ByggD's Guide to Controlling Your Ejaculation Response

[frank21 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close frank21]

Hey ByggD,
I want to try your routine, but I have a girlfriend and we are very sexually active. Will doing your routine say early in the day and then having sex with my girlfriend at night affect results or should I abstain from sex (this is the hard part for me and her).

[ByggD Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close ByggD]

Hey ByggD,
I want to try your routine, but I have a girlfriend and we are very sexually active. Will doing your routine say early in the day and then having sex with my girlfriend at night affect results or should I abstain from sex (this is the hard part for me and her).

No, no i do not, will not ever, discourage you from having sex with your girlfriend. Instead, have a candid conversation with her.

I have done something like this in the past:

{Name} You are amazing, you know that? (kisses forehead). But hey, listen. I have some big goals, and we both know that sex is important to our relationship. Here is what I was thinking. I want to be able to last as long as I want to in bed. Not just because it feels so good, but because I want to please you for a long time. So, I am practicing techniques that will help me last longer; will you help?

I am supremely confident that if a woman heard that she would say, "Where in the f*ck do I sign up?" Haha <-- unashamed that I laughed at my own joke.

Seriously though, don't abstain from sex. When I haven't had sex for a long time, I generally do this:

Have her start with a blowjob. If it gets to sensitive, I move and get on top of her, then just tease, lick, and finger. Then, maybe 5-10 minutes later, I turn to 69 or something. If I still can't last I say, "okay, I want you bad!"

Then I move to a position where I will have control. Doggy, missionary, lazy doggy, whatever. I start with slow strokes and I really focus on her facial expressions and kissing her. In my mind, I will literally think, "I am in complete control." As my confidence builds, I change positions and let her be in control. At that point, I have no problem lasting as long as I want.

Hopefully that is helpful!

The biggest thing to take out of that is to get your girl in on the fun; I mean, seriously, that would be fun!

[mr.arambach Member Find all posts View Profile Close mr.arambach]

U said star with 3 mins on first.but this 3 mins should it be edging without stopping for 3 mins.cuz i reached the ponr so quick.and i had to stop in second minute.plus when i do mid strokes i have iks i try to stop them by holding rk but i feel like i cant breath.any advice plz

[wagwan123 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close wagwan123]

So after having sex with my girl, I came within say 5 minutes. Started off doing missionary where I seemed to have control although not sure if I'm doing my reverse kegels correct as it seemingly pushed me closer to ponr, is it better keeping the whole region relaxed in this case? She got on top reverse cowgirl and damn I blew my load although carried on. Gunna carry on practicing controlling my arousal/ distracting myself/ kegels...anymore advise? to potentially be doing rks wrong or rest the whole region is the question. Cheers x

[MrB8 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close MrB8]

So after having sex with my girl, I came within say 5 minutes. Started off doing missionary where I seemed to have control although not sure if I'm doing my reverse kegels correct as it seemingly pushed me closer to ponr, is it better keeping the whole region relaxed in this case? She got on top reverse cowgirl and damn I blew my load although carried on. Gunna carry on practicing controlling my arousal/ distracting myself/ kegels...anymore advise? to potentially be doing rks wrong or rest the whole region is the question. Cheers x

Keep practicing!

And yes, you should relax your pelvic floor!

[Thedorkykid Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Thedorkykid]

So after having sex with my girl, I came within say 5 minutes. Started off doing missionary where I seemed to have control although not sure if I'm doing my reverse kegels correct as it seemingly pushed me closer to ponr, is it better keeping the whole region relaxed in this case? She got on top reverse cowgirl and damn I blew my load although carried on. Gunna carry on practicing controlling my arousal/ distracting myself/ kegels...anymore advise? to potentially be doing rks wrong or rest the whole region is the question. Cheers x

Try pulling out and rk its way easier that way, I use to have to look away and pull out but it helped me get the hang of it.

[ridefreely Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close ridefreely]

I want to practise edging but i am afraid that it will increase the sensitivity of my dick which is already too sensitive.
any advice on that?

[MrB8 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close MrB8]

I want to practise edging but i am afraid that it will increase the sensitivity of my dick which is already too sensitive.
any advice on that?

Edging will allow you to learn how to control your arousal, and train your brain that it can take more stimulation without immediate release, in other words, you can reverse the effects of poor masturbation habits if you are patient and take your time familiarizing yourself with how you respond to stimulation.

Also balancing your pelvic floor will help you a lot.


Please read the OP.

[Thedorkykid Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Thedorkykid]

Yes edging is never a bad thing if done properly, it does wonders and you should read about I just thought you could edge with your partner just sounds more fun haha

[ridefreely Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close ridefreely]

So i am practicing edging ,kegel with RK.
I want to ask that should i do RK while stroking during edging or sex or i should do rk by taking a break of few sec to get away from PONR.I am confused that when to do it while sex to delay PE.Hope i am clear bros.

[MrB8 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close MrB8]

So i am practicing edging ,kegel with RK.
I want to ask that should i do RK while stroking during edging or sex or i should do rk by taking a break of few sec to get away from PONR.I am confused that when to do it while sex to delay PE.Hope i am clear bros.

Long before the ponr, stop stimulation and perform an RK, and with practice you will be able to do an RK while you are still stimulating your penis or thrusting during intercourse.

[ridefreely Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close ridefreely]

Its hard to breath while rk bcs my abs muscles are contracting.what should i do?

[MrB8 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close MrB8]

Its hard to breath while rk bcs my abs muscles are contracting.what should i do?

Keep training it will come with time, breathing is important, don't hold your breath.

[Letitbe Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Letitbe]

Hi Guys,

Really good thread & thanks for all the great info. I am personally going to be starting this routine from week 1 very shorlty, just a couple of quick questions before i put together my final routine to stick to and hopefully the start to curing my PE ...... Would you add Kegels, Edging & Ballooning into this routine? I have come accross threads for all these 3 things with advice on how long to do them for, how many times a week etc. Would you recommend adding these into the above routine? Apologise for all the questions, just very confusing for a newB & trying to get my head round as much as possible before putting a plan together of what needs to be done and how often it needs to be done.

Any help/advise would be appreciated?

[Akky Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Akky]

hi im trying your ejaculation response guide and i have a few questions

First do you think i should learn the scale more before i really start or do i just learn it as i go along with the steps

second im not used to masterbaiting with lube i normaly just have my foreskin glide over the head so when i used lube it was really overwhelming so can i do smaller increments of time like one minute instead of three?

and why only every three days? why shouldn't i just keep trying every day?

so yeah if you could get back to me when you have the time that would be great.