Premature Ejaculation Success Stories???

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

Eh.

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

Sorry bro, but I believe in self-help before depending on pills.

[JuliusS Member Find all posts View Profile Close JuliusS]

Great to read the success stories. Can't consider myself a success yet, but hopefully I will be able to post my own story one day and inspire others.

[cumm2quick Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close cumm2quick]

I have been suffering with PE for quite a while now. However, things are looking up recently for me. I am married, so i have access to sex if I do my job as a husband the correct way. So, for married guys who want to up their game and end PE and start having normal sexual encounters, here are my suggestions:
1)Read "the 5 love languages"...you must figure out what your wife wants from you. Then, and only then do you stand a chance at getting more frequent sex. More frequent sex is the first step in solving PE.
2)Do your Kegel exercises. There is an app for the iphone called Prostate Exercise. Get the app and do the exercises twice a day. Follow each session with reverse Kegels also. balancing the muscles seems to help. Sometimes i do a hard regular Kegel which helps drop arousal a bit. With strong PC muscles, all those involuntary spasms seem to go away.
3)Dont waste a lot of time masturbating/edging etc. You need SEX to be able to practice your Kegels, pulling your balls away from your body, keeping yourself from holding your breath, and most of all getting used to being inside the vagina.
4)Dont worry about your hard-on, or lack of it. This is one of the big anxiety promoting things that happen during sex. You DO NOT need a hard-on to start having penis-in-vagina sex. You can push your penis in without a hard on using lube, pre-come or saliva, start thrusting, and i promise you the hard-on will come to you. Be careful pulling out though because you will get super hard and when you go to re-enter it is very very intense. Best to leave it in and pause for a moment to get your EQ up. My wife is pretty tight. For the longest time i would be worried about having a hard on to penetrate. Then, it would be so intense going in a couldnt handle it. Soft insertion works much much better when you have a tight partner. She will loosen up quickly after you get in.
5)Position makes a difference. I like standing at the side of the bed with her pulled up close to me with her legs around me or in the air. I hold her legs up sometimes so she doesnt get tired. I also like this position because missionary forces you to hold yourself up and that causes stress. Finally, it is easy to do the soft entry in this position. In fact, you cannot do that easily in any other position but this. You can also masturbate her clit with your thumb as you thrust, and they LOVE that. Or pull out, drop to your knees, and start licking. Doing oral laying on the bed sucks...too much stress on your neck.

If you dont have a wife or partner, quit worrying about PE. In fact, quit worrying about it at all. Masturbating yourself silly trying to make yourself last longer doesnt mean a hill-of-beans when you are having SEX.

Good luck, guys...

[bautista19 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close bautista19]

I've been in and out of here a couple times over the past, but it just dawned on me I haven't cum too early in ages. I don't know how long it's been, but I really no longer thing about it. I do know when I'm screwing away at the wife sometimes I'll do some math in my head, or count strokes and I usually get to 1,000 before I lose track or she's too sore and asks me to finish.

[Big Jay Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Big Jay]

Jelqing and Reverse Kegels have made the biggest difference for me. And avoid stress at all costs. It's very detrimental to EQ. I started off doing kegels and those didn't work well for me, infact that made me more prone to premature ejaculation. If you can do 10-15 minutes of jelqing while reverse kegeling it will help. I find that even while jelqing, RK's help me control my erection level (if i do them too much i get to 100% erection level but they are good for making sure i don't get too soft). Foreplay is another thing. We tend to think of it as being for the woman, making sure she's wet enough, horny enough ect, but a good foreplay sesh will make sure you're hard as a rock, which is a main goal for combating PE. Hope this helps some people. This is just my experience of it but I experienced a huge difference in only a week or two. It has taken a while to figure this stuff out but the results have been awesome!!! Good luck to everyone!

