Addicted to masturbation

[Shaikh Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Shaikh]

hey guys,

i have read this thread last week and was inspired to join the herd,,
i have been masturbating and watching porn daily which lead to having ED when intimate with girls and also PE sometimes,, i have discovered this forum couple of weeks ago and my initial plan was to start JP90 and get a bigger and healthier penis,, but after roaming around and reading more threads i figured that having the healing period will be very helpful and actually very beneficial in the long term

so here i am now on my 6th day of abstinence from porn and masturbation,,
i also started working out more frequently in the gym cardio and weight training (lost 10kg in the last 2 months) and the plan is to quit smoking starting tomorrow (i am slightly worried about this, and its gonna be a tough one tbh,, honestly i have confused feelings but the good part is that i managed to quit smoking weed for 4 months now after being stoned daily,, so hopefully it will work,, p.s i smoke around 25-30 cigs a day)

it honestly mentally feels good not watching porn and masturbating,, maaaan now when i walk around the street i see girls to look more beautiful (but maybe its too early in the journey but it is true)

i just hope that i continue with this and achieve my overall transformation

[WillyWacker Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close WillyWacker]

If you hammer enough jelqs stretches clamps ect... your unit will be so tired you wont care about wanking bro

[Big Al AdministratorPEGym EditorMale Enhancement Coach Rep.PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Big Al]

I cracked and masturbated 6 times today trying to get a good erection. ive been doing the pelvic floor stuff but im not sure how good im doing. I can do 20 reps and not feel tired at all, im prob doing it wrong. it sounds like you've had improvements so that's a good sign. I havnt seen anything yet. im gonna just take a break from thinking about all this and stop worrying about it. I guess I should do the pelvic floor stuff.

Im not even gonna take a break to fix my e.d, im just tired of hating sex and always worrying, lifes too short. if after a long break were still not having any luck we need to get a Doppler done by a urologist to see whats wrong with us.

good luck buddy. you deserve to heal more than me. I hope you staying positive works out for ya

I hope that you can see the irony on being able to masturbate 6(!) times in one day, while complaining about performance on the other hand.

You have some replies to your posts on other threads of a similar subject. Your input to the forum is greatly appreciated, but please try to consolidate all of your related posts to one thread- it makes it easier to reply to you

[giantsrule Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close giantsrule]

Master are 6 times while not being able to have a solid erection at all and if I stop touching it for a sec it does. I think people really underestimate how bad my problem is. I don't know anyone else on here that has a ps is that dies tthe second they stop touching it. guys complaining about erectile dysfunction on here can usually keep it for 30 sec. I'm almost positive I have venous leak. but like I said if l get that news officially I wouldn't be able to handle it because it would mean ill never be normal and will need a freak implant

[VoodooChild Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close VoodooChild]

giants I really think you might have a lot more mental stuff going than you realize which is making this more difficult to pinpoint the condition of your actual physical state. Think about it like this: somebody who has a healthy penis can literally develop ED just because of something like "anxiety" toward sex (all mental). Now take someone who has had some type of injury who then develops thoughts around that injury and how it's "not working" and you've got a double whammy on your hands (physical injury-->mental worrying-->compounded physical problems-->compounded mental worrying). It basically becomes a negative feedback loop.

So in your case and my case, I truly believe there is a huge mental barrier to overcome first if we are to see results in our functions. I mean, to masturbate while thinking about how poorly your dick is working is obviously nowhere near the amount of enjoyment you get when you are healthy and naturally "in the act" of sex (real or fake). The problem compounds because you are no longer 100% focused on "the act" which means you can't possibly be 100% turned on and "in the zone." This then makes the physical condition seem worse than it actually may be. I've done this for the past 9 years man, to the point it made me question a lot of things about myself and life. I got severely depressed. Masturbation became an anxiety nightmare even though I wouldn't admit it to myself.

THat is where you have to stop thinking you are doomed. It doesn't help and you don't have all the facts man. Go to a urologist if you can afford it. Get the tests even though you're afraid. Stop giving in to the same masturbation habits that are built around "checking." I mean, the literal definition of insanity is to do the same things over and over but expect different results. So, keep trying to abstain and be healthy in other parts of your life. Do everything you can otherwise yea, you're doomed. That's the hard reality of the situation, but honestly I think there is a lot of redeeming hope to the truth of that reality if a person is willing to face it head on. You gotta keep trying! Seriously, don't give up!

