Edging For Premature Ejaculation

[hoochiNn Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close hoochiNn]

That is the the ik's, an ik isn't just the spasms that lead up to and cause you to ejaculate, they slowly contract throughout. In pre e once they start it's followed almost immediately by ponr, you can't fight it, staying relaxed through the exercises your doing and slowing down will diminish the strength of the contractions and the time it takes before they start happening.

By slowing do you mean the stroking velocity?

[longerlastingnoob Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close longerlastingnoob]

By slowing do you mean the stroking velocity?

Yes or thrusting, and breathing and basically just slowing the whole body down if you need to.

[hoochiNn Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close hoochiNn]

I asked it on my log but I'm gonna put it here aswell:

I have noticed that I my head sometimes goes out of the place, should I try to avoid this and be focused at 100% in sensations and overall edging or it's ok if this happens sometimes? Would I do the same while having sex?

Thanks

[longerlastingnoob Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close longerlastingnoob]

What do you mean goes out of place?

[hoochiNn Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close hoochiNn]

What do you mean goes out of place?

Thinking about day things, tasks or whatever not related with edging

[Minuteman Member of the Month March 2013. Find all posts View Profile Close Minuteman]

I asked it on my log but I'm gonna put it here aswell:

I have noticed that I my head sometimes goes out of the place, should I try to avoid this and be focused at 100% in sensations and overall edging or it's ok if this happens sometimes? Would I do the same while having sex?

Thanks

If it starts getting out of the place you will miss important things, you will also fail to learn how to enjoy the sensations you feel, not to mention the most important thing, being in tune with your body. At the beginning when it comes to edging you should always be fully present, later on you will be able to come back into focus only when you want to move away from PONR but otherwise you wlll just be able to enjoy.

If you manage to get "your head out of place" while having sex, than that is probably and will probably be the most boring sex you had. If you just think about the sensations of another person being there beside you, the person that you also find attractive, it becomes apparent that things like day tasks and other become immaterial.

[Anchorage3 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Anchorage3]

I've been doing this for a few months now and I tend to get very very pleasurable sessions now.

I noticed that my level of control and EQ improved when my pelvic floor was totally relaxed, i.e. no involuntary kegels AND no held reverse kegels.

[longerlastingnoob Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close longerlastingnoob]

I've been doing this for a few months now and I tend to get very very pleasurable sessions now.

I noticed that my level of control and EQ improved when my pelvic floor was totally relaxed, i.e. no involuntary kegels AND no held reverse kegels.

Excellent, did you have pre e or just improving stamina?

[Anchorage3 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Anchorage3]

Excellent, did you have pre e or just improving stamina?

Stamina.

[hoochiNn Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close hoochiNn]

If it starts getting out of the place you will miss important things, you will also fail to learn how to enjoy the sensations you feel, not to mention the most important thing, being in tune with your body. At the beginning when it comes to edging you should always be fully present, later on you will be able to come back into focus only when you want to move away from PONR but otherwise you wlll just be able to enjoy.

If you manage to get "your head out of place" while having sex, than that is probably and will probably be the most boring sex you had. If you just think about the sensations of another person being there beside you, the person that you also find attractive, it becomes apparent that things like day tasks and other become immaterial.

I was using the "focus on the now" while pounding thinking things like: "Okay, I have the control, I can last" trying to slow my arousal and not thinking on how it feels, just figuring how I feel/act/am when I'm completly relaxed and trying to imitate it. Was I wrong?

By the way, after re-reading the first post of the thread I realized that I reached and stayed for a long in the plateau phase in my last edging session.

However, I hate the fact that when transfering this to sex, I only hitted once or twice when I was really drunk, being in completly control feeling that it felt so good and I wasn't going to cum.

[Minuteman Member of the Month March 2013. Find all posts View Profile Close Minuteman]

I was using the "focus on the now" while pounding thinking things like: "Okay, I have the control, I can last" trying to slow my arousal and not thinking on how it feels, just figuring how I feel/act/am when I'm completly relaxed and trying to imitate it. Was I wrong?

By the way, after re-reading the first post of the thread I realized that I reached and stayed for a long in the plateau phase in my last edging session.

However, I hate the fact that when transfering this to sex, I only hitted once or twice when I was really drunk, being in completly control feeling that it felt so good and I wasn't going to cum.

No, that is a good thing to do, later on you will need it less and less as you start focusing on arousal and sensations (and rather than thinking how it feels, feeling how it feels, if that makes any sense).

I think, it will start transferring to sex as you get in more and more longer durations of edging with high arousals and as your orgasms get stronger (and ejaculations) till you reach full body orgasms, this itself will make you more naturally confident and more relaxed. People that are certain and confident are almost always relaxed. But it takes times, so enjoy your progress and you will reach the point there your edging will impact your sex much more.

However, at one point you will simply need more sex (or more precisely getting used to the arousal and presence and sensations of another person) in order to get better, but it is quite easier to do that when you have fully experienced yourself in edging with high arousal for a longer duration of time, than when you don't even know yourself in those situations. Edging is the best technique in my opinion for getting to that point, but edging is not sex, simple as that.

Some might be discouraged by this notion, I am on the other hand encouraged since it will mean that even more pleasure (and new sensations) awaits me down the line, not to mention that I have grew to somewhat like (with a small dose of apprehension ) and appreciate the challenges it will bring.

[phoenix09 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close phoenix09]

Ammonite, this is a great new insight. It has been really helpful for me developing a fantastic middle ground between no pleasure and orgasm. Thank you for this, everyone should read it!!

[eazy8228 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close eazy8228]

Just a quick question. If i use the technique outlined by the original poster. It says to stay away from your sensitive areas at first. I dont understand this. I can stimulate my shaft all day long and and be fine. But the second i get to my sensitive area i ik. But i dont really get them while stroking the shaft. How is this helping if i am not stroking the area that causes the most pleasure and iks?

[winky420 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close winky420]

Is it normal to have good and bad days with edging? Some days I can seemingly go as long as I want with the FL then next day it's back to being less than 10 pumps. Its just really deflating to feel like your making real progress to be back where you started.

[MrB8 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close MrB8]

With time this will improve. I do not recommend doing it everyday or on consecutive days, also it is not good to go for long times without ejaculation.