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[Gyrta Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Gyrta]

Gyrta, from what I have read on how a vagina is made a thick one pulls on the nerves that run from the clit down into the vagina helping women orgasm from PIV. I've been lucky enough to be with women who get off that way.

Curious what her answer is though.

Yes, but it was interesting this study was based on the opinion of women. Women who did get off from PIV did prefer larger penises in the study. And if you can't get off from PIV, whats the benefit of a bigger dick?

[Qandisa Senior Member Member of the Month March 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Qandisa]

Q may I ask yo if you orgasm easily from PIV?
I think that there may be a size preference in women who cum easier from PIV, I think that there was a study who showed that women who orgasms easy tend to prefer larger size. On the other size, PIV-orgasmic women are a real minority.

I don't orgasm at all through PIV. I really, really enjoy actual fucking but with the exception of 2 times in the life I don't orgasm from it.

[psinstructor Member Find all posts View Profile Close psinstructor]

Gyrta, from what I have read on how a vagina is made a thick one pulls on the nerves that run from the clit down into the vagina helping women orgasm from PIV. I've been lucky enough to be with women who get off that way.

Curious what her answer is though.

I am in this group and vote Yes, Yes, Yes!!!

[Gyrta Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Gyrta]

I am in this group and vote Yes, Yes, Yes!!!

Interesting PSI, so you orgasm easy from PIV and prefer thicker dicks? I actually think that there may be a correlation between PIV and penis size. Women that are able to get PIV may be often mislabeled as size queens.

[INS Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close INS]

Interesting PSI, so you orgasm easy from PIV and prefer thicker dicks? I actually think that there may be a correlation between PIV and penis size. Women that are able to get PIV may be often mislabeled as size queens.

Stuart Brody, who came up with the study, is really controversial, and his study methods, controls and results even with other studies aren't all that great. They have been picked apart by other researchers. He came up with weird stuff in his other studies too

Also, there are some issues with the study itself too. It actually says I think iirc, that the majority of women who came from PiV didn't think size mattered much, then a minority (20%? don't remember lol) said that they preferred bigger ones, and then an even smaller minortiy said they preferred smaller penises for cumming via penetration.

[jazz zebra Member Find all posts View Profile Close jazz zebra]

sorry to be 'that guy', but what even is a "PIV orgasm"?

[Phoenix7672 Senior Member Member of the Month Oct 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Phoenix7672]

sorry to be 'that guy', but what even is a "PIV orgasm"?

If a woman can orgasm through penetration/penis in vagina alone (vs any other form of stimulation).

[akaTrex Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close akaTrex]

Gyrta, from what I have read on how a vagina is made a thick one pulls on the nerves that run from the clit down into the vagina helping women orgasm from PIV. I've been lucky enough to be with women who get off that way.

Curious what her answer is though.

I am in this group and vote Yes, Yes, Yes!!!

I have perfected via kegels expanding my Purple Helmeted Warrior & Girthy Shaft. My Bride loves it when I expand my PHW to 105% before I enter and also while inside just before pulling back. Her facial expressions tell me she LIKEY ALOT!

[SuperDD Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close SuperDD]

I don't think a woman who likes a thick cock can be called a size queen. The are usually wanting a long one and I saw some on fetlife admit that even though its she wants she can't take it all in. Sorta hypocritical in my view.

Anyway I had wondered why most did get off from PIV and believe the thicker helps. Not with every woman but a lot.

[SuperDD Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close SuperDD]

Qandisa is awesome and her insights I'm sure help a lot here.

I just want to say it again, I'm glad you are back Q. (Mentally I gave you a good slap on the butt when I typed that!)
LOL, over look my extra happiness this morning. Last night after leaving the bar I did my woman in a public park bent over a bench in the rain. I may still be buzzed!

[AverageDude48 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close AverageDude48]

Good morning, Miss Q!

I don't really know you as I am pretty new to the Gym but everyone here seems to love you! That is always a good sign. :-)

I would like to second your comments about being a good lover. Oh, boy....here we go!

So, from my stats in my signature I can promise you that no one is going to ever go "O M G!" when they see my dick. In fact, every woman I have been with has commented on the length (or lack there of). And that used to really wear on me. On my confidence. On my man confidence. But, funny....they kept on coming back. And I even made a couple of size queens cum like they never have.

But, things started changing for me. Mentally. Sure, there was the "external influence". I have mentioned this several times....so please forgive me in advance for those of you who already know what I am going to say....

About three years ago I started hearing about how gorgeous my dick is when it is hard. And there were women (ages between 22 and 45) who would have amazing orgasms via penetrative sex. These women would tell me that they cum really hard with me. These women would tell me that they thought of my dick all day long (that is a new comment from me, folks!). Anyway, lots of very positive comments.

I started listening to my own advice. I often say something similar to "If you believe that you can, then you are right. But, if you believe that you can not, then you are right, too!". A friend of mine would call me out when I was being tough on myself. She would ask me "Now, how would you react to someone talking about me and saying those things?" My response was always "I would bet the holy shit outta him". She would just smile. Point made! I am a man. A very stubborn man. It took awhile for that message to sink in. But it did.

I do not beat myself up as much any more for not having the "magical" 8 x 6. I have always been a giver...I love to give my woman - if she likes it - a ton of oral sex (clitoral orgasms) and a super ton of g-spot massages (g-spot orgasms). Now, not all women like that. But for those that do (the vast majority) I would give them tons and tons of orgasms before my dick ever entered their kitty.