Also, just so you know, I've had the issue of not being able to stay hard without stimulation for years! But, with this abstinence thing, I'm slowly noticing improvements. I'm also going to get a doppler just to see what the reality of my physical condition is, just so I know.

[giantsrule Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close giantsrule]

the difference is you have had good erections since the accident even if it is rare you have had it. I have have not had one normal erection since 06. not 1. Even if it was mental I would have 1 normal erection. it's not blood flow because I can get blood to my penis fast it just won't go all the way hard or stay in. that's all venous leak, no cure and no non surgical treatments. and the treatments they do have are garbage.

I can't be a single guy with a broken dick. If I got the news of venous leak I think I would just end it. I'm just being honest and it's easy to say its not the end if the world when you're not in the shoes of someone with this. I can never live a normal life. I'm only 27

If I had one normal erection since 06 I would have hope. But I haven't. I need to be realistic my dick was damaged I kept working it after injury and I permanently damaged the veins and tissue. I can have no sex or be with a girl.

Maybe this is part if gods plan or whatever. My organs can help someone else live

[VoodooChild Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close VoodooChild]

giants, get a doppler test. seriously man. You don't know what is actually going on until you have proof from a urologist. And you don't know what would happen if you let your penis rest for a long period of time. You really don't. You've never tried it. Like you said you "kept working it after injury." 10 days is not enough to know. I'm truly sorry for the way you feel dude...the pain is endless. I'm rooting for you through this man. I really am.

[giantsrule Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close giantsrule]

If I get a doppler test and I fail that's means there is no hope. I know I wont come back from that. Would you think there was hope if you could never get or keep a normal erection for 7 years? I guess I have to at least now but if I fail I hope everyone can understand what I do next. I'm gonna see a therapist this week and tell them the same thing.

I'm not gonna make it man. I can tell yours isn't that bad though. you've gotten hard and kept it a couple times and Viagra cured it. That means no venous leak. I couldn't even get a solid erection with cialis. I always had hope it could change but I see now it won't. I haven't even left my bed for 2 days.

Taking a break won't fix me. the damage is done. 10 days didn't do even a little improvement. Nothing

[VoodooChild Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close VoodooChild]

but you can masturbate giants!!! There is hope in that fact alone. I haven't had or kept a normal erection since I was 13 either. Viagra only made it easier to get more aroused. I didn't have a rock hard though. I have a visible curve in my penis and it hangs down because the whole underside of it won't fill up properly. It's miserable man. Not to mention I haven't had a truly natural/enjoyable ejaculation for years because of my anxiety/ocd built up around my sexuality. It's been a living nightmare.

Have you told anyone you know personally about this? Seriously man, I didn't even begin to heal on any level until I opened up to some very important people in my life about what I was going through. If you are harboring this all on your own, that is more weight than any soul can bear. The internet just isn't enough. It will be emotional as hell to tell someone you really trust, but you have to. It is the only way you are ever going to move forward and free yourself of some of this baggage that you carry around.

I dunno what to say man, I've become personally invested in this now even though I don't know you and it's really hurting to hear you talking like this. You haven't given this enough of a chance and everything you write on here is stemming from deep fear of what's wrong with you. I KNOW THAT FEELING. It's the worst feeling in the world. It eats at you every minute. There is no place to run. And laying in bed has been something I have done more days than I can remember. You have what it takes to beat this though. You really do.

[giantsrule Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close giantsrule]

The only reason I can masturbate is I have bad premature ejaculation so it doesn't take much to pull it off. I pretty much do a hard kegal when I'm already semi hard and I can cum after doing that a couple times if I want.

I've tried to masterbate for a long time by slowing down and stop and start but my erection can't handle it and dies completely after like 10-15min, and when im doing it halfthe time it feeld kind of floppy. I never use lotion or anything either which im sure is bad too. Ive even gotten blister like things on the back of my dick a couple times. Even when it worked fine I still prematurely ejeculated, but I didn't try not to either.

