first 'relationship'), I'll have to be clear with that too.

Many of us have more years in relationships than you have thinking about relationships. We may be able to give some insight.

Insight is appreciated, but, as has developed in my thread regarding foreskins, it would seem that I may have a problem in that regard. I know I've had problems in my past (and current) relationships, and it's hard to not just see that as the common factor in those situations, I'm dejected when it comes to having anything to romantic/intimate to do with women.

Thank you.

[closed251 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close closed251]

I would say you are here because you crave attention. Positive or negative, men or women, your not bothered.

I think you feel loney inside. Well youll always find lovely people here to share your thoughts and opinions with.

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I should add i dont think you value any of our opinions or experiences above your. That's why i feel your only here for attention.

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I would say you are here because you crave attention. Positive or negative, men or women, your not bothered.

Here specifically for that reason? No. Do I crave attention? I'm sure I'd try and make all sorts of arguments that I didn't and would make active attempts to hide myself and my identity (my name here isn't even one of the ones I usually use whilst I'm online). But, like any guy on a penis improvement forum, I want the work I put into improving my junk to be admired by others (in my case, women) - yes, I know that for most women, size doesn't matter, but between those to whom it does matter and are vocal about it, women I've been with who've said their 'new guy is bigger', and heck, let's put porn in the mix, it's difficult for a guy to not to take a hit to his confidence, particularly when he doesn't see himself meeting other criteria, and ending up 'settling' as a result.

Is it unfair to say I've 'settled' with the women I've been involved with? To the women, yes. But, I stopped bothered trying decades ago because my failure rate was so high that I didn't wish to risk what little confidence I had.

I think you feel loney inside. Well youll always find lovely people here to share your thoughts and opinions with.

I've gotten that impression. Sorry, again, for being an ornery bastard.

I should add i dont think you value any of our opinions or experiences above your.

It's not that I don't value them, but as a cerebral guy, I've heard a lot of arguments over a lot of years, and what few got past my inner critic usually don't last beyond a less-than-stellar interaction with a woman or a cutting remark, meant in nothing more than jest, from a loved one.

That's why i feel your only here for attention.

As above, no, I'm here for a better cock, and ideally, a better me. It may sound shallow and horribly outcome-dependent, but my yardstick for success is my success with women. People want what they can't have, and that's what I've craved since the onset of puberty at 10. I want women to notice me (in a positive way), to want to be around me, to want to be with me, to want me. I'm sure there's some sort of psychological issues at play, or the fact that my mother stopped breastfeeding me at six weeks or something, but, it's my thing. People talk about a life purpose - I don't think that is mine, but it is how I gauge success, rather than money or power.

I'm sorry that I've come off as someone just seeking attention - I joined the forums when I was in a particularly unpleasant state of mind over lack of success in another endeavour I'm undergoing. When I found a whole sub-forum dedicated to a Women's Perspective, despite being able to see the benefit of it objectively, 'subjective' me chimed in with my fears - women's perspective had resulted in me being largely ignored, cheated on, used as an 'emotional' boyfriend while she had sex elsewhere and... yeah, you get the idea.

VERY much a work in progress.

Thank you

[closed251 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close closed251]

I wasn't having a go, there nothing wrong with seek attention, humans after all are pack creatures.

I would just answering Zzman's question of why you were here from the few posts ive read from you.

Some people here really want to help others, some share their experiences, some vent their anger at the opposite sex for being hurt or rejected. I know you have been hurt by past women's comments and are rather jaded but i dont think thats why your here.

I was just giving my first impression xo

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I wasn't having a go, there nothing wrong with seek attention, humans after all are pack creatures.

As much as I'd rather just spend my days wandering the Outback by myself, I have to say the desire to couple and copulate is probably stronger than that.

I would just answering Zzman's question of why you were here from the few posts ive read from you.

It's okay. The questions asked of me here have forced me to ask tough questions of myself (for instance, I didn't even know about phimosis) and while I may not like all the answers I'm getting, they're answers I probably need.

Some people here really want to help others, some share their experiences, some vent their anger at the opposite sex for being hurt or rejected. I know you have been hurt by past women's comments and are rather jaded but i dont think thats why your here.

I don't think being here would change what they said, or my perspective on them. I don't blame all women for being rejected (at least not any more), although I am cautious when it comes to dealing with women, and hey, a forum about penis enhancement isn't exactly the sort of place one expects to have women, so a 'shortcoming' is something I'm careful discussing with women, although it'll be something I need to tackle at some point.

I was just giving my first impression xo

Thank you.

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I'm here for a bigger D and rebuild my confidence in myself and in the bedroom. To learn how to better please a women and to become an amazing attentive lover. Also to help other men who have suffered the ex partner being bigger situations that come in the future

[Norwaydude Senior Member Member of the Month Oct. 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close Norwaydude]

Im here cause of the old Ğex had a bigger dick Syndromeğ given up on that issue since then (there will always be bigger exes and a futile to fight it) Now im doing it only for myself, more comfortable but not as motivating as when i thought i was in a race or something.. lol