26 year old virgin seeking help.

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General mental issues tryto get some help.

[GiftBringer Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close GiftBringer]

I dont get your situation but i get the snowball effect and similar situations when it comes to sex. If you could just get the deed done, the next time youll atleast know what to do. There is a lot of info on here but like you said you're a good looking guy, i really dont see why it hasnt come your way yet. Go flirt with chicks every day, then when one bites, go for dinner and take her home for netflix and chill (sex).

[closed289 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close closed289]

I think the people in this thread should all pledge towards an Escort visit so this guy can get laid and move on with his life...

[softee Member Find all posts View Profile Close softee]

I dont get your situation but i get the snowball effect and similar situations when it comes to sex. If you could just get the deed done, the next time youll atleast know what to do. There is a lot of info on here but like you said you're a good looking guy, i really dont see why it hasnt come your way yet. Go flirt with chicks every day, then when one bites, go for dinner and take her home for netflix and chill (sex).

Hasn’t come my way (much) because like I said I put in zero effort and don’t put myself out there. I don’t go to places that have large populations of females in general. It has come my way when a girl seemed to be dropping hints, but I avoided it for said reasons. People telling me I have mental issues now is just outstanding. I always believed that I may have some or am just over analyzing everything. It would be a detriment to my mental state to find out that i do. By this logic, the crippling penis size insecurity would probably be true as well. Trust your gut feeling, it never did me wrong. That is not anecdotal either.

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General mental issues tryto get some help.

You keep telling me that which isn’t making me feel any better. Common knowledge that you shouldn’t always get to caught up in what is said on the internet. I am trusting this forums community to help me out because its the only one that seems rational especially in this field. You keep making this analysis that I have mental issues but dont provide any logic behind it. If you don’t have any reasoning or help backing that idea, then how are you qualified to make that conclusion? Personal opinion?

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You keep telling me that which isn’t making me feel any better. Common knowledge that you shouldn’t always get to caught up in what is said on the internet. I am trusting this forums community to help me out because its the only one that seems rational especially in this field. You keep making this analysis that I have mental issues but dont provide any logic behind it. If you don’t have any reasoning or help backing that idea, then how are you qualified to make that conclusion? Personal opinion?

Read your own posts it's clear enough.

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Read your own posts it's clear enough.

Right, and you were the first responder. Jumping to a conclusion without any explanation as to why you think that. So your psychoanalysis of me holds little to no validity. Brushing off everything that I said as being a “mental issue”. You shouldn’t be making remarks like that when you don’t have the proper credentials to do so. Well this is the internet!

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Right, and you were the first responder. Jumping to a conclusion without any explanation as to why you think that. So your psychoanalysis of me holds little to no validity. Brushing off everything that I said as being a “mental issue”. You shouldn’t be making remarks like that when you don’t have the proper credentials to do so. Well this is the internet!

Then don't post here about your problems if you don't want others. Nobody here has the credentials to give their opinion on your state of mind, that's basically what you are saying.

Go see a therapist. You're a virgin because you are self conscious about your dick size despite not being called small. That warrants professional help. Either that or you're an incel. Both cases are mental health issues.

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Then don't post here about your problems if you don't want others. Nobody here has the credentials to give their opinion on your state of mind, that's basically what you are saying.

Go see a therapist. You're a virgin because you are self conscious about your dick size despite not being called small. That warrants professional help. Either that or you're an incel. Both cases are mental health issues.

No I asked him and didn’t say “nobody”. He brought it up more than once so he could kindly provide a little insight as to why he thinks that but fails to. Vaguely insists that everything i’m saying isn’t realistic whatsoever and related to mental health issues. If he keeps bringing it up ofcourse im going to ask for some elaboration.

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I am trusting this forums community to help me out because its the only one that seems rational especially in this field.

No you're not! You initiated by admitting that you have "little to no experience with women", yet when a group of people with plenty of experience with women give you their opinions and advice, you blow them off. How is that trusting this community in any way? What are you after, here?!

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Credit or respect regarding what?

You have no experience with women yet assume that penis size is an important factor. You say that a woman who stays with a man who isn't good in bed because he's a good husband is "settling". You talk about doing them a favor by revealing your penis size from the start - as though you're trying to be an honest salesman and they're just the innocent victim, shopping for a car or something. It's just about the height of demeaning and condescending.

I can't believe I'm back in this conversation! You've received plenty of help and advice yet you dismiss it all despite the fact that you have no experience. It's clear to most of us that you're avoiding relationships and hiding behind your dick size as an excuse. For the last time, you'd be wise to speak with a therapist and hopefully talk with someone who has experience dealing with anxiety issues - preferably sexual anxiety.

[ThinLongShroom Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close ThinLongShroom]

Okay, my reaction is alot longer than I expected, my apologies!

