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[Phoenix7672 Senior Member Member of the Month Oct 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Phoenix7672]

I still don't understand how so many go on about being able to go 1-2hrs...1-2 hrs of 'sex' (the whole thing from foreplay to end, breaks between rounds, etc) sure, but 1-2hrs of thrusting with no breaks? I just can't see how that is possible, and how both parties aren't raw by then.

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I still don't understand how so many go on about being able to go 1-2hrs...1-2 hrs of 'sex' (the whole thing from foreplay to end, breaks between rounds, etc) sure, but 1-2hrs of thrusting with no breaks? I just can't see how that is possible, and how both parties aren't raw by then.

Exactly haha two weeks ago I was with a girl who is typically super wet. We went once for about 10min and then on the second time of continuous 10-15min she said it was starting to hurt. I've done more than that, but just as an example.

I can see foreplay, some sex, cuddling/talking, kissing, more sex, etc taking 1-2 hours but hell even as a guy who is very physically fit I would be dead after an hour straight of sex.

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I still don't understand how so many go on about being able to go 1-2hrs...1-2 hrs of 'sex' (the whole thing from foreplay to end, breaks between rounds, etc) sure, but 1-2hrs of thrusting with no breaks? I just can't see how that is possible, and how both parties aren't raw by then.

Lube.

I used to have 2 hours of raw fucking all the time. No foreplay, no breaks, just drinking water periodically throughout, while still penetrating.

It was work, work that I chose to permanently retire from.. I ain't about them quickies.

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Lube.

I used to have 2 hours of raw fucking all the time. No foreplay, no breaks, just drinking water periodically throughout, while still penetrating.

It was work, work that I chose to permanently retire from.. I ain't about them quickies.

You say you retired from it, but don't do quickies...so I guess you mean just typically 20-30min sessions?

The thing for me is my gf and I are both in professional schools and very busy. Very rarely do I have a lot of free time and sure maybe 1-2x per week we'd want it to be a long thing but if I happen to be horny and want sex daily I can't spend 7-14 hours per week having sex. Not to mention that even if I had that time I wouldn't have any interest in fucking someone that long lol. Honestly after 20min max I want to cum, and it seems most guys I've talked to who aren't in their first few years of having sex feel the same way. There are only so many positions to do...

Qandisa, any input on that one? As far as wanting it every time? I would definitely rather go a little longer than not long enough but I was just thinking of a few weeks ago when a girl who was pretty into me said "do you wanna cum for me?" and it was about 15min in...just made me think she was ready to be done with the sex as I didn't really give any indication that I was personally about to finish.

Edit: Also how long do you like to stay in one position generally? I know it could vary but what are your thoughts on it? For me I feel like I hit 3-6 positions per session, each for 2-5 minutes at a time.

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1-2 hours is just too long. I prefer 30-45 min usually. 15 min of foreplay and 15-30 min of sex. Its actually more like 10 min of actual sex. But we have gone over an hour before. I can last as long as I want, so I go until she cums then I finish with her or a few minutes after. Sex is awesome, and it's usually so intense that if it goes on for hours, it loses it's intensity and feels more like I'm making porn.

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1-2 hours is just too long. I prefer 30-45 min usually. 15 min of foreplay and 15-30 min of sex. Its actually more like 10 min of actual sex. But we have gone over an hour before. I can last as long as I want, so I go until she cums then I finish with her or a few minutes after. Sex is awesome, and it's usually so intense that if it goes on for hours, it loses it's intensity and feels more like I'm making porn.

Fully agreed.

Last night I finally had legit sex with that girl I was talking about in the other thread. It was good but only about 10min. Afterwards we were talking and I said "in an ideal world, how long would a good sex session last for you?" and she kind of laughed/smiled I think because she knew her answer was different and said "honestly like 5-10 minutes" and I laughed saying it surprised me. Then when I mentioned a "five minute quickie" she was saying she didn't even consider that a quickie and she didn't mind "real quickies" i.e. a few minutes.

I was particularly surprised because she has been with so many guys (I was #27 apparently). She also has gone out of her way to have sex with her ex bf just for the sex, despite saying she has almost never cum during sex (said maybe 2x ever). So that was a bit strange to me but yea she said more than 10+min she loses interest / gets tired /etc and I kind of feel the same way lol. I had amazing sex with someone Thursday and the entire thing lasted maybe 15min.

[Qandisa Senior Member Member of the Month March 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Qandisa]

Qandisa, any input on that one? As far as wanting it every time? I would definitely rather go a little longer than not long enough but I was just thinking of a few weeks ago when a girl who was pretty into me said "do you wanna cum for me?" and it was about 15min in...just made me think she was ready to be done with the sex as I didn't really give any indication that I was personally about to finish.

Edit: Also how long do you like to stay in one position generally? I know it could vary but what are your thoughts on it? For me I feel like I hit 3-6 positions per session, each for 2-5 minutes at a time.