No I haven't told anyone about how serious it is. I told my dad when I went to the urologist and everything but I think he just thinks it was in my head and went away since I haven't brought it up since. That was about 3 years ago. That's why I'm gonna see a therapist this week. I'm lucky that my dad being who he is has people who can set something like that up fast with someone who is supposed to be good but I think all therapists suck. Counting to 10 and breathing won't make my dick work.

If I went to the urologist and got news it wasn't venous leak that would be big but if I do have it that's gonna tip me over the edge.

How long a break do you think I need? What is everything you think I need to do? I did kegals in bed because I was bored and I haven't done anything today and honestly am to depressed to do it anyways.

I used to be angry about all if this. seeing a happy couple made me want to punch them. now I just don't even care enough to eat.

I don't think this expensive ass hair treatment is working either. ill be bald and have a broken dick.

[VoodooChild Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close VoodooChild]

giants, clearly you have been overusing it man. That honestly sounds like what is happening more than anything. Any guy who overuses their dick for years on end is going to have terrible erections. Seriously man, that part of it is only a natural reaction of the body. You're extremely desensitized. It's just like overworking muscles in the gym. You would think, the harder the workout the better the gains...but there is a certain threshold that can be crossed where the amount of recovery time needed actually trumps the gains because it takes too long before you can hit the gym again.

That being said, I can't give you an exact amount of time that you need to let it rest, but 10 days is like a drop in the bucket. You should be proud you got that far, but you should also realize that it's going to take a lot more than that. Like I said, I'm exactly 4 weeks in now, and my improvements are small, but they are there nonetheless. At this point, I'm measuring progress in months. People do the same kind of thing at the gym. Yea 10 days and you might look more pumped up at the gym, but give it a month, then 3 months, then six months, and boom, the muscles are actually noticeably bigger. So you have to be patient with yourself and I guarantee you will get to a point where you are noticing changes, and at that point you'll be pumped to keep going and do even more.

Like I said, these are the things that appear to be the best possible solutions for a broken dick:

-abstinence from porn/masturbation (for at least 90 days and then possibly longer...but perhaps at that point it could turn into something like masturbate once a week...once I get to that point I am going to evaluate the effects of masturbating and decide upon how much is actually okay for me. I'm sure everyone is different. Really though, I'm doing this so I can have a healthy sex life with a real girl. Masturbation at the end of all this is not my goal.)
-healthy diet (there are certain foods and spices too that are good like cayenne pepper, dark chocolate, ginger, garlic, green tea)
-regular exercise of some kind (gym, running, biking, swimming, sports, etc)...this helps release the endorphins that sex normally gets out
-supplements like l-arg, co-q10, green tea caps, garlic caps, ginseng, ginko biloba, ginger caps, multi-vit, vit E
-meditation which helps calm the mind
-stretching, foam rolling, and yoga which can all help loosen up the body and get blood flowing more freely. There are even particular stretches that are good for stretching the pelvic muscles (CPPS Stretches - Chronic Pelvic Pain Syndrome (CPPS) Stretches). This can help alongside doing the kegal exercises.
-MinuteMan's pelvic floor routine for balance (kegal exercises)
-journaling can also be a helpful tool when you just need to release a lot of built up thoughts.

You have to realize that what you have gotten yourself into did not happen overnight...even though in both our cases that's what it seems like (we had injuries which greatly changed our performance but it has been the constant use from there on that has gotten us into the deeper mess that we are in).

Once you accept that, you can understand how the solution is also not going to happen overnight. It's going to be a slow and steady path of reversing all the damage that has been done. You will be a transformed human being after going through this man. I'm definitely feeling different than a month ago. I'm not healed, but I feel more centered/okay with things than I ever have.

The anger that you feel is only natural. I've harbored anger for many years and still find it rising up in me sometimes. Just go running or biking or something. You gotta channel that energy into something that is actually going to help you.

