26 year old virgin seeking help.

[BBC Action Senior Member Member of the Month August 2019 Find all posts View Profile Close BBC Action]

You can ignore penis size by coming to the realization that there will always be someone out there that is better than you. You are so caught up in penis size. If a man more handsome than you comes around, the girls will gravitate to him more than you, regardless of what you have in your pants. If you aren't satisfied with your size, then practice penis enlargement.

I mean, that is why you are here. Right?

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feel as though I would need a mutual understanding and actually show her what i’m working with before anything went down, so that there isn’t any surprises or false reassurance that she likes what I have.

You aren't giving women much credit. I really think you have some deeper issues to work through.

Its also the fact that I would be compared to the girls other partners that are larger than me and not being able to compete with that bothers me beyond belief.

Not a fact. Just what you believe. Or want to believe.

There is so much emphasis on penis size in this world in my mind, how can one ignore it?

FIFY

The most basic missionary position seems undoable and demotivating. My penis appears to be smaller and hidden when my fat pad covering it up from gravity in that position and so many other things come to mind like condoms being pushed off if those are used.

You have some misunderstandings about the mechanics of sex. Try it a few times and figure it out.

It's been said a number of times - The size of your dick is not the problem. Moreover, women aren't judging you by it and it's not how you provide your partner with what they need. You lack the proper perspective and just want to argue with those of us who have it. Why? Because you have some other issues, most likely.

[closed289 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close closed289]

I'm gonna give you some tough love as previously mentioned.

Whilst I generally don't check out men's dick pics on the net, I did look at yours and trust me your size is more than enough. I'm only slightly bigger than you and girls have claimed I'm "huge". Probably them exaggerating but I wasn't complaining...

You need to realise there are guys out there with allsorts of genuine issues. I've read guys on here who claim to be totally impotent at your age (or our age I should say since I'm 26 too) or premature ejaculate every time. Those are the kind of issues you should be grateful NOT to have.

But you know what, just like you, their issues (and mine I sometimes think) are almost certainly down to their own anxieties. The difference with you is though, it is 100% without a doubt down to your own anxiety.

So what you need to do is relax. Start thinking rationally and go out and laid with someone. Still think an escort visit or two will do you a lot of good.

[softee Member Find all posts View Profile Close softee]

You aren't giving women much credit. I really think you have some deeper issues to work through.

Not a fact. Just what you believe. Or want to believe.

FIFY

You have some misunderstandings about the mechanics of sex. Try it a few times and figure it out.

It's been said a number of times - The size of your dick is not the problem. Moreover, women aren't judging you by it and it's not how you provide your partner with what they need. You lack the proper perspective and just want to argue with those of us who have it. Why? Because you have some other issues, most likely.

What credit am I supposed to be giving them?
I was in the size preference thread and user IWishIWasBig user brought up some very valid points. Females will never admit to their true size preference out of fear of being judged or labeled a slut. In todays world with social media and apps like tinder, female promiscuity has lost its stigma. A female doesnt have to stay with a small dick or some guy that doesn’t fulfill her expectations because of the endless options they have, whether they are unattractive or utterly attractive. Being exceptionally attractive could only make things easier for them to justify their needs or preferences.

The saying that guys with smaller or average penis’s that know how to use them are better than guys with larger ones that don’t, what happens when the peformance of both sides of the spectrum are equal? Whose to say guys with bigger dicks can’t be great lovers and performers? Its a cope or blue pilled rhetoric for guys like myself to not feel bad about their short comings. User Ultimate Burrito also said things worthy of quoting.

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I'm gonna give you some tough love as previously mentioned.

Whilst I generally don't check out men's dick pics on the net, I did look at yours and trust me your size is more than enough. I'm only slightly bigger than you and girls have claimed I'm "huge". Probably them exaggerating but I wasn't complaining...

You need to realise there are guys out there with allsorts of genuine issues. I've read guys on here who claim to be totally impotent at your age (or our age I should say since I'm 26 too) or premature ejaculate every time. Those are the kind of issues you should be grateful NOT to have.

But you know what, just like you, their issues (and mine I sometimes think) are almost certainly down to their own anxieties. The difference with you is though, it is 100% without a doubt down to your own anxiety.

So what you need to do is relax. Start thinking rationally and go out and laid with someone. Still think an escort visit or two will do you a lot of good.

I’ve said it before, the angles of the pictures taken have a major role in making it look larger than it is. A few guys even mentioned it looks bigger than the stats I provided. You ever see a girl on the internet or social media post a picture of their ass or body parts that makes them look larger, skinnier, or more flattering? Only to see them in person and instantly see how flawed and different they look. Same thing goes for guys making their muscles look larger in mirrors or good angles and lighting.


How would I know that i’m not impotent or suffer from premature ejaculation? I could very well be impotent who knows. I honestly don’t think an escort is a good option. Having to resort to that in my situation would only make me feel more pathetic. I don’t respect them either. You won’t know the amount of dicks a girl has taken even if you ask because she will never tell the truth and downplay it, that is common bro code knowledge. So you’re better off not asking. Knowing that an escort has probably serviced dicks upwards in the triple digits margin skeeves me out.

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How would I know that i’m not impotent or suffer from premature ejaculation? I could very well be impotent who knows. .

Go and have a wank. If it gets and stays bigger when you touch it, you're not impotent....

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Go and have a wank. If it gets and stays bigger when you touch it, you're not impotent....

Sorry I confused that with being sterile or shooting blanks.

[Johnny D ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Johnny D]

What credit am I supposed to be giving them?
I was in the size preference thread and user IWishIWasBig user brought up some very valid points. Females will never admit to their true size preference out of fear of being judged or labeled a slut. In todays world with social media and apps like tinder, female promiscuity has lost its stigma. A female doesnt have to stay with a small dick or some guy that doesn’t fulfill her expectations because of the endless options they have, whether they are unattractive or utterly attractive. Being exceptionally attractive could only make things easier for them to justify their needs or preferences.

