is 7" really above average?

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

I am 7" bpel. My wife doesn't think it's big or large. I am the 3rd guy she's been with. Her last was a Congolese guy (Google that btw). When we first started having sex she and after I found out about her ex, I asked her and she said he was longer and thicker.
She knows I PE and the other we were talking and she said, "don't know why you're stressing, you're average!"
- OUCH!
This is why I can't really stay consistent with PE. I have no idea what length or girth would impress her. It sucks big time.
I'm afraid I may need to be 8" for her to notice any difference... from her ex.

To add insult to injury... She's only ever had to rub her clit during sex since being with me. She admitted once she's never had to before but said she didn't know why... I can take a good guess.

She's claims she feels me like she felt her ex, and gets up to orgasm the same way as she did with him... but there's been many occasions she' missed the orgasm. She's never missed one with him.
Now although she says she loves me way more etc. I conclude that at least physically in terms of size, it makes a difference to her.

I'm really struggling with this for years... it comes and goes but when it comes back to nag me, I PE and I feel really crap cos she knows my self esteem is down due to her ex being bigger.

I avoid sex with her most of the time and she's super sexy... so she knows I'm just shying away from her... but worse of all she probably knows it's because of you know who.

Anyway... so in my effed up world of sex, 7" is average and not impressive at all and cannot bottom out.

The bigger dick ex is a very common method women use to destroy male confidence , Usually no truth to it but there doesn't need to be.

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I didn't go through all 26 pages of this post, so maybe this is a repeat. Anyway, I just went on two credible dick size sites that use data from many credible penis length studies. They both produced the same figure - a 7" dick is larger than 98.6% of all dicks, and that's bone pressed. 7" non-bone pressed is bigger than 99.9% of other guys. Even if you question that data, what's your adjusted figure - 90%, 80%? Still much larger than average. The other consistent thing in studies is that both women and men tend to way overestimate length based only on visual estimations. So, next time some girl is trying to honestly estimate some guys dick length, she's probably high by an inch. Then add on the tendency to exaggerate the truth.

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So... How common is 7" out there or more even? So far for my wife... it's 2 out of three. One far eastern, one African and me. Both her previous were bigger.

You might be wondering why I'm so bummed about it.... This is my second marriage. My ex wife also commented that her ex was longer and felt bigger.

So after the divorce, I avoided women and sex for four years. Then when I finally met my current wife... this happens. I thought my big dick ex worries were behind me.

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So... How common is 7" out there or more even? So far for my wife... it's 2 out of three. One far eastern, one African and me. Both her previous were bigger.

You might be wondering why I'm so bummed about it.... This is my second marriage. My ex wife also commented that her ex was longer and felt bigger.

So after the divorce, I avoided women and sex for four years. Then when I finally met my current wife... this happens. I thought my big dick ex worries were behind me.

Mr Play it safe was afraid to fly, waited his whole damn life to take that flight, and when the plane crashed down he thought, well isn't this nice.

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

It's all about arousal bro. Don't let the dick size mumble jumble corrupt your mind.

[Physdoc Retired Moderator Member of the Month July 2019 Find all posts View Profile Close Physdoc]

So... How common is 7" out there or more even? So far for my wife... it's 2 out of three. One far eastern, one African and me. Both her previous were bigger.

You might be wondering why I'm so bummed about it.... This is my second marriage. My ex wife also commented that her ex was longer and felt bigger.

So after the divorce, I avoided women and sex for four years. Then when I finally met my current wife... this happens. I thought my big dick ex worries were behind me.

So, your penis length study is based on an n of three, opinion and sketchy measurement criteria. The studies I mentioned are based on tens of thousands of dicks from around the world using well-considered measurement methodology. You can wallow in self-doubt or need for attention if you choose, but you're ignoring good data and pages of posts on here telling you that the truth may be very different from your perception.

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

So, your penis length study is based on an n of three, opinion and sketchy measurement criteria. The studies I mentioned are based on tens of thousands of dicks from around the world using well-considered measurement methodology. You can wallow in self-doubt or need for attention if you choose, but you're ignoring good data and pages of posts on here telling you that the truth may be very different from your perception.