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

Jelqing and Reverse Kegels have made the biggest difference for me. And avoid stress at all costs. It's very detrimental to EQ. I started off doing kegels and those didn't work well for me, infact that made me more prone to premature ejaculation. If you can do 10-15 minutes of jelqing while reverse kegeling it will help. I find that even while jelqing, RK's help me control my erection level (if i do them too much i get to 100% erection level but they are good for making sure i don't get too soft). Foreplay is another thing. We tend to think of it as being for the woman, making sure she's wet enough, horny enough ect, but a good foreplay sesh will make sure you're hard as a rock, which is a main goal for combating PE. Hope this helps some people. This is just my experience of it but I experienced a huge difference in only a week or two. It has taken a while to figure this stuff out but the results have been awesome!!! Good luck to everyone!

Welcome to the Gym bro!

[Lee Peace Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Lee Peace]

Two years ago, I had trouble with premature ejaculation. Thanks to exercise regularly and positively, now I can say goodbye to premature ejaculation.

[capital255 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close capital255]

@ Lee Peace since you cured your PE. what exercises did you do? or was it just regular general exercises?

[JamesMonroe Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close JamesMonroe]

I went from less than 1 min to over an hour sometimes.
How did i do it?
Intense training with reverse kegels, ballooning, jelqing, edging, constant sex in the most arousing positions with a caring and patient girlfriend, stopped regular kegels completely, stopped watching porn, stopped touching my penis with light, sensual touches/loose grips, started doing the death grip without lube, intense ballooning of all sensitive sweet spots of penis, found my hidden sweet spot on top of my penis head right behind the penis hole and rubbed it without lube and while doing the death grip, experiment, experiment, experiment!!!!!
Good luck guys.
-JM

[hoochiNn Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close hoochiNn]

This isn't a success story, maybe is a frustation story. I just want to write my thoughts. I'm aware of my pre-m since years.
I have to be honest, I've never put 100% or at least, not for so many time continusly but I'm without forces and motivation.
I'm 23, I see how my life is passing thru my eyes and I got so many posible lovers in my past wich I let them pass.
I'm depressed.
I feel frustrated.
Why I can't have hard sex like porn or like my friends explain? Do I wont never earn it? I'm sick of this shit.

Sorry, I needed to tell someone

[Minuteman Member of the Month March 2013. Find all posts View Profile Close Minuteman]

This isn't a success story, maybe is a frustation story. I just want to write my thoughts. I'm aware of my pre-m since years.
I have to be honest, I've never put 100% or at least, not for so many time continusly but I'm without forces and motivation.
I'm 23, I see how my life is passing thru my eyes and I got so many posible lovers in my past wich I let them pass.
I'm depressed.
I feel frustrated.
Why I can't have hard sex like porn or like my friends explain? Do I wont never earn it? I'm sick of this shit.

Sorry, I needed to tell someone

Your reaction to it all is natural and it is a phase that will go away as you progress, what is important is not to allow this state to devour you. In the end motivation must come from within in other for it to be sustainable, and even though now it seems hopeless in the end you will wonder just how wrong that was.

I wanted to write about this in my log but this is as good place as any.

One of the most vicious enemies that a premature ejaculationist faces is not his bad performance but his own mind, his reaction to so-called "failure" and sometimes even an over-dramatization of it all and am not foreign to that at all.

Lets use an example that most of us know:

You just had a bad session (be it edging or sex) and you just feel terrible, your thoughts are just flashing like crazy pointing and wondering just where did this all go wrong and why does my body does that. The frustration is so enormous that you are not even feeling any pleasure from an orgasm, even though it is here it is eclipsed by your own mind. The frustration is excaliting you did not feel it as much in the beginning as you feel it as the time passes.

If you are with a partner that just intensifies and makes your partner anxious. Ask most women, it is not the premature ejaculation occurring that is making women dislike a man's performance as much as is his reaction to it all in fact showing that you are in the control of the situation by not giving it much thought is a trait that is much well accepted. The problem with men is that they think it is all about them (funny me saying that as a man, but it is true). While there are women that will show their disappointment with your performance it is most likely they are not even aware how hurtful that is, or they are simply like that and knowing that might be a good pointer that pursuing a relationship with that partner will not work in the future, because even if she goes over it, another thing will pop out sooner or later.

