26 year old virgin seeking help.

[GiftBringer Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close GiftBringer]

I wanted to add one more thing in response to what ThinLongShroom said. Correct me if i’m wrong because I don’t want to re read what I said, but I didn’t say that girls are shallow by putting too much emphasis on penis size. In all honesty, I can’t be mad at them for feeling a certain way or having preferences, but it leaves me feeling angry and inadequate withmyself. I don’t blame them one bit.

Leave all this thinking bro. Your energy will be better spent on the practical matter of going out and flirting with girls physically. You may not be great at it the first few times, but hey, atleast now you have a mission. Attraction is 100% about feeling and being open/in the flow. You'll be surprised how you change to best suit your environment.

A quote from the buddha goes; "you sail a raft built from your knowledge to the other shore. But when you get there you need to leave that raft there. Not carry it with you while you explore new frontiers.

Its all about feeling. Everything you know; you know already, so dont remind yourself about it anymore.

I know it sounds cliche, but all opportunities are happening in the now. And always will be.

[ThinLongShroom Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close ThinLongShroom]

Read everything, thank you for taking the time to respond. When I said wing it, I was referring more to the virgin aspect. Hoping that maybe by some miracle I won’t be as terrible as I predict I will. I have read stories about some guys not mentioning it and I guess it depends on the girls experience, that girls didn’t think they were until they told them afterwards. Should be intuitive to some degree but you’re not going to be Mario Andretti if you haven’t even driven a car.

Ah, guess I misread then. I read the whole thread in one go, which was quite a read. I don't think many people are very confident about their performance the first time. I can't possibly know who you would take home with you and every girl is different. Some might be very understanding and maybe even guide you through it, for some it might give more pressure, for others maybe less. It probably also differs whether you have been dating for a few weeks and really like each other or whether it is just some hookup from tinder or from a bar and you have just met.

Probably everything comes natural, we are made to mate. And it's probably not going to be the best performance you'll have in your life, but you just can't start at your second time having sex. Unless you are planning to stay a virgin for the rest of your life, at some point you'll just have to open yourself up.

I still remember my first time. I was also quite insecure and nervous, but in the moment most of that just goes away. Just try to enjoy it and don't overthink it. It's not some sort of test and you won't be graded, the girl is probably also a bit nervous and/or insecure. Worst case scenario there's still round 2, which will be better. And on top of that, now you got laid twice!! The moment you get her in the bedroom there's literally no losers and only winners unless one of you doesn't want to. No is no, but I don't think I have to explain that.

[CanIgrowPlease Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close CanIgrowPlease]

I'll admit that I am pretty embarrassed to make this post but this is something that I have put aside for so long and it isn't going to get any better as time goes on.
As the title states, 26 year old virgin with little to no experience at all with females as far as sexual things go because of insecurities and feeling inadequate. I have avoided females for most of my life as far as relationships and sexual escalation is concerned. I have had body image issues since I was a young teen well into my 20's and now heading into my late 20's.

My penis being the major cause of my insecurity and reason for avoiding any sexual contact or escalation with females period. I measure roughly 6.5 bpel just at 6 or slightly above nbpel and 4.75 girth uncut. I found this forum when I was 18 because of this very reason of feeling inadequate. Despite getting in better shape and receiving mostly positive feedback from females, it doesn't do me any peace of mind because of my fear of being disappointing in the penile department. I don't want to come off as arrogant or as if i'm trying to brag because this is very subjective. In my experience I have been told I'm very attractive, good looking, handsome ect. I do think very poorly of myself and some female friends and acquaintances were dumbfounded with how poorly I view myself.

I have never showed a female my penis in real life due to this fear other than recently showing a few some pics that were taken from flattering angles. I received shockingly positive feedback but i think thats also due to the fact that I would constantly talk about how small it was so it may be a bit of reverse psychology. Apparently I seem like the kind of guy that gets girls and could have his pick due to my looks according to the feedback of females I have encountered or conversed with. This doesn't help my self esteem because it seems as though some kind of extraordinary sexual performance would be expected of me and at my age and in actuality its very depressing.

I started jelqing in January of 2018 and had a few setbacks in which I was pulling on my turkey neck and exacerbated it so I have just stuck with big al's squeezes. I may need to change up the routine a bit because i haven't made much progress. The goal in mind would be to keep at it and someday achieve a penis large enough so that no mater what a female tells me, there is no doubt that i have a large one. People can say its all how you use it but deep down females would never mind something larger regardless of what they say because most don't want to hurt your feelings. I will post the flattering pics in my library soon to give you guys and gals a better idea of what I'm working with.

I cant help but feel bad about this because it is mentally exhausting and I cant ignore it anymore. Guys can say "who cares what they think" but forums and these exercises exist for a reason, otherwise this perception of penis size and whats adequate or not wouldn't exist. To be clear, I don't have any religious reasons for withholding this long at all. I just don't want my self esteem and fear of what I always thought would happen to further shatter my confidence.

Everyone hears how females talk about this in real life, television, online, and its hard to ignore without it leaving lasting impressions.

Hello Softee, just got done reading your thread and we’re damn near in the same boat size wise. I’m 24 though and I’m 4.5 girth not 4.75. I will say that you have an advantage with the thicker girth and the better looks. And hey look at the bright side, at least you get looks your way. I don’t get any looks from women at all due to my short height and looks. But I do feel your sentiment knowing that we can’t satisfy women with our respective size. It’s depressing to think that your worthless as a man and will never get a girl ever.