You have to realize that when things like this are concerned, I'm a bit of a freak. I love sex, I love having sex, and I'd be quite happy having sex every day, multiple times a day. When NewFWB and I stayed at a hotel it was hours and hours and hours of sex. The other night he was saying I have the sex drive of a teenage boy.


I know that sometimes it seems like it's lasted longer than it really has - there have been times when I’ll have sworn it’s been a good 45min and I’ll look at the clock and it’s only been 20. And conversely there have been times when it’ll feel like we’ve just gotten started and haven’t been at it all that long and I realize that oops no it’s been like 45min.


NewFWB has tons of stamina and when he’s really into it he can just keep going and going. As in like 3x in a row - no real stopping, no pulling out, just has an orgasm, slows down a little bit, and then right back into it. That was the hotel night, and it was awesome. MainFWB doesn’t have the same kind of stamina and he’s generally a one-round only kind of guy, but he’s still awesome. Yes, I do often wish it would go on longer or we’d get more rounds in but that’s pretty much the only complain I could ever have about sex with him - and honestly with his schedule lasting longer may not even really be an issue since we’ve rarely got more than 20-30min together anyway.


As far as how long I like to stay in one position - there’s no real consistent answer to that. As long as it’s working and feeling good, basically. When it starts to lose that edge and isn’t doing the job any more, then it’s time to switch to another one. I find usually that seems to happen more often for the guy than for me, so maybe it just takes longer for me to acclimate to any particular position. I do have to admit that sometimes it is a little annoying when I’m really getting into and enjoying a particular position and my partner wants to switch. But in general I leave the timing of it up to my partner, because generally I know that I’m going to be good with spending longer in most positions than he is so if there’s something he’d like better then I’m fine with switching.

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NewFWB has tons of stamina and when he’s really into it he can just keep going and going. As in like 3x in a row - no real stopping, no pulling out, just has an orgasm, slows down a little bit, and then right back into it. That was the hotel night, and it was awesome. MainFWB doesn’t have the same kind of stamina and he’s generally a one-round only kind of guy, but he’s still awesome. Yes, I do often wish it would go on longer or we’d get more rounds in but that’s pretty much the only complain I could ever have about sex with him - and honestly with his schedule lasting longer may not even really be an issue since we’ve rarely got more than 20-30min together anyway.

See that's the point I was sort of making...hours of sex does make sense...but not in terms of pumping away for hours without stopping/moving from round 1 to round 2.

Also guessing you don't use condoms/use some other form of BC? AFAIK, it wasn't 'safe' to reuse the same condom for different rounds, as much fun as it would be to just keep going and going (I normally need to go 2-3+ before I'm done, but swapping out condoms is a PITA).

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Thanks for giving such detailed answers Qandisa.

Any opinion on the technique mentioned here: the best and easiest way to eat pussy .......she will cum as many times as you want

As I mentioned I don't go down on too many women because of my concern about the STD risk but at the same time when I do it I'd like it to be good. I've only gone down on 6 women total and 4 of them were one time deals so there wasn't much feedback but none of them came from it. I have done it on my gf consistently and she said it feels good but wouldn't be enough to get her off. Which really makes me wonder if I just suck at it because 1.) she cums almost every time we have sex and 2.) when she masturbates she fingers herself clitorally so clearly that area can get her off. So I don't know what the deal is. The second to last girl I did it on enjoyed it but it was more her hips really moving a lot, I don't think she was going to cum. And the last girl I did it with particularly confused me because she pulled me up after a few minutes to have sex with her, yet she said she never cums during sex (so I assume she only comes from masturbation and maybe oral) so you'd think she would have wanted me to continue with oral unless it just wasn't good.

It seems like it should be fairly simple, lick/suck the clit area and finger the g-spot a bit while doing so but Idk, I don't get the intended results it seems.

Sometimes despite being with almost 50 women I feel like such a noob with sex lol I'm very physically dominant, pick girls up and all of that, and get compliments, but at the same time wonder if making most of these women 1-night stands has hurt me because there wasn't time to really learn their bodies and whatnot.

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See that's the point I was sort of making...hours of sex does make sense...but not in terms of pumping away for hours without stopping/moving from round 1 to round 2.

Also guessing you don't use condoms/use some other form of BC? AFAIK, it wasn't 'safe' to reuse the same condom for different rounds, as much fun as it would be to just keep going and going (I normally need to go 2-3+ before I'm done, but swapping out condoms is a PITA).

If you need to cum 2-3+ times per session I imagine those would be particularly long sessions then? Unless it's only 5-10 minutes per time. For me at least the first time can be 5-10min but then the 2nd and 3rd time would be exponentially longer.

My physical refractory period has always been on the shorter end, a few minutes maybe (though I have just stayed in the girl and kept going after a short reprieve if it was a girlfriend). But my mental refractory period is longer lol usually I don't have much interest after sex for a good 20+min depending on the girl (with some girls I just want to leave lol).

[Phoenix7672 Senior Member Member of the Month Oct 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Phoenix7672]

If you need to cum 2-3+ times per session I imagine those would be particularly long sessions then? Unless it's only 5-10 minutes per time. For me at least the first time can be 5-10min but then the 2nd and 3rd time would be exponentially longer.