The hardest thing for you to do right that moment is to stop thinking about it, since the more you pointlessly dwell (and in 90% of the time it is indeed pointless) the more stressed out and tensed out will you be the next time, in a way your mind will start to take a form of perverse pleasure from your failures and it will all twist (notice the over-dramatization) your perception of things to a point where you will be so far from your body and lose what ever little control you had in the first place.

What you need to do at that moment when your session has failed is to asses the situation find ONE thing that you might improve and say to your self "I will improve upon that next time." and that is it. When I say one thing don't think about "Next time i will fix my premature ejaculation", but something along the lines "Next time I will slow down at that point", "Next time I will reverse kegel at that point" and so on.

Once you accomplish the goal you have set just let it go and let it and as it ends, reward yourself with a good feeling. Because the reward system is a better option than the current mind-punish system, the body simply responds better to rewards. It might seem silly but it works on many levels, chain several good sessions with the goals in mind an you will notice the difference. In a way illusion of control is control itself in then same way your thinking that you lack control is making you lack control even more.

The other thing one should practice is making your mind still an focusing on your body if your head is full of negative thoughts, since after you have ejaculated you will feel pleasure but you have to focus on it in the same way one focuses on the breathing while meditating, immerse yourself in the positive.

Once you start lasting longer you will understand that that is not that hard to attain.

The good thing is that you are only 23 when you have this painful realization, some people have it way later, other never and end up blaming other people (mostly women) and the world and end you living a shadow of life just because they ejaculate faster than other.

Remember this, you should not ever allow premature ejaculation, or any other such state (stress anxiety) to control you. You have to accept it and move on in the fashion: "Ok I have premature ejaculation. Fine, let see what I can do about it." Each time you stress about it, each time you are non-productively thinking about it, it is controlling you. Do not try to control it, just go trough it, just stop caring. It might be counter intuitive but it ends up being the right answer. It is like meditation, you don't try to change the subject of your thoughts, just acknowledge them and let them pass. It is hard, but it is the way to do it.

Only after you have honestly and truly accepted that you have premature ejaculation and that you will have to live with it, only then will you start healing and fixing your problem. The "Hi, I'm bob and I am an alcoholic. " isn't a stereotype for nothing, it really helps.

Because you will see, there will be a session where you last as much as you want, it might not come right now, but it will come, a session where you have control much better than before and in that moment all your worries and all your doubts will seem laughable.

While I might not have the necessary experience to reflect this on a intercourse level, when it comes to the games that mind can and does play with you via the fear, frustration, anxiety and general negativeness I have a pretty good understanding and experience, and even now days I sometimes fall to that trap.

Problem is that most people with premature ejaculation think too much and think all the time, for some it is a professional deformation (due to the work), for others it is simply this age where there is so much information and stress, and the problem is that an alarming part of that thinking is downright pointless, we sometimes think so much that we forget about our bodies.

I apologize for turning this into my typical post, but I hope you will find it somewhat motivational and educational. Sometimes I think that the depth of my premature ejaculation problem (that tends to comeback from time to time) is proportional to the average length of my posts.

[hoochiNn Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close hoochiNn]

Thank you for your words MM. They really help. I think I got a bad day. Maybe I will do some questions about this text at your guide.

Thank you again

[Brutos Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Brutos]

Your reaction to it all is natural and it is a phase that will go away as you progress, what is important is not to allow this state to devour you. In the end motivation must come from within in other for it to be sustainable, and even though now it seems hopeless in the end you will wonder just how wrong that was.

I wanted to write about this in my log but this is as good place as any.

One of the most vicious enemies that a premature ejaculationist faces is not his bad performance but his own mind, his reaction to so-called "failure" and sometimes even an over-dramatization of it all and am not foreign to that at all.

Lets use an example that most of us know:

You just had a bad session (be it edging or sex) and you just feel terrible, your thoughts are just flashing like crazy pointing and wondering just where did this all go wrong and why does my body does that. The frustration is so enormous that you are not even feeling any pleasure from an orgasm, even though it is here it is eclipsed by your own mind. The frustration is excaliting you did not feel it as much in the beginning as you feel it as the time passes.

