Young, insecure male.....

[ItWasWritten Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close ItWasWritten]

I just feel like this whole "love-making" concept eludes me; penis in, penis out. No? I mean, how can sex with me be "special" when she's done EXACTLY the same thing with other guys she didn't "love". Am I missing something? One time she "appeared" to have three orgasms and she got me to stop before I was finished. She then started to cry and was so sensitive that if I touched any part of her body she would shiver and make sounds of delight. Seems kind of deluded to me. Maybe I just don't believe in love, but what the hell is up with a chick like that? Sometimes she just stares at me and smiles for no reason, and she's always trying to do stuff for me and please me, but usually I can't wait for her to leave so I can hangout with my buddies and drink beer, or read a good book. Do I have problems? This girl is an 8 out of 10, by the way....I don't ever sleep with unattractive women, but no matter what I do with this girl or how many "deep" conversations we have, I still feel EXACTLY the same thing....nothing.

If you're happy and not doing anything that harms other people then I don't think there's anything wrong. Who cares if people think it's weird? I don't know why some people think if you don't have any love/emotional attraction towards the opposite sex then that means you must be attracted to the same sex. Did it ever cross their minds that maybe asexuality is a possibility? Or people just prefer to be on their own? People always like to put others in these little boxes, and if you're different or don't fit in these little boxes then there must be a problem with you. Some people just feel nothing and don't desire love with any gender. If you're happy with you're life then so what. You're sleeping with attractive women so you're winning. There's no law that says you must love the person you're having sex with and want to be around them 24/7.

[Zman007 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Zman007]

I am sure this question has been asked millions of times here, but.....what's average?

Median Length and Girth

5.65" BPEL
4.67" Girth

Lifestyles research.

[Zman007 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Zman007]

Guess what? You aren't the only guy around who's gf was with a guy bigger than him. Mine has. I'm above average, and this guy was freakish. Guess what, I had a bit of a complex about it and finally talked to her about it. That guy was too large for her, in fact she never once climaxed while having sex with him. I'm the only guy that has ever given my girlfriend consistent vaginal orgasms. She told me in the beginning that it would be very rare for her to have one and not to be upset if she didn't, now its pretty much every time we have sex, sometimes twice, minus the times she is over stressed. A woman's experience has far more to do with the emotional connection.

You are your biggest problem. Not the size of your penis. Hell, you are significantly above average and by your account pretty proficient in bed. That puts you way beyond most guys.

That guy that mistreated your gf, well shit happens. Guys can be real assholes. To automatically think that he was some kind of perfect specimen of maleness, and that his rough sex just drove her wild is likely erroneous. Its doubtful that she thinks back on that "relationship" fondly.

It sounds like this girl loves you. And that makes all of the difference. You have many issues relating to your emotional openness. Get over yourself and your slightly above average penis and enjoy life and love. There is always someone bigger and better, get over your own insecurities and you will be a much happier person for it.

[penisma Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close penisma]

I havent read it all but I relates o much.

I kinda want or have sex based on hormones. I get aroused by hot girl and get erection and want her to give me head and to come on her. Maybe I will have sex. BUt really there is nothing emotional. SOmetimes I pause and look at the girl and she seem to be lost in her own worls. And im like errr? ah well back to it.

THing is IRL I dont relate to anybody really even my freinds and family I get bored or annoyed with them if I am aroudn them to long, and to long can be aas short as 5 minutes in their presense.

So, when your a bit of an introvert like me and cant really be bohtered with other humans in general I suppose I doubt im capable of having mind blowing emotional pasionate sex.

I only want sex based on hormones.

Maybe you have similar issues? Maybe not

Im 7x5 quite like you but minimal fat so NBEL is not so small. I dont think my dick is biggest thy had but I sure as hell think its big enough to give them good feelings...but Lke your 1st few sexual encounters I dont really care, as long as I enjoyed it.

I also often prefer blowjobs and facials to sex...there is no emotions involved in a blowjob its just fun

For me sex is kinda viewed as me wanting to perform or recive sex acts from hot girls....Kind primitve instincts.

[pterodactyl Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close pterodactyl]

I used to feel execatly like you do Joe. Hell i still do sometimes. My gf told me my penis is average. However someday you will learn what real lovemaking is. I just think you arent ready for it yet. Let me tell you though its on a whole different level than fucking.

[penisma Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close penisma]

I used to feel execatly like you do Joe. Hell i still do sometimes. My gf told me my penis is average. However someday you will learn what real lovemaking is. I just think you arent ready for it yet. Let me tell you though its on a whole different level than fucking.

7x5 is avergae?

[Steve23 Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Steve23]

Depends how you measure

[penisma Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close penisma]

Depends how you measure

7 bpel. I have abs/low bodyfat anyway plus shaved pubes

5 girth at base and middle.

Measure lenght along top off penis.