[Party Senior Member Member of the Month August 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Party]

Hello Softee, just got done reading your thread and we’re damn near in the same boat size wise. I’m 24 though and I’m 4.5 girth not 4.75. I will say that you have an advantage with the thicker girth and the better looks. And hey look at the bright side, at least you get looks your way. I don’t get any looks from women at all due to my short height and looks. But I do feel your sentiment knowing that we can’t satisfy women with our respective size. It’s depressing to think that your worthless as a man and will never get a girl ever.

Ok, enough of the PityParty. I’ve spent most of my sexual life around 5-5.5 by 4.5 and have never had a complaint from the Mrs. if you believe the studies we are spot on average. I’m not saying the Mrs doesn’t like my newer size but both of you are more than capable of satisfying a woman. Man up and give it a go. Good luck.

[softee Member Find all posts View Profile Close softee]

Hello Softee, just got done reading your thread and we’re damn near in the same boat size wise. I’m 24 though and I’m 4.5 girth not 4.75. I will say that you have an advantage with the thicker girth and the better looks. And hey look at the bright side, at least you get looks your way. I don’t get any looks from women at all due to my short height and looks. But I do feel your sentiment knowing that we can’t satisfy women with our respective size. It’s depressing to think that your worthless as a man and will never get a girl ever.

What has your experience and feedback been like? Honestly with my overthinking I start to doubt whether or not I get looks or if its just my mind playing tricks. Regardless of what females have told me, I don’t reap the benefits or take advantage. I’ve gone as far as saying and wishing I could trade inches off height and the so called subjective good looks I have for more size.

[BBC Action Senior Member Member of the Month August 2019 Find all posts View Profile Close BBC Action]

If you are capable of bringing a woman back to bed with you, your penis size shouldn't be a problem. They don't know what's in your pants when you first meet them.

[softee Member Find all posts View Profile Close softee]

Ah, guess I misread then. I read the whole thread in one go, which was quite a read. I don't think many people are very confident about their performance the first time. I can't possibly know who you would take home with you and every girl is different. Some might be very understanding and maybe even guide you through it, for some it might give more pressure, for others maybe less. It probably also differs whether you have been dating for a few weeks and really like each other or whether it is just some hookup from tinder or from a bar and you have just met.

Probably everything comes natural, we are made to mate. And it's probably not going to be the best performance you'll have in your life, but you just can't start at your second time having sex. Unless you are planning to stay a virgin for the rest of your life, at some point you'll just have to open yourself up.

I still remember my first time. I was also quite insecure and nervous, but in the moment most of that just goes away. Just try to enjoy it and don't overthink it. It's not some sort of test and you won't be graded, the girl is probably also a bit nervous and/or insecure. Worst case scenario there's still round 2, which will be better. And on top of that, now you got laid twice!! The moment you get her in the bedroom there's literally no losers and only winners unless one of you doesn't want to. No is no, but I don't think I have to explain that.

Preferably find some girl and build a bit of attraction or sexual tension, and then see where it leads to. Not going to be an easy task but I have to try. 26 is coming to an end, better get aggressive sooner than later.

[CanIgrowPlease Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close CanIgrowPlease]

well I'm short 5'4" and I can tell you that it is much more difficult being a short guy and you are for more likely to be ridiculed by women and men than having an average sized penis. Trust me people treat you like shit when you're short or look young and they don't hide it. It tends to be only young people that make fun of guys for small dicks. Women around your age usually won't do it.

I once had a girl on a dating site who I had just clicked like on her to receive a message saying no thanks I don't date short guys. It is extremely difficult for us to find women that will date us. They care FAR more about height than dick size and I think they may also assume that a short guy has a small dick which would be wrong obviously.

I’m short and I have a small dick. Life isn’t fair.

[DickerSchwanz Senior Member Member of the Month Sept 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close DickerSchwanz]

Literally billions of people fuck with average sized cocks all day everyday.
Many of them with short heights and not so pretty faces. (there's a cover for every pot)

So, yes it's obviously all in your head. But we all here understand it and some like me come from similar insecurities.
Be aware that some troll who have a humiliating fetish(passive and active). There's at least on in the reply's right here.

You created a problem in upping the pressure for your first sexy time.
If you have no religious or moral problems with it just go to a professional whore(or 2 or 3..). They don't care and rather have an avrg. cock to work with. If you tell'em it's your first time you might get special treatment

Or find a sweet girl to enjoy your first time. Sweet girls will love that romantic idea to be your first one and enjoy an avrg. or small cock.

Also if it helps your mind.. Most woman will never experience a bigger than avrg. cock in length and girth for several lifetimes.
The probability for it is VERY LOW. 96 % of all dicks are average or smaller than average.

Have fun!

[CanIgrowPlease Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close CanIgrowPlease]

What has your experience and feedback been like? Honestly with my overthinking I start to doubt whether or not I get looks or if its just my mind playing tricks. Regardless of what females have told me, I don’t reap the benefits or take advantage. I’ve gone as far as saying and wishing I could trade inches off height and the so called subjective good looks I have for more size.

Never had feedback. I’m a virgin.