26 year old virgin seeking help.

[softee Member Find all posts View Profile Close softee]

I also was a virgin until I was 26, partially due to my insecurity about my dick size which was 5.5” BPEL and 4.4” girth, but also because I was shy when it came to talking to females.

Once I found myself in a conducive situation leading up to getting her into bed, all concerns over size went out the window and we spent a delightful night together. At your size, there should be absolutely no concern over size. Your problem is not dick size, it is poor social skills. You need to work on your social skills and put yourself into situations where you can meet girls - clubs, bars, church groups, even dating sites, etc. practice talking to females anywhere you get a chance.

Thank you for tuning in not2big. I have read many things you have posted regarding your issue and size insecurity years ago and it made me think of myself. Take into consideration that watching porn since I was a young impressionable teen would not be of any help. The endless stories I have read about penis size, what is considered normal, insecurity stories, it clearly never helped me. I am finally reaching out to this community that seems very supportive for the most part without feeding me too much false reassurance to make me feel better.

[Party Senior Member Member of the Month August 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Party]

Ok. So. I just took a look at your pics. Huge. You really need to get laid and then you’ll not have any more issues.

[djmotion Senior Member Member of the Month March 2019 Find all posts View Profile Close djmotion]

Not being funny but your dick looks bigger than mine so don't see what your problem is.

[softee Member Find all posts View Profile Close softee]

Not being funny but your dick looks bigger than mine so don't see what your problem is.

Appreciate that but “looks can be deceiving” its the angle and lighting. I’ll post a few more angles that aren’t so flattering as well as some measurment pics to the best of my ability.

[Johnny D ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Johnny D]

Appreciate that but “looks can be deceiving” its the angle and lighting. I’ll post a few more angles that aren’t so flattering as well as some measurment pics to the best of my ability.

No need. You don't have anything to prove and our opinions of your dick are completely irrelevant. It's the dick you have and all you need to do is learn how to use it - as well as everything else you have at your disposal to give your partner what they want. I'm going to echo what many others have said: The size of your dick is a non-issue. Period.

[djmotion Senior Member Member of the Month March 2019 Find all posts View Profile Close djmotion]

Appreciate that but “looks can be deceiving” its the angle and lighting. I’ll post a few more angles that aren’t so flattering as well as some measurment pics to the best of my ability.

That's true, I take my shots from the top because I've had my frenulum removed and it looks terrible Honestly bro I have things that are wrong with my dick that I find are worse than size but you shouldn't avoid sex for anything. My frenulum is gone and my foreskin is a mess so I have to get circumcised when I can afford it after graduating uni.

[djmotion Senior Member Member of the Month March 2019 Find all posts View Profile Close djmotion]

And when you do have sex if it's bad your first time, don't worry. I was 16 when I lost my V and had no idea what I was doing but it literally took having sex 2-3 times before I became really good at it. I was with that girl for 2 years and ended up having sex 5 times a day. Took me a month to finally seal the deal.

[softee Member Find all posts View Profile Close softee]

No need. You don't have anything to prove and our opinions of your dick are completely irrelevant. It's the dick you have and all you need to do is learn how to use it - as well as everything else you have at your disposal to give your partner what they want. I'm going to echo what many others have said: The size of your dick is a non-issue. Period.

Its not that I have anything to prove, i just want to give you guys the best idea of how i perceive it. Yeah it looks good in pics, so good that it looks larger than the stats i stated. I’ll never be content until I actually find out what a female thinks when she sees it in person because im convinced it will be disappointing and smaller than what it looks like with my best pics. Even then its hard to believe what most say because they don’t want to hurt your feelings. Say one thing but think and do another.

If i downplay it and say its tiny and reveal pics like that i win, if i take unflattering pics and show them that, i’m damned. Either way i’m damned if i do, damned if I dont.

[MaxEQ9x6 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close MaxEQ9x6]

I know this might be controversial, but why not bang an escort for your first time? There's no shame in it, loads of guys I know did it. Good fun as well and they'll do more or less anything. Just make sure you use protection though.

I agree with the others that you shouldn't worry about size and you're perfectly normal, but it may well increase your confidence and it's very discreet.