I am also very good at the mental aspect of seduction and turn-on. I have said for a long time that the biggest sexual organ in every human being is his/her brain. I know how to make a woman cum in her brain. Dude, you do that....the body follows. And the body follows easily and very willingly. :-)

I gained a ton of confidence....both from my oral/finger skills as well as just being happy with me. I started to think....I can make a woman cum for hours....insane, intense orgasms....with one or two fingers. My dick is way bigger than one or two fingers. So, what is my problem? Well....exactly! I was my problem. My "my dick is not long enough" hang-up (and, man, it was a hang up) started to go away. Sex got better. HUH? It did. I was more confident. Well, maybe less worried is a better way to put it. I used to be shy about a woman seeing my dick hard. I have heard more times than I care to admit "is that all?" or "where is the rest of it?" in my life. Totally do not care about that any more. I am still going to give the lady I am with an amazing experience. There will be a ton of pleasure shared in our time together. Not worried if she has an orgasm or if I get off. It is really more the journey than the finish line

I was with a woman who had a hard time cumming. Did not matter how...alone, with toys, with a man, with a woman...did not matter. She was tooooooo focused on cumming. She would get so close. And then get totally frustrated. I get it....to get that close and then to loose it. DAMN! Well, we worked that out. I took the focus off of the finish line and just played....gave her little doses of pleasure. And then stopped. The, later, a little bit more. And she started to look forward to the pleasure. Just touching...just kissing. Well, after about one month of this she was worked up that she had an orgasm just from grinding on me while we were touching. She was so surprised. I did not say a word. In a way, I did the ole "mind fuck" trick. What I have not mentioned is what I would say to her while we were touching and kissing. I made very suggestive comments...suggestive in the sense that I let her imagination fill in the blanks. I am very good at that!

Anyway, now I have a ton of confidence. I show college girls what sex really is. I show women my age what g-spot orgasms and squirting are.

My confidence is, in part, because of how hard I get. As I have stated numerous times....the women I am with share with their girl friends how hard I get (and stay) and how I throb in their hands | mouths...their friends give me those sexy "oh, I know all about you" grins and smiles and flirt a little bit more. The more bold friends make comments....anyway, it really helps my man confidence.

I consistently last 20 minutes....usually a little bit more. The chicks dig that. Funny...usually the younger chicks dig it (they tell me that most of the guys their age last five minutes...if that....) while the women my age usually dont dig it all that much (they tend to be done after 10 minutes and start to get a little sore).

Point there is that it is a pleasure thing.....we get too focused on numbers: size and time. Let's focus on pleasure. Give her five orgasms....if it takes eight minutes or if it takes 80 minutes...who cares? If your dick is six inches (give or take) or nine inches....who cares? I used to....and it was a bit of a problem. Pardon my French...fuck that noise. If I can make a woman cum with one or two fingers then I can make a woman cum with my dick! PERIOD!!!!

Confidence and technique are way more important than some asshole with a huge dick who does not know how to use it. Look, putting that monster in - generally speaking - is going to take several minutes, especially if he does not know to warm her up. Shoot, a dick my size is not going to just slide in if I do not warm her up, right?

Point here: if you make a woman want to have sex with you then it does not matter how big or how small (very general comment here....assuming "within 'average' sizes" here). Know what to do with it.....know a woman's body....know your woman's body.....be perceptive....be 'in the moment' with her......look her in the eyes as you are having sex, especially as she approaches orgasm. Women find that sexy as hell and a real big turn on.

In other words....be a man, be confident and strong. Take control and take charge. That sounds pretty "cave man like". Yup! It so is. Nothing wrong with that. Women "expect" a man to take charge and to be in control. That is what they want. Believe you me. You take a look at some of the women I have been with....you would totally call "bull shit". Nope....not this time!

Anyway, glad that you are back, Miss Q. Howdy! Howdy! from beautiful Winston-Salem, NC!!!!!!!!

[Phoenix7672 Senior Member Member of the Month Oct 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Phoenix7672]

I don't think a woman who likes a thick cock can be called a size queen. The are usually wanting a long one and I saw some on fetlife admit that even though its she wants she can't take it all in. Sorta hypocritical in my view.

Hey nothing overly wrong with the ones like that... :P lol

[closed224 Senior Member Member of the Month Dec 2014, Feb 2017 Find all posts View Profile Close closed224]

I think I will go to Walmart and buy one of those toys that has descending size plastic rings that slide over a center pole. That way I can put as many buffering rings on as required. Maybe I will line them with fur. Then I can bang away like I enjoy.
Love yourselves men, that is what is important. Size is never the issue. Perception of ourselves is the issue. Be gentle, to yourself, and your lover. Until she says dont be gentle, then give her what she wants. FIRSTLY LOVE YOURSELF ENOUGH TO SHARE YOURSELF. Even micro penises provide pleasure. I have been told that by many women.
Yes Qandisa it is very nice having you back.

[Phoenix7672 Senior Member Member of the Month Oct 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Phoenix7672]

I think I will go to Walmart and buy one of those toys that has descending size plastic rings that slide over a center pole. That way I can put as many buffering rings on as required. Maybe I will line them with fur. Then I can bang away like I enjoy.

hahahaha never thought of that one. Guess those toys are not just for babies anymore. lol

[texastravis Member Find all posts View Profile Close texastravis]

I think I have heard 1000x... "size doesnt matter, skill does" or "I have had a guy with a small dick be an amazing lover and a guy with a big dick be a terrible one"....

WTF does it mean to be skilled in bed? A good lover? Amazing a sex? Know "how" to properly use your tool? Is there a dedicated thread somewhere on here on the proper way to fuck a woman?

I want to say that I think I eat her nicely and often enough, I think I last long enough, I think I pump her at the right rhythm, but honestly I dont really know. I have yet to find a woman that is open/honest about my sexual abilities.