Edging For Premature Ejaculation

[gettingb Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close gettingb]

So I attempted this a couple of time over the past 2 days. I can notice when the plateau phase is happening as there is a pleasurable tingling, a warming feeling that I used to think was just the start of orgasm. At the moment I either feel a wave of pleasure and then it disappears or it becomes too much and I start to IK and feel like I will cum. But I know the start of it and have managed to stay there for a few seconds. It's going to take a long time but I feel at least now I know what I'm supposed to be doing!.

[eworthi Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close eworthi]

I'm not sure about keeping an erection as that was not one of my issues, mine was reaching PONR too quickly and uncontrollably. I'm not done yet but I've come a long way. I dealt with that by reading as much of this forum as I possibly could and started my routine by fitting in edging sessions when I could. Over a few weeks I went from only a few minutes to over 15 minutes of constant lubricated stimulation. Then I got the fleshlight and started all over again. I can now do 10 minutes in that without stopping. Along with this I did 30 minutes of very slow lubricated stimulation while concentrating on not IK’ING, then I moved on to doing reverse Kegel post urination stretches. I also do Minuteman’s DO Guide routine with deep squats and horse riding stances. ..I also recommend jelqing.
I guess my point is to mix up the routines and keep the body guessing. Take a routine and work it and then move on, then come back to it. In the end I don't expect to know exactly how I cured my PremE, but I'll know I succeeded when I make my wife cum!

Hi,
First of all, sorry for any grammar misspelling, english is not my mother language.
Im new to the forum and i've been reading it a lot for the past month.
i've tried a couple of things but haven't got any results yet.
I know the answer lies in a good edging routine, reverse kegels and good breathing, but
I'm having a really difficult time while trying to edge, due to the fact that i can't keep an erection only by imagination for a long period. I quited porn about 2 months ago and i've been consistently having sex with my gf (without much success).
Could anyone please give me any advice? im desperate, i just want to please my girl the way she deserves it.
feel free to pm me or anything, any help is really appreciated.

[bigbookofpenis Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close bigbookofpenis]

eworthi 10 minutes without stopping in fleshlight is pretty impressive... have you tried if this translates to real sex...?

[eworthi Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close eworthi]

Yes it does translate to sex, but I haven't gotten to test it as often as I like! Seriously though, it does translate but not 1 to 1, I have definitely added several minutes on to sex which used to be almost always less than 1 minute.

eworthi 10 minutes without stopping in fleshlight is pretty impressive... have you tried if this translates to real sex...?

[bigbookofpenis Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close bigbookofpenis]

cool, great to hear that !!!

its been said around this forum that Fleshlight duration doesnt necessary mean exact same time in real sex... its good to hear that it helps though...

[eworthi Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close eworthi]

The first few sessions with the fleshlight I lasted about as long as I did in sex at the time, like less than a minute. But now I'm up to 11 minutes in the fleshlight in missionary position and I'd estimate that I can go 4 to 5 minutes in sex.

[hoochiNn Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close hoochiNn]

I'm still working on perfecting my edging technique. As the stimulation and arousal increases, I feel an incresing tension in my PF. I try to fight and get relax it in a way but it's like a loop that returns all the time. It is similar to the feeling that is going to be an IK.

How can I fix this?

[longerlastingnoob Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close longerlastingnoob]

I'm still working on perfecting my edging technique. As the stimulation and arousal increases, I feel an incresing tension in my PF. I try to fight and get relax it in a way but it's like a loop that returns all the time. It is similar to the feeling that is going to be an IK.

How can I fix this?

That is the the ik's, an ik isn't just the spasms that lead up to and cause you to ejaculate, they slowly contract throughout. In pre e once they start it's followed almost immediately by ponr, you can't fight it, staying relaxed through the exercises your doing and slowing down will diminish the strength of the contractions and the time it takes before they start happening.

[eworthi Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close eworthi]

That is the the ik's, an ik isn't just the spasms that lead up to and cause you to ejaculate, they slowly contract throughout. In pre e once they start it's followed almost immediately by ponr, you can't fight it, staying relaxed through the exercises your doing and slowing down will diminish the strength of the contractions and the time it takes before they start happening.

