is 7" really above average?

[GettingOverIt Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close GettingOverIt]

That is not what a considerable number of gay and Bi guys have said onsite over the years . This site usually talks in bpel or states if otherwise

I don't get this non bpel. It matters more to me that you penetrate bpel and that's what she physically feels. That's what you want, it's what you can make her feel inside...

[GettingOverIt Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close GettingOverIt]

For what it's worth, I'm a bi dude and so I've seen other guys' dicks erect in real life. I just barely scratch the tape at 7" exactly, and I have yet to run into anyone longer than me. I've met a guy with a dick almost identical to mine, but none really any bigger. I think A LOT of insecurity in this area it's driven by porn, which is like comparing your physique to professional athletes. But it's a pervasive thing. You almost can't escape it. Up until I started playing around with other guys at around age 40, I would have sworn up and down that I was tiny

This is very comforting to know. Much thanks.

[GettingOverIt Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close GettingOverIt]

Whats with the "black guy " thing ?
There is no cogent evidence I have seen that "black guys" have larger erections and I am a mod on a dick site .

i repeat you need to control your head issues cause that is what this is.

Apologies. I'm not racist so it's not that.

[Kegel Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Kegel]

As someone that 6" BPEL 4.75" M, I have only been told I have a large cock and zero complaints across 30+ ladies. It also makes me wonder how big the guys that were with my wife were, she never had bigger and she is hot (was an actual run way model) I of course disagree with me being big, but 7" is "large" and in the 95th percentile for sure. The only time you see penis is if it is large/attractive which isnt fair for the viewer. The only time you here about penis size is probably lies. And your on a forum where people have working years+ on growth. So of course it seems 7" is just "above average".

[CBateman Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close CBateman]

7 Inches BPEL is in the top 3.8% for western men according to calcsd, so it is very big. But not that huge to leave a crazy impression.
Keep in mind however that most women think 6.5 inches NBPEL is the ideal comfortable size.
This means if it comes to usefulness you will be golden with 7 inches BPEL (if you have 0.5 inches fat pad). But if you have this inferiority complex in your head and want to be the biggest she has ever had, crazily large etc you have to shoot for 8 BPEL.
At 8 Inches BPEL you are bigger than most pornstars real measurements and are 1/1000 guys in the western world.
I dont care what anyone says "mi ex had 10 inches etc". These are just lies and incorrect estimates.
When I reach 8 inches BPEL I will give you guys a comprehensive update and some anecdotal evidence then. But since already nobody complains, I really wonder what will happen at 8 Inches BPEL * 5.75 average girth.

[lx187 Member Find all posts View Profile Close lx187]

you need to lay off the porn if you really thought this is a legit question

[Physdoc Retired Moderator Member of the Month July 2019 Find all posts View Profile Close Physdoc]

I don't get this non bpel. It matters more to me that you penetrate bpel and that's what she physically feels. That's what you want, it's what you can make her feel inside...

You should read through another post on here recently that discusses NBPEL vs BPEL regarding what's used during sex. Bottomline of the majority of the posts is that during sex, the fat pad is either compressed or pushed aside during a stroke into her to the point that almost all of BPEL is used.

[Johnny D ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Johnny D]

I think one day while we're doing it, and super hard, im gonna pull it out and measure it in front of her eyes so she can finally get it.... I just hope she's not like, so what or something stupid that will crush me....

Sounds like a terrible idea to me. You've already established that your size isn't important to her. You want to impress her with something that isn't important or impressive to her and you're only going to reinforce your own insecurities about it. Why is it so important to you for her to be impressed with the size of your dick? You really need to get to the root of that.

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

I think one day while we're doing it, and super hard, im gonna pull it out and measure it in front of her eyes so she can finally get it.... I just hope she's not like, so what or something stupid that will crush me.... But She couldn't have had longer.

Still obsessing over this? For real bro? You're ruining your sex life and you don't even recognize it.

[GettingOverIt Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close GettingOverIt]

Sounds like a terrible idea to me. You've already established that your size isn't important to her. You want to impress her with something that isn't important or impressive to her and you're only going to reinforce your own insecurities about it. Why is it so important to you for her to be impressed with the size of your dick? You really need to get to the root of that.

How do I explain it? Let me try...
My wife is a person that if she makes her mind up based on her perception of something, anything in life.

So I think in her mind, she's not thinking I'm big enough or thick enough to make her climax like her ex did.. meaning without any effort from her physically. I really think I'm big, or big enough at least, and since there may have been factors that effected her perception of her ex size (which she doesn't know in numbers obviously), I believe if I could effect that perception, she might then reconsider when we're doing it and know that I'm more size than enough to make her cum.

You see before she screwed her ex, she told me her friend used to always poke comments about how hung or huge black guys are and her friend was dating my wife's ex boyfriends best friend. Her friend used to tell them to put their feet up or on char and then tell my wife that these Congolese guys have dicks as big as their shoes!

So I think as soon as my wife started screwing her ex, she already thought he was huge. So my dick is long, but unless you bone press measure it, it doesn't appear very long. So since my wife's head needs to see what a freaking 7" plus looks like on a measurement, she's probably always going to think im not big enough and think she has to find another way to cum, like clit stimulation.

[GettingOverIt Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close GettingOverIt]

Still obsessing over this? For real bro? You're ruining your sex life and you don't even recognize it.

Yes I am. Rewiring a brain takes time.

[Johnny D ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Johnny D]

So, your wife, who doesn't actually know the dimensions of her ex, will see the number on the ruler and suddenly realize that you're larger than she thought. And, because of that knowledge, she'll become aware of her ability to PIV orgasm with you. All this, despite the fact that she's made it clear that she knows your size (I mean, you've been inside her enough for her to know what it feels like), and it's inconsequential to her.

Or.... She will always be using your insecurities about this to hold power over you.

Which option sounds more likely to you?

And is it possible that the reason she could PIV orgasm with her ex but not with you has absolutely nothing to do with the size of your dick???

[BundleUp Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close BundleUp]

Bro, my ex-wife would cum multiple times during sex, but still fucked with my head about size. She's the source of my performance anxiety, too, because she'd always act so disappointed that I wasn't fully hard as soon a my pants dropped.

I thought very often about doing the same shit right back to her, but I'm not a vindictive narcissist, so I took the high road. It led to me dreading sex with her altogether, so I'd avoid it, and that was used as an excuse for her cheating.

If you do what you're thinking about doing, you're just loading a gun and handing it to her. Believe me, women are "emotionally intelligent" and she knows exactly what she's doing. My advice would be to get out now and let her go find someone else to mindfuck.

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

Yes I am. Rewiring a brain takes time.

It only takes time with the wrong approach. Just looking out bro, that's all. Be nicer to yourself.

[GettingOverIt Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close GettingOverIt]

It only takes time with the wrong approach. Just looking out bro, that's all. Be nicer to yourself.

All good man. No worries.