Bad pe!

[dbcoop34 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close dbcoop34]

Thank you, I did not know that was actually part of my shaft. Will continue working on expansion and relaxation. Here is where I am struggling:
I just edged and ran into the same issue I have been running into. Shaft is not sensitive at all and can be stimulated non stop with no ejac. Glans shoots me from 5 on arousal scale to 9.9. If I "twist" my hand even once at the top I can almost ejac. I paid close attention during this to make sure my PF was relaxed and even massaged the area and I even went into a hindi squat and relaxed it to make sure and then I twisted again and it still just about sent me over the edge. Why can I not feel contractions at all and feel very relaxed but still manage to almost ejaculate within a second of this?

[quickdraw Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close quickdraw]

I know exactly how you feel. I had an extremely tight pelvic floor that required a couple of months with a pelvic floor therapist, for some very uncomfortable and awkward therapy. Since then my pelvic floor feels so much more loose and comfortable than the years of tightness that I just assumed was normal. That being said, as having lifelong PE, it didn’t help at all and I still ejaculate within seconds of intercourse or even during foreplay. I can feel relaxed but go from a three to PONR in a few seconds.

[Anthony Gerio N Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Anthony Gerio N]

I know exactly how you feel. I had an extremely tight pelvic floor that required a couple of months with a pelvic floor therapist, for some very uncomfortable and awkward therapy. Since then my pelvic floor feels so much more loose and comfortable than the years of tightness that I just assumed was normal. That being said, as having lifelong PE, it didn’t help at all and I still ejaculate within seconds of intercourse or even during foreplay. I can feel relaxed but go from a three to PONR in a few seconds.

You are a lost cause!

[quickdraw Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close quickdraw]

You are a lost cause!

Are you being sarcastic? I didn’t mean to come across as whining or giving up. Just expressing a frustration.

[Anthony Gerio N Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Anthony Gerio N]

Are you being sarcastic? I didn’t mean to come across as whining or giving up. Just expressing a frustration.

Ofcourse being sarcastic. I didn't understand why you expressed your frustration here. As many have stated, there is a difference between a relaxed PF and a balanced elongated expanded down PF.
I do not follow what were the excercises prescribed by the PT for pelvic therapy and how effective they are (which I know they are not anymore near effective, massages, biofeedback stuff, telling you to do some stretches and deep breathing etc. which are barely enough to beat this).

[Schmukk Member Find all posts View Profile Close Schmukk]

So what’s the general consensus on edging before having a relaxed PF?

Is it pointless if I’m gonna just keep stopping every 20 seconds? Or should I just keep focusing on stretching first before moving onto edging at a later stage?

At this point I can probably edge and reach PONR in a minute. Would appreciate any Advice ty!!

[hafthor Member Find all posts View Profile Close hafthor]

So what’s the general consensus on edging before having a relaxed PF?

Is it pointless if I’m gonna just keep stopping every 20 seconds? Or should I just keep focusing on stretching first before moving onto edging at a later stage?

At this point I can probably edge and reach PONR in a minute. Would appreciate any Advice ty!!

I am new to edging so I may be wrong but my understanding of edging is that one of the benefits (especially for beginners) is developing an awareness of how your body responds to stimulus. Therefore I would suggest you continue edging. Over time you should be able to increase the time to PONR.

[dbcoop34 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close dbcoop34]

I am new to edging so I may be wrong but my understanding of edging is that one of the benefits (especially for beginners) is developing an awareness of how your body responds to stimulus. Therefore I would suggest you continue edging. Over time you should be able to increase the time to PONR.

I am no expert but I edging and feeling PONR right when getting started is just going to keep your body stuck in the bad habits. stay at the base when starting to keep an erection but to not feel the PONR. If you still feel it and you are no where near the glans than your pf is definitely WAY too tight.

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

So what’s the general consensus on edging before having a relaxed PF?

Is it pointless if I’m gonna just keep stopping every 20 seconds? Or should I just keep focusing on stretching first before moving onto edging at a later stage?

At this point I can probably edge and reach PONR in a minute. Would appreciate any Advice ty!!

Practice front RK's while flaccid. Even throw in some hindi squats. You need to increase the flexibility in your PF within it's range of motion. Once you have more flexibility, transfer RK's to edging, if need be. Don't get hyperactive with just doing RK's, still do an amount of kegels, just don't over do it. You want to keep your PF strong; just doing RK's alone will weaken it.

Makes sense?

[hafthor Member Find all posts View Profile Close hafthor]

I am no expert but I edging and feeling PONR right when getting started is just going to keep your body stuck in the bad habits. stay at the base when starting to keep an erection but to not feel the PONR. If you still feel it and you are no where near the glans than your pf is definitely WAY too tight.

Good advice db! I'm still learning all of this stuff.

[Schmukk Member Find all posts View Profile Close Schmukk]

Thanks guys. And yes, I have a very tight & overactive pelvic floor.

Especially when I’m tense I’ll notice I’ve been clenching my pelvic floor for some time, and I’ll have to consciously relax it.

Still working on flexibility and doing Hindi squats, but it’s hard for me to do an RK when I’m seated down. Will keep working on it and try to edge too.

[dbcoop34 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close dbcoop34]

Thanks guys. And yes, I have a very tight & overactive pelvic floor.

Especially when I’m tense I’ll notice I’ve been clenching my pelvic floor for some time, and I’ll have to consciously relax it.

Still working on flexibility and doing Hindi squats, but it’s hard for me to do an RK when I’m seated down. Will keep working on it and try to edge too.

I am truly not sure how this exercise relates but there is something special to me about this lajin stretch. Try it. I am consitently getting better at it and am noticing less random IK's throughout the day. I think it is relaxing a lot of my leg muscles and creating a feeling of stretching instead of tightness

[dbcoop34 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close dbcoop34]

time for an update:
both positive and negative
negative first: I had not edged in a week due to being moved back in with my family and have been extremely busy. I did today and it did not go very well. I could not get an erection for a bit and then I started to rub my glans. I was still flaccid and after a bit of rubbing I felt an orgasm coming. I was completely flaccid. I took a step back, gained an erection, and slowly started at the base and went my regular 25 mins. This was frusturating but I am keeping going.
positive: I am more flexible thanks to lajin and hindi squats and I think this is helping on cutting down IK's.

questions:
Has anyone had similar instance in orgasming while flaccid?
When edging, some say light grip can make things worse because it develops you to become sensitive to minimal touching while some say tight hard grip can also do the same. What is the best way to go about it? If i am even slightly aroused and start messing with the tip I am almost over the egde.

[Anthony Gerio N Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Anthony Gerio N]

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questions:
Has anyone had similar instance in orgasming while flaccid?
When edging, some say light grip can make things worse because it develops you to become sensitive to minimal touching while some say tight hard grip can also do the same. What is the best way to go about it? If i am even slightly aroused and start messing with the tip I am almost over the egde.

You have anxiety about it and as well you do not ejaculate enough. Also still super tight, I'd add the whole PF RK if I were you into my routine.
A question, can you sit crossed legged on the ground?

[latuda Member Find all posts View Profile Close latuda]

Had the same experience here

I had a solid edging routine everyday for one month easily going to 40min session ending without ejaculating

Then went sick for 2 weeks and not masturbate at all and when i went back to it its like i never made any progress, ejaculate in like 2minutes barely with a full erection