My physical refractory period has always been on the shorter end, a few minutes maybe (though I have just stayed in the girl and kept going after a short reprieve if it was a girlfriend). But my mental refractory period is longer lol usually I don't have much interest after sex for a good 20+min depending on the girl (with some girls I just want to leave lol).

Depends on the day...sometimes as short as 5 mins, other times as long as 30. Typically either round 1 or 2 is the longest, given after that I'm getting tired depending on how long I've been at it for.

At least in my case, even in my low 30s my refraction period is short to non-existent...mental refractionary is always 0..hence part of the need to release a number of times before I'm done. That's part of my reason for asking Q about just continuing on...as I always assumed it was unsafe to keep using the same condom for rounds 2 or 3 considering it is 'loaded', so to speak.

[Qandisa Senior Member Member of the Month March 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Qandisa]

Also guessing you don't use condoms/use some other form of BC? AFAIK, it wasn't 'safe' to reuse the same condom for different rounds, as much fun as it would be to just keep going and going (I normally need to go 2-3+ before I'm done, but swapping out condoms is a PITA).

Normally I do use condoms. In fact with everyone else I use them, NewFWB and I have kind of a special relationship/situation. I have a feeling that if our situations were different we'd already be talking about moving in together or something like that.

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Any opinion on the technique mentioned here: the best and easiest way to eat pussy .......she will cum as many times as you want

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It seems like it should be fairly simple, lick/suck the clit area and finger the g-spot a bit while doing so but Idk, I don't get the intended results it seems.

Had a read through that technique - it would frustrate me more than anything. It wouldn't get me off. The part about licking the whole area first is good, but honestly I would go back and do that again every so often. Sucking and licking the clit is good but for me good usage and technique with the tip is key. Remember clits come in all different sizes, just like nipples. It sounds to me like whoever wrote that has had experience with women with larger clits, if you're with someone with a smaller one (like mine) then getting at it with the tip is going to be more effective.

And honestly I HATE being fingered while being licked. Hate it. I know some women like it, and it's done all the time in porn, but I HATE it and I will absolutely never cum if that's done while I'm being licked. I have been with guys who seem to have a reliance on doing that and I just keep thinking I am going to tie his fucking hands behind his back and just hold his head there and make him use just his fucking tongue for once.

[Phoenix7672 Senior Member Member of the Month Oct 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Phoenix7672]

Normally I do use condoms. In fact with everyone else I use them, NewFWB and I have kind of a special relationship/situation. I have a feeling that if our situations were different we'd already be talking about moving in together or something like that.

Ah ic...I'll admit it does suck since I'm ok to continue, but in the time it takes to pull out, take off, get another, put it on, etc I've been taken out of the moment (and so has she), so it means foreplay before re-entering. Not that it's a bad thing...but I've always wondered what it is like to just keep up going, as I've only ever been able to do that on my own (since no condom is involved). Also royally sucks when the girl isn't 'pro-sex', so that downtime might be enough for her to not want to continue to round 2.

On another note...hoping maybe it does work out between you a the new guy...sounds like there still might be potential for someone more between you two, even though you say 'if things were different'....but then again, I don't know the full situation.

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Had a read through that technique - it would frustrate me more than anything. It wouldn't get me off. The part about licking the whole area first is good, but honestly I would go back and do that again every so often. Sucking and licking the clit is good but for me good usage and technique with the tip is key. Remember clits come in all different sizes, just like nipples. It sounds to me like whoever wrote that has had experience with women with larger clits, if you're with someone with a smaller one (like mine) then getting at it with the tip is going to be more effective.

And honestly I HATE being fingered while being licked. Hate it. I know some women like it, and it's done all the time in porn, but I HATE it and I will absolutely never cum if that's done while I'm being licked. I have been with guys who seem to have a reliance on doing that and I just keep thinking I am going to tie his fucking hands behind his back and just hold his head there and make him use just his fucking tongue for once.

Hahaha fuck!!! This is what I'm talking about, all of my experiences and I feel like a beginner again. Honestly the feedback in that thread about that technique was SO overwhelmingly positive, and then I saw a video by Jason Julius (a purported 'expert') and it mentioned the same thing, like of going into it like if you were to bite into an apple, as he says, (point being to get your mouth all around it) and then suck on it. And then the majority of them recommend using a finger for g-spot stimulation as well but I have heard plenty of people say this can be an annoying distraction (while others say it's great and incredibly stimulating for them )

Now when you say using the tip of the tongue, you're not saying the "painting the fence" technique seen in porn all of the time right? Is the guy still creating that seal around it and just using the tip of his tongue in the same way, just not the whole tongue as described in that thread? Any more tips on it, like are they swirling it around or going up and down or what? Not sure if you can tell that specifically.

How To eat Pussy - Erotic sex video - Tube8.com not sure if you have any interest in watching all of this but if you do let me know what you think about his advice. This is part of why I always avoided the tip of the tongue, he shows how bad the fence painting is around 5:30 and she says it does nothing for her.