TL;DR:
- Don't worry that much;
- Don't put too much emphasis on your size and performace, sex should be fun, and even bad sex is quite awesome;
- Don't show her the goods for inspection beforehand;
- She has her own insecurities and probably won't regret anything unless you turn out to be an asshole;
- Maybe find a girl outside of your own social group if you are really that worried about possible bad comments, which I don't think you should be.

I think alot has already been said in this thread and I do agree with alot of the reactions you have gotten. I think you really have to start believing that you are not as small as you think you are or atleast believe that size does not matter as much as you think. Probably more than 50% of all fully grown human penises are within an inch smaller or bigger than yours. You are well within the mix with most men. However reading your reactions to other members telling you you are atleast average does not make me believe another random stranger on the internet telling you this is going to change your mind. Therefore I will try to give you a different train of thought which might help you get your mind together to be more comfortable and confident with what you have.

Some of the things you say are a bit odd or weird in my opinion. You are saying you are doing her a favor by "showing the goods" before sleeping with her. Isn't this not just strange to do? You are a human being, not an object. You know that right? Atleast I hope so, I bet she knows that. Additionally, you say you think girls are too shallow by putting too much emphasis on penis size. Yet here you are avoiding one of the most awesome things to do in life, and for what reason? Your size, don't think I have to explain the irony. I even think you are putting more emphasis on your size than most of the men with a comparable size as you have, and more than most of the women who have slept with a guy with a comparable size.

I could just wing it and not mention anything until after the deed is done if i can seal the deal.

In my opinion the best idea you've had in this thread. But why even mention it after the deed is done at all? If you don't put much emphasis on your size before sleeping with someone yourself (and by "showing the goods" before sleeping with her you definitely do) she probably doesn't either. She is probably thinking more about her own insecurities: her weight, her boobs, her performance, her nervousness, etc. You are not the only one with insecurities! Hell, (almost) everyone has their own insecurities. Coming back to the "doing her a favor" part because you think she is going to regret sleeping with you because of your size. I don't think women usually regret sleeping with someone because of his penis size or a poor performance. Rather, I think (if they regret it at all) it's usually for completely different reasons: him turning out to be a jerk, not calling back, cheating, etc.

Don't worry that much, sex is supposed to be fun, and OH BOY IT IS! Especially with someone you really like, or even better.... love! I know it is much easier said than done, I also do have my own (irrational) insecurities. However, even though I would not be able to tell from just your pictures who has the bigger willy, my size is not one of them. Should I start worrying about my size now aswell...? I don't believe I should, atleast I am not going to. I know some of my own insecurities are irrational, but it is still very hard to get them out of my head. I understand your struggle. Not because of your actual size, because of your own perception of your size and your insecurities. I hope after all the reactions you have had that you are able to consider your insecurity about your size might also be irrational, or atleast not as rational as you thought.

Hopefully you'll soon find a nice girl you are comfortable enough with to perform the disappearing salami act with. You sound like a nice guy who is just insecure about his size or maybe even a bit scared for your first time. I know I was! I am even still a little bit scared and insecure for the next time I will sleep with a girl for the first time. Atleast I know now that even an awkward and poorly performed first time with a girl is still quite awesome!

Since you are saying you are worried she might tell others that you are small (which I don't think you have to be). It might be an idea to find/meet a girl outside of your current social group. Someone you don't know already and does not know the people you usually hang out with. You are saying you are quite social and that you can converse easily and get girls to like you. If that is the case. Go out, meet new girls and maybe get on tinder (not necessarily for just an hookup, but rather for a date). You like her? Go for it! You don't? Try again! You can do it! You are social and talk easily, I envy you! Not something I am good at, not at all to be honest What the hell do people talk about for more than half an hour with someone they just met?!

Okay I've been rattling on for too long now and I don't think typing more is beneficial. Hope it helps and that it is readable. Never been much of a writer and English is not my main language. My master's thesis (also in English) is a complete disaster .

Good luck!

[softee Member Find all posts View Profile Close softee]

You have no experience with women yet assume that penis size is an important factor. You say that a woman who stays with a man who isn't good in bed because he's a good husband is "settling". You talk about doing them a favor by revealing your penis size from the start - as though you're trying to be an honest salesman and they're just the innocent victim, shopping for a car or something. It's just about the height of demeaning and condescending.

I can't believe I'm back in this conversation! You've received plenty of help and advice yet you dismiss it all despite the fact that you have no experience. It's clear to most of us that you're avoiding relationships and hiding behind your dick size as an excuse. For the last time, you'd be wise to speak with a therapist and hopefully talk with someone who has experience dealing with anxiety issues - preferably sexual anxiety.

Yeah I understand everyone is getting tired and frustrated of me. Just venting some pent up frustration of my own. Let me reiterate the experience thing. I have little to no experience with females “Sexually”. I have spoken to my fair share up until this point in my life and can say that once they trust you and come out of their shell, they will admit things they normally wouldn’t. No kidding penis size isn’t the number one deciding factor whether or not a female stays with a guy or wants to have sex with him but to say that it doesn’t matter at all isn’t true.

