26 year old virgin seeking help.

[softee Member Find all posts View Profile Close softee]

I'll admit that I am pretty embarrassed to make this post but this is something that I have put aside for so long and it isn't going to get any better as time goes on.
As the title states, 26 year old virgin with little to no experience at all with females as far as sexual things go because of insecurities and feeling inadequate. I have avoided females for most of my life as far as relationships and sexual escalation is concerned. I have had body image issues since I was a young teen well into my 20's and now heading into my late 20's.

My penis being the major cause of my insecurity and reason for avoiding any sexual contact or escalation with females period. I measure roughly 6.5 bpel just at 6 or slightly above nbpel and 4.75 girth uncut. I found this forum when I was 18 because of this very reason of feeling inadequate. Despite getting in better shape and receiving mostly positive feedback from females, it doesn't do me any peace of mind because of my fear of being disappointing in the penile department. I don't want to come off as arrogant or as if i'm trying to brag because this is very subjective. In my experience I have been told I'm very attractive, good looking, handsome ect. I do think very poorly of myself and some female friends and acquaintances were dumbfounded with how poorly I view myself.

I have never showed a female my penis in real life due to this fear other than recently showing a few some pics that were taken from flattering angles. I received shockingly positive feedback but i think thats also due to the fact that I would constantly talk about how small it was so it may be a bit of reverse psychology. Apparently I seem like the kind of guy that gets girls and could have his pick due to my looks according to the feedback of females I have encountered or conversed with. This doesn't help my self esteem because it seems as though some kind of extraordinary sexual performance would be expected of me and at my age and in actuality its very depressing.

I started jelqing in January of 2018 and had a few setbacks in which I was pulling on my turkey neck and exacerbated it so I have just stuck with big al's squeezes. I may need to change up the routine a bit because i haven't made much progress. The goal in mind would be to keep at it and someday achieve a penis large enough so that no mater what a female tells me, there is no doubt that i have a large one. People can say its all how you use it but deep down females would never mind something larger regardless of what they say because most don't want to hurt your feelings. I will post the flattering pics in my library soon to give you guys and gals a better idea of what I'm working with.

I cant help but feel bad about this because it is mentally exhausting and I cant ignore it anymore. Guys can say "who cares what they think" but forums and these exercises exist for a reason, otherwise this perception of penis size and whats adequate or not wouldn't exist. To be clear, I don't have any religious reasons for withholding this long at all. I just don't want my self esteem and fear of what I always thought would happen to further shatter my confidence.

Everyone hears how females talk about this in real life, television, online, and its hard to ignore without it leaving lasting impressions.

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

So you need therapy .
You also need to stop doing Al squeezes which is an advanced move.

[djmotion Senior Member Member of the Month March 2019 Find all posts View Profile Close djmotion]

You are above average in length and average in girth. You have more than enough to please a woman. Even if you had a small dick, you still have enough to please a woman (tongue and fingers).

I would say you still need therapy because to get over this you have to believe you are good enough and that is hard to achieve without the right help. You've gone your whole life avoiding sex because of these feelings and that avoidance has just made things 100% worse.

Let me ask you something and think hard because your mind will only try to remember times were girls have talked about big cocks. Have you never, in your whole life, heard a girl say that size doesn't matter or that the best sex they've had was with someone that was smaller or that someone who was big was shit in bed?

Because of your insecurity, you will only remember the ones who say bigger is better but in my experience whilst I knew quite a few who talked about size. There where many who said the best they had was average or smaller.

In the long run what does it matter? Say you have sex and a girl isn't impressed with your size, it's not like her opinion is the only one that matters and you will meet someone who really doesn't care about your dick but if you continue avoiding then you for sure will never get the chance to experience an intimate connection.

[Qloz Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Qloz]

You should get your shit together because the way of your thinking is not healthy at all.

Being depressed over above average sizes is so pathetic.

[djmotion Senior Member Member of the Month March 2019 Find all posts View Profile Close djmotion]

You should get your shit together because the way of your thinking is not healthy at all.

Being depressed over above average sizes is so pathetic.

Try to be a little more understanding and helpful please. It might seem unimportant to you but to the OP, the anxiety is very real. People need help for issues like this and it isn't as easy as getting your shit together. Thanks.

[Phoenix7672 Senior Member Member of the Month Oct 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Phoenix7672]

Based on your stats it sounds like you are above average/high average length now and average girth...you might even be bigger than some of the guys a girl has been with.

[Trax2Brax Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Trax2Brax]

First and foremost, if you're gonna do PE always make sure you do it for YOU and nobody else. If you want a bigger penis, get it! It may take some time, but it's definitely doable as you've seen from the members here.

You'll probably find when you get with a girl (and this has probably already happened) comments about penises may or may not be flown by your nose. If they do, never give any real personal scrutiny to them. Never get offended/annoyed/etc. cause it's gonna make it known that it gets under your skin and can be used against you again in the future. If you're insecure about your size, it's DOUBLY important you understand that.

If you don't give an emotional output of some sort to penis comments, whether that's about yours or other mens, and instead use some form of humor or nonchalance it's unlikely she'll give comments about it again. And most importantly, for the love of god don't ask things like "Am I big enough?" or "How big were your former lovers?' cause you're not gonna like the answers and it'll make you look even more insecure. Ignorance can be bliss.

[softee Member Find all posts View Profile Close softee]

So you need therapy .
You also need to stop doing Al squeezes which is an advanced move.

why so and what kind of therapy? My main goal would be girth since it seems to be the most important and beneficial although length wouldnt hurt either.

[softee Member Find all posts View Profile Close softee]

You are above average in length and average in girth. You have more than enough to please a woman. Even if you had a small dick, you still have enough to please a woman (tongue and fingers).

