26 year old virgin seeking help.

[Bisquick61 Senior Member Member of the Month May 2019 Find all posts View Profile Close Bisquick61]

well I'm short 5'4" and I can tell you that it is much more difficult being a short guy and you are for more likely to be ridiculed by women and men than having an average sized penis. Trust me people treat you like shit when you're short or look young and they don't hide it. It tends to be only young people that make fun of guys for small dicks. Women around your age usually won't do it.

I once had a girl on a dating site who I had just clicked like on her to receive a message saying no thanks I don't date short guys. It is extremely difficult for us to find women that will date us. They care FAR more about height than dick size and I think they may also assume that a short guy has a small dick which would be wrong obviously.

Djmotion, you for sure right. I had a friend of mine back in the day who was about 5’3”. He would tell girls, “we’re the same height laying down so what’s up?!” I can’t believe it worked for him.

[Bisquick61 Senior Member Member of the Month May 2019 Find all posts View Profile Close Bisquick61]

I agree with what the other members have said. It’s a head issue. It’s obvious you have no erection problems either.

You need to take that big sausage out and beat something out the frame.... With protected sex of course

[Johnny D ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Johnny D]

Why not suggest finding a girl that actually wants to have sex? I appreciate everyones responses but i'm not getting too many suggestions on how to solve this problem. Also the unflattering pics are coming soon need to get them from my other phone. As I said before the pics are from good angles and lighting that make it seem larger than my stats like others have mentioned.

You've received plenty of suggestions to help you. You're simply invalidating them because of the implications. You have confidence issues, leading to fear of sex. You might have some intimacy issues, as well. You're hiding behind the size of your dick to avoid dealing with the issues. Again, the size of it is not the issue and we don't need to see pics to know that.

[Bisquick61 Senior Member Member of the Month May 2019 Find all posts View Profile Close Bisquick61]

You've received plenty of suggestions to help you. You're simply invalidating them because of the implications. You have confidence issues, leading to fear of sex. You might have some intimacy issues, as well. You're hiding behind the size of your dick to avoid dealing with the issues. Again, the size of it is not the issue and we don't need to see pics to know that.

I concur

[softee Member Find all posts View Profile Close softee]

You've received plenty of suggestions to help you. You're simply invalidating them because of the implications. You have confidence issues, leading to fear of sex. You might have some intimacy issues, as well. You're hiding behind the size of your dick to avoid dealing with the issues. Again, the size of it is not the issue and we don't need to see pics to know that.

Yes confidence issues, directly linked to the size of my penis! Why is it that you tell people what your issue is and they suggest it is 10 other different things. Right if my penis was 3 inches long some of you would say its still not a problem. Theres too many overly positive people on this site it seems.

Okay so my options are escorts or therapy, thats it? I am not hiding behind the size of my penis to cover up other problems, it is simply the root cause of this lack of confidence and feeling of inadequacy. Why is it so hard to understand? If a female needs some specific size to satisfy her needs, whose to say that size doesnt matter? I or whoever else just so happens to fall short on that spectrum then guess what? I or anyone else is inadequate for that person.

Why wouldn’t you need to see pics? what if I was lying about my stats? I could have a micro penis or donkey shlong in that case. I asked for opinions of my penis pics because pics can be deceiving and make things look larger and better than they are and that is where my fear kicks in of appearing to be smaller and less impressive in the flesh once i actually reveal what I have.

People may have issues but there is always a root cause of how it was initially stemmed.

[djmotion Senior Member Member of the Month March 2019 Find all posts View Profile Close djmotion]

Djmotion, you for sure right. I had a friend of mine back in the day who was about 5’3”. He would tell girls, “we’re the same height laying down so what’s up?!” I can’t believe it worked for him.

I may have to start using this phrase

[closed289 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close closed289]

Why not suggest finding a girl that actually wants to have sex?

Another great thing about escorts, it doesn't matter how badly you suck in bed, they'll still moan like a porn star and make you feel like a sex god.

Of course, this is purely anecdotal. My friend told me...

[djmotion Senior Member Member of the Month March 2019 Find all posts View Profile Close djmotion]

Another great thing about escorts, it doesn't matter how badly you suck in bed, they'll still moan like a porn star and make you feel like a sex god.

Of course, this is purely anecdotal. My friend told me...

They are some that teach virgins too. It all depends on preference though, if you just want sex then having an escort is a good idea but if you want the first time to be with someone you love then obviously no escorts.

If you do choose paid sex then go for a high quality escort and not a prostitute.

[closed289 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close closed289]

If you do choose paid sex then go for a high quality escort and not a prostitute.

Agreed, also take care not to have a condom split. That was an agonizing 3 months after for me...