[Steve23 Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Steve23]

You're average, now stop hijacking his thread

[jd10021 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close jd10021]

My second girlfriend was a really beautiful, athletic, smart FL girl who asked me out. I was very inexperienced and she only had 2 guys. She said her college boyfriend had a really big penis. They tried anal once and she said never again. She tried swallowing his cum once and said never again. Thanks a lot asshole! The other guy she was with was an older guy that had more experience and really just fucked her good. When I was a young inexperienced guy (early 20s), I had some similar thoughts as you do.

If you want to have a great relationship, then:
A. being a good guy makes you better than 90% of the guys out there (including your girlfriend's dormmate);
B. being a good guy who is a really good boyfriend makes you better than 99% of the guys out there;
C. being a good guy who is a really good boyfriend who is a really good lover makes you better than 99.9% of the guys out there; and
D. being a good guy who is a really good boyfriend who is a really good lover who has a large penis makes you better than 99.99% of the guys out there.

Basically, stop worry about your penis size. Your girlfriend already sees you as B in my list above. If you start focusing on having a fun sex life, you'll get to C. If you worry about penis size and what some other guy did with your girlfriend before you, your insecurity will eventually take you off the list completely. This forum has the info to help you improve your penis, but don't let the tail wag the dog by obsessing over it.

[penisma Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close penisma]

You're average, now stop hijacking his thread

thats BS casue average is like 5-5.5x4.8

Its been said numeorus times in numerous studies


So why this guy is concerend with his 6.7x5 he shouldnt be?



anyway I have noticed your tone in psots towards me and I guess you have an attitude with me so I will ignore you in future, cheers

[joeaverage Member Find all posts View Profile Close joeaverage]

Wow. Great posts. I'm quite taken-aback at the good advice here.

Okay, so, according to you guys, my insecurity is unwarranted, given the criteria I have presented you with. Hmm, I will try and soak that up. I've honestly never considered the fact that maybe she likes me better in every department....I thought that was impossible.

It is very easy for me to be casual and funny in the beginning, because I don't care. But after I get an emotional connection to the woman, this deluge of insecurity hits me like a tidal wave.

Has anyone thought about the picture(s) that may or may not have been taken? Would that bother other guys and is that something that has happened to a lot of women these days? (what with mobile phones, etc).

Great replies guys. Keep em comming. I am too poor right now to afford a councilor, and, based on the responses I have gotten thus far, I doubt it would be as beneficial. Wow, never thought a pe site would
have people like this....right on.

P.S. For the record, what is the generally agreed-upon average size? (Nbpel, bpel and mseg)

[Steve23 Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Steve23]

thats BS casue average is like 5-5.5x4.8

Its been said numeorus times in numerous studies


So why this guy is concerend with his 6.7x5 he shouldnt be?



anyway I have noticed your tone in psots towards me and I guess you have an attitude with me so I will ignore you in future, cheers

Why would you ask the average if you know it then. Use your head.

[penisma Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close penisma]

Why would you ask the average if you know it then. Use your head.

If you had a brain you would realise I was not asking the average. I was replying cyicnally to the preivous posts.

He stated 'my gf said I had an average penis.'' (his stats listed as 7.5x4.5 post current-8x4.75) and original poster stated he is 6.7x5

My thought in my head is like whats this guy on about?

huh??? what you on about 7x5 is average? since when?


but off course I never wrote it like that.

[MrBigDick Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close MrBigDick]

Wow. Great posts. I'm quite taken-aback at the good advice here.

Okay, so, according to you guys, my insecurity is unwarranted, given the criteria I have presented you with. Hmm, I will try and soak that up. I've honestly never considered the fact that maybe she likes me better in every department....I thought that was impossible.

It is very easy for me to be casual and funny in the beginning, because I don't care. But after I get an emotional connection to the woman, this deluge of insecurity hits me like a tidal wave.

Has anyone thought about the picture(s) that may or may not have been taken? Would that bother other guys and is that something that has happened to a lot of women these days? (what with mobile phones, etc).

Great replies guys. Keep em comming. I am too poor right now to afford a councilor, and, based on the responses I have gotten thus far, I doubt it would be as beneficial. Wow, never thought a pe site would
have people like this....right on.

P.S. For the record, what is the generally agreed-upon average size? (Nbpel, bpel and mseg)

Well, I read this entire thread and I have some insightful words of wisdom for you. First off, she's with you! Quit worrying about some other guy or guys she's had sex with. They are in the past and everyone has a past. This guy who supposedly took photos of her? OK, so he did (I'll assume he did because now a days, MOST guys like to photograph that shit and brag to their buddy's about the chick they just nailed). I'm presuming this was BEFORE you entered the picture. If this is the case, again, it's in the past.

In my opinion, stop worrying about why she likes you, the greater point is that SHE DOES. You're the only person who can get over your insecurities, no one else can do that for you. Focus on enjoying the fact that you've got a beautiful gf who thinks your the cat's meow and stop this nonsensical worrying about why she's with you. Just enjoy it!