If you are with a partner that just intensifies and makes your partner anxious. Ask most women, it is not the premature ejaculation occurring that is making women dislike a man's performance as much as is his reaction to it all in fact showing that you are in the control of the situation by not giving it much thought is a trait that is much well accepted. The problem with men is that they think it is all about them (funny me saying that as a man, but it is true). While there are women that will show their disappointment with your performance it is most likely they are not even aware how hurtful that is, or they are simply like that and knowing that might be a good pointer that pursuing a relationship with that partner will not work in the future, because even if she goes over it, another thing will pop out sooner or later.

The hardest thing for you to do right that moment is to stop thinking about it, since the more you pointlessly dwell (and in 90% of the time it is indeed pointless) the more stressed out and tensed out will you be the next time, in a way your mind will start to take a form of perverse pleasure from your failures and it will all twist (notice the over-dramatization) your perception of things to a point where you will be so far from your body and lose what ever little control you had in the first place.

What you need to do at that moment when your session has failed is to asses the situation find ONE thing that you might improve and say to your self "I will improve upon that next time." and that is it. When I say one thing don't think about "Next time i will fix my premature ejaculation", but something along the lines "Next time I will slow down at that point", "Next time I will reverse kegel at that point" and so on.

Once you accomplish the goal you have set just let it go and let it and as it ends, reward yourself with a good feeling. Because the reward system is a better option than the current mind-punish system, the body simply responds better to rewards. It might seem silly but it works on many levels, chain several good sessions with the goals in mind an you will notice the difference. In a way illusion of control is control itself in then same way your thinking that you lack control is making you lack control even more.

The other thing one should practice is making your mind still an focusing on your body if your head is full of negative thoughts, since after you have ejaculated you will feel pleasure but you have to focus on it in the same way one focuses on the breathing while meditating, immerse yourself in the positive.

Once you start lasting longer you will understand that that is not that hard to attain.

The good thing is that you are only 23 when you have this painful realization, some people have it way later, other never and end up blaming other people (mostly women) and the world and end you living a shadow of life just because they ejaculate faster than other.

Remember this, you should not ever allow premature ejaculation, or any other such state (stress anxiety) to control you. You have to accept it and move on in the fashion: "Ok I have premature ejaculation. Fine, let see what I can do about it." Each time you stress about it, each time you are non-productively thinking about it, it is controlling you. Do not try to control it, just go trough it, just stop caring. It might be counter intuitive but it ends up being the right answer. It is like meditation, you don't try to change the subject of your thoughts, just acknowledge them and let them pass. It is hard, but it is the way to do it.

Only after you have honestly and truly accepted that you have premature ejaculation and that you will have to live with it, only then will you start healing and fixing your problem. The "Hi, I'm bob and I am an alcoholic. " isn't a stereotype for nothing, it really helps.

Because you will see, there will be a session where you last as much as you want, it might not come right now, but it will come, a session where you have control much better than before and in that moment all your worries and all your doubts will seem laughable.

While I might not have the necessary experience to reflect this on a intercourse level, when it comes to the games that mind can and does play with you via the fear, frustration, anxiety and general negativeness I have a pretty good understanding and experience, and even now days I sometimes fall to that trap.

Problem is that most people with premature ejaculation think too much and think all the time, for some it is a professional deformation (due to the work), for others it is simply this age where there is so much information and stress, and the problem is that an alarming part of that thinking is downright pointless, we sometimes think so much that we forget about our bodies.

I apologize for turning this into my typical post, but I hope you will find it somewhat motivational and educational. Sometimes I think that the depth of my premature ejaculation problem (that tends to comeback from time to time) is proportional to the average length of my posts.

Thanks man just the motivation i need. Great post

[Tino07 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Tino07]

Hi all
Hope someone can help me. As you can see I'm new around here and need a little help. Can someone point me too where I can find JP90s routine for beginners guide to RK.
I've tried to find it without any luck.

many thanks