[softee Member Find all posts View Profile Close softee]

Another great thing about escorts, it doesn't matter how badly you suck in bed, they'll still moan like a porn star and make you feel like a sex god.

Of course, this is purely anecdotal. My friend told me...

Doesn’t matter how bad you suck in bed, they’ll still moan”. That isnt genuine and you’re being lied to. How can you improve if you are terrible and think the way you are peforming is good if someone is falsifying their enjoyment. From what i hear, don’t most women fake orgasms and moaning in general? So most are liars anyway, no surprise there.

I always thought that maybe i just needed to bite the bullet at some point and maybe a girl that wants to have sex with me will prove that it was all in my head. Hopefully come to realize that I was just wasting my time with the insecurity and feelings of being small. I was hoping someone would try and steer me in that direction. I really don’t know which route I should go with.

[closed289 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close closed289]

I get the impression you're worried about the fact you're still a virgin more than your size (which btw is perfectly fine).

Look, you have two options. Get an escort, get some practice and experience which will give you confidence. And if you're not very good on your first few times, who cares? I literally bust a nut in about 5 seconds on my first time having proper sex. And you know what? no fucks were given that day. I remember telling my mate "don't care, I cummed, it still counts". A bit selfish of me but hey!

Alternatively, find a girl you like, take things slow and explain you're nervous and let things go from there? If she has half a heart it won't be the slightest issue.

From what i hear, don’t most women fake orgasms and moaning in general? So most are liars anyway, no surprise there.

I'd also recommend not to generalise like that. There's a lot of good women out there. And believe it or not, for a lot of them, sex really isn't the be all and end all. You'll find they're more interested in security and faithfulness.

[Johnny D ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Johnny D]

I always thought that maybe i just needed to bite the bullet at some point and maybe a girl that wants to have sex with me will prove that it was all in my head. Hopefully come to realize that I was just wasting my time with the insecurity and feelings of being small.

1. Nobody needs to suggest that. It's already one of your options and you just said it.
2. It's already been suggested.

[softee Member Find all posts View Profile Close softee]

I get the impression you're worried about the fact you're still a virgin more than your size (which btw is perfectly fine).

Look, you have two options. Get an escort, get some practice and experience which will give you confidence. And if you're not very good on your first few times, who cares? I literally bust a nut in about 5 seconds on my first time having proper sex. And you know what? no fucks were given that day. I remember telling my mate "don't care, I cummed, it still counts". A bit selfish of me but hey!

Alternatively, find a girl you like, take things slow and explain you're nervous and let things go from there? If she has half a heart it won't be the slightest issue.



I'd also recommend not to generalise like that. There's a lot of good women out there. And believe it or not, for a lot of them, sex really isn't the be all and end all. You'll find they're more interested in security and faithfulness.

Well at this point its bothering me more than ever because the only one to blame is me and like I said if penis size was never an issue for me, I wouldn’t be in this situation today. Withholding and avoiding sexual contact with the opposite gender was purely because of size insecurity. I mean deep down I shouldn’t care but we all know how things like this are stigmatized and you get labeled like there is something wrong with you. Its almost as if I have brainwashed or killed my own libido by telling myself to refrain from any sexual contact because it would do me more harm than good.

[thickpump Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close thickpump]

you are not small. you are above average. there are lots of guys who would love to have what you have. not to mention that with PE, you can be even bigger. but as for now, no reason to let your current size hold you back.

[softee Member Find all posts View Profile Close softee]

Just a reminder that appreciate everyones responses and dealing with me reiterating the same nonsense. As darren mentioned about finding some girl, that wouldn’t be an easy task for my situation. I feel as though I would need a mutual understanding and actually show her what i’m working with before anything went down, so that there isn’t any surprises or false reassurance that she likes what I have. This is strictly so that she isn’t put in a situation where she doesn’t want to hurt my feelings whether she chooses to tell the truth or not.

Some sort of honest validation would lift the weight off my shoulders, this is why an escort doesn’t sound ideal especially since they are basically paid to do their job and act accordingly alongside other factors.

Its also the fact that I would be compared to the girls other partners that are larger than me and not being able to compete with that bothers me beyond belief. Like once you have something bigger and better its hard to go back. There is so much emphasis on penis size in this world, how can one ignore it?

I find myself judging some females with certain body types that are my ideal. For example, fit women with larger butts which is my preference and great, but that poses as an obstacle to achieve proper penetration and I automatically tell myself that it isn’t for me.

The most basic missionary position seems undoable and demotivating. My penis appears to be smaller and hidden when my fat pad covering it up from gravity in that position and so many other things come to mind like condoms being pushed off if those are used.