If I was truly some socially awkward incel that has never even had a conversation with a female, then that would be a clear indication of being a headcase.

[softee Member Find all posts View Profile Close softee]

Okay, my reaction is alot longer than I expected, my apologies!

TL;DR:
- Don't worry that much;
- Don't put too much emphasis on your size and performace, sex should be fun, and even bad sex is quite awesome;
- Don't show her the goods for inspection beforehand;
- She has her own insecurities and probably won't regret anything unless you turn out to be an asshole;
- Maybe find a girl outside of your own social group if you are really that worried about possible bad comments, which I don't think you should be.

I think alot has already been said in this thread and I do agree with alot of the reactions you have gotten. I think you really have to start believing that you are not as small as you think you are or atleast believe that size does not matter as much as you think. Probably more than 50% of all fully grown human penises are within an inch smaller or bigger than yours. You are well within the mix with most men. However reading your reactions to other members telling you you are atleast average does not make me believe another random stranger on the internet telling you this is going to change your mind. Therefore I will try to give you a different train of thought which might help you get your mind together to be more comfortable and confident with what you have.

Some of the things you say are a bit odd or weird in my opinion. You are saying you are doing her a favor by "showing the goods" before sleeping with her. Isn't this not just strange to do? You are a human being, not an object. You know that right? Atleast I hope so, I bet she knows that. Additionally, you say you think girls are too shallow by putting too much emphasis on penis size. Yet here you are avoiding one of the most awesome things to do in life, and for what reason? Your size, don't think I have to explain the irony. I even think you are putting more emphasis on your size than most of the men with a comparable size as you have, and more than most of the women who have slept with a guy with a comparable size.



In my opinion the best idea you've had in this thread. But why even mention it after the deed is done at all? If you don't put much emphasis on your size before sleeping with someone yourself (and by "showing the goods" before sleeping with her you definitely do) she probably doesn't either. She is probably thinking more about her own insecurities: her weight, her boobs, her performance, her nervousness, etc. You are not the only one with insecurities! Hell, (almost) everyone has their own insecurities. Coming back to the "doing her a favor" part because you think she is going to regret sleeping with you because of your size. I don't think women usually regret sleeping with someone because of his penis size or a poor performance. Rather, I think (if they regret it at all) it's usually for completely different reasons: him turning out to be a jerk, not calling back, cheating, etc.

Don't worry that much, sex is supposed to be fun, and OH BOY IT IS! Especially with someone you really like, or even better.... love! I know it is much easier said than done, I also do have my own (irrational) insecurities. However, even though I would not be able to tell from just your pictures who has the bigger willy, my size is not one of them. Should I start worrying about my size now aswell...? I don't believe I should, atleast I am not going to. I know some of my own insecurities are irrational, but it is still very hard to get them out of my head. I understand your struggle. Not because of your actual size, because of your own perception of your size and your insecurities. I hope after all the reactions you have had that you are able to consider your insecurity about your size might also be irrational, or atleast not as rational as you thought.

Hopefully you'll soon find a nice girl you are comfortable enough with to perform the disappearing salami act with. You sound like a nice guy who is just insecure about his size or maybe even a bit scared for your first time. I know I was! I am even still a little bit scared and insecure for the next time I will sleep with a girl for the first time. Atleast I know now that even an awkward and poorly performed first time with a girl is still quite awesome!

Since you are saying you are worried she might tell others that you are small (which I don't think you have to be). It might be an idea to find/meet a girl outside of your current social group. Someone you don't know already and does not know the people you usually hang out with. You are saying you are quite social and that you can converse easily and get girls to like you. If that is the case. Go out, meet new girls and maybe get on tinder (not necessarily for just an hookup, but rather for a date). You like her? Go for it! You don't? Try again! You can do it! You are social and talk easily, I envy you! Not something I am good at, not at all to be honest What the hell do people talk about for more than half an hour with someone they just met?!

Okay I've been rattling on for too long now and I don't think typing more is beneficial. Hope it helps and that it is readable. Never been much of a writer and English is not my main language. My master's thesis (also in English) is a complete disaster .

Good luck!

Read everything, thank you for taking the time to respond. When I said wing it, I was referring more to the virgin aspect. Hoping that maybe by some miracle I won’t be as terrible as I predict I will. I have read stories about some guys not mentioning it and I guess it depends on the girls experience, that girls didn’t think they were until they told them afterwards. Should be intuitive to some degree but you’re not going to be Mario Andretti if you haven’t even driven a car.

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I wanted to add one more thing in response to what ThinLongShroom said. Correct me if i’m wrong because I don’t want to re read what I said, but I didn’t say that girls are shallow by putting too much emphasis on penis size. In all honesty, I can’t be mad at them for feeling a certain way or having preferences, but it leaves me feeling angry and inadequate withmyself. I don’t blame them one bit.