The saying that guys with smaller or average penis’s that know how to use them are better than guys with larger ones that don’t, what happens when the peformance of both sides of the spectrum are equal? Whose to say guys with bigger dicks can’t be great lovers and performers? Its a cope or blue pilled rhetoric for guys like myself to not feel bad about their short comings. User Ultimate Burrito also said things worthy of quoting.

Ya... Not giving women credit or respect, again.

Why don't you try having a relationship with a woman before making these determinations about them. The internet issn't the place to learn about it. You won't learn what women value in men and in a relationship until you do. Right now, you're making assumptions without any basis of your own.

Otherwise... I've grown tired of this. You don't want help. You want to avoid a relationship and blame it on the size of your dick. Fine.

[softee Member Find all posts View Profile Close softee]

Ya... Not giving women credit or respect, again.

Why don't you try having a relationship with a woman before making these determinations about them. The internet issn't the place to learn about it. You won't learn what women value in men and in a relationship until you do. Right now, you're making assumptions without any basis of your own.

Otherwise... I've grown tired of this. You don't want help. You want to avoid a relationship and blame it on the size of your dick. Fine.

Credit or respect regarding what? If anything, I see myself doing them and myself a favor by getting that out of the way from the getco. Djmotion mentioned some women willing to be with men if they suck in bed as long as they are a good husband and father, which is settling. Just like settling with a man with an inadequate penis. I don’t want a relationship especially in 2019 with all these skiewed perceptions and standards of people. A relationship would only be beneficial to me in the aspect of getting consistent fornication. That is the last thing I need to get myself into at this point.

Making assumptions without any basis of my own because I pay attention to what people tell me and what their experiences were like. Let me guess, everyone is a liar in real life and the internet? The things people say you need to try before coming to a conclusion that it is bad or good for you is like saying you need to touch fire to find out if you get burned or not. That may be a bit extreme regarding a relationship but thats more of a general statement. Advice about avoiding certain kinds of men and women is liberating and saves you the headaches down the road. Maybe I shouldn’t judge the trashy girls with high body counts that have been interested in me because I don’t know them and judging their past is wrong? I’m being facetious with the prior question.

Also the reason I completely avoid any sexual contact or possibility of that arising with females is because of the penis insecurity. Who said I am avoiding relationships because of that? One step at a time. I have said what my issue is and so many people are just trying to find other things wrong with me and convince me that I have other problems.

A girl I was talking to that knows about my situation just so happens to supposedly prefer smaller penis's. She had said that my dick looks great but mentioned that its "skinny". I appreciate her honesty but how am I supposed to feel good about that. So I have average girth but it looks skinny. I look thicker in my pics as well. Thats the equivalent of being told your dick is short. This doesn't help my self esteem.

[Johnny D ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Johnny D]

As has been suggested, you should consider therapy. Perhaps a good therapist will refer you to someone who specializes in sexual anxiety.

Good luck to you.

[GiftBringer Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close GiftBringer]

Man i haven't been in your situation but if i was I'd also be frustrated. I would be over thinking way too much when it comes to ladies and my mind would snowball to other areas that are of no problem. What about paying for sex? Obviously its not ideal, I think tho, that this will allow you to get over your initial anxiety. Imop

[softee Member Find all posts View Profile Close softee]

As has been suggested, you should consider therapy. Perhaps a good therapist will refer you to someone who specializes in sexual anxiety.

Good luck to you.

I’m not saying you are but I get the impression that you are disregarding everything I say and brushing it off like none of it is has an ounce of truth. I was really hoping you would clarify what you were talking about when you stated that I am not giving women enough credit or respect. I don’t see anything wrong with that. Its like telling a person your issues and personality problems early on so they don’t waste time and run into regret and problems down the line. In this case its penis size. A review before you decide to invest or not.

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Seen what you have Softee.I should be so lucky.Had no ladies until I was 25 with my 6 inch whopper(married her).You`re still young.....go get`em boy,they`re waiting for you.Join a yoga class or the Y...they`ll be there...

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Man i haven't been in your situation but if i was I'd also be frustrated. I would be over thinking way too much when it comes to ladies and my mind would snowball to other areas that are of no problem. What about paying for sex? Obviously its not ideal, I think tho, that this will allow you to get over your initial anxiety. Imop

Thats exactly what is going on with me and the snowball effect. Care to elaborate a bit more as to why you seem to understand my frustration?

Yeah paying for it is not ideal. Especially since whatever positive comments I get may just be an act and not exactly genuine. I mean you are paying for it! Paid performers and actors. It wouldn’t boost my confidence because i’ll always remember that I had to resort to that despite having opportunities here and there but not acting upon them.

I guess some form of validation from a girl that actually wants to have sex with me would be ideal which is a no brainer. As another guy mentioned, there is no telling how the girl will react or respond to my situation, peformance and size. Therapy option will be considered, as pathetic as all this sounds. I could just wing it and not mention anything until after the deed is done if i can seal the deal. Therefor there won’t be any added pressure and hopefully I can peform intuitively. Use my natural instincts and try to do what nature intended for us to do. Hoping that I won’t be a complete incompetent. Chances are slim. I was always told I was a quick learner and picked up on things naturally but.....let me not get that opitmistic.

[Bisquick61 Senior Member Member of the Month May 2019 Find all posts View Profile Close Bisquick61]

These people are dropping gems for you. Please get some help before you decide to get into the dating world. Say it’s not your dick that’s the issue.

Say you are with a girl for a while and you get your heart broken. How are you going to deal with that? You really should consult with someone about your mental health like others have said. Then start dating.