Yes, I couldn't fight the IK’S once they started either, and one of the ways I got around the IK during fleshlight edging was to recognize the signs of increasing EQ before the IK'S that lead to PONR even start. It took several weeks but I now can identify an increase in EQ and start applying a RK-RRL really early on and if I sustain it for a number of concentrated breaths I can feel a reduction in EQ. I did 17 minutes straight in the fleshlight while in missionary position just this morning, and i stopped without PONR, and just a few months ago I wasn't lasting more than a minute. I can't wait to see how that translates to sex. So keep at it, set small achievable goals to keep your spirits up, and just keep thrusting!

[Anchorage3 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Anchorage3]

Hey.

I've been practising this routine for 2 months now.

I started off with the basic IK control and a reverse kegel routine.

I was wondering if I have experienced the so-called plateau.

For me it's a point where I can keep imagining sexual things and/or edging WHILST deriving pleasure and not feeling the need to cum.

It feels good and warm but I feel in control. I also feel a slight tingling in my head.

I usually get this feeling after 10/15 minutes of gradual edging. I almost never reach PONR during my 20-minute edging sessions and all my releases are controlled.

The way I reach this state is first getting sufficiently aroused to maintain full erection (which can varies in how long it takes), then gradually increasing imagination until I reach an arousal level that I can maintain indefinitely.

Thanks,

A3

[Rational Mind Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Rational Mind]

For those who suffer from PE wouldn't it be better to use a tight grip while stroking slowly? My point here is that we have to get used to the tightness and wetness of a vagina so I think the firm grip as well as the lube should do the trick (patience and practice are also keys, of course). What do you think?

[MrB8 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close MrB8]

For those who suffer from PE wouldn't it be better to use a tight grip while stroking slowly? My point here is that we have to get used to the tightness and wetness of a vagina so I think the firm grip as well as the lube should do the trick (patience and practice are also keys, of course). What do you think?

I recommend against using a tight grip, the vagina is not as tight as your grip, and it is not knuckled, it feels a lot different.

Patience and practice, using lube, balancing your pelvic floor, reducing stress and anxiety, familiarizing yourself with your body's responses to stimulation, knowing and controlling your arousal level, all will help you without side effects!

[Rational Mind Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Rational Mind]

I recommend against using a tight grip, the vagina is not as tight as your grip, and it is not knuckled, it feels a lot different.

Patience and practice, using lube, balancing your pelvic floor, reducing stress and anxiety, familiarizing yourself with your body's responses to stimulation, knowing and controlling your arousal level, all will help you without side effects!

Ok, I see your point. I thought the tighter grip could help resist excessive stimulation (by your partner) and increase stamina as well.

[MrB8 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close MrB8]

Ok, I see your point. I thought the tighter grip could help resist excessive stimulation (by your partner) and increase stamina as well.

If anything it may desensitize you to the real thing, and cause DE (not fun), when having sex, do not focus on having an orgasm, nor on not having one, just pay attention to your partner, and enjoy the mutual pleasure that you are both having, this should take your brain off anxious thoughts and help you last and enjoy longer.

Being with a partner is a lot different than doing it by yourself, you may enjoy driving a car in an RPG game, but it feels a lot different when driving a real car, not in simulation, so your awareness and control of your arousal responses is mandatory.

Also, your partner will like it if you are not worried, and just loose yourself to the moment.

[Rational Mind Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Rational Mind]

If anything it may desensitize you to the real thing, and cause DE (not fun), when having sex, do not focus on having an orgasm, nor on not having one, just pay attention to your partner, and enjoy the mutual pleasure that you are both having, this should take your brain off anxious thoughts and help you last and enjoy longer.

Being with a partner is a lot different than doing it by yourself, you may enjoy driving a car in an RPG game, but it feels a lot different when driving a real car, not in simulation, so your awareness and control of your arousal responses is mandatory.

Also, your partner will like it if you are not worried, and just loose yourself to the moment.

You're right. Unfortunately I get over aroused already during foreplay so I'm working on the psychological sphere, focusing on relaxing my mind and on my arousal response but it's really hard!