His statement is based on the standard bigger dick ex story from a female . i get tired of working out how unlikely these are . Even when I can show the story is a million to one against the guy will swear the story must be true and the girl must have "won the lottery" . It gets tiresome it is so common .

Listen up guys this is THE standard method women use to lower your confidence ,it has no resemble to the real world

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Truth is most men are 7 to 8 inches and most girlfriends exes ar 9 to 9.5 inches and they usually have amazing stamina.

These ex boyfriend usually log slam the poor women they maul with their enormous horse clocks for hours on en and always leave these women stuttering gushing messes.

Now here is reality, my wife slept with very few men her entire life. I am in the top of the food chain percentage for ding a long size.

The odds are in my favor.

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FWIW, I'm slightly over 8 inches and my ex said that her ex was bigger. Yeah, it hits the ego and you think "what are the chances?" That wracked my mind for a while although the further removed I am from that relationship the less I believe her claims. I guess the thought that makes it near impossible to totally dispel the hang-up is why someone who supposedly cares about you would lie about such a thing. As a prior poster said, a lot of woman seem to defy these odds and have big dick ex's.

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GOI, even if her ex was bigger, so friggin what! That's like being 6'2" tall and getting your panties all bunched in a knot because she says her ex was 6'4". What, now you think 6'2" is short and you live a life of shame (as you walk around taller that most guys in any room)? The problem is not physical.

Pegasus is so right. Mean women do this to get at you. You just have to be strong and wise enough not to take the bait.

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I am 7" bpel. My wife doesn't think it's big or large. I am the 3rd guy she's been with. Her last was a Congolese guy (Google that btw). When we first started having sex she and after I found out about her ex, I asked her and she said he was longer and thicker.
She knows I PE and the other we were talking and she said, "don't know why you're stressing, you're average!"
- OUCH!
This is why I can't really stay consistent with PE. I have no idea what length or girth would impress her. It sucks big time.
I'm afraid I may need to be 8" for her to notice any difference... from her ex.

To add insult to injury... She's only ever had to rub her clit during sex since being with me. She admitted once she's never had to before but said she didn't know why... I can take a good guess.

She's claims she feels me like she felt her ex, and gets up to orgasm the same way as she did with him... but there's been many occasions she' missed the orgasm. She's never missed one with him.
Now although she says she loves me way more etc. I conclude that at least physically in terms of size, it makes a difference to her.

I'm really struggling with this for years... it comes and goes but when it comes back to nag me, I PE and I feel really crap cos she knows my self esteem is down due to her ex being bigger.

I avoid sex with her most of the time and she's super sexy... so she knows I'm just shying away from her... but worse of all she probably knows it's because of you know who.

Anyway... so in my effed up world of sex, 7" is average and not impressive at all and cannot bottom out.

Reference bolded. Same problem here, at least recently. She can only cum about 10% of time. 10 years ago it was about 80-90% success rate.

Everything seems so right. She seems to be on the brink of a crazy orgasm. Im on the brink. I cant hold back any longer. I cum thinking shes going cum hard this time Im going to feel her contractions. Then nothing. So close again. Incredibly frustrating. Then all I can think of is if I were only bigger I could seal the deal for her.

BTW im 7.25" BP and can frequently bottom her out and she seems to enjoy the hell out of it but all too often it just isn't enough. Maybe its my lack of girth. Im only 5". Seems like everyone here is 5.5"+

[GettingOverIt Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close GettingOverIt]

Reference bolded. Same problem here, at least recently. She can only cum about 10% of time. 10 years ago it was about 80-90% success rate.

Everything seems so right. She seems to be on the brink of a crazy orgasm. Im on the brink. I cant hold back any longer. I cum thinking shes going cum hard this time Im going to feel her contractions. Then nothing. So close again. Incredibly frustrating. Then all I can think of is if I were only bigger I could seal the deal for her.