[VoodooChild Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close VoodooChild]

I will say too, the amount of "healthy" things that need to be done can be a total overload on the mind. Take it a step at a time. First start by committing to abstinence, exercise/stretching, and a kegal routine. Then after getting good at that, begin to see how you could work in the healthy diet and supplements. Try to work a system out for yourself that is approachable an not overwhelming. Anything at this point is better than nothing. So make small accomplishments first and be proud of those. They are actually the very foundation for a huge accomplishment like healing this wretched condition. One day at a time man.

[asian_man Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close asian_man]

...I'm almost positive I have venous leak....

you don't know 100%. you haven't been checked other than blood work. and you're not a dr.

[asian_man Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close asian_man]

That's why I'm gonna see a therapist this week. I'm lucky that my dad being who he is has people who can set something like that up fast with someone who is supposed to be good but I think all therapists suck. Counting to 10 and breathing won't make my dick work.
.

all therapists or psychologist suck? really? there are ratings for psychologists on md websites and you can do the research and find some of the top rated ones in your area. don't be so ignorant.
second, you will never be helped if you already think a therapist sucks and can't help you.
i work in the field.

[giantsrule Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close giantsrule]

giants, clearly you have been overusing it man. That honestly sounds like what is happening more than anything. Any guy who overuses their dick for years on end is going to have terrible erections. Seriously man, that part of it is only a natural reaction of the body. You're extremely desensitized. It's just like overworking muscles in the gym. You would think, the harder the workout the better the gains...but there is a certain threshold that can be crossed where the amount of recovery time needed actually trumps the gains because it takes too long before you can hit the gym again.

That being said, I can't give you an exact amount of time that you need to let it rest, but 10 days is like a drop in the bucket. You should be proud you got that far, but you should also realize that it's going to take a lot more than that. Like I said, I'm exactly 4 weeks in now, and my improvements are small, but they are there nonetheless. At this point, I'm measuring progress in months. People do the same kind of thing at the gym. Yea 10 days and you might look more pumped up at the gym, but give it a month, then 3 months, then six months, and boom, the muscles are actually noticeably bigger. So you have to be patient with yourself and I guarantee you will get to a point where you are noticing changes, and at that point you'll be pumped to keep going and do even more.

Like I said, these are the things that appear to be the best possible solutions for a broken dick:

-abstinence from porn/masturbation (for at least 90 days and then possibly longer...but perhaps at that point it could turn into something like masturbate once a week...once I get to that point I am going to evaluate the effects of masturbating and decide upon how much is actually okay for me. I'm sure everyone is different. Really though, I'm doing this so I can have a healthy sex life with a real girl. Masturbation at the end of all this is not my goal.)
-healthy diet (there are certain foods and spices too that are good like cayenne pepper, dark chocolate, ginger, garlic, green tea)
-regular exercise of some kind (gym, running, biking, swimming, sports, etc)...this helps release the endorphins that sex normally gets out
-supplements like l-arg, co-q10, green tea caps, garlic caps, ginseng, ginko biloba, ginger caps, multi-vit, vit E
-meditation which helps calm the mind
-stretching, foam rolling, and yoga which can all help loosen up the body and get blood flowing more freely. There are even particular stretches that are good for stretching the pelvic muscles (CPPS Stretches - Chronic Pelvic Pain Syndrome (CPPS) Stretches). This can help alongside doing the kegal exercises.
-MinuteMan's pelvic floor routine for balance (kegal exercises)
-journaling can also be a helpful tool when you just need to release a lot of built up thoughts.

You have to realize that what you have gotten yourself into did not happen overnight...even though in both our cases that's what it seems like (we had injuries which greatly changed our performance but it has been the constant use from there on that has gotten us into the deeper mess that we are in).

Once you accept that, you can understand how the solution is also not going to happen overnight. It's going to be a slow and steady path of reversing all the damage that has been done. You will be a transformed human being after going through this man. I'm definitely feeling different than a month ago. I'm not healed, but I feel more centered/okay with things than I ever have.

The anger that you feel is only natural. I've harbored anger for many years and still find it rising up in me sometimes. Just go running or biking or something. You gotta channel that energy into something that is actually going to help you.

What made you pic those supplants? Are they the best you could find for healing the penis?

Do you know anything about saw palmetto I'm taking a lot for my hair. hopefully that's not bad for it