I would say you still need therapy because to get over this you have to believe you are good enough and that is hard to achieve without the right help. You've gone your whole life avoiding sex because of these feelings and that avoidance has just made things 100% worse.

Let me ask you something and think hard because your mind will only try to remember times were girls have talked about big cocks. Have you never, in your whole life, heard a girl say that size doesn't matter or that the best sex they've had was with someone that was smaller or that someone who was big was shit in bed?

Because of your insecurity, you will only remember the ones who say bigger is better but in my experience whilst I knew quite a few who talked about size. There where many who said the best they had was average or smaller.

In the long run what does it matter? Say you have sex and a girl isn't impressed with your size, it's not like her opinion is the only one that matters and you will meet someone who really doesn't care about your dick but if you continue avoiding then you for sure will never get the chance to experience an intimate connection.

the way me penis looks in angles and to me has always just seemed small. It appears to be smaller because of my upward curve and i only get an accurate measurement when i push it downward and measure the length. These were basically my starting stats anothough i may have gained a slight increase in girth or maybe its and increase in eq. Either way, I cant help but feel inadequate being an average girth.

Yes I have heard that and I take those things with a grain of salt. Forget about avoiding sex, i have avoided any sexual contact with the opposite gender altogether because of what it would eventually lead to.

The opinion matters to me because if you like the person and they tell you how they really feel and its not positive, that can leave a lasting affect on ones self esteem.

[softee Member Find all posts View Profile Close softee]

First and foremost, if you're gonna do PE always make sure you do it for YOU and nobody else. If you want a bigger penis, get it! It may take some time, but it's definitely doable as you've seen from the members here.

You'll probably find when you get with a girl (and this has probably already happened) comments about penises may or may not be flown by your nose. If they do, never give any real personal scrutiny to them. Never get offended/annoyed/etc. cause it's gonna make it known that it gets under your skin and can be used against you again in the future. If you're insecure about your size, it's DOUBLY important you understand that.

If you don't give an emotional output of some sort to penis comments, whether that's about yours or other mens, and instead use some form of humor or nonchalance it's unlikely she'll give comments about it again. And most importantly, for the love of god don't ask things like "Am I big enough?" or "How big were your former lovers?' cause you're not gonna like the answers and it'll make you look even more insecure. Ignorance can be bliss.

I am doing it for myself but lets be honest why are most guys looking to improve themselves and especially ones with below average or small ones? To only be doing PE strictly for yourself unless you are already large, purely for oneself seems like a cope or excuse. According to your starting stats, I believe that you could very well be doing it for yourself. Don’t take this the wrong way because I appreciate the reply, but its always guys that have more of or something that others dont that tell them to not worry or be happy about it.

You say I should never let a womans comments about my penis get under my skin, but why are they trying to undermine us in such a malicious way? This is another reason that I have completely avoided them, so that they could never have that opportunity. Its safe to say that I have developed a deep resentment for them and their entitlement and failure to be understanding of things a male has no control over like height or penis size. Height is something I didn’t miss out on in the genetic lottery so to speak.

I think to myself at times that maybe I am just overanalyzing all of this and once I actually take a step foward and even show my penis to a female in real life, that I am going to regret making such a big deal about it and feel even worse.

That also does concern me about a girls other partners and coming up short in comparison to them. This has always been in the back of my mind. Forget about performance when you have no experience at all and the pressure always being on males in the performance aspect. I have considered playing catch up and practicing in the near future with escorts because I will never admit to this lack of experience to any female that has interest in me.

[softee Member Find all posts View Profile Close softee]

Based on your stats it sounds like you are above average/high average length now and average girth...you might even be bigger than some of the guys a girl has been with.

I wish I could believe that but there is absolutely no way to tell. I dont even like to count bpel. I posted pictures in albums beside my turkey neck album. Do moderators have to approve them first? Like I said they were taken from flattering angles and my penis looks small otherwise especially when standing and my fat pad is more visible as opposed to being seated.

[bigplayre Senior Member Member of the Month June 2019 Find all posts View Profile Close bigplayre]

I think you need to find some self-love. Just from reading your post, I have MANY similarities to you. Hit the "genetic lottery" so to speak, but when I was younger I couldn't get laid and still have trouble from time to time depending on the state of my mental health/self-esteem. You just have to jump, it's risky and no one wants to fail. But, if you want to get to the next stages in life you have to make that jump and just say FUCK IT! Keep telling yourself that until you believe it. Keep telling yourself that you feel and are perfectly adequate and beyond that. Repeat it in the mirror everyday, over time you will make a big difference on your mental psyche. The only person who can defeat you is yourself, and right now you're doing a very good job at it.

[Party Senior Member Member of the Month August 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Party]

Softer you’re fine. I’ve gotten my wife off many times with just my finger inside and I have small hands. Think about. When women master bate they use fingers smaller than your finger. Obviously your dick is much larger than that. Relax. Go, boy go! Go fuck right now! Seriously. Go !!!

[djmotion Senior Member Member of the Month March 2019 Find all posts View Profile Close djmotion]

well I'm short 5'4" and I can tell you that it is much more difficult being a short guy and you are for more likely to be ridiculed by women and men than having an average sized penis. Trust me people treat you like shit when you're short or look young and they don't hide it. It tends to be only young people that make fun of guys for small dicks. Women around your age usually won't do it.

I once had a girl on a dating site who I had just clicked like on her to receive a message saying no thanks I don't date short guys. It is extremely difficult for us to find women that will date us. They care FAR more about height than dick size and I think they may also assume that a short guy has a small dick which would be wrong obviously.

[djmotion Senior Member Member of the Month March 2019 Find all posts View Profile Close djmotion]

In fact from my experience I've probably heard one girl takes piss out of guys for being small. All the others were men taking piss in high-school. I myself was a victim in the boys locker room.