BTW im 7.25" BP and can frequently bottom her out and she seems to enjoy the hell out of it but all too often it just isn't enough. Maybe its my lack of girth. Im only 5". Seems like everyone here is 5.5"+

I totally get what you feeling. Although I think for you, at least you bottom out so you know length isn't the issue. It could be a girth issue and that's easier sorted than gaining length.

Your length seems fine especially if you are bottom out. ULIS, erect bends and v jelqs or clamping can really do the job well. Also try the bundled stretching. I increased my girth quite well with these.

I know how it feels when everything is going well and you're thinking she's definitely going to cum and then poof it doesn't happen.

Did your wife allege that she had bigger or thicker?

[GettingOverIt Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close GettingOverIt]

Reference bolded. Same problem here, at least recently. She can only cum about 10% of time. 10 years ago it was about 80-90% success rate.

Everything seems so right. She seems to be on the brink of a crazy orgasm. Im on the brink. I cant hold back any longer. I cum thinking shes going cum hard this time Im going to feel her contractions. Then nothing. So close again. Incredibly frustrating. Then all I can think of is if I were only bigger I could seal the deal for her.

BTW im 7.25" BP and can frequently bottom her out and she seems to enjoy the hell out of it but all too often it just isn't enough. Maybe its my lack of girth. Im only 5". Seems like everyone here is 5.5"+

Also to be honest... could be a woman thing, like in her own mind. Being self conscious about something... keep an eye out for other personal issues that might have nothing to do with you or size.

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Reference bolded. Same problem here, at least recently. She can only cum about 10% of time. 10 years ago it was about 80-90% success rate.

Everything seems so right. She seems to be on the brink of a crazy orgasm. Im on the brink. I cant hold back any longer. I cum thinking shes going cum hard this time Im going to feel her contractions. Then nothing. So close again. Incredibly frustrating. Then all I can think of is if I were only bigger I could seal the deal for her.

BTW im 7.25" BP and can frequently bottom her out and she seems to enjoy the hell out of it but all too often it just isn't enough. Maybe its my lack of girth. Im only 5". Seems like everyone here is 5.5"+

If she orgasmed 80-90% of the time ten years ago and not now, the reason for the change is not likely the size of your dick. Women (and men) can get bored with their sex life and need something different to get off. Doesn't have to be a different mate, just something new sexually. It could also be female orgasmic dysfunction (FOD) that affects women of all ages, but can manifest more commonly in women over 45. It's estimated that 40-60% of women over 45 have some noticeable degree of FOD. Causes are all over the board, as are fixes. But a larger dick is rarely the answer and often just causes pain and/or worse FOD.

Try new things to turn her on. Make sure to give her clit attention, as alot of women can't orgasm from just PIV. But if you're bent on the dick size thing, buy a penis sleeve extender off Amazon - they're not expensive. Just a smaller one can get you easily to 8x6". I bought one for fun and she didn't like it. In fact, she thought I was nuts to buy it since I was already as big as she wanted. I ended up cutting it up into ball sack extender sleeves.

[GettingOverIt Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close GettingOverIt]

GOI, even if her ex was bigger, so friggin what! That's like being 6'2" tall and getting your panties all bunched in a knot because she says her ex was 6'4". What, now you think 6'2" is short and you live a life of shame (as you walk around taller that most guys in any room)? The problem is not physical.

Pegasus is so right. Mean women do this to get at you. You just have to be strong and wise enough not to take the bait.

I definitely agree that mean women do this. My ex wife was definitely a dragon force to deal with. Very sadistic indeed. She's killed a bunny in her life out of jealousy towards her sister. So that's the height of mean for a girl that is.

I think my current wife probably perceived her ex longer and thicker since he was so ripped and probably had much less fat pad to hide his length. But then why can't she cum as easily as she did with him? Like 7by5 said, we're having hot sex and everything seems like it's going to hit, then splat, nothing, or a weak quick one. So for me, not bottoming out leaves room for doubt regarding her perception of size and feeds the myth.