After reading through your thread and checking out your pics I would have to say that I agree with Darren. It would potentially give you the confidence boost that you need to understand that you have a good sized dick (really, you do!) which with practice will allow you to become a great sexual partner.

In the unlikely event that this approach does not help you to get past this long held concern, you can always go down the therapy route.

Sex with a partner is one of life's great joys and I am confident that you won't regret putting yourself out there once you have got this first time apprehension out of the way.

[softee Member Find all posts View Profile Close softee]

After reading through your thread and checking out your pics I would have to say that I agree with Darren. It would potentially give you the confidence boost that you need to understand that you have a good sized dick (really, you do!) which with practice will allow you to become a great sexual partner.

In the unlikely event that this approach does not help you to get past this long held concern, you can always go down the therapy route.

Sex with a partner is one of life's great joys and I am confident that you won't regret putting yourself out there once you have got this first time apprehension out of the way.

Why not suggest finding a girl that actually wants to have sex? I appreciate everyones responses but i'm not getting too many suggestions on how to solve this problem. Also the unflattering pics are coming soon need to get them from my other phone. As I said before the pics are from good angles and lighting that make it seem larger than my stats like others have mentioned.

[softee Member Find all posts View Profile Close softee]

Can somebody explain to me how to get the best resolution when uploading pictures? I am emailing them from and iPhone and saving them to computer and then uploading. The size and resolution is off and all the photos get tilted sideways.

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Why not suggest finding a girl that actually wants to have sex? I appreciate everyones responses but i'm not getting too many suggestions on how to solve this problem. Also the unflattering pics are coming soon need to get them from my other phone. As I said before the pics are from good angles and lighting that make it seem larger than my stats like others have mentioned.

This is a head issue so sorry not much help.

[MaxEQ9x6 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close MaxEQ9x6]

Why not suggest finding a girl that actually wants to have sex? I appreciate everyones responses but i'm not getting too many suggestions on how to solve this problem. Also the unflattering pics are coming soon need to get them from my other phone. As I said before the pics are from good angles and lighting that make it seem larger than my stats like others have mentioned.

Fair point however you have expressed considerable concern about the possibile impact of negative feedback on your confidence and it feel that it is likely that a "professional" escort who can be briefed on your requirements is highly unlikely to provide negative feedback. If you "find a girl who wants to have sex" it may be difficult to be as confident that they will not be negative about some aspect of your first experience which will likely involve more than her simply observing your penis.

The other reason that I thought that this might be an acceptable solution were your comments in post #10 where you indicated that you had thought about this and not ruled it out as a solution.

[softee Member Find all posts View Profile Close softee]

Fair point however you have expressed considerable concern about the possibile impact of negative feedback on your confidence and it feel that it is likely that a "professional" escort who can be briefed on your requirements is highly unlikely to provide negative feedback. If you "find a girl who wants to have sex" it may be difficult to be as confident that they will not be negative about some aspect of your first experience which will likely involve more than her simply observing your penis.

The other reason that I thought that this might be an acceptable solution were your comments in post #10 where you indicated that you had thought about this and not ruled it out as a solution.

I see what you’re saying. So its a hit or miss and I have to take a risk and if the outcome is not in my favor then it will negatively impact me. Yes I mentioned that but more as a last resort, I should have been more specific. Knowing that i’m paying for a service like that doesn’t really do me any justice either. Especially with knowing that this female has been through god knows how many guys. I mean hey in 2019 most girls can compete with that kind of body count anyway.

Just ashamed that I let myself go down the rabbit hole this far. I am good with words and hiding my emotions so regardless of what I would be ridiculed for which seems ridiculous, I guarantee that I could do just as much if not more damage through other verbal means. That is a whole other story, irrelevant nonetheless. In the long run, however im judged may impact my confidence whether i show it or not so i understand your point.

[djmotion Senior Member Member of the Month March 2019 Find all posts View Profile Close djmotion]

Like Pegasus said it's an head issue. There's nothing we can except tell you that you're size is big enough and doesn't matter that much in sex anyway. What else possible help could we give? You're next step would be to see a sex therapist and possibly do CBT to work on positive thinking too and also attempting a bit of exposure therapy with women, if you're attractive this shouldn't be too difficult.

We'e offered plenty of advice so